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writes: im in a loving relationship with a guy thats really passionate about life, music, drama ect.he studies drama at uni,we've been together for 2 years now, i really love him.the thing is im insecure about the people/girls he have to work with. The get physical and im always scared about the roles he is getting.what if he has to kiss someone on stage? i don't know how to handle this. I know it's acting, but to me it's really personal,and i know for him too.it will really hurt me if i know that they spend weeks and weeks together rehearsing and kissing and what not.... He said it shouldn't be an issue and that i should be fine with it if it happens, but im worried.what should i do, how should i react?
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (6 November 2006):
 That's the reason I wouldn't date an actor. If you don't like it tell him!!! He doesn't HAVE to execpt a role with kissing. He can still act and not kiss. To be honest 'I' wouldn't be able to deal with it, NEVER, but if you think you can handle it knowing that it's just fake then that'll be good. Talk to him about it. Maybe he can make sure he doesn't get roles with kissing.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (6 November 2006):
 Speaking as an actress who has had to kiss many a boy on many a stage... trust me, you're fine.
There's not much you can do in this situation... if he's serious about acting, then he's going to have to perform to the best of his ability and that's going to include that kiss. Faking kisses usually doesn't work out as well. Looks fake, feels fake.
If you've been dating 2 years and you've never had trust issues before, you shouldn't worry about him. If you're still worried to death, then the problem is not within the stage kisses, but within your relationship.
Don't worry, darlin'. He loves you. Just keep cheering him on in his career.
Love, India
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (5 November 2006):
 It's normal you don't like it but it's part of his work and u must respect it very much if you cannot cope with it maybe you should let him go but I think it's worth getting accustomed
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reader, Astrid +, writes (5 November 2006):
It's normal you don't like it but it's part of his work and u must respect it very much if you cannot copr with it maybe you should let him go but I think it's worth getting accustomed
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (5 November 2006):
 You just have to take a deep breath, realise he is dating you and learn to trust the guy. Basically if he was going to cheat then he wouldn't need to be on a stage with an actress...he would be out sneaking off with ladies in bars etc. You cannot keep tabs on him 24/7 and at least he is being honest about kissing the actress - covert activity is far more suspicious! You have to learn to think more of yourself - he is obviously happy with you as you are and it really does take two to cheat so relax, accept his job requires intimate contact from time to time and give him your support in the knowledge that he is dating you! Remember feelings of being insecure is really about you feeling you are not good enough to maintain his interest - so focus on yourself and why you feel this way rather than his professional development.
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reader, msel2304 +, writes (5 November 2006):
 Don't be afraid to tell him how you feel. If you keep your feelings bottled up inside then you'll find yourself in a bad situtation. I'm sure that if something was bothering him this much, he would let you know to at least make himself feel better. if there comes a time when he does have a kissing scene on stage then let him know that you do support him but let him know that your not ok with it. Just hope that if he does have to kiss on stage that it will stay with that one professional kiss.
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