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Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 19 July 2011: Wow, what an incredible description.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 March 2011: Here's some food for thought:
Since most people consider cybersex (even with someone you will never meet) cheating but porn is absolutely not cheating, is that an allusion to the idea that women in porn seem less than human? I've heard people t... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 8 October 2010: Randomly from a cool blog (http://www.antipornmen.org/), apparently awhile ago some guy who worked as a porn reviewer for Hustler magazine opened up about his job, and had some pretty interesting things to say:
h... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 October 2010: Yes it is a lot faster and easier. I know, I've actually had a significant amount of experience with this too. What I'm saying is that it's just sad that it's so deeply embedded in people's sexuality that some people literally cannot tell the ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 October 2010: "For many men porn is equated with masturbation in their mind." I honestly don't mean offense when I say this, but I hear this a lot and it's very sad to me. People have been masturbating since the beginning of our existence, and it's only recently... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 6 October 2010: I've been reading around on this site for a long time, and the amount of entitlement many of these men feel about their porn use is astounding. It's been so solidly drilled into most of them that they assume that any woman who has a problem with it ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 October 2010: Not that anyone is reading this anymore, but I just stumbled onto a really interesting study from 1999, and I'm just going to copy and paste the abstract here. If I was doing the study I'd personally have picked a larger sample size, but from what ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 30 September 2010: "Why should the guys happiness over rule the womans? If she's already insecure and that makes it worse, why wouldn't he want to make her feel better?"
I've been asking myself this question for a long time. Obviously it's very hard to put your... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 15 September 2010: "Question- those antiporn, are you also completely against strip clubs etc?"
I'm not completely against porn or strip clubs. If porn existed in a vacuum where there were no similarities between what happened in porn and what happened in the real... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: I remember you also asking about women and porn and I read something interesting in the Washington Times saying women are MORE susceptible to porn addiction than men, basically because a woman using porn is far less stigmatized than a man using porn ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: "Disagree with your statistics Person12345" I cited them below. They are from studies and surveys, the most prominent being from the Kinsey Institute, another from the Witherspoon Institute, several from other books, all/most from academic scholarl... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: "Porn will always be around."
Yes. No matter what it is, whether it's bad or good, once it's been introduced it can't ever really just go away. But look, people said the same thing about cigarettes (they even had all the same "who are you to judg... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 6 September 2010: “Problem with your statistics, that around this time, George W Bush targeted funds to promote abstinence and no sex in schools. The research I've seen said that this didn't encourage teens to have sex later, but it did mean those on abstinence ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: As for teens, it isn't a good sign when you have 15 year olds quoted in the New York Times as saying things along the lines of why would anyone bother with dating when porn's so easy? As for boredom/anal, since 1995 (around when internet porn became ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Also when I talk about the objectification of women, I'm not talking about how women who do porn are treated. I'm talking about portrayal. If we want to get into the people who do porn, there is fairly little sex trafficking of men. There are far ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: "Either men are being objectified and 'marketed' as much as women, or neither are at all. And frankly, if all you can see is said 'objectification' I think that says something about your insecurities." This is a joke, right? It's the old, well men... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: And when I say all people, I just mean people in the US UK and parts of western Europe as that's really the only place reliable data are available.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: "it's 85% of people who use porn.."
Well actually it's approximately 70% of men and 30% of women who use porn, which means around half of all people.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: I said that you don't need any sort of "warning" traits like an addictive personality or family history or what have you to become addicted. Anyone can become addicted and no one is in any kind of a low-risk category. Some people may have a slight ... (read in full...)
My ex dumped me becuase he was stressed, do I wait?
Q. If a man seems really messed up and confused and dumps you cause he has had a lot of stress pile up on him at once is it best to give him his freedom and hope he still wants you when he gets his head together?...
A. 28 August 2010: I can't say if it's a good sign that he'll take you back, but you should keep giving him his space. If/when he's ready you'll know.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 28 August 2010: Well porn IS addictive and between 15-20% of users do get addicted. Sure not everyone gets addicted, but it is addictive. It's not like we gloss over how addictive cigarettes, drugs, and alcohol are because not everyone gets addicted.
"but sure... (read in full...)
If a man views porn, is that sufficient reason for a woman to break off the engagment?
Q. Here is my situtation. I am 60 yrs old, of Italian heritage, and my now ex-fiancee is 54 and of Korean heritage. I am a widower; she has been divorced for 6+ years. I say this to put things into perspective. I am retired and a very succ...
A. 25 August 2010: "I guess men just view things diferently."
No, you view things differently. This isn't a gender issue. Not all men see things that way. Yes you do have the right to do what you want in the privacy of your own home. She has the right to not want you ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 25 August 2010: Sorry for not responding. Today is my last day of packing.
Yes I agree with Gabrielle, in the past few years, maybe 5-10 since I was in high school, porn has changed. I remember being a teen looking at the stuff with friends a few times, and it seem... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 24 August 2010: Yes this sounds like a really bad situation. I said if you look at a LOT of porn it does make you a hypocrite. Not if you're masturbating a bit to take care of your needs. I know there's a kid involved, but you may just have to give her an ... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 24 August 2010: Her saying you have no right to get mad or "snoop" and refusing to acknowledge that you have an issue is childish and quite frankly a way for her to maintain control. You have every right to feel upset (so long as you aren't also looking at tons of ... (read in full...)
Role play issues
Q. When my partner and i 1st met we discussed role play. He then asked me to be his daughters school mate who called when he was alone. You can imagine then rest,i know he got the idea from a porn film but i find the whole thing find disturbing. ...
A. 24 August 2010: Well obviously you don't have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. But role playing can be a fun healthy way to add some spice to a relationship. Why not share one of your own with him to act out as well?... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 24 August 2010: Hey so I found a book you might be interested in. Well it's not a book, but it's a report by the Witherspoon Institute where they got 54 experts together to discuss the social implications pornography. I haven't finished reading it, but it's ... (read in full...)
Shaving down there...
Q. Basically,I have been in a relationship for 3 years and my boyfriend always requested i shaved down there.....now that i am single i am wondering is this a normal thing and what do most other people do? thanks:)...
A. 24 August 2010: I don't, it's itchy and a huge pain in the butt. I only trim it, and that's mostly a courtesy for my boyfriend (he does the same). I find the whole culture requiring women to shave it's a little weird (hair is natural, everyone has it. Why should we ... (read in full...)
My friend is on birth control and I'm not sure she's using it correctly!
Q. My friend and I both went to the public clinic about three months ago to start on Birth Control. I went on the Nuvaring, she's on the Evra patch. She's very sexually active with her boyfriend, and we are very open and honest about this kind ...
A. 24 August 2010: No that's actually how the patch (and hormonal birth control) works. You're still protected during that week when the patch is off, when the ring is out, and when you're not taking the pill. You're still just as protected as you are when you take it ... (read in full...)
If a man views porn, is that sufficient reason for a woman to break off the engagment?
Q. Here is my situtation. I am 60 yrs old, of Italian heritage, and my now ex-fiancee is 54 and of Korean heritage. I am a widower; she has been divorced for 6+ years. I say this to put things into perspective. I am retired and a very succ...
A. 24 August 2010: Without trust, a relationship cannot exist. You do have a right to view whatever you choose (other than illegal things). She has a right not to be with someone who disregards her feelings and chooses to lie to her. Why do you need us to validate ... (read in full...)
If a man views porn, is that sufficient reason for a woman to break off the engagment?
Q. Here is my situtation. I am 60 yrs old, of Italian heritage, and my now ex-fiancee is 54 and of Korean heritage. I am a widower; she has been divorced for 6+ years. I say this to put things into perspective. I am retired and a very succ...
A. 23 August 2010: She isn't policing your thoughts, she's upset with actions. Actions and thoughts are different things. Read Miamine's link as well as many other porn posts on here, and you can find hundreds of women talking about just how much their partners ... (read in full...)
I want to do PORN!!
Q. I want to do porn, but i come from a religious family and i dont want to disgrace them but its something that ive really tooken an interest to, i have the confidence and body to do it, and i have this really bad sex addiction which seems quite ...
A. 23 August 2010: I think you should deal with your sex addiction first. An addiction is not something that can be "cured" by more of the "substance." Porn is not glamorous, especially for a new girl. You'll have to do things that are really painful and smile. That's ... (read in full...)
If a man views porn, is that sufficient reason for a woman to break off the engagment?
Q. Here is my situtation. I am 60 yrs old, of Italian heritage, and my now ex-fiancee is 54 and of Korean heritage. I am a widower; she has been divorced for 6+ years. I say this to put things into perspective. I am retired and a very succ...
A. 23 August 2010: Well you lied to her for several years. You destroyed her trust. You say you did nothing wrong, but you lied to her. She told you it hurt her and to get rid of it if you wanted to keep her. But you made your choice, you chose to lie to her and keep ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: Mia I was saying it IS controlling. Definitely is. I was just saying asking people to do anything from not cheating, to taking out the garbage is also controlling. A relationship is just about deciding what kind of control you'll agree to. I'd find ... (read in full...)
Wife watching porn instead of having sex
Q. Hi, Im having a problem with my wife. About a year ago she started watching porn just every now and then to spice things up. After a few months it came to having to watch it every time we had sex so she would be in the mood. then just a few mont...
A. 23 August 2010: Well could be one of two things. One, something about your sex life is unsatisfying. Or two, she's developing/developed an addiction. It sounds like the second one, due to the fact that when you do have sex she's acting selfish and like she wants to ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: If men should give up porn to prove their love, should women also stop wearing make up and wear a head to foot black Burka (the black tent dress that some Muslim women wear) to stop other men from noticing them.
Actually my boyfriend hated th... (read in full...)
Why does he freeze when it comes to having sex?
Q. Why would a guy in his late 20's and still a virgin, not want to havesex? What does it mean when he only wants bjs?? He is a nice guy and touchy handsy but when it comes to the topic of sex and lets do it, he freezes? How to get him to relax? Thank ...
A. 22 August 2010: Oh I misread the part about only wanting BJs as you offering and him refusing or something. Yes that changes everything. It means what OlderSister said. He only wants it to be about him. If he has sex, he has to worry about pleasing you as well. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was trying to get me to leave the room to masterbate!
Q. Ok, so if you've ever seen those things on the internet where the girl or guy is asking for help because they walked in on their partner masterbating, well here's another one. Now you see, i don't have a problem with the guy masterbating, bu...
A. 22 August 2010: I would like to point out that you don't need porn to masturbate. You can masturbate without porn. So if you're that horny that you just can't wait for your partner, masturbating will feel good no matter what. Also I understand that people ... (read in full...)
Why does he freeze when it comes to having sex?
Q. Why would a guy in his late 20's and still a virgin, not want to havesex? What does it mean when he only wants bjs?? He is a nice guy and touchy handsy but when it comes to the topic of sex and lets do it, he freezes? How to get him to relax? Thank ...
A. 22 August 2010: He's probably just really nervous. You can't make him relax, but have you tried to initiate? Obviously you shouldn't pressure him into sex before he's ready though. If he doesn't want to have sex even if you try to initiate (so he doesn't have the ... (read in full...)
Lying about watching porn...
Q. I've been lying to my girlfriend for years about my porn use. She caught me lying to her a few times in the beginning of our relationship (about other things as well as porn use) and has never really trusted me again properly since then. However I ...
A. 22 August 2010: Well you have three choices. One, stop lying about it. It's good you feel guilty because it's really deplorable that you've been persistently lying and hiding. Why do you feel you have the right to lie about this? Do you have an addiction? You know ... (read in full...)
Did you ever end up with your perfect man or someone completely different?
Q. Hey. I'm 18. I'm just wondering who people have ended up with. I have an idea of what sort of person I can imagine myself being with but is this realistic? Has anyone ended up with someone completely different to what you expected? Or have you found ...
A. 22 August 2010: I had put so little effort into thinking about into who I would end up with and such that I actually thought I was a lesbian or asexual since no men really interested me, and the ones I dated were so totally not for me. Then I saw this quiet, ... (read in full...)
My ex dumped me becuase he was stressed, do I wait?
Q. If a man seems really messed up and confused and dumps you cause he has had a lot of stress pile up on him at once is it best to give him his freedom and hope he still wants you when he gets his head together?...
A. 22 August 2010: Yes. He may have been stressed, he may have been totally confused, but he probably has his reasons for wanting to break it off. There's absolutely only one thing you can do, and that is to give him his space. If you want to get back together again, ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: Yes I heard GGW has actually had a profoundly negative impact on many of the women who participated as well (shocking, I know *sarcasm*). Some have apparently been so humiliated by the experience that they drop out of school. Obviously some probably ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: Aunt in hiding? Well, I guess don't much like that. I am, well me, I just didn't want to be forever associated with being super anti-porn on this site since that's not the stance I intend to take when giving advice. But if you insist...... (read in full...)
Why do guys want to watch girls masterbate?
Q. Why do guys like to watch girls masterbate? I mean I don't really mind it,but it's a bit awkward to me. I'd rather you finger me then me finger myself. I wouldn't ask a guy to jerk off or something while I'm there when I know he'd rather me do it ...
A. 22 August 2010: Not just guys, a lot of girls like to watch guys masturbate as well. Try it sometime, you might be surprised. Women are just as visual as men, it's scientific fact. It's an exciting visual, as well as it's something normally private so it's ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 22 August 2010: Yos, your answers are amazing. Can I just say that? You should write a book. You could really help people I think. I completely agree that being promiscuous in the past in no way affects his or her ability to love. Love and sex are/can be separate ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for men to masturbate to other woman in relationships?
Q. Is it normal for men to masturbate to girls that they know and are attracted to while in a relationship? Do women also fantasize about other men that they know while they are in a relationship?...
A. 22 August 2010: It's up to the individuals in a relationship. Not to sound like a therapist, but I don't like using the word normal in this case. It's common, but it (porn/pictures) can cause some problems in some relationships (not all). I don't think you'll find ... (read in full...)
Why is my wife suddenly masturbating all the time?
Q. hi andrew my question may sound strange but my wife is going through the menopause and she doesnt have much interest in sex but she will spend all night , everynight masturbating which she thinks i dont know about and then complains how tired sh...
A. 22 August 2010: I agree with Miamine as well. This is unhealthy to turn to masturbation and not have sex. I know you don't want to confront her as you're worried it will make her stop, but her stopping or at least doing it a lot less would be a good thing in this ... (read in full...)
Separated from wife, she wants to tell me about her sexual escapes and I don't want to hear about them!
Q. My wife and I are separated and going to a therapist. I want to stay married but thought the best way to deal with the anguish my wife caused me (she cheated, among other things) was to move out. Since then, things have improved somewhat in some ...
A. 21 August 2010: It sounds like she's trying to make you jealous on purpose, to see your reaction. It probably makes her feel attractive and powerful. Give her a taste of her own medicine next time and see how she much she wants to tell you about her escapades.... (read in full...)
Why is my wife suddenly masturbating all the time?
Q. hi andrew my question may sound strange but my wife is going through the menopause and she doesnt have much interest in sex but she will spend all night , everynight masturbating which she thinks i dont know about and then complains how tired sh...
A. 21 August 2010: I think you need to talk to her about it. Maybe she's feeling dissatisfied with some aspect of the sexual relationship, maybe she's gotten really horny from menopause but is embarrassed, maybe she's gotten addicted to masturbation, there are a ton ... (read in full...)
Tummy creases and pregnancy
Q. you know when you sit down and your tummy creases over...well im not fat but my tummy does crease over when i sit down..but my question is does your tummy still do this in the early stages of pregnancy i mean like if your one month pregnant would ...
A. 21 August 2010: I don't think you can crease your stomach when you're very pregnant and you don't exactly have a lot of skin. I wouldn't use counting tummy creases as a way to tell if you're pregnant. You should go get a pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
At 22, my parents tell me not to worry about having a girlfriend
Q. Are my parents right about not worrying about finding a girlfriend at 22? I keep saying why don't i have a girlfriend but my parents say I shouldn'worry about it, that I should make most of being single now because I won't get that chance when I'm...
A. 21 August 2010: Nah, you have your whole life ahead of you. 22 is still very young. Your parents are right. Go enjoy being young and single!... (read in full...)
Honey boobs!
Q. Hi, For a very long time my hubby has had a wish that he wants to put honey on boobs and nipples so that he can lick my boobs and suck my nipples. Please advise... is it safe and okay?...
A. 21 August 2010: Yeah it's safe, but it's going to be REALLY messy and sticky. On Sex and the City they recommend low fat cool whip for the least mess. Haha.... (read in full...)
Can you get sick from oral sex?
Q. hello almal. Well, i like to think myself as the crazyest guy my girl could find, the reson for that is, i love making love with my girl, its like im addicted, my sex drive is very high seence i found her, we do al crazy stuf including ora...
A. 21 August 2010: You can spread STDs through oral sex but the actual fluids themselves won't make you sick. Some women strongly dislike the taste of semen and you shouldn't make her swallow it, but she is fine health-wise to swallow. I has the possibility of ... (read in full...)
I simply cannot come to terms with my man watching porn
Q. I am one of those dreaded women that simply cannot come to terms with my man watching pron. I have struggled with this since the day I started dating guys. I have literally done everything I can think and everything people have suggested to make ...
A. 21 August 2010: "I've found that every guy I have ever talked to about porn (even friends)say that it is simply something "all guys just do". This makes me fear that every guy is like this.
Because of that, I have tried going to therapy thinking the error was on m... (read in full...)
Why does my husband continue to fantasize over younger women?
Q. Why does my husband continue to fantisize over younger women? I guess I am just sick of it. It started with his searches on my computer and when caught, he went out and bought a Blackberry and spends all of his time on the Blackberry. He tells me ...
A. 21 August 2010: I think if this is something that bothers you and you can't deal with, you need to really let him know you are absolutely not OK with this. I'm sure he'd be pretty horrified to know that you can tell he's not thinking of you during sex. You're ... (read in full...)
Is there anything to make a cold go away faster?
Q. Hey there quick question, I have a busy week coming up and woke up this morning with a such a sore throat and a cold is the last thing that I need right now. So I'm just wondering if anyone has any remedies for getting a cold to go away faster...
A. 20 August 2010: Vitamin C can help get rid of colds a little faster, and drink lots of fluids. As well, stay well rested. Dayquil can frequently help temporarily reduce symptoms so you feel like you can function.... (read in full...)
When my period did came I noticed a very peculiar piece of skin, I'm very confused.
Q. Ok well I was 2 weeks late [well if it was 34 day cycle like my last period] but I had brown spotting yesterday and this morning so I put a pad on to see if my period came. I'm 17 and I thought I might of been pregnant because of my missed period ...
A. 20 August 2010: It sounds to me like it could have been a miscarriage. You should get to your gynecologist to check things out and make sure you aren't at risk for infections.... (read in full...)
Getting married soon and have proof that he slept with an ex while on business!
Q. Dear friends, I'm getting married in September. My fiance has been on a business trip and i have firm evidence that he slept with his ex girlfriend. I really dont know what to do and how to react. Shall i confront him? Shall i even cancel my f...
A. 20 August 2010: I'm not sure what you should think or what I would do. The fact that he's trying to excuse it shows a pretty big lack of remorse. It's good he came clean though. It's really your call. All it really comes down to is do you think you can ever trust ... (read in full...)
Why would a girl lie about NOT having had an orgasm?
Q. ok so i have this new GF and she swears shes the **** in bed and that only two guys have ever made her have an orgasm and it was because she loved them. so wen we have sex i put out all my best moves and stuff and i no im good because every gi...
A. 20 August 2010: I doubt she's lying. She probably just really enjoyed it. Why would you assume she's lying? I've never heard of a woman lying about HAVING one. Faking, sure. But this? What is her motivation? Also if my new boyfriend had slept with someone else ... (read in full...)
How exactly do wedcams work?
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend a couple of years, but our relationship has recently become long distance. I'm thinking of getting webcams to keep in touch, and also, ahem, for sexual purposes ... So my question is, how do webcams work? We both...
A. 19 August 2010: No, it's totally private. No one can see what you guys are up to. How would they...? That wouldn't make a lot of sense for Skype to broadcast what goes on.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Because frequently, people who are against it view it as cheating. So to them, compromising on this is like saying OK you can have sex with other women once in awhile, so long as I don't know about it. From the other side, they are unwilling to ... (read in full...)
Cramps and on and off period!
Q. Im in college now and for almost two months I've had cramps alternating in my abdomen, my last two periods have been on and off for exactly two days, and sore breasts (but not nipples). I took a clinic pregnancy test at my pediatric and it came out ...
A. 19 August 2010: This doesn't sound like any kind of pregnancy chance, it sounds like it could be a hormone imbalance or something. You need to ask a doctor about it.... (read in full...)
Sex during my period?
Q. Okay so, my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now and we have a very active sex life. Since it is so active he has a hard time whenever it comes to the week of my period. He has begged me every week of my period for sex ...
A. 19 August 2010: Not only should you, but it can actually be more fun! You already have increased blood flow to the area so you're constantly in a state of slight arousal and getting aroused is easy. Plus you're already lubricated (many people really like the extra ... (read in full...)
Children born out of incest
Q. Not wanting to beat around the bush, this is a question about incest taboo. Yes, I know there's a lot of simalar questions wandering about in this site, but I don't think I'll actually care if someone complains since I'm curious like everyone else. ...
A. 19 August 2010: As someone who knows about genetics, I will simply address the defects part of this question. For a first generation child born to a close relative (like a parent or sibling, not to a cousin or aunt or something) the chance of defects is high, but ... (read in full...)
Morning sex. optional? or required?
Q. I've been casually seeing a guy for about 6 weeks now. While I am not terribly experienced in sex and dating, I have been using this opportunity to gain a bit of insight into boys. The few nights I went back to his place I ended up leaving at 3 or 4 ...
A. 19 August 2010: No, waking up together just feels nice. After sharing a night of passion it's lovely to roll over and see the person you care about in the morning light and just feel like that person was there with you, all night, in your bed. You can cuddle right ... (read in full...)
Getting married soon and have proof that he slept with an ex while on business!
Q. Dear friends, I'm getting married in September. My fiance has been on a business trip and i have firm evidence that he slept with his ex girlfriend. I really dont know what to do and how to react. Shall i confront him? Shall i even cancel my f...
A. 14 August 2010: No one can tell you what you should do, but you should probably confront him if you're absolutely sure. What evidence do you have that's so concrete? Someone who sleeps with an ex then lies is probably not the kind of person you want to marry. If he ... (read in full...)
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