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Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 March 2011: Here's some food for thought:
Since most people consider cybersex (even with someone you will never meet) cheating but porn is absolutely not cheating, is that an allusion to the idea that women in porn seem less than human? I've heard people t... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 8 October 2010: Randomly from a cool blog (http://www.antipornmen.org/), apparently awhile ago some guy who worked as a porn reviewer for Hustler magazine opened up about his job, and had some pretty interesting things to say:
h... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 October 2010: Yes it is a lot faster and easier. I know, I've actually had a significant amount of experience with this too. What I'm saying is that it's just sad that it's so deeply embedded in people's sexuality that some people literally cannot tell the ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 October 2010: "For many men porn is equated with masturbation in their mind." I honestly don't mean offense when I say this, but I hear this a lot and it's very sad to me. People have been masturbating since the beginning of our existence, and it's only recently... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 6 October 2010: I've been reading around on this site for a long time, and the amount of entitlement many of these men feel about their porn use is astounding. It's been so solidly drilled into most of them that they assume that any woman who has a problem with it ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 October 2010: Not that anyone is reading this anymore, but I just stumbled onto a really interesting study from 1999, and I'm just going to copy and paste the abstract here. If I was doing the study I'd personally have picked a larger sample size, but from what ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 30 September 2010: "Why should the guys happiness over rule the womans? If she's already insecure and that makes it worse, why wouldn't he want to make her feel better?"
I've been asking myself this question for a long time. Obviously it's very hard to put your... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 15 September 2010: "Question- those antiporn, are you also completely against strip clubs etc?"
I'm not completely against porn or strip clubs. If porn existed in a vacuum where there were no similarities between what happened in porn and what happened in the real... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: I remember you also asking about women and porn and I read something interesting in the Washington Times saying women are MORE susceptible to porn addiction than men, basically because a woman using porn is far less stigmatized than a man using porn ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: "Disagree with your statistics Person12345" I cited them below. They are from studies and surveys, the most prominent being from the Kinsey Institute, another from the Witherspoon Institute, several from other books, all/most from academic scholarl... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: "Porn will always be around."
Yes. No matter what it is, whether it's bad or good, once it's been introduced it can't ever really just go away. But look, people said the same thing about cigarettes (they even had all the same "who are you to judg... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 6 September 2010: “Problem with your statistics, that around this time, George W Bush targeted funds to promote abstinence and no sex in schools. The research I've seen said that this didn't encourage teens to have sex later, but it did mean those on abstinence ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: As for teens, it isn't a good sign when you have 15 year olds quoted in the New York Times as saying things along the lines of why would anyone bother with dating when porn's so easy? As for boredom/anal, since 1995 (around when internet porn became ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Also when I talk about the objectification of women, I'm not talking about how women who do porn are treated. I'm talking about portrayal. If we want to get into the people who do porn, there is fairly little sex trafficking of men. There are far ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: "Either men are being objectified and 'marketed' as much as women, or neither are at all. And frankly, if all you can see is said 'objectification' I think that says something about your insecurities." This is a joke, right? It's the old, well men... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: And when I say all people, I just mean people in the US UK and parts of western Europe as that's really the only place reliable data are available.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: "it's 85% of people who use porn.."
Well actually it's approximately 70% of men and 30% of women who use porn, which means around half of all people.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: I said that you don't need any sort of "warning" traits like an addictive personality or family history or what have you to become addicted. Anyone can become addicted and no one is in any kind of a low-risk category. Some people may have a slight ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 28 August 2010: Well porn IS addictive and between 15-20% of users do get addicted. Sure not everyone gets addicted, but it is addictive. It's not like we gloss over how addictive cigarettes, drugs, and alcohol are because not everyone gets addicted.
"but sure... (read in full...)
Porn is controlling my life! How do I stop?
Q. i don't know where should i start, anyway it happened about 5 months ago, before that i didn't care about porn or pornographic. by the way I'm still virgin, and right now I'm Wasting about 10 hours each day on this shit and I'm deadly need ever...
A. 26 August 2010: Porn addiction is a real condition and it can control your life. You can't break the addiction by sheer willpower anymore, you need help. You need to find a counselor who can help you. There are tons of books and websites on breaking porn addiction. ... (read in full...)
Got caught while skinny dipping, followed up by an awkward question!
Q. So the other night me and some friends were in the pool and my brother and his friends came home and went simming with us. After a little while we were like let's go skinny dipping and we did. All of us except for a few people. Well we got busted. ...
A. 26 August 2010: You know I actually somehow got caught in this exact situation somehow (skinny dipping with my brother). The only thing we could do was just start making jokes and laughing about it, basically bonding over the experience. Instead of alienating each ... (read in full...)
How can I 'Wow' my boyfriend while giving him oral?
Q. My boyfriend really enjoys me giving him head, but I'm not too good at it and don't really enjoy doing it. Please can you give me some tips on how i could improve my technique or is there any throat excercises i could do to improve it?? ...
A. 26 August 2010: It's not so much about throat, so if you can't naturally deep throat, don't beat yourself up over it. The one thing that seems to make an ENORMOUS difference is adding in your hands. If you kind of make a wave-like squeezing motion around the shaft ... (read in full...)
Why Men Visit Strip Clubs
Q. Quite a few of you have written to me in regards to your boyfriends (and a few husbands) frequenting the mens den, called Strip Clubs. This issue is a concern for most if not all women in a relationship and I can understand that. So today, I decided ...
A. 26 August 2010: Like several of the other female replies, I take some offense at the extremely sexist tone of this article.
"I've been to Strip Clubs many times over my adult life and I have to admit that even when I was a "Dog", the prospect of bedding a stri... (read in full...)
Does the 600 calorie diet work?
Q. hey, was just wnddering whether i would lose weight if i went on a 600 cal diet? I mean eat 1000, burn 400? then once a week eat 2000 for a break? how much weight would i lose and how fast? i want to lose around 3 and a half stone overall, tyxx...
A. 25 August 2010: Don't count calories. It's a hop skip and a jump away from an eating disorder. Just get lots of exercise and only eat when you're hungry. Make sure to eat as many leafy greens as possible, drink lots of water, keep away from sugar (candy, soda, ... (read in full...)
Is this normal after anal sex?
Q. My husband and i have been sexually active together for over 15 years. We enjoy it, and have sex 6-8 times a week. We're not porn addicts or sex addicts or anything, we just love sex. We have been having anal sex a lot more over the past few years. ...
A. 25 August 2010: Hey people, let's not judge here... Most men I've been with greatly enjoy a finger up the butt, and many women enjoy it as well. Same with the area being played with. Most women hate anal, but some enjoy it. But like everyone else said (I know I ... (read in full...)
Why do guys want threesomes? and whats the chances of a break up afterwards?
Q. Why do guys like three somes so much? Cant one girl make them happy, all girls have the same parts so theres really no difference. My bf told me he wanted one and i was upset that he would even want to sleep with another girl besides me cause i only ...
A. 25 August 2010: I can't tell you a percentage, but I know it frequently causes problems. Guys like threesomes because it's permission to sleep with someone else. Basically a threesome is asking permission to cheat. It doesn't mean he's unhappy with just you, but if ... (read in full...)
How do guys feel about clevage enhancing bra's?
Q. Hi, I'd like some opinions, especially from guys out there, about cleavage-enhacing bras. I normally wear a padded, water-filled bra when I go out, which makes my breasts look one cup size bigger than they are...so I've been doing this whilst ...
A. 25 August 2010: Some guys will feel cheated, and some won't. In my opinion it's a pretty shallow guy who'd feel cheated that a girl was wearing a push-up bra and it turns out her boobs are real rather than silicone perky.... (read in full...)
Can someone marry you without your consent?
Q. Hi, I met a very nice guy on line and now he says he has his pastor sending me a marriage certificate and he is comeing to get me to take me home next month, can he do that without my consent? I am a little worried here!...
A. 25 August 2010: No he can't. You have to sign too. I'd stay away from this nut.... (read in full...)
He was found with an STD,I was not. I don't know how this happened?
Q. I don't know it this has been discussed before but if anyone can help. I am on vacation right now with my family and recently, my boyfriend revealed to me that he has been tested and found out with gonorrhea. I was very furious, I had been just ou...
A. 25 August 2010: Most STDs are either symptomless or can lie dormant in men for a long time. It doesn't mean he cheated necessarily. That said, why did he go suddenly get tested for an STD? But seeing as he had symptoms, no it's not a guarantee that he cheated. So ... (read in full...)
Is this normal after anal sex?
Q. My husband and i have been sexually active together for over 15 years. We enjoy it, and have sex 6-8 times a week. We're not porn addicts or sex addicts or anything, we just love sex. We have been having anal sex a lot more over the past few years. ...
A. 25 August 2010: Occasional anal sex is fine. Your "girlie" parts expand and stay huge for awhile after sex too. You've just temporarily stretched things. It's normal, your skin is very elastic. There are some health risks with anal sex though, such as infection ... (read in full...)
My rape fantasy disturbed him , are my fantasys normal?
Q. I have a bit of a problem with my sexual fantasys so to speak. I've been with my boyfriend for three years, and our sex life has always been good, but my sexual fantasys disturb him. He's briefly talked about his fantasys, and I've tried to fullfill ...
A. 25 August 2010: No that's a really common fantasy actually. A lot of women have rape fantasies and bondage is the most common "kinky" thing most people say they'd like to try. Obviously you don't want to be raped, just make sure he knows that. That said, he has ... (read in full...)
Anyone ever used "smooth leg" hair removal product?
Q. Hi mates, has anyone used ' my smooth leg' ? This is a hair remove product for men and ladies ( you guys can check out this product by doing a google search). Hair grow on my leg and my thigh. Should i get rid off it? I dont like the hair cause it ...
A. 25 August 2010: I'd be skeptical. It's one of those if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. I'd assume that if it worked none of us would shave or wax anymore. You can try waxing or epilating if you have the pain tolerance for it, those will give you the ... (read in full...)
I'm not masculine and am afraid I will be cheated on!
Q. I just got introduced into the "world of sex" and I feel really uncomfortable about my body. I am a virgin so I don't have experience but I feel like I am too small. I am only at most 6 inches length with at best 5.o inches around. I think I am ...
A. 25 August 2010: 6 inches is exactly average. The average length of a woman's vagina is, guess what. 6 inches. They match perfectly. Anything more than 6 or 7 inches can hurt and will limit what sex positions you can do. 6 inches, in my opinion, is perfect. I've ... (read in full...)
If a man views porn, is that sufficient reason for a woman to break off the engagment?
Q. Here is my situtation. I am 60 yrs old, of Italian heritage, and my now ex-fiancee is 54 and of Korean heritage. I am a widower; she has been divorced for 6+ years. I say this to put things into perspective. I am retired and a very succ...
A. 25 August 2010: "I guess men just view things diferently."
No, you view things differently. This isn't a gender issue. Not all men see things that way. Yes you do have the right to do what you want in the privacy of your own home. She has the right to not want you ... (read in full...)
I'm getting violent w/ my BF... but I want to stop!!
Q. I really need some advice, I've never been a violent person. But recently i've started getting violent toward my boyfriend. Not really violent, but it's bad anyway. It scares me so I don't know what it's doing to him He tends to make me fe...
A. 25 August 2010: Next time there's going to be an argument, put it on ice and walk away. When you're both more level and rational, talk about it then.... (read in full...)
I trusted him and he cheated on me
Q. well my boyfriend and i have now been going out for two months and the other night i trusted him to go to a party while i was at a dance class, he tells me two days later that he cheated on me and now i don't know what to do, so i guess my question ...
A. 25 August 2010: 2 months he should still be in the honeymoon phase of obsession and super strong chemicals. If he can't make it that long without cheating, when things cool off a little he certainly won't be able to. I'd leave.... (read in full...)
How do I to get friends wives to go topless too?
Q. I asked my wife to try to go topless in our hot tub in front of two other couples - and she did! It was our plan for me to say something as a joke, like, "house rules, everyone has to go topless". And then my wife was to say OK, and hopefully the ...
A. 25 August 2010: I think that trying to get your friends to take off their tops so you can see their boobs is probably just asking for trouble. Just enjoy how exciting it was seeing your wife being voyeuristic and call it quits is my opinion.... (read in full...)
I was really offended. Am I being silly?
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. He is really great and we get on so well. Just the other night we where lying in bed as usual watching tele and he said to me “if you gave me a blow job for everytime I've watched porn you have a ...
A. 25 August 2010: He's either saying he's watched a lot of porn or he wants a lot of blow jobs. I think he was trying to make a joke though.... (read in full...)
He locks up his PORN!!
Q. My lover lives abroad but we see each other as often as possible. However there is something that bothers me about him, he keeps his porn actually locked in a drawer and wont let me see it (although he did once ask if I wanted to watch a porn film ...
A. 25 August 2010: It's because as children we're taught masturbation is dirty and porn is the worst thing you can ever do, ever. Does his porn bother you? If it doesn't I wouldn't assume it's child porn or bestiality. Especially since he offered to watch it with you.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 25 August 2010: Sorry for not responding. Today is my last day of packing.
Yes I agree with Gabrielle, in the past few years, maybe 5-10 since I was in high school, porn has changed. I remember being a teen looking at the stuff with friends a few times, and it seem... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I love him too and risk him getting clingy?
Q. I am in love with my boyfriend. Absolutely. I know it's love because he does things that with my ex's was completely uncomfortable and irritating but with him... everything he says makes me feel good. Here is the issue, he has already said it to me...
A. 25 August 2010: If you love him, you should tell him. It's probably breaking his heart that you haven't said it back. If he becomes too clingy, just sit him down and let him know and he should back off.... (read in full...)
Do women settle?
Q. I'm obsessed over the fact my girlfriends ex was very well hung and I'm average. She keeps telling me he hurt and there s such a thing as too big. They could not do every position because it often hurt, and he never reciprocated, gave her oral or ...
A. 24 August 2010: She's not settling. She prefers you. He sounds like a really lousy lover. It's kind of like when guys talk to their friends about huge boobs on an ex to brag, when really they like their current gf's better. It's just talk to try to one up. Except ... (read in full...)
I'm so frustrated because I can't insert a tampon!
Q. I am getting so frustrated. I usually get my period at the end of every month. And its near the end of the month now and the first day of school is tomorrow. I want to wear tampons instead of pads because when I wear pads its so obvious and its just ...
A. 24 August 2010: Actually you don't need to worry about TSS unless the tampon has been in for 8 hours. TSS is incredibly rare and usually only happens with those super jumbo ultra size of your head tampons that get left in for days at a time. As for inserting, I ... (read in full...)
Is this a text breakup?
Q. Breakup line or not " I think I better take a break for awhile"...
A. 24 August 2010: Sorry, yes that's probably what it means.... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 24 August 2010: Yes this sounds like a really bad situation. I said if you look at a LOT of porn it does make you a hypocrite. Not if you're masturbating a bit to take care of your needs. I know there's a kid involved, but you may just have to give her an ... (read in full...)
Is this period schedule normal?
Q. [Moderator's Note: OP's own title] I'm 13 years old and I have had my period for about 3 years. I got it very young. I'm a little worried because it a still very off schedule. Some months it will be the 13th or the 29th or the 5th. And the even wei...
A. 24 August 2010: Anything from 26-45 days is normal, but irregular isn't usually good. You're still very young though, so I wouldn't be incredibly worried. Make sure you keep writing things down and keeping track of how long your cycles are. If things don't settle ... (read in full...)
What's the possibility if a cheater of the following traits reforming?
Q. This might sound like a silly question to all of you here but I just couldn't help but ask. The man as describe below is after me and I am very very tempted. What's the possibility if a cheater of the following traits reforming? 1. 31 years old...
A. 24 August 2010: Not changing. No chance. He's a player now, always has been, always will be. Run.... (read in full...)
He called me a liar because he does not like to say no to his ex!
Q. hi everyone, please could you share your thoughts. . Do you think that this is fair: my boyfriend and i were tryin to plan a holiday we had agreed a week and he said yes bøok off with work. When he was told by ex when was having son over hols and ...
A. 24 August 2010: I wouldn't be too keen on staying with a guy who lied over something like that. Not only that, but used something he did and then called you a liar for him having said it. And this is all over his ex? Yes children will always come first. But he ... (read in full...)
Do men like when a woman takes charge?
Q. hi im looking for some advice, im seeing this great guy,hes 3yrs older,we avnt been able 2 see each much wit work n stuff,do men like if you take charge n just say im calling over,or does he like to be in control,i dont want 2 play it cool because ...
A. 24 August 2010: Some men do and some don't. But life's too short to sit around waiting for a guy to call you. Call him.... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend is addicted to text chat sites where he sends pictures of himself to random women! What should I do?
Q. hi hope you can help me i have been with my boyfriend for a year and when we got on we get on really well we are going on holiday in a week , last night i found out that he has been on a flirting phone site when they send dirty texts to random women ...
A. 24 August 2010: Well if you love him and really care for him, if you think you could really stay with him, then you can try to get him help. However, don't stay too long. If he sees no problem with it and continues with his "well, I guess i'm addicted. Nothing I ... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 24 August 2010: Her saying you have no right to get mad or "snoop" and refusing to acknowledge that you have an issue is childish and quite frankly a way for her to maintain control. You have every right to feel upset (so long as you aren't also looking at tons of ... (read in full...)
Blood pressure medication causing a problem?
Q. Im 29 yrs old me an my boyfriend we have sex on an off for 9 yrs. now we r dating but have had for great sex for 9 yrs. the just put him on high blood prassure pills. he is 40 yrs old would the pill have anything to do with his ability to get an ...
A. 24 August 2010: Well to explain a little better, blood pressure medication lowers your blood pressure. You can only get an erection when you have enough blood pressure. Even after donating blood some people find it hard to maintain an erection. So when you lower ... (read in full...)
I'm upset how my friend disciplined her children, wondering if I should call children's services?
Q. It’s a bit of a strange one this but the yesterday my friend walloped her two children right in front of me, now I’m wondering whether to call children’s’ services. She’s got two girls, one 11 and other 13. She’s a single mom and each can be a bit...
A. 24 August 2010: No, you shouldn't call social services. Children need discipline and this is not in the realm of illegal, she's just disciplining. Children can really be a handful sometimes and there's nothing wrong with getting a little physical like a spanking or ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is still hurting after sex !
Q. Me and my girlfriend were both virgin's but after 8 months of being together decided to have sex for the first time. I've read in articles that sex can hurt first time for her but we have had sex numerous times now and she is still hurting ...
A. 24 August 2010: Usually this is a problem of her not being turned on enough. It's kind of like when your hand is covered in tacky glue and you try to rub it on something if she's not wet enough. Not fun. So make sure that she gets lots of foreplay and is plenty ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want sex all the time?
Q. i want to know what a sex addicit is? the reason why im asking is because alot of my friends tease me saying im far too addicted to sex for a normal girl, im not in a relationship but have friends with benefits, and i see them very often, im not on ...
A. 24 August 2010: Sounds like you just like sex. It's totally normal. An addiction is different from just having tons of sex in that you need sex so much that it interferes with your ability to have normal relationships and generally causes problems in life. So long ... (read in full...)
Blood pressure medication causing a problem?
Q. Im 29 yrs old me an my boyfriend we have sex on an off for 9 yrs. now we r dating but have had for great sex for 9 yrs. the just put him on high blood prassure pills. he is 40 yrs old would the pill have anything to do with his ability to get an ...
A. 24 August 2010: Yes it's a common side effect of blood pressure medication to have ED problems. He should go talk to his doctor about changing prescriptions or other options.... (read in full...)
16 and wanting to be pregnant need advice!
Q. alright, so im 16 years old, alot of people around me are all having babies or just getting pregnant,plus the fact i looooove babies,i also have a really horrible family life, and sometimes just need to know someone cares about me i know i have all ...
A. 24 August 2010: I know that it seems like a baby would fix all that, but in reality a baby would just isolate you more and cause way more problems. You said so yourself you can't support a child. So what will happen once the baby gets there? If you have no money ... (read in full...)
Am I unable to have an orgasm?
Q. Alright so, im a 16 year old girl and sex nothing new to me i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we have been intimate before and but i cant tell if ive had an orgasm, like ive read all the signs of having one i never have to pee, like the ...
A. 24 August 2010: Well needing to pee and having an orgasm are different things. When you have your G-spot stimulated you feel like you need to pee. But really your orgasms will mostly come from your clitoris. And I mean an orgasm only does last "like 5 minutes" and ... (read in full...)
Abdominal craps and bleeding, but it's not my period
Q. I had abdominal cramps and bled a little today. Its not my period, any idea what it could be? I know I should go to the doctors, and I will. Just wondering what you guys think it might be first though, thanks! ...
A. 24 August 2010: If you're on any kind of hormonal birth control or have taken the Plan B emergency contraception, those can all cause spotting. How close are you to your period?... (read in full...)
Role play issues
Q. When my partner and i 1st met we discussed role play. He then asked me to be his daughters school mate who called when he was alone. You can imagine then rest,i know he got the idea from a porn film but i find the whole thing find disturbing. ...
A. 24 August 2010: Well obviously you don't have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. But role playing can be a fun healthy way to add some spice to a relationship. Why not share one of your own with him to act out as well?... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 24 August 2010: Hey so I found a book you might be interested in. Well it's not a book, but it's a report by the Witherspoon Institute where they got 54 experts together to discuss the social implications pornography. I haven't finished reading it, but it's ... (read in full...)
If a man views porn, is that sufficient reason for a woman to break off the engagment?
Q. Here is my situtation. I am 60 yrs old, of Italian heritage, and my now ex-fiancee is 54 and of Korean heritage. I am a widower; she has been divorced for 6+ years. I say this to put things into perspective. I am retired and a very succ...
A. 24 August 2010: Without trust, a relationship cannot exist. You do have a right to view whatever you choose (other than illegal things). She has a right not to be with someone who disregards her feelings and chooses to lie to her. Why do you need us to validate ... (read in full...)
If a man views porn, is that sufficient reason for a woman to break off the engagment?
Q. Here is my situtation. I am 60 yrs old, of Italian heritage, and my now ex-fiancee is 54 and of Korean heritage. I am a widower; she has been divorced for 6+ years. I say this to put things into perspective. I am retired and a very succ...
A. 23 August 2010: She isn't policing your thoughts, she's upset with actions. Actions and thoughts are different things. Read Miamine's link as well as many other porn posts on here, and you can find hundreds of women talking about just how much their partners ... (read in full...)
If a man views porn, is that sufficient reason for a woman to break off the engagment?
Q. Here is my situtation. I am 60 yrs old, of Italian heritage, and my now ex-fiancee is 54 and of Korean heritage. I am a widower; she has been divorced for 6+ years. I say this to put things into perspective. I am retired and a very succ...
A. 23 August 2010: Well you lied to her for several years. You destroyed her trust. You say you did nothing wrong, but you lied to her. She told you it hurt her and to get rid of it if you wanted to keep her. But you made your choice, you chose to lie to her and keep ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: Mia I was saying it IS controlling. Definitely is. I was just saying asking people to do anything from not cheating, to taking out the garbage is also controlling. A relationship is just about deciding what kind of control you'll agree to. I'd find ... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 23 August 2010: Well could be one of two things. One, something about your sex life is unsatisfying. Or two, she's developing/developed an addiction. It sounds like the second one, due to the fact that when you do have sex she's acting selfish and like she wants to ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: If men should give up porn to prove their love, should women also stop wearing make up and wear a head to foot black Burka (the black tent dress that some Muslim women wear) to stop other men from noticing them.
Actually my boyfriend hated th... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: Yes I heard GGW has actually had a profoundly negative impact on many of the women who participated as well (shocking, I know *sarcasm*). Some have apparently been so humiliated by the experience that they drop out of school. Obviously some probably ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: Aunt in hiding? Well, I guess don't much like that. I am, well me, I just didn't want to be forever associated with being super anti-porn on this site since that's not the stance I intend to take when giving advice. But if you insist...... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Because frequently, people who are against it view it as cheating. So to them, compromising on this is like saying OK you can have sex with other women once in awhile, so long as I don't know about it. From the other side, they are unwilling to ... (read in full...)
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