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anonymous
writes:I just got introduced into the "world of sex" and I feel really uncomfortable about my body. I am a virgin so I don't have experience but I feel like I am too small. I am only at most 6 inches length with at best 5.o inches around. I think I am not masculine and am going to be cheated on by girls. I lack any confidence in everything that I do now for being small
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWait so when you say 1/3rd are smaller doesn't that mean 70 percent are bigger?! That makes me feel worse :(
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (25 August 2010):
 First of all, I think that most people feel exactly the same way when they first come into contact with the world of sex and everything for which that involves.
Most men think that they are not quite adequate enough and most women think exactly the same way - this is good news! While you're concerned with yourself, the other person is very much pre-occupied with feelings themselves over their small breasts, big breasts, big bum, thin frame, big frame etc etc - it is an inherently human trait to worry about how others perceive us.
The great news is, you are in the average size zone for the male penis. If it is 5 or 6 inches long, you're right up there with a good percentage of the male population.
No matter the size though, it is absolutely what you do with it and the rest of your personality that counts! There are men out there with 10 inch penis's and you know they THINK they know how to do the deed but really all they have to show for it is size and nothing more. This isn't sexy at all.
Please don't put yourself into the mindset that you WILL be cheated on by girls - if you start of thinking this way, you will create a self fulfilling prophecy but it won't happen because of your size or masculinity, it will happen because of self doubt, which you have no reason to harbour.
Be confident in yourself and know, with confidence, that everyone else is thinking that they too are inadequate in one way or another, you are not alone. You are going to be loved by one, or many, women and your confidence will go far.
Good luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): Have no fear my man! You're lucky at 6 inches, as about 1/3rd of all guys are smaller than that in the US. It's your confidence and your abilities combined that turn a partner on, not being hung like a porn star. Build up your confidence first, trust your body, and your partner will be all over you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): listen to person12345.
I like you at your age range felt pretty much the same. I'm not gonna mention the size of my manhood, coz they isn't any point. And I've never been a player, but I've found that all the woman I have been with, I couldn't use my full length until they had been warmed up. Most women don't get turned on just through penetration. And those that do, most of them, it's not all the time. It can be very random at times. All depends on their mood etc, and they might not even know why.
The best you can do, is learn a few tricks from reading, looking on the net, etc. Forget porn, that isn't the way to be with a woman.
When you are with a woman, ask her where to touch her, and what she likes as the passion builds. What ever you do though, make sure you're taking note of how she reacts when you touch her. If she's trying to move away as you play with her, slowly start to do something differet. She'll moan, and force her way towards you, when she's enjoying it.
As I say, there is plenty on the net, that will explain what you can do nicely to your lover.
Keep safe!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 August 2010):
 6 inches is exactly average. The average length of a woman's vagina is, guess what. 6 inches. They match perfectly. Anything more than 6 or 7 inches can hurt and will limit what sex positions you can do. 6 inches, in my opinion, is perfect. I've been with someone who was 9 inches and the sex was atrocious and painful. A woman isn't going to cheat on you because you're not hung like a donkey. Most women don't even care that much about penis size unless it's big, in which case they're wondering how they can fit that thing in there without it hurting. Plus any bigger than 6 means you'll have to do a lot more foreplay and it rules out spontaneous sex as she'd need to be more turned on to accommodate the thing. Not to mention the fact we don't really have nerve endings much in there (so we can have babies without dying of shock from pain). We can only feel a full feeling really, it's not a super specific thing. So if it's in and moving we can feel it and whether it's 5 inches or 12, we can't tell until it hits our cervix and hurts like a mofo. The important thing is on the outside. So if you can be great with your fingers and tongue, if you know how to rub things with your pubic bone, you're golden.
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