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writes:I'm obsessed over the fact my girlfriends ex was very well hung and I'm average. She keeps telling me he hurt and there s such a thing as too big. They could not do every position because it often hurt, and he never reciprocated, gave her oral or anything, and he never made her orgasm. However, I've heard her talking to friends about him and how she loved his size and all the things they could do because he was so big. I wish I hadn't heard, because now I feel inadequate. She assurs me I'm better, that I'm 100x the lover he was, etc, but she only talks about the negatives to me, and apparently says other things to her BFF's. She's talking LTR with me, so I have to assume she's satisfied. How can I be sure? Do women "settle". I don't want her to settle only to cheat on me years from now with some guy with a huge tool.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (24 August 2010):
 She's not settling. She prefers you. He sounds like a really lousy lover. It's kind of like when guys talk to their friends about huge boobs on an ex to brag, when really they like their current gf's better. It's just talk to try to one up. Except big boobs don't hurt. Most women I know don't like a huge one, it really REALLY hurts. When it hits your cervix it can send shockwaves of pain through. It's really very VERY unpleasant. Plus he sounds like he was a really selfish lover. If you're giving her orgasms, she's not settling. Women do not care about penis size. Penis size has next to nothing to do with good sex. It's all about what you can do with your tongue and hips and fingers. We don't even have many nerve endings in there. Relax. She's not settling. This penis size thing is only perpetuated by men. Not women. We don't care.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 It sounds like he was a terrible lover. I'm really sure she's much more satisfied with you!
As for what she 'apparently' said... Don't believe rumours. Especially on subjects like this. Unless you heard it with your own ears you can't trust it. Trust what she tells you instead.
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (24 August 2010):
 First of all women 9 times out of 10 don't cheat for something physical. We usually cheat because you don't treat us right.
Yes sometimes we (women) get together and talk about the man parts and it's just that... TALK!!( kind of like when me get together and talk about women)
Big ol' huge ones are attractive to some women to look at but they are NOT comfy at all. They do hurt... a lot!!
Men sometimes don't get that penis size has almot nothing to do with how good your sex is. Most times women don't get an orgasm off penetration anyways. So if you're getting her there from pleasing her orally, mentally, and what ever else there is then you are very much adequate.
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