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Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 March 2011: Here's some food for thought:
Since most people consider cybersex (even with someone you will never meet) cheating but porn is absolutely not cheating, is that an allusion to the idea that women in porn seem less than human? I've heard people t... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 18 October 2010: "I'm saying that, just as one spouse may have to go without sometimes, it's only fair for the other to put out for a quickie now and again."
I agree with this completely and get a lot of flack for saying it on other posts. If me or my partner (who... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 12 October 2010: Yeah I read the article when it came out. When women aren't making $0.80 to every dollar men make, which is actually more like $.40 to the dollar when you factor in how much more of childcare and healthcare women usually have to pay, when women hold ... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 12 October 2010: Just because a female virgin is desired, doesn't make it any less sexist. It's not desired for any natural reason, it is simply because men, being in a more sexually privileged group, feel they are more entitled to feel angry and jealous than women ... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 11 October 2010: First to address the rape statistic, sorry I haven't looked at the statistics since high school, but according to Rainn.org (the largest American group working to end rape) the number is actually 1 in 6 now. Sorry for misrepresenting. Other than an ... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 10 October 2010: Yes I read that article in NY Mag. I wasn't particularly interested in the article but I did read through every single last comment. I couldn't help it. I got interested from seeing the anger around the issue on this website, and then the comments ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 8 October 2010: Randomly from a cool blog (http://www.antipornmen.org/), apparently awhile ago some guy who worked as a porn reviewer for Hustler magazine opened up about his job, and had some pretty interesting things to say:
h... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 October 2010: Yes it is a lot faster and easier. I know, I've actually had a significant amount of experience with this too. What I'm saying is that it's just sad that it's so deeply embedded in people's sexuality that some people literally cannot tell the ... (read in full...)
Should I feel insecure if I'm dating a woman who can beat me up?
Q. I'm not much of a fighter, and I have a question. Should I feel insecure if I happen to meet a gorgeous woman who could beat me in a fight? Is this a strange question, or is it a legitimate concern? Let's say she's a karate expert or somethi...
A. 7 October 2010: It's just as much abuse if she beats you up as if a man beats a woman up. So unless she's a horrible abusive tyrant, I don't think you need to worry about it. Should women worry when they date men who can beat them up too? Because that's frequently ... (read in full...)
A bunch of questions about threesomes and sex!
Q. Can you really have a MFF threesome with your wife and the man never touch the other woman involved? Is a threesome or more, orgasim any better or different than an orgasim with a single partner? How is anal sex different than vaginal sex in how it f...
A. 7 October 2010: Can you really have a MFF threesome with your wife and the man never touch the other woman involved?
Probably not. If your husband wants to do this and you're not 100%, you shouldn't do it. If he isn't in it just to cheat with permission, he shou... (read in full...)
Could this be muscle damage or something more serious?
Q. How would you know if a lower abdominal muscle was damaged? basically I have tenderness and sometimes get sharp pains in left lower part of my stomach. Some days it will be worse than others and I can feel a swelling. I went to the doctor and got ...
A. 7 October 2010: Unfortunately we are not doctors and cannot diagnose you over the internet. If it's not your ovaries, then it could be anything ranging from bad gas to an ectopic pregnancy. You should get yourself to a doctor, or maybe a different doctor.... (read in full...)
Can you give a guy a blowjob even if you have a sore throat?
Q. Can you give a guy a blowjob even if you have a sore throat?...
A. 7 October 2010: I would imagine if you tried to swallow that could aggravate things, but so long as you want to, I don't see why not. But as always, let pain be your guide. If it starts to hurt more or something, stop. Is there a reason you don't want to wait until ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 October 2010: "For many men porn is equated with masturbation in their mind." I honestly don't mean offense when I say this, but I hear this a lot and it's very sad to me. People have been masturbating since the beginning of our existence, and it's only recently... (read in full...)
Advice on boyfriend's porn.....
Q. I’ve been with this guy for almost ten years in a serious relationship and he is wonderful on many levels. However, long story short, I discovered porn on my boyfriend’s internet history by accident earlier this year and I confronted him about it. ...
A. 6 October 2010: "Would you give up something you liked as easily if, in your opinion, it did not affect your relationship just because he disliked it?"
I know I'm not the OP, but I wanted to comment on this. Even if one person is of the opinion that it is not harm... (read in full...)
Polygamist relationships?
Q. Hi. I just wanted to ask a very serious question. Have you ever had a polygamist relationship that was either successful or unsuccessful? Thank you....
A. 6 October 2010: Women who are forced into this due to culture/religion frequently fight with each other and feel jealous. I'd assume the only other reason a woman would agree to this is because either she wants multiple partners too, or because she just doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is swallowing harmful to my health?
Q. I want to go on a vaginal sex break coz i want my vagina to get back in shape.I know about kegel exercises but i think taking a break also will help.While on break,i intend to be giving my bf as many bjs as he wants (he's incredible at giving oral ...
A. 6 October 2010: No swallowing isn't harmful unless he has an STD, which you can get more easily from swallowing.
As for taking a vaginal break to get in shape, what does that mean exactly? Sex doesn't loosen you, and abstaining versus not abstaining will have no e... (read in full...)
Are there bad side effects of having a coil fitted?
Q. My girlfriend was discussing with me about getting a coil put in, she didnt originally want one because she said it made one of her friends gain a lot of weight. She has since talked with her doctor who said that was impossible. Shes made anothe...
A. 6 October 2010: No a coil cannot make you gain weight. Are you talking about a copper IUD or sterilization? Either way, it doesn't have any effects outside her reproductive organs. The IUD can cause longer, heavier, more painful periods, but other than that it ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 6 October 2010: I've been reading around on this site for a long time, and the amount of entitlement many of these men feel about their porn use is astounding. It's been so solidly drilled into most of them that they assume that any woman who has a problem with it ... (read in full...)
Wow! Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Q. I've been with my bf for a year. I met his friend for the first time 3 months ago. Where we both fell straight in love with each other. Love at first sight. No joke. We've seen each other only twice since, both occasions lots of mutual friends were ...
A. 5 October 2010: It's instant attraction. Love is not something that can happen instantaneously, it has to grow and be supported by trust. It means nothing about your compatibility, just that you're attracted to each other. Keep it on the back burner. If things ... (read in full...)
We will be separated for one month when I go this trip, reassurance needed!!!
Q. I am leaving my boyfriend of 6 months to go to the other side of the world for a month in 6 weeks time. It was booked and paid for long before I met him. I am absolutely dreading leaving him, I trust him completely but i feel terrible I'll be there ...
A. 5 October 2010: But think how great it will be when you two are reunited in a month? You should most definitely go. He will respect you more for it, and you'll have a lot to talk about when you get back. You know that saying absence makes the heart grow fonder? ... (read in full...)
Does body buiding exercises stop growth in teens?
Q. Does body buiding exercises stop growth in teens?...
A. 5 October 2010: Only if you use drugs/steroids or don't get enough nutrition.... (read in full...)
Is my spouse hiding something???
Q. Your spouse says they need their privacy and has a password on their computer account that they won't give you. Does this mean they are hiding something or is it harmless?...
A. 5 October 2010: Lots of people keep passwords on their computer, many times it's just because they honestly like their privacy to look up state capitals, browse cat videos, or whatever, without someone looking over their shoulder. That said, if he gets twitchy and ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date someone younger?
Q. hi i just wanna know is it wrong to date a guy younger then me cause he is turning 21 in 3 weeks time and im 28 but we love each other very much.......
A. 5 October 2010: Well you could always go by the old school trick thing, divide your age in half and add 7. By that method, he's within the age range where people shouldn't judge you. But the real question is whether or not you want to date him. If the answer is ... (read in full...)
I blocked my b/f on facebook, will he be upset about it?
Q. my boyfriend wants me to give him space, we have been through quite a lot together emotionally and the last time we had a break i found it incredibly difficult to not talk to him. my friends told me i should block him on fb just to give me a peace ...
A. 5 October 2010: If it's making you feel better, you should definitely do it. If he does get upset, just remind him he was the one who wanted space.... (read in full...)
Yay or nay to a threesome???
Q. My boyfriend and I been together for over 5 years. The sex is great but now I find myself wanting a female, not sure but big breasts are a realy hot turn on for me now? How can I get my boyfriend to agree????...
A. 5 October 2010: I generally feel like threesomes are kind of like relationship suicide, but if it's something you both want, it shouldn't be a problem. The one thing worrying me is that it basically sounds like you're using a threesome as an excuse to sleep with ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 October 2010: Not that anyone is reading this anymore, but I just stumbled onto a really interesting study from 1999, and I'm just going to copy and paste the abstract here. If I was doing the study I'd personally have picked a larger sample size, but from what ... (read in full...)
Do I end my marriage or keep letting him destroy my self esteem?
Q. I'm 41 years old, my husband and I have been married for 6 years, I knew when we got married he was into porn but thought he had gotten better, but here recently he got a new cell phone, and every time I look, when he's not expecting me to, its ...
A. 5 October 2010: It doesn't mean he doesn't respect you, guys have been brought up thinking porn is their right. It's an old habit that he probably didn't even think to change. Don't let him get angry at you for talking about it, that's a tactic 6 year olds use. If ... (read in full...)
Advice on boyfriend's porn.....
Q. I’ve been with this guy for almost ten years in a serious relationship and he is wonderful on many levels. However, long story short, I discovered porn on my boyfriend’s internet history by accident earlier this year and I confronted him about it. ...
A. 5 October 2010: Whether or not it's interfering with your sex life is not the issue, it's how it makes you feel. If it makes you feel really bad, you should talk to him. You can't force him to give up porn, but you are perfectly within your right not to want porn ... (read in full...)
Do women tell their friends EVERYTHING about their boyfriends???
Q. Ok, to all women, do you talk to your best friends and tell them everything about your bf. i mean everything, like dirty details?...
A. 5 October 2010: Depends. If it's something really private or something my boyfriend specifically asks me not to say, then no I won't. But if not then sure I'll tell them.... (read in full...)
Period lasting for 2 months??? Worried!
Q. hi my wife has had her period for two months now im getting worried, she's alway angry and stressed and working a lot how can u help me?...
A. 5 October 2010: If she's actually on her period, and not just angry and stressed, like actually bleeding for 2 months, she needs to go talk to a doctor who will put her on the pill to regulate her cycle.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend caught on dating sites and texting other women...
Q. Hi I am new to this. I just did not know where else to turn. I have no one else to discuss this with. My boyfriend and i have been together 3 years. He is considerably older than me but it has never been an issue for either of us. WE get on ...
A. 5 October 2010: He has a history of cheating on his previous girlfriends, unsuccessful relationships, and has proven himself completely untrustworthy to you multiple times, with no remorse. This guy just screams run for the hills and don't look back.... (read in full...)
Pre cum problem...
Q. i seem to have a problem. when i am with my girlfriend and we are getting horny etc.... when i get an erection i get a lot of pre cum. I dont like this at all, when she is going to go down my trousers, i have to stop her and get my penis out myself ...
A. 5 October 2010: Why is pre cum a problem? I find it to be a compliment! Just like a girl getting wet is a compliment to you. And no you can't stop it, just enjoy using it as lube or something during a handjob.... (read in full...)
According to my boyfriend I'm too tight! What position can we do to make it better?
Q. my bf says im too tight, can it be the position we usually use. what can i do?...
A. 4 October 2010: Make sure you have enough foreplay and try using some lube to help things along. That should loosen you up a bit.... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 4 October 2010: I agree about faking it, I never understood why it became so OK to fake it. It's so deceitful! I can't even imagine how much that would hurt, to be a guy and find out you don't rock her world as much as you thought you did. Plus all it does is ... (read in full...)
How to get good sex when the guy is smaller
Q. So, i've been with my new boyfriend for about 5 weeks now. andwe recently started having sex. The problem is, my ex was a lot bigger in the downstairs department than this new guy. I love my boyfriend to pieces he is absolutely perfect but because ...
A. 3 October 2010: Most women cannot orgasm from penetrative sex, and most of the ones who can do so because external contact (rubbing, usually from the pubic bone or base of the penis) rather than an in and out motion. The fact that you can orgasm from "foreplay" ... (read in full...)
Is porn cheating?
Q. I don't no weather porn is cheating but every time I find out he is doing it he lies to me and says am inscure but when he promess he wouldt haw does he excpect me to react ????...
A. 3 October 2010: Female anon, men are not more visual than women. Men have been masturbating since the beginning of our existence and it's only recently that using porn has become the norm. Yes there used to be paintings and such, but they weren't like they are now ... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 3 October 2010: "It common knowledge that for every one lie a man tells, the women tells ten."
Um, excuse me? That's an incredibly sexist assumption, just like that response in the marriage post saying white women are selfish and you won't date them anymore. I assu... (read in full...)
Is porn cheating?
Q. I don't no weather porn is cheating but every time I find out he is doing it he lies to me and says am inscure but when he promess he wouldt haw does he excpect me to react ????...
A. 1 October 2010: If you discuss something and ask to not include it in your relationship and your partner agrees and then does something, then it is cheating. If you both agree it's OK to have sex with other people, then having sex with other people is not cheating. ... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 1 October 2010: He could respect her wishes and stop. I know that some of the lying is about protecting her from hurt feelings, but a lot of the lying is also so he doesn't have to face up to the reality that he's hurting her and to avoid dealing with her getting ... (read in full...)
I think my doctor likes me
Q. I think my Doctor likes me. i know I like him. He gives me a hug.. and our visits last like an hour. How would i know for sure?...
A. 30 September 2010: Hmmm it's difficult to say, since he could get in a LOT of trouble for making a move if you were to get uncomfortable or report him or something. I like Tisha's advice, about saying you need to change doctors because you like him. Then make your ... (read in full...)
What's more important ?
Q. Ladies! what's more important to you a man or money? Gentlemen! what's more important to you love or hanging out with your friends? :) thinks carefully ladies and gentlemen!...
A. 30 September 2010: Can I say both? Money and my career are important to me, but I would gladly have less money to be with the man I loved.... (read in full...)
Lost my erection, and she's not happy about it!
Q. {Moderator note: two questions from the same OP combined} 1.) ok, so this is the thing: sometimes when alone with my girlfriend i'm not getting an erection!!I do in the beginning when we start kissing each others lips and neck,but when we get nake...
A. 30 September 2010: Yeah masturbating 2x a day is definitely contributing. You should cut back so you actually still feel horny when you see her.
No you won't get a disease if she's really a virgin, but there's the chance she's not, and you should always use a condom... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 30 September 2010: "Why should the guys happiness over rule the womans? If she's already insecure and that makes it worse, why wouldn't he want to make her feel better?"
I've been asking myself this question for a long time. Obviously it's very hard to put your... (read in full...)
How do I control my thoughts about my future sister in law?
Q. Hello, I'm a 22 yo student, happily engaged with a beatiful girl, currently living at her parents' place. This is a choice we mae a couple of years ago, because we know we couldn't get enough money to live in an apartment while we study, so we st...
A. 30 September 2010: Sounds like a test. I would use this opportunity to gush about your feelings and how much you love her and she's the only one for you and how you could never even consider sleeping with anyone else.... (read in full...)
Can't climax with my husband
Q. my husband has an average penis, he's a 61/2 and i'm 71/2-8 length. is that the reason i can't climax? we tried oral stimulation and it doesn't help. he's often asked me for threesonmes and we have in the past but not the right sizes. i'm tired and ...
A. 30 September 2010: If his penis reached the end of your vagina, it would most likely hurt, not make you orgasm. From how much emphasis you're putting on penis vs. vagina size, I'd guess you're putting waaay too much emphasis on penetrative sex for your orgasm. You ... (read in full...)
Can you get an STD from oral sex?
Q. okay so i am 16 and i am quite grown up for my age like i go clubbin i drink i am freinds with older peaple and i have done drugs like twice! I lie an awfull lot to my mum i do it basically everyday and i know it is really bad but something ha...
A. 30 September 2010: It's not as common, but yes. You can get STDs from oral sex. This isn't a problem with that. It's more that you shouldn't lie to your mom and put yourself in dangerous situations, like going out drinking and having sex with older men.... (read in full...)
I feel like my wife lied to me about having an STD, how should I bring it up?
Q. My wife of 4 years returned from her pap smear with irregular cells. This in itself is terrifying. We found out they weren't cancer, so that was a huge relief. My question: when my wife told me she had the irregular cells, she then said, "I to...
A. 30 September 2010: In terms of STDs, HPV will have the least impact on you. It's symptomless in men, and doesn't affect your fertility. You can only be a carrier. She did tell you she had an STD, so she wasn't lying to you. It's actually kind of good news, since it's ... (read in full...)
I think my very conservative mother found my vibrator!
Q. Hi everyone! I used to live with my extremely conservative mother, but last year I decided to move to my mother's empty loft. She agreed because the alternative was to live farther to where she lives and we like spending time together every other da...
A. 30 September 2010: Just don't bring it up. If she's uncomfortable with it, she won't bring it up either. You're a grown up woman, she knows you have "needs." Just don't bring it up and it will just go away. She might not have seen it anyways. Many women have them, and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she wants an open relationship?
Q. My Girlfriend want's an open relationship and i don't. We have been together for 3 years and are gonna get engaged and married. Still she is barely able to see me because of my job and college. I don't know what i should do....
A. 30 September 2010: Unfortunately all you can do is express your feelings on the matter. If you don't want an open relationship and she does, it will only end in heartbreak for you. If she's unwilling to remain monogamous when you want that, you should hold off on ... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 25 September 2010: "In the US, the whopping 85% reduction in rape in the last 25 years tracks almost exactly with a corresponding increase in availability of porn"
I've seen the study you're referring to and it has some flaws. First off, the significant reduction in r... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 22 September 2010: "most men don't want to understand because then we wouldn't be able to justify ourselves being able to watch it,"
Right on the money. Because you can't justify a need for porn beyond a need to get off to other women. There is no other way to just... (read in full...)
Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?
Q. So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...
A. 21 September 2010: Because it's lying and hiding. Why is it so difficult to understand why lying and hiding something that hurts her, is hurtful? You say it's to spare her feelings. Yes, I get that, we all get that. But it's exactly the same reason people lie about ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 15 September 2010: "Question- those antiporn, are you also completely against strip clubs etc?"
I'm not completely against porn or strip clubs. If porn existed in a vacuum where there were no similarities between what happened in porn and what happened in the real... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: I remember you also asking about women and porn and I read something interesting in the Washington Times saying women are MORE susceptible to porn addiction than men, basically because a woman using porn is far less stigmatized than a man using porn ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: "Disagree with your statistics Person12345" I cited them below. They are from studies and surveys, the most prominent being from the Kinsey Institute, another from the Witherspoon Institute, several from other books, all/most from academic scholarl... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: "Porn will always be around."
Yes. No matter what it is, whether it's bad or good, once it's been introduced it can't ever really just go away. But look, people said the same thing about cigarettes (they even had all the same "who are you to judg... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 6 September 2010: “Problem with your statistics, that around this time, George W Bush targeted funds to promote abstinence and no sex in schools. The research I've seen said that this didn't encourage teens to have sex later, but it did mean those on abstinence ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: As for teens, it isn't a good sign when you have 15 year olds quoted in the New York Times as saying things along the lines of why would anyone bother with dating when porn's so easy? As for boredom/anal, since 1995 (around when internet porn became ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Also when I talk about the objectification of women, I'm not talking about how women who do porn are treated. I'm talking about portrayal. If we want to get into the people who do porn, there is fairly little sex trafficking of men. There are far ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: "Either men are being objectified and 'marketed' as much as women, or neither are at all. And frankly, if all you can see is said 'objectification' I think that says something about your insecurities." This is a joke, right? It's the old, well men... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: And when I say all people, I just mean people in the US UK and parts of western Europe as that's really the only place reliable data are available.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: "it's 85% of people who use porn.."
Well actually it's approximately 70% of men and 30% of women who use porn, which means around half of all people.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: I said that you don't need any sort of "warning" traits like an addictive personality or family history or what have you to become addicted. Anyone can become addicted and no one is in any kind of a low-risk category. Some people may have a slight ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 28 August 2010: Well porn IS addictive and between 15-20% of users do get addicted. Sure not everyone gets addicted, but it is addictive. It's not like we gloss over how addictive cigarettes, drugs, and alcohol are because not everyone gets addicted.
"but sure... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 25 August 2010: Sorry for not responding. Today is my last day of packing.
Yes I agree with Gabrielle, in the past few years, maybe 5-10 since I was in high school, porn has changed. I remember being a teen looking at the stuff with friends a few times, and it seem... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 24 August 2010: Hey so I found a book you might be interested in. Well it's not a book, but it's a report by the Witherspoon Institute where they got 54 experts together to discuss the social implications pornography. I haven't finished reading it, but it's ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: Mia I was saying it IS controlling. Definitely is. I was just saying asking people to do anything from not cheating, to taking out the garbage is also controlling. A relationship is just about deciding what kind of control you'll agree to. I'd find ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: If men should give up porn to prove their love, should women also stop wearing make up and wear a head to foot black Burka (the black tent dress that some Muslim women wear) to stop other men from noticing them.
Actually my boyfriend hated th... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: Yes I heard GGW has actually had a profoundly negative impact on many of the women who participated as well (shocking, I know *sarcasm*). Some have apparently been so humiliated by the experience that they drop out of school. Obviously some probably ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: Aunt in hiding? Well, I guess don't much like that. I am, well me, I just didn't want to be forever associated with being super anti-porn on this site since that's not the stance I intend to take when giving advice. But if you insist...... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Because frequently, people who are against it view it as cheating. So to them, compromising on this is like saying OK you can have sex with other women once in awhile, so long as I don't know about it. From the other side, they are unwilling to ... (read in full...)
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