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12 October 2011: While generally facebook is considered a fun way to keep in touch with friends and share photos, it can be a huge source of turmoil in a relationship. If I had a dime for every time I read "I'm worried because I saw something on her/his facebook..." ...
Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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His love making is getting rougher, it makes me feel like a sex object.
Q. When me and my boyfriend first got together nearly a year ago it was perfect. he was romantic, attentative and amazing. the sex was well balanced, sometimes we would have healthy rough sex and try lots of things, as well as other times making ...
A. 21 July 2010: I agree he's most likely lying about the porn. This sounds like classic porn star sex, i.e. the object is to please the penis in as many ways as possible, while the woman is there to be three holes and two hands. You should talk to him about how it ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for someone so young?
Q. Well, let's get right to the point. I'm 14 years old, and I really believe I'm in love. I've read things like, "how to tell you're in love!" or, "are you REALLY in love?" They of course list things like, "Do you think about him/her every waking ...
A. 20 July 2010: You're probably at least in the infatuation or honeymoon phase. I don't know if a 14 year old can really be in love, but you can certainly feel that infatuation thing. It's really fun, isn't it? You know you're in that stage and probably not love if ... (read in full...)
What do I do about low "volume"?
Q. I'm 41, healthy, and very sexually active lately. I was in a long term relationship where sex was like once a week and I'd maybe masturbate once or twice in between. I always came a fair amount... at least 8-10ml or more. Now I'm in a relationship ...
A. 20 July 2010: I'm not a man, but actually you'll produce more and have a better orgasm if you go longer between orgasms, not if you orgasm more. You produce sperm at a constant rate regardless of how much sex you're having. It's entirely possible to just run out ... (read in full...)
We're seeing one another but he still logs on to the dating website.
Q. I have met a guy on a dating website who I really like. We get on really well, and he seems very smitten with me. We have loads in common, and he treats me like a princess, pays for everything (even when I offer to pay), etc. All fine so far, but ...
A. 20 July 2010: Until you've agreed to date exclusively logging on is still fair game. If he wants to check out other women's profiles, why not log on and check on other men? Or suggest dating exclusively. You're allowed to bring it up too!... (read in full...)
Casual sex... does it bother you?
Q. Ok I have a quick question. I'm still a virgin and the main reason is because: 1 my brother accidentally got a chick knocked up in college and so I've always been afraid of getting someone pregnant and then be stuck raising a kid that a don't want, ...
A. 20 July 2010: Well there's a really easy way to make those chances go down a lot. Don't have tons of one night stands to avoid things even condoms don't help like herpes and HPV, then get with a girl you actually like and always use a condom. Women aren't crazy ... (read in full...)
The condom!
Q. My boyfriend and I are going on two years together. We've been arguing a lot lately so the past weekend I didnt hear from him nor did I see him. He keeps a condom in his wallet, its been there for months, thats our emergency condom because we have ...
A. 20 July 2010: Difficult to say. But most likely since you've been fighting he thought it was a good way to spite you or something. It's very sketchy that you didn't hear from him all weekend. I'm sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear.... (read in full...)
Is there anything we can do to push me over the edge?
Q. I have been with my partner for 2.5 years, we lost our virginitys to each other so he is the only person i have had. in the time that we have been together i have never orgasmed apart from when i do it myself though clitoral stimulation. I can get ...
A. 20 July 2010: If you're at the point where you feel like you need to pee you're stimulating your G-spot. I assume this means you're only trying through penetrative sex? Most women can't orgasm this way. Clitoral stimulation is your orgasm button. Your clitoris is ... (read in full...)
A question about birth control...
Q. Hi! This is probably a little long , but I just am a little worried Basically I'm taking the combined birth control pill and have been doing so for roughly two months. This is largely because my periods were VERY irregular (a three or four ...
A. 20 July 2010: As long as it's not a frequent thing, as long as you take it the same day you're still protected. I wouldn't worry too much. And while you're on the pill skipping a period doesn't mean you're pregnant. It's not a real period anyways, it's a ... (read in full...)
My morning sickness is lasting all day! Help!
Q. I am about 10 weeks pregnant and morning sickness seems to be a bother any time of the day. I had a prescription for pregnancy nausea pills from the doctor, but it is $50 for 30 little pills. Which only last about 10 days. When I have them to ...
A. 20 July 2010: The two most potent and effective things to make nausea and vomiting disappear in everyone are: ginger and pot, especially the pot. That drug is so effective at making nausea disappear no matter what its cause that people are dying of alcohol ... (read in full...)
Is there any way for me to make it taste better when she goes down on me?
Q. Hi, I've been with my girlfriend 9 months and she will not let me cum during oral - the slightest taste of pre-cum and she makes me put something on. It really annoys me as I regularly spend 30 plus minutes going down on her before sex, as she love...
A. 20 July 2010: "I bet this is the only way your girl can come. You can get off if she rubs your dick with her butt."
LOL! But yeah, it's probably true. She probably can't really get off any other way so oral isn't really an equal thing. Also, you say it's prec... (read in full...)
How can I bring back my interest in sex?
Q. Hi there, I am currently in a very serious relationship with my fiance who i have been seeing for 6 years. We have a little girl of 2 years. Lately, within the last 6 months i have had no desire to want sex (at all). I had the mirena coil put ...
A. 20 July 2010: Mirena is well known to have this side-effect, more than other hormonal contraceptives. Think about it, you said you can't take contraceptive pills. But those hormones are exactly the same as the ones as in Mirena. So if you react to the pills ... (read in full...)
How likely is it I am pregnant, and how soon should I take a test?
Q. I was just wondering if anyone could tell me how likely it is that i might be pregnant, and how soon i should take a test Ok well over last night and yesterday morning me and my boyfriend have had sex many times and he has ejaculated inside me...
A. 20 July 2010: Why are you trying to get pregnant at your age? I understand a baby sounds like a great thing now, but it's not only in your best interest, but in the best interest of your unborn child to wait until you're older. Relationships at your age usually ... (read in full...)
Am I just too sensitive to the touch?
Q. Hey everyone! First off: I'd like to say thank you for all the help with my other questions. I really appreciate it and they've helped a lot. Secondly: I just had my first... Erm, "long" kiss - if you will - with my boyfriend. It was incredib...
A. 20 July 2010: Nah nothing wrong with you at all! Sounds fun to me. If you don't want to have sex there are lots of other things you can do to take advantage of the sexual chemistry without compromising how you feel about your virginity. You could have him finger ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that my boyfriend does not hug or kiss me?
Q. is it normal that my boyfriend does not hug or kiss me? We have been together for 4 months and he has requested for blow jobs which i did. No actual sex is involved yet though he had asked. But he doesnt kiss me at all. He only kissed me once o...
A. 20 July 2010: He sounds like a very selfish person who views you as a masturbation aid. You should definitely get out of there. What has he given you? A kiss on the cheek. What have you given him? Multiple blowjobs. Doesn't sound much like a partnership to me, it ... (read in full...)
Are married women basically all disloyal, cheaters at heart, ready to do whatever it takes for male attention?
Q. Why do so many married women cheat? I don't know if this is just a function of where I live (Southern California), but it seems like the majority of women I know well have cheated at some point on their husbands. These range from a few women who ...
A. 20 July 2010: More married men cheat than women according to several surveys, actually. You seem to have surrounded yourself with dishonest people, but married men still cheat more than women do. Really everyone has the capability to cheat. Lots of people cheat. ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him feel he dosen't need to lie about his porn and masturbation?
Q. I'm a gay male 25 been in a gay relationship for the past 6 years, he is also 25. he is addicted to porn and always wants other men he hasn't yet cheated in the flesh. my question i guess is what can i do to make him feel he dosen't need to lie ...
A. 20 July 2010: Unfortunately short of leaving there's nothing you can do other than keep talking and talking and making sure he knows how much it hurts. Once it's gotten to the stage of lying constantly he's not going to stop unless he knows he has a problem. He ... (read in full...)
Do men have sometimes have really intense orgasms and sometimes just normal, mild ones, like women do?
Q. I dont want this to sound dirty or perverted in any way but I'm just curious. Do men have sometimes have really intense orgasms and sometimes just normal, mild ones, like women do? And do they produce the same amount of semen every time they ...
A. 20 July 2010: Pretty much there's no difference in orgasm between men and women other than the ejaculation in men, and longer ones in women, of which I hear the mean difference is it adds that great peeing after holding it for awhile feeling. The actual orgasm is ... (read in full...)
I can cum, but not with her...we want a baby but its just not happening...
Q. i have a mental block every time I try to have sex with my partner, I cannot achieve an orgasm and we would love a baby so when the time of the month is right i just cant cum, the doctor gave me Viagra but no good,please advise as we are desperate, ...
A. 20 July 2010: The most obvious would be that deep down you either don't want a baby or are scared. How long has this been going on? I mean that would seem to be the most plausible answer. If you have no trouble masturbating, maybe you've gotten used to the tight ... (read in full...)
What is your "depth"?
Q. OK, so I've been seeing a lot of posts here about guys and their penis size, and the depth of the vagina. It's been my experience that the vagina elongates during sex. I say "experience" from what I've read, and what I feel when I'm having sex (...
A. 20 July 2010: Everyone else has things pretty well covered, but to add something. The average length of a vagina is 6 in. Is there variation in that? The average length of penis is 6 in. Does that mean ALL men are 6 in? No, it doesn't. And there's that funny ... (read in full...)
Help! The condom split!!! Could I be pregnant?
Q. Basically, me and my boyfriend of nearly 3 months had sex last week when the condom split, even though im on the pill im still worried i could be pregnant?!?! I know what your all say that if i've been using the pill properly it wont happen, but.... ...
A. 20 July 2010: It is good to be safe. You should keep using condoms if it makes you feel safer. However just to clear things up, "you can STILL catch STI's and HIV even if your both clean" no you can't. If you've been tested and are both clean then you can't just ... (read in full...)
I used my mascara stick for pleasure and now I'm having pain
Q. i started to use my mascara stick to pleasure me i did it so hard and fast that i bleed and i keep doin it bt i thought it was normal because wen i first had sex i bleed. but now near my appendix (right side) they av started to hurt. wat shud ido? ...
A. 19 July 2010: First off, don't stick things like that in your vagina. It's pokey and sharp. You should only stick things made for vaginal insertion, like a penis, fingers, or a sex toy. Sex toys are cheap online, they work well, I'd recommend getting one of ... (read in full...)
What is Cybersex?
Q. everyone talks about cybersex...what does it do...whats the point...how do you do it...can anyone please help me i really need it please. thanks...
A. 19 July 2010: It's dirty talk, but over a chat. It's supposed to be arousing so you can masturbate to it.... (read in full...)
He wants to have sex in the bathroom??
Q. ok so me and my bofriend want to have sex.......but the thing is hes not a virgin and i am.......he wants to do it in the bathroom and idk if i could do it in the bathroom.........and idk if i want to do it with him or not.......how would we do it ...
A. 19 July 2010: Bathroom sex is fine, but it's kind of insensitive to ask for for when you lose your virginity. If you're nervous about it he shouldn't pressure you into it. I was under the impression most people do it missionary in a bed or couch or something ... (read in full...)
Help! The condom split!!! Could I be pregnant?
Q. Basically, me and my boyfriend of nearly 3 months had sex last week when the condom split, even though im on the pill im still worried i could be pregnant?!?! I know what your all say that if i've been using the pill properly it wont happen, but.... ...
A. 19 July 2010: Oh. OK good to hear! Well now that the condom broke, you aren't pregnant. However, you should both now be tested for STDs. Both people (unless one of you was a virgin). Goods news is, after you're both tested you'll know if you're both clean and ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant from this? Please help!!
Q. Mod Note: Posters Original Title Can you get pregnant from dry humping? I'm so worried. My boyfriend was over a few days ago and we were dry humping. I was completely naked but he was completely dressed. Is there any way I could be pregnant from...
A. 19 July 2010: No. Absolutely not. Even if he ejaculated it couldn't get through his clothes. There is ZERO chance.... (read in full...)
Everytime he accuses me of cheating he suggests an open relationship!
Q. My fiance sometimes accuses me of cheating for no reason everytime he accuses me of this he suggests an open relationship. An example of why he accuses me of cheating is a cable cord he claimed he never noticed before was in a room we didn't have a ...
A. 19 July 2010: Wow he sounds pretty delusional. I'm pretty sure I know why though. He himself is cheating. This is classic projecting his own feelings onto you. Either that, or it's exactly what you said. He just wants permission to cheat. Either way this is not a ... (read in full...)
Why does my fiance' treat me like crap when he doesn't get any sex?
Q. Why does my fiance' treat me like crap when he doesn't get any sex? We have been together since December of 2008, (it's now july 2010), and lately his attutude towards me when he doesn't get any is ridiculous. He makes me feel like I'm worthle...
A. 19 July 2010: It sounds like you're both playing games with each other. Treating sex like a cookie for when he's good is just as bad as him acting like a child when he doesn't get what he wants. Sex is just one of those things that needs to remain an open line of ... (read in full...)
Help! The condom split!!! Could I be pregnant?
Q. Basically, me and my boyfriend of nearly 3 months had sex last week when the condom split, even though im on the pill im still worried i could be pregnant?!?! I know what your all say that if i've been using the pill properly it wont happen, but.... ...
A. 19 July 2010: Not taking the "break" week doesn't decrease the effectiveness at all. I did it all the time so I wouldn't have a period during vacation or whatever. I don't know why you would think it would. Furthermore if you thought it would why would you ... (read in full...)
Does cybersex equal cheating?
Q. hi, well im in a complicated situation right now. I have a boyfriend we've been together for longer than 6 months. I love him like i never thought i would love someone, he loves me really much (i know that)but the thing is... ive been lately sexu...
A. 19 July 2010: If you would be hurt by him doing it, you absolutely have no right to be doing it unless you intend to hurt him. Unless you have an especially open relationship involving others than yes, cybersex is definitely cheating. You need to just stop unless ... (read in full...)
Should I text my best friend's cousin... and how do I know she'll be okay with it?
Q. Hey everyone, So recently my best friend's cousin has been showing some interest in me he even told her that he liked me and to be honest i really like him too. We're into lots of the same things hes really great but he lives a fair bit away and...
A. 19 July 2010: Well first ask your best friend. You'll never know unless you ask! If she gives you the go ahead though, you should just go for it with him.... (read in full...)
I'm really worried he'll cheat on me with her... help!
Q. I have only been with my boyfriend for 3 months now and the first month was brilliant with no arguments whatsoever. Going into the second month facebook began to cause arguments with the way he commented on other girls statuses. They weren't extreme ...
A. 19 July 2010: This doesn't mean he's cheating. But he is being really inconsiderate. He definitely is trying to leave the option available, which doesn't really give you a chance to wow him. If he doesn't stop or slow on this other girl after you tell him it ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my doctor about this when he's male?
Q. Hi there, this is a pretty personal question and i am a tad bit embarrassed although it must be addressed. my husband and i have been together for 6 years, and up until about a year ago i used to like intercourse to be deep and rough. we experi...
A. 18 July 2010: He is a professional, a doctor. Believe me, he's seen it ALL. He does not sit there going oh man women are GROSS. This isn't even gross, it's very concerning and could be serious. If he is a male OB/GYN then he's definitely seen truly disgusting ... (read in full...)
Condoms! We don't use them, why do you have them?
Q. Serious problem! I've been in a relationship with my guyfriend for the last three years, and during this time we have never used condoms during intimacy. A couple of weeks ago, I discovered condoms in his nightstand, and he hurriedly rushed over ...
A. 18 July 2010: It doesn't scream cheating. It's a little fishy, but you need to investigate more. Maybe he masturbates with them. Maybe he wanted to try them with you. Before you immediately assume cheating because he owns condoms, you should snoop a little more ... (read in full...)
Why wont he ask me out? I really want him to!
Q. Hey people please someone answer this for me. I really like this guy and all his frends tell me he is constantly talking about me and he really likes me they have been telling me this for about 2 months now, when he's with me I can see the way he ...
A. 18 July 2010: Yay! Congratulations! See how great it is when you take charge?... (read in full...)
Did I sexually assault someone?
Q. Hey Everyone. Sorry that this is so long, but it’s been bothering me and I have to get it off my chest, and see what people’s opinions are so hopefully I can put my mind to rest. Here is my story as I best remember it and as truthfully as possible. ...
A. 18 July 2010: Wow. After reading that can I just say you are most definitely, without a question in my heart, feeling much much worse about this than she is. You really need to stop beating yourself up. It's great that you want so badly to make amends and not ... (read in full...)
We fight ALL the time and it gets really out of hand. How much is too much?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months. For the first 6 months, it was great, hardly ever fought, we had so much fun together, we went out places, he bought me things and vice versa. We just loved doing things for eachother. But for the pa...
A. 18 July 2010: Yes I wasn't saying you are consistently abusive or that you should break up. Regardless of whether you remember it (not remembering it is worse since it means you were completely out of control), slapping is physically abusive and not OK. I'm not ... (read in full...)
Did I sexually assault someone?
Q. Hey Everyone. Sorry that this is so long, but it’s been bothering me and I have to get it off my chest, and see what people’s opinions are so hopefully I can put my mind to rest. Here is my story as I best remember it and as truthfully as possible. ...
A. 18 July 2010: I guess it really depends how drunk she was. If she was very drunk, then yes. If not, then it's pretty gray. Either way it sounds like you kind of forced yourself on her. She didn't seem to want to be touched, but you put your hand on her butt. Just ... (read in full...)
Forgot to take my pill twice... could I be pregnant?
Q. hi im on the pill and i forgot to take it two days in a row the secound day i forgot i took it at 7pm then after that 1 hour later i had sex and had continued to take it the rest of the days. is there a chance i could be pregnant? ...
A. 18 July 2010: Yes. There's a chance. After missing two pills there is no effectiveness whatsoever. None. ... (read in full...)
After I deleted his facebook post he won't talk to me!
Q. I met a guy about a month ago at a club in my hometown and we really hit it off. I liked him, but he was way more into me than I was into him. Since he lives about 6 hours away, we would mostly text/im each other. He came down again to my hometown ...
A. 18 July 2010: He seems like he's blowing the thing a little out of proportion, but it sent a very bad message deleting the post. How would you feel if he did the same to you? It would feel like he's embarrassed by you and doesn't want you on his wall. I ... (read in full...)
We fight ALL the time and it gets really out of hand. How much is too much?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months. For the first 6 months, it was great, hardly ever fought, we had so much fun together, we went out places, he bought me things and vice versa. We just loved doing things for eachother. But for the pa...
A. 18 July 2010: I think maybe a break before things REALLY get out of hand might be a good idea? Physical violence is NEVER OK. You need to sit down and rationally talk out your problems. When you feel like you're about to blow up take a deep breath, put things on ... (read in full...)
I'm not into relationships so broke up with her. Why can't I get over her?
Q. Hi so I recently broke up with this girl who I was seeing for about two months, for several reason, mostly because I'm just not one for relationships. But the thing is, I'm still not over her. She's very shy, but she's also beautiful and smart, and ...
A. 18 July 2010: Shy and outgoing can work great together, she doesn't HAVE to go out every time. These seem like small reasons to dump someone. How do you know someone would get hurt?... (read in full...)
Why wont he ask me out? I really want him to!
Q. Hey people please someone answer this for me. I really like this guy and all his frends tell me he is constantly talking about me and he really likes me they have been telling me this for about 2 months now, when he's with me I can see the way he ...
A. 17 July 2010: This is the 21st century, ask him out yourself! Women are allowed to take charge now.... (read in full...)
I'm not into relationships so broke up with her. Why can't I get over her?
Q. Hi so I recently broke up with this girl who I was seeing for about two months, for several reason, mostly because I'm just not one for relationships. But the thing is, I'm still not over her. She's very shy, but she's also beautiful and smart, and ...
A. 17 July 2010: You can't get over her because you really cared about her, but it sounds like you have convinced yourself you're not into relationships and couldn't let it go. I'm not understanding why you broke up with her? Sure lots of people get hurt dating in ... (read in full...)
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