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Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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Porn after sex
Q. Hi there, My problem is this: My husband has always been addicted to porn. Ever since we first got married, it's been a constant thorn in my side. I have sex with him so I know that's not the problem. I've told him how it hurts my feelings, but ever...
A. 8 August 2010: Don't let him convince you that you were at fault for invading his privacy. I wouldn't go installing keyloggers on the computer, but checking after finding crusty tissues in the trash after he said he wouldn't do it, yeah I think that's fair game. ... (read in full...)
Porn after sex
Q. Hi there, My problem is this: My husband has always been addicted to porn. Ever since we first got married, it's been a constant thorn in my side. I have sex with him so I know that's not the problem. I've told him how it hurts my feelings, but ever...
A. 7 August 2010: If he absolutely refuses to talk you may want to think about counseling. That way there's someone there who can prevent/moderate the fight. It's very childish to refuse to talk about it. Rather than him sounding like a grown man trying to be ... (read in full...)
I experimented with another boy should I tell my girlfriend?
Q. hi. I have had a girlfriend for a year now, and I absolutely love her. I screwed up when I was in seventh grade and I experimented with another boy. It was the stupidest thing I have ever done in my life. Its been bugging me she doesn't know. Sh...
A. 7 August 2010: You just have to see what happens when you test the water. And it would probably only be bad if you hid it or lied. Does she generally accept gay people and and is she generally open minded?... (read in full...)
Why are women attracted to big penises?
Q. Granted I myself am not very well equipped, being at 4 inches long and 4 inches in girth. I don't understand what's so great about big penises and why girls seem so attracted to them. Some girls have told me that smaller penises aren't attractiv...
A. 7 August 2010: Guys create this penis thing for themselves. Maybe it's too much porn watching where the guys are hung like mules. I know someone who dumped a guy for having a too big one. Women especially don't generally care about length. Most women I know ... (read in full...)
I experimented with another boy should I tell my girlfriend?
Q. hi. I have had a girlfriend for a year now, and I absolutely love her. I screwed up when I was in seventh grade and I experimented with another boy. It was the stupidest thing I have ever done in my life. Its been bugging me she doesn't know. Sh...
A. 6 August 2010: So test the waters a little. Ask her how she'd feel about things like that without connecting it to yourself in any way.... (read in full...)
What do women think about a man getting hard while dancing?
Q. What do women think when they are dancing with a man and he gets an erection? I recently went dancing with my wife and a group ofnour friends. It was a really crowded, kinda dark and sweaty dance floor. We were all drinking and dancing. By virtue ...
A. 6 August 2010: She probably either a) didn't notice or b) didn't care. Either way, don't worry.... (read in full...)
He won't marry me; I feel cheated!
Q. I’ve been with my guy for three years now, living together for two years and we’re very, very happy (I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of rows we’ve had.) As the relationship’s working so well, and because we’re not getting any ...
A. 6 August 2010: Yes, you can give him an ultimatum, but what will that really accomplish? You can't force him to do this. Is he also opposed to just signing the thing at city hall? Ultimately though, he probably just really doesn't want this, as much as you do. And ... (read in full...)
Had an abortion for my health, but I can't stop being depressed.
Q. just had an abortion not long ago,im so depressed an upset,i wanted to keep it but ended up having an abortion bcus i was ona drip in hospital with SEVERE sickness and nausea,couldnt keep fluids or food in my systm,i have a 3year old boy,and i was ...
A. 6 August 2010: If you were that sick from just 7 weeks of pregnancy, do you really think you could have tolerated 9 months? You would have been miserable and more than likely you would have made yourself so sick that you would have affected the fetus. You did the ... (read in full...)
Do all women squirt?
Q. do all women squirt ??? and can all women cum from clit and from vagina??...
A. 6 August 2010: All women are capable of squirting. Very few actually do though since for some it's very difficult. And there's no such thing as a vaginal orgasm. You can only orgasm from clit and some lucky ones from G-spot. The ones who cum "vaginally" are just ... (read in full...)
I experimented with another boy should I tell my girlfriend?
Q. hi. I have had a girlfriend for a year now, and I absolutely love her. I screwed up when I was in seventh grade and I experimented with another boy. It was the stupidest thing I have ever done in my life. Its been bugging me she doesn't know. Sh...
A. 6 August 2010: Why is that screwing up? It's normal to experiment. I wouldn't keep secrets. Personally I'd admire rather than judge someone for telling me that. Unless you know she has problems with gay people, she probably wouldn't view it as any worse than ... (read in full...)
Low male libido...not sure what to do
Q. I'm 41 and with a highly sexed woman who's 40. We've been together about a year, and I have to say it has been a roller coaster. I love sex, but I am not used to it every day, let alone 3-4 times. Mentally, yes, but physically it takes me at ...
A. 5 August 2010: You should do something to take the stress off yourself, like have you thought about buying her a vibrator for you to use on her? That way you can pleasure her without having to get an erection and quite frankly without having to do a ton of work. ... (read in full...)
Having dreams of incest and now I can't look my father in the eye, what do I do?
Q. I've had the same extremely disturbing dream the last couple of nights. My dreams consist of my dad and I... doing something really disgusting with each other. Committing incest. In my dream last night, my dad wanted to go again and I screamed o...
A. 5 August 2010: Actually sex dreams about parents are very common. Cosmo even did a little mini-article thing about it once. Don't let it go to your head. It's super gross to think about, but it's actually pretty normal.... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with him even though he wont wear condoms and I'm not on birth control?
Q. i've been with my bf for 1year. hes my first love and im his he's two years older than me.. we are both vigins.. and homecoming night b4 his big game.. i well lets just say i wanna have sex with him.. he gave me i ring and we are getting married ...
A. 5 August 2010: No glove, no love then. If you don't use condoms then sooner or later you'll get pregnant. No question about it. Why won't he wear them? That's just plain idiotic. Don't you still have to take sex ed in school? Don't do it. Tell him no condom, no ... (read in full...)
Conflicted feelings of love and bitterness towards my boyfriend....
Q. Recently I've been having conflicting feelings of love and bitterness towards my boyfriend of a year and a half. I love him, he's kind and caring and makes me laugh, and a lot of the time everything seems fine, like it always has been: we'll go ...
A. 5 August 2010: If it's affecting you this incredibly much I don't think there's anything you can do but leave. It doesn't sound like this is something you can live with, and you don't have to. There aren't a lot of men out there who won't/don't look, but there are ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and no confidence, and I'm lonely in another state with no friends or family.....
Q. I moved at the beginning of the year away from my friends and family to a different state for my partners work and it has been hard because he works really long hours and i feel so alone because i have no one here for me i haven’t made any friends ...
A. 5 August 2010: Lying and treating you like crap after you dropped everything to be with him and have his kid? This guy doesn't sound like a keeper. A dedicated man would find your pregnancy beautiful. He'd be grateful that you love him so much you're willing to ... (read in full...)
What would the life span of sperm in a condom be?
Q. How long does sperm last in a condom? I was throwing out the trash and found a condom used last week. Out of curiosity...do any of y'all know?...
A. 5 August 2010: Not long. No more than a few hours I'd think. And definitely not after it dries out.... (read in full...)
Have been safe but missed my periods. Might I be pregnant? Does air travel affect periods?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm very concerned because my period is over a week late. I am not on the pill and my boyfriend and I used a condom every time but once, and he pulled out. I took a pregnancy test a week after my missed period and it came back ...
A. 5 August 2010: A time zone probably wouldn't affect it too much, but stress can. If you miss your next period as well and the pregnancy tests continue coming back negative, consult your doctor to rule out hormonal problems.... (read in full...)
Curiosity about men's sexual organs
Q. Hello! I have a few questions about men [physically]. I know men have erections when they see a pretty woman. But I have a few questions that I want clarified and confirmed. 1.] What is the longest penis size ever documented? 2.] Men usually talk...
A. 5 August 2010: 1.] What is the longest penis size ever documented?
Who knows? Longer than a foot for sure.
2.] Men usually talk about the lenght of their penis, but what about the width, what is the average width size?
Dunno really. a few inches?
3.] I... (read in full...)
Should I tell my cousin and best friend her father has a fatal disease?
Q. Ok this is not really a romance question but I really need advice... Ok I have a cousin that's my age my and her parents had us sacronised and so we r like really close. I tell her every thing that happens to me in my life. From boys to things my ...
A. 4 August 2010: No absolutely not, do not tell her. Leave this to her parents to decide. I don't know how you know he has AIDS, but this is her father's decision and his alone when to tell her. This is not your place to tell her.... (read in full...)
How can I learn to "squirt" when I orgasm?
Q. How can I learn to "squirt" when I orgasm? My bf really gets turned on by this (and no, he has never asked me to learn or anything, I want to try to learn on my own). We are both in our middle 20s and have been dateing for over 2 years, and are ...
A. 4 August 2010: "Thank you gals for letting me finally believe it is true. I thought it was a trick of the camera on porn sites."
It is real, but unfortunately in porn they're mostly just urinating, since they mostly aren't actually orgasming. Sadly I guess? But ... (read in full...)
Do you think men can change or do you think cheaters will always be cheaters?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 1/2 years and have been living together for 8 years. I moved out real young at the age of 17. Everything was going with well with he and I until and we talked about having kids and a couple of months later I was ...
A. 4 August 2010: Sometimes yes and sometimes no. This is probably a situation of he will always be a cheater. If it was a drunken mistake and they genuinely feel bad AND they told you rather than trying to get away with it then that can be forgivable. But an affair ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend sex issues!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we have the worst sex life I have ever had in a relationship. I love him more than anything and hope we get married someday. We have talked about a future together and are planning to move into ...
A. 3 August 2010: I'm going to be blunt, but this man does not have respect for you. He is being INCREDIBLY selfish in bed. Like unbelievably so. Why do you even have sex with him? He doesn't give you any foreplay and you say it hurts! You only do it exactly his way ... (read in full...)
I might actually act soon on my crush... but it's my best friend's boyfriend!!! Help!
Q. Hey people! I feel ashamed, its ridiculous but yes, i have a crush on my girl's bf! The worst thing is that he knows it and he always turns me on deliberately. He says that he loves his girlfriend and thats true but he also tells me that he wants to ...
A. 3 August 2010: I'd just avoid all contact with him, especially if you're alone. It's not worth throwing away your friendship over this. Plus, if he's willing to cheat on the girl he loves for you, what happens if he loves you but finds someone else he finds ... (read in full...)
What age do most people lose their virginity?
Q. Hello, I am curious as to what age most people lose their virginity. All my friends have had sex, and I was wondering what age most people began having sex....
A. 3 August 2010: In the US the average age is 16. Several of my friends are in their early 20's and haven't lost theirs. They aren't waiting for marriage, they're very attractive and popular, they just haven't had a want to do it yet. Age shouldn't be a factor in ... (read in full...)
Dry-humped. Now am I pregnant?
Q. Okay, I'm a teenager and me and my boyfriend are not sexually active, but we have dry humped before a few times. We were both wearing shorts at the time. I didn't think anything of it, or wasn't worried any about getting pregnant or anything like ...
A. 2 August 2010: No you're not pregnant. Not a chance. No way sperm can travel through clothes. Even if they could, he didn't ejaculate so there wasn't any sperm. The wetness was probably precum, which only has sperm in it if he's ejaculated since last urinating. So ... (read in full...)
I stay overnight all the time, but he does not want me moving in, why not??
Q. I've been dating a guy exclusively for over two years. I've been staying at his house every day and night since Christmas 2009. When I say I'm going to stay at my place, he always talks me into staying with him instead. My lease will be up in a few ...
A. 2 August 2010: I think you need to talk to him a bit more seriously about this. It sounds like he's scared if you officially move in, things will change and thus not work out. Also, if you have officially moved in, things are more permanent. So it sounds like a ... (read in full...)
Implant, problems with long periods, mood swings, anyone else have this situation??
Q. This is more a question my girlfriend should ask but since she doesn't post on forums I'll ask for her. She had a contraceptive implant put into her arm about 3 months ago, and the doctors told her at the time that either her periods would be...
A. 2 August 2010: If she's struggling with the implant (and it sounds like she is) she can either switch to condoms, or simply switch hormonal contraceptives. There are so many types of hormones in different pills out there that to try them all she'd reach menopause ... (read in full...)
Could I possibly be pregnant?
Q. Hey everybody. My period went of 7/23/2010 (friday) and I had sex on that Sunday. And while me and my boyfriend were having sex my boyfriend came in me and he also did that thrusday. According to an ovulation calander I should have ovulated that ...
A. 2 August 2010: Yes, maybe. You can get pregnant having sex anytime, even on your period. Why aren't you using protection? Unless you have been extraordinarily anal about taking your basal temp FIRST thing in the morning within 2 hours + or - the previous day's ... (read in full...)
Need a little clarification & help with giving my girl an orgasm??
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 9 months and I still haven't made her orgasm. Fortunately it's not an indictment on me as she has never orgasmed before, although prior to the relationship I had not given a girl and orgasm so I'm not really sure ...
A. 2 August 2010: Well I can tell from reading this you really want to give her an orgasm and that's great, she's lucky to have such an enthusiastic partner. But from how much emphasis you put on the sex part of the post versus the other sexual stuff, I can tell ... (read in full...)
He enjoys anal... but I hate it!
Q. Right okay so im 18 seeing a guy for 6 months who's 27. We've recently began getting serious and he said he loves me the other day which felt nice and natural so i replied. That isnt the problem.. theres certain things within our relationship that ...
A. 2 August 2010: If he is that selfish that he'll go have anal sex with other women because you won't, then there might not be much of a relationship there. The fact that he cares so much about anal sex that he's willing to cheat (well not cheat if you give him ... (read in full...)
I secretly masturbate but don't like doing this ...any advice?
Q. Hello, I have been living with My Girlfriend a while now but I secretly masturbate a lot. No one knows about this, I have porn magazines hidden behind the panelling on the bath in the bathroom and I masturbate to them sometimes. I also masturba...
A. 1 August 2010: Masturbating is healthy and normal and most people do it and continue to do it while dating. As long as it's not causing problems with your girlfriend (either with hurting her or causing problems actually having sex) then there's no problem at all, ... (read in full...)
Condom "popped" could I be pregnant?
Q. Hi im 16 and i think i might be pregnant..i had sex with my boyfriend who is 18 and he did cum inside me a little bit after the condom popped..and now im worried cause im not totally sure yet if im pregnant or not..so my question is how long should ...
A. 24 July 2010: Before you start worrying about telling your family and how to handle things, there's a chance you're NOT pregnant so don't give yourself a panic attack about how to tell them before you know anything. You should wait until your first missed period ... (read in full...)
Is oral sex something that most couples actively and regularly practice?
Q. Hello all. I'm a 24 year old male, about half a year into my first real (and sexual) relationship with a girl that I love. My question is about oral sex. We have never done that in our sex life - we have stuck to regular penetrative intercour...
A. 22 July 2010: It's a very common practice and as far as I know always has been. It feels great and is a great selfless thing to do for a partner. It's just loads of fun and a great thing to add to foreplay or as a grand finale. It's definitely not limited to porn ... (read in full...)
We have sex so much but I never get to finish
Q. I have few questions. My b/f and me just started having sex last week. I lost my virginity to him last Friday. Since then we have had sex every day. It was a little uncomfortable the first 10 times but now it is better. He said he stretched me ...
A. 22 July 2010: "He said he stretched me out and that is normal." Actually it shouldn't hurt less because he "stretched" you, it hurts less because you know to be turned on, you know better what to expect, etc... Since it took 10 times to stop hurting I'm guessing ... (read in full...)
I think I might be pregnant, can't tell parents, can't go to the doctor!
Q. I have a feeling i might be pregnant. I recently had unprotected sex - with my now ex-boyfriend - but he did not ejaculate inside me. I know that this is not a safe way of contraception, but it just happened and it is the only time it ever hap...
A. 22 July 2010: Home pregnancy tests are very accurate. If the home pregnancy tests consistently say you're not pregnant, well then you're not pregnant. You may have missed your period because you're worrying so much about it! You should just trust the tests and ... (read in full...)
Sex day after period equals pregnancy?
Q. hi l sleep with my bf just after a day l finished my period l wanna know if there is any chances dat l could be pregnant....
A. 22 July 2010: Yes, even if you have sex during your period you can get pregnant (though it's a very small chance). Right after finishing your period you could get pregnant, yes.... (read in full...)
On the pill so how come I missed my period?
Q. well i have been on aviane birth control for one month now and im about to start a new pack but its placebo week and i have 2 pills left but i didnt have my period?? and during the pack i missed one pill but i didnt have sex that day i was sick so ...
A. 22 July 2010: It doesn't matter if you didn't have sex on the very day you missed your pill, if you do something to lower effectiveness it lasts all month. Not one day. Some pills will lose effectiveness if you miss even one, so check with the booklet or the ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have an excessive amount of discharge?
Q. I dont know how to put this, so ill try my best. i had a boyfriend for about 10months its been 3months since the breakup, his only ever fingered me his asked for sex but i keep refusing because i promised my mother not till im legal age. i know di...
A. 21 July 2010: It's not excessive if it's the same amount since you first started your period. Unless there's a change from your "baseline," you don't need to worry. I think everyone worries they have too much, but it's even normal to have enough you need a pad.... (read in full...)
What tips can you give me on masturbating??
Q. Hello, I am 16 years of age and am a virgin. It's kind of bad between me and my mum so I was kind of hoping to ask questions here. So my friends gave me ways to masturbate but none of them seem to work for me. Does anyone have any ideas? If so I'm a...
A. 21 July 2010: I agree with watching a little porn to get things going. If you just sit down and go, k I'm gonna masturbate and start jamming your fingers in there, it's probably not going to feel very good. A little porn or reading erotica can really help you to ... (read in full...)
How can I stop watching hogtied porn?
Q. Hi guys i feel so ashamed of myself, is beacuse i always watch porn and i mean not any. i like to watch bondage and hogtied which it makes me feel like doing it and i like to see the girls going through the pain. how can i stop watching hogtied...
A. 21 July 2010: If it really bothers you, you just need to have willpower and stop. There's no magic solution, you just need to tell yourself to stop. Keeping busy will help.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he's more attracted to someone else. Should I be worried?
Q. Recently, my boyfriend told me that he found a girl at his summer job to be more "attractive" than me. I'm thin for my height, and in his words, look more "fragile" than "fit" and "fragile" is not attractive. He also said that she is prettier, but ...
A. 21 July 2010: Yes. You should be worried. He's an insensitive prick for saying that. Who does that? You should leave him before he a) cheats with that girl and b) destroys your self-esteem. Again seriously, what kind of person would say that??? You deserve ... (read in full...)
His love making is getting rougher, it makes me feel like a sex object.
Q. When me and my boyfriend first got together nearly a year ago it was perfect. he was romantic, attentative and amazing. the sex was well balanced, sometimes we would have healthy rough sex and try lots of things, as well as other times making ...
A. 21 July 2010: I agree he's most likely lying about the porn. This sounds like classic porn star sex, i.e. the object is to please the penis in as many ways as possible, while the woman is there to be three holes and two hands. You should talk to him about how it ... (read in full...)
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