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writes:Me and my girlfriend were both virgin's but after 8 months of being together decided to have sex for the first time. I've read in articles that sex can hurt first time for her but we have had sex numerous times now and she is still hurting through it. Can anyone give me advice or something that can help or make things better??? Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 Usually this is a problem of her not being turned on enough. It's kind of like when your hand is covered in tacky glue and you try to rub it on something if she's not wet enough. Not fun. So make sure that she gets lots of foreplay and is plenty wet. For next time buy some lube to see if that helps as well. Sometimes even when we're turned on we can't quite get wet enough. Also make sure you go real slow. Don't just jam it in there and go. Start out nice and slow. I like what the poster below said, would you want someone to start shoving things up your butt full force right off the bat? So definitely try some more foreplay and lube and that should take care of it. If it doesn't have her see a doctor to rule out cysts or something similar. Sex shouldn't hurt.
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reader, tomm_00 +, writes (24 August 2010):
okay well i had the same problem with my girlfriend, we must have done it 15 times before she began to feel any nice feelings, Three usefull tip`s:
1.make her wet before hand e.g, fourplay
2.use plenty of lube.
3. Think of the vigina being your bum, you dont want it poked aggresivly strait away. hope i helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): It could be something more physcological then anything. If you believe in your mind that it's going to hurt -- it will. It's like if we think we are pregnant, our body can actually make-up pregnancy symptoms, or if we think we are sick -- we'll get a stomach ache, or a headache. But really it's all just stuff made up in our mind.
(Not sure if this is the case though) I would suggest her maybe going to a Doctor. I had problems where I would hurt AFTER sex and I swore that I had an STD, but once the doctor told me I was fine, cleared of everything, the pain suddenly went away..?
Use lube -- lots of lube. Try different postions. If you're doing missionary, lift her legs up, trust me it will be ALOT more comfortable for her!!
Good luck, keep us posted!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 August 2010):
 Has she been to the doctor for an exam? She may have an infection or something physically wrong with her.
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reader, curleywhirlyhurly  +, writes (23 August 2010):
maybe she should see a doctor would she have sists ??
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