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writes:My boyfriend really enjoys me giving him head, but I'm not too good at it and don't really enjoy doing it. Please can you give me some tips on how i could improve my technique or is there any throat excercises i could do to improve it?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): Person12345 has it perfectly nailed. That is exactly what I was going to say, and if I ever met up with her, I'd never make it past oral ;). ...Hands, spit and lots of motion. Also, long, thorough strokes beat out the jackhammer for me. Also, don't focus on the head too much. And dont underestimate tickling or soft touch. It's not necessary to have a death grip on it all the time. You're not squeezing the stuff out like a tube of toothpaste. And the biggest turn on of all is that you're completely into it. If you're a scared rabbit, it will seem like you aren't enjoying yourself.
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reader, Universe Man  +, writes (26 August 2010):
No one can give you better advice about blowing your boyfriend than your boyfriend. Is he talking you through it? If not, why not?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Lots of tongue is my favorite. Even when it's in your mouth. Circling your tongue around the head is great. Another thing that's very subtle but oh so good is making eye contact while it's in your mouth. Asking how he likes it is also good.
I agree that deep throat is overrated. Don't gag yourself unless you want to. Don't be afraid to kiss it or rub your lips and tongue up and down the length without it in your mouth either. My tip for your hands is use them very gently. A lot of the girls I've been with use far to firm a grip. This can actually hurt, a lot. Just be gentle with them and use them like an extension of your mouth.
Telling him he's "so big" never hurts either. ;-)
Try and make the experience hit a bunch of his senses. Visual, he'll likely love watching you, so looking back at him and looking like you're enjoying yourself is very sexy. Auditory, aside from talking like I suggested, a lot of guys like hearing you slurp, kiss, and any other sounds you may make. Yes, humming does feel real good too because of the vibration. Olfactory, wear his favorite perfume, or make sure you're clean. Touch, well this pretty much goes without saying. The only one you want to be cautious of is taste. Some guys like kissing or making out either during or directly after, others are repulsed by the idea. On the same hand, I love tasting my lover while she goes down on me, so a 69 can really be incredible.
Don't be afraid to communicate or encourage him to do the same. He can likely tell you what he likes better than you can figure it out on your own. Then again, he'll probably like most any attention you show him, so don't worry.
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reader, twinkletoes30 +, writes (26 August 2010):
 step one to good oral: DONT STRESS ABOUT IT!!!
After that, remember, YOU are in control. Id advise using your hands to control how much you take into your mouth, until you get more comfortable. Humming certainly works, but i found that licking and gently sucking his balls is a favourite! Just make sure that he's clean, and if you're uncomfortable, lick, blow, tease until you're ready to go for more! Good luck. x
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reader, TimmD +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Person12345 hit the nail on the head - use your hands as well. Many girls who are less experienced think that they need to only use their mouth, and that is incorrect. A combination of mouth and hands is absolutely necessary. Keep it very wet and slippery and use your hands. Other than that, each guy is different so it is just as much his responsibility to tell you what feels good to him. Women can't read minds, so he has to be vocal.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Hum. He'll love it.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (26 August 2010):
 I suggest you Google "Fellatio" or "Blow Job", there are all kinds of how to articles on the net about sex...
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reader, person12345 +, writes (26 August 2010):
 It's not so much about throat, so if you can't naturally deep throat, don't beat yourself up over it. The one thing that seems to make an ENORMOUS difference is adding in your hands. If you kind of make a wave-like squeezing motion around the shaft (like giving someone a neck rub, but be careful you don't go too hard) or a gentle-ish twisting motion it can make them go totally crazy. Also a lot of guys like it when you take your other hand and extremely gently squeeze, rub, or cup their testicles. Don't forget how hot of a visual you are. When your mouth gets tired, take a break and rub your breasts on him (and I don't mean his chest). And then there's the tongue. Try flicking and pressing on the frenulum (the area on the backside of the penis where the head meets the shaft) with a bit of force. And don't forget a lot of saliva. If you don't really like it (and judging by the way you asked for throat exercises, I'm not surprised that sounds super painful) you don't have to really get a lot in there, you can basically just take the head and go not much deeper as long as you have hands willing to do some work, which gives a stronger sensation than your mouth anyways. It's more fun for you, more fun for him, everyone wins.
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Why don't you enjoy it? Does it make you feel inferior? Does he smell down there?
Anyway, you could ask him to put a flavor condom on, if you're not comfortable with it. As for exercises, I think the best performance is "do what you feel like, be creative, in order to feel good".
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