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Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 March 2011: Here's some food for thought:
Since most people consider cybersex (even with someone you will never meet) cheating but porn is absolutely not cheating, is that an allusion to the idea that women in porn seem less than human? I've heard people t... (read in full...)
Getting him to take care of himself!
Q. Do any of you have any success in getting your husbands to take care of their own "needs" more often than not?...
A. 21 October 2010: I don't know if that's really fair to say he just wants to get off. I just listened the other day to a guy in a magazine waxing poetic about how his favorite way to show his love is to have sex with his wife and how it's the most loving act he can ... (read in full...)
Getting him to take care of himself!
Q. Do any of you have any success in getting your husbands to take care of their own "needs" more often than not?...
A. 13 October 2010: We're not saying there should be no secret solo activity. Well maybe minus the secret part. I don't think you'd find many couples where neither person ever masturbates. We're not saying you shouldn't encourage him to occasionally masturbate if you ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 8 October 2010: Randomly from a cool blog (http://www.antipornmen.org/), apparently awhile ago some guy who worked as a porn reviewer for Hustler magazine opened up about his job, and had some pretty interesting things to say:
h... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 October 2010: Yes it is a lot faster and easier. I know, I've actually had a significant amount of experience with this too. What I'm saying is that it's just sad that it's so deeply embedded in people's sexuality that some people literally cannot tell the ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 7 October 2010: "For many men porn is equated with masturbation in their mind." I honestly don't mean offense when I say this, but I hear this a lot and it's very sad to me. People have been masturbating since the beginning of our existence, and it's only recently... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 6 October 2010: I've been reading around on this site for a long time, and the amount of entitlement many of these men feel about their porn use is astounding. It's been so solidly drilled into most of them that they assume that any woman who has a problem with it ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 October 2010: Not that anyone is reading this anymore, but I just stumbled onto a really interesting study from 1999, and I'm just going to copy and paste the abstract here. If I was doing the study I'd personally have picked a larger sample size, but from what ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 30 September 2010: "Why should the guys happiness over rule the womans? If she's already insecure and that makes it worse, why wouldn't he want to make her feel better?"
I've been asking myself this question for a long time. Obviously it's very hard to put your... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 15 September 2010: "Question- those antiporn, are you also completely against strip clubs etc?"
I'm not completely against porn or strip clubs. If porn existed in a vacuum where there were no similarities between what happened in porn and what happened in the real... (read in full...)
Getting him to take care of himself!
Q. Do any of you have any success in getting your husbands to take care of their own "needs" more often than not?...
A. 15 September 2010: I'm not saying it's not normal, but I am saying making time for sex is really important. I know once kids come along it's REALLY tiring, but sex is the way men bond with their partner. I'm not saying it's wrong, if your sex drive just tapered off, ... (read in full...)
My feeling horny all the time is embarrassing me...
Q. I really dont know what to do... I get horny so easily!!! Its really bad when I am in school. I get all wet and stuff. I cant help thinking about my boyfriend!!! I am wondering why it smells tho? Should I get it looked at by a doctor. It seems that ...
A. 15 September 2010: You're just going through puberty. You're getting all these hormones, you're supposed to be horny all the time and thinking about boys and sex! It's totally normal! As for the wetness, that's supposed to happen. Means you're normal, enjoy it! You ... (read in full...)
How do I make myself want to have sex more?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and I took his virginity. I have only had sex with one other person. When we have sex he cums in a minute or two the first time. Then we do it again and he lasts for about ten minutes and then he can ...
A. 15 September 2010: I know when I went on birth control my ability to orgasm went completely out the window, and when I stopped the pill, my orgasms came (haha) back! My libido seemed about the same, but those orgasms were gone... So make sure that isn't the culprit.
A... (read in full...)
How do I give a blowjob to my boyfriend who has a lot of cum?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. I am 20 and he is 21. I took his virginity right before his 21st birthday. But I had only had sex with one other guy before him and I had only given a bj before sex so I had never ...
A. 15 September 2010: A blowjob does not HAVE to involve him cumming in your mouth. You shouldn't force yourself to eat something you can't stand, it will only make you resent him and hate giving him blowjobs. Right before he's about to cum, ask him to tell you, and just ... (read in full...)
I don't have the urge to make out with her any more!
Q. Ok so this one is a little complex so thanks for ur time.. i will make it short.. i love my girlfriend and we have a great relationship.. she wants to wait till marriage to lose her virginity and i am fine with that (this will be important later). ...
A. 15 September 2010: This just happens after you've been together for awhile. When people first get together they can't keep their hands off each other, and this is called the honeymoon period. So long as you still get excited by her and still want to make out, losing ... (read in full...)
Are there trips you can go on for fun?
Q. I'm 16 and I really wanna go to Europe (especially Paris) and was wondering if there's any trips (preferably during the summer) people can go on. Not to study, just to learn about the culture/language. I do speak a little French too. If anyone knows ...
A. 15 September 2010: "Not to study, just to learn about the culture/language."
Lol they're the same thing! There tons of organizations out there specifically made for high school students that want to travel around Europe. I'd highly recommend talking to your teac... (read in full...)
Is it possible to combine being gay with being a catholic?
Q. I've been raised in a catholic family and have always believed in god, but lately I have become more agnostic. I'm gay and feel like a bit of an outcast in the church. I'm not out, and don't think my family will accept it. As far I know, bein...
A. 15 September 2010: Well first off, casual sex and being catholic will not go together, regardless of whether it's gay, straight, or with a cantaloupe. Unfortunately some closed minded people will never be able to accept gay people and I'm so sorry if that's the ... (read in full...)
Getting him to take care of himself!
Q. Do any of you have any success in getting your husbands to take care of their own "needs" more often than not?...
A. 15 September 2010: Once or twice a month is pretty infrequent (the definition for a sexless marriage is once a month or less)... Is there anything you need/want during sex that you're not getting? Sex is a very important part of a relationship. Do you get your needs ... (read in full...)
Son looking at pornography on the computer?
Q. I recently caught my son on the computer looking up pornography and masturbating, i sent him to his room and told him not to ever again, and that it was wrong. i think i did the right thing, but I'm not sure. he's only 11 and it seemed like he was ...
A. 14 September 2010: Telling him it's flat out wrong and to never do it again is only going to make him more confused. Unfortunately, Pandora's box has been opened. 11 is now the average age for first viewing pornography. If you think it's bad for him to view it, you ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: I remember you also asking about women and porn and I read something interesting in the Washington Times saying women are MORE susceptible to porn addiction than men, basically because a woman using porn is far less stigmatized than a man using porn ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: "Disagree with your statistics Person12345" I cited them below. They are from studies and surveys, the most prominent being from the Kinsey Institute, another from the Witherspoon Institute, several from other books, all/most from academic scholarl... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 14 September 2010: "Porn will always be around."
Yes. No matter what it is, whether it's bad or good, once it's been introduced it can't ever really just go away. But look, people said the same thing about cigarettes (they even had all the same "who are you to judg... (read in full...)
This boy I like is making jokes about my height!
Q. I'm actually 14, I don't know how to change the age. Basically, I've been with this boy for only like 4months so not very long but I'm pretty small and he's always making jokes about my height. He's 16 and always talks about me to his friends and ...
A. 9 September 2010: It might bug him a little/be something he notices, but it doesn't mean he really cares much. I'm sure he still loves you and finds you attractive and I doubt your height really factors into that. Guys aren't that complicated. If he tells you and his ... (read in full...)
Getting him to take care of himself!
Q. Do any of you have any success in getting your husbands to take care of their own "needs" more often than not?...
A. 9 September 2010: Be careful what you wish for... Why not buy a bottle of lube, give him a quick handjob, then you're both happy?
And I love that male anon answer about using her bum and his hands! LOL though sounds like a pretty good idea... You could always pose... (read in full...)
Pain during oral sex because he WON'T LISTEN to me
Q. First, he's not a boyfriend so the question of whether this guy cares about me or not is moot. However, I am somewhat confused by him. Last night, he kept saying how he wants me to orgasm really hard (squirt) and kept saying that. So he did oral ...
A. 8 September 2010: Try talking to him about it when you're not in the heat of passion. If he tries a stunt like that again and guiding his head (like by grabbing a handful of hair a little and gently guiding him around) grab his head and pull him up and just tell him ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is having bad dreams about our relationship
Q. My girlfriend is having bad dreams about our relationship. In her dreams, everything is fine with us until - an ex of mine shows up and gets my attention. She is extremely worried about me leaving her for an ex. She has not met my ex. Any ex....
A. 8 September 2010: It sounds like she's just feeling really insecure about herself in general. I'm not exactly an expert on how to raise someone's self-esteem, but I do know you can't raise her self-esteem for her. It sounds like you're doing all the right things ... (read in full...)
We broke up now I am pregnant!
Q. Well me and my boyfriend had sex. BUT we used a condom anddd i was on birth control. We broke up a week ago and i just found out i'm pregnant!!! i dont know what to do. He is already dating someone new. What should I do?! Im thinking about getting ...
A. 8 September 2010: The only reason to involve him is if you decide to keep it, or to get him to help pay for the abortion (it's only fair since it does take two to get there).
Definitely go talk to a doctor about your options, and should you decide to have an abor... (read in full...)
Does anyone else feel that by men constantly watching porn means that they will never be really happy with a real partner?
Q. Does anyone else feel that by men constantly watching porn means that they will never be really happy with a real partner? Of course most wives will never be as attractive as skinny teen porn stars - because they are not teenage any longer, pert boo...
A. 8 September 2010: I agree with Dirtball about checking out that post.
If this is something that bothers you, you should definitely go to couples counseling. If he is choosing porn over you that sounds like either an addiction or the start of an addiction, which has ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has had threesomes in the past and it's eating me up!
Q. Hi all 1st time here and just looking for some advice. I'm with my girlfriend of 10 years. A few years back myself and my girlfriend broke up for a while. During this time she had thresomes, one with two other females and another two with 1 f...
A. 7 September 2010: Because when she had these threesomes, she was single. It doesn't mean anything to sleep with multiple people. But if you're in a couple and have a threesome, it is having sex with other people outside the relationship. You can't force her to have a ... (read in full...)
Sex goes from once a day to once a week. Why?
Q. Hey all. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and we were best friends before that so we match perfectly. But since the end of the 1st year the sex has decreased from several times everyday to once a week. I have asked her why an...
A. 7 September 2010: It's not your size. Girls can get addicted to porn just as readily as guys can. It's not your size or you. It sounds like she's just lying to conceal her habit. It also sounds like she's not turned while having sex if it still hurts her. I would a) ... (read in full...)
Should I just leave him alone? I don't trust him now!
Q. helow. Im 19 and im having problems wit my bf. He is 20 and we have been going owt 4 two n a half years nw. He always says he loves me. Bt i dnt trust him. A year ago i found porn on his phone. I confronted him abowt it n he sed he wil neva du it ...
A. 7 September 2010: I don't think lying about porn means he will lie about other things, but I do think that if you stay with him he will continue to look at porn (and lie about it).... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 6 September 2010: “Problem with your statistics, that around this time, George W Bush targeted funds to promote abstinence and no sex in schools. The research I've seen said that this didn't encourage teens to have sex later, but it did mean those on abstinence ... (read in full...)
Has anyone actually become pregnant after the pulling out technique?
Q. Hey Me and my boyfriend have been having unprotected sex but he doesn't actually ejaculate inside me.. I've been hearing mixed comments about this as some people say it is very unlikely to get pregnant and some think it is very likely.. Has anyone ...
A. 5 September 2010: You can get pregnant from precum, but only if he has ejaculated recently, and since last urinating. The pull-out method is not a good idea unless he has amazing self-control and will never get close enough to orgasm that he has to emergency pull it ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 5 September 2010: As for teens, it isn't a good sign when you have 15 year olds quoted in the New York Times as saying things along the lines of why would anyone bother with dating when porn's so easy? As for boredom/anal, since 1995 (around when internet porn became ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: Also when I talk about the objectification of women, I'm not talking about how women who do porn are treated. I'm talking about portrayal. If we want to get into the people who do porn, there is fairly little sex trafficking of men. There are far ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 3 September 2010: "Either men are being objectified and 'marketed' as much as women, or neither are at all. And frankly, if all you can see is said 'objectification' I think that says something about your insecurities." This is a joke, right? It's the old, well men... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can suggest instead of porn blocking software that would be fair on both of us, and that would make him stop lying to my face?
Q. Towards the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend I found out he looked at porn. I asked him not to, because the thought of it made me feel very insecure. He agreed, and promised that he'd stop looking. But he didn't, and after a while a ...
A. 3 September 2010: That's definitely a good way to go about it, if he can look at porn, so can you. It probably won't make him talk, but I doubt he'll feel so blasé about it if he felt threatened too. It's not too hard to find hot gay guys with six packs who are ... (read in full...)
Do girls really judge how their boyfriends look even if they love them?
Q. hey guys i need some really reeally really good advice here coz i need it have u ever felt that ur girlfriend is just too good for u to the point that u would even think that she may cheat on u ? im not a bad looking guy but the problem is not h...
A. 3 September 2010: If you love someone, their flaws just sort of become invisible. She wouldn't have fallen for you if she wasn't attracted to you. It's just going to drive you crazy if you try to decide whether or not you're more attractive than her exes. Obviously ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can suggest instead of porn blocking software that would be fair on both of us, and that would make him stop lying to my face?
Q. Towards the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend I found out he looked at porn. I asked him not to, because the thought of it made me feel very insecure. He agreed, and promised that he'd stop looking. But he didn't, and after a while a ...
A. 3 September 2010: Saying that she forces him to lie because she doesn't want porn in her relationship is pretty unfair. That basically puts women with this opinion in the position of, allow my porn openly or shut up. My way or the highway. It puts no responsibility ... (read in full...)
Surely its up to me if I watch porn! Isn't it?
Q. Men are visual when it comes to sex! Its a fact..so if your girlfriend will not do sertin things in bed then is it really that rong to watch porn? Insted of tryin to make her do sertin things that she don't wanna do I think she should be fine with ...
A. 3 September 2010: Yes she's such a freak and a weirdo for feeling insecure that her boyfriend feels a need to get off to other women and that she's not enough. What a crazy woman she is for caring that he cares so much about these women that he's throw away the ... (read in full...)
Checked out a porn link in my b/f's history
Q. I have a huge problem with my boyfriend's porn watching habbit. We've talked about it, and despite saying he'd never watch again, he still watches it every time I'm not home like I knew he would. But that's not EXACTLY why I'm upset. I feel super ...
A. 1 September 2010: Unfortunately whether what he's doing is right or wrong or whether or he should or shouldn't stop for your feelings, there's nothing illegal about what he's doing and you can't force him to stop. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you if you ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: And when I say all people, I just mean people in the US UK and parts of western Europe as that's really the only place reliable data are available.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: "it's 85% of people who use porn.."
Well actually it's approximately 70% of men and 30% of women who use porn, which means around half of all people.... (read in full...)
Checked out a porn link in my b/f's history
Q. I have a huge problem with my boyfriend's porn watching habbit. We've talked about it, and despite saying he'd never watch again, he still watches it every time I'm not home like I knew he would. But that's not EXACTLY why I'm upset. I feel super ...
A. 1 September 2010: Regardless of whether there is a "need" to release (which isn't a need like water or food, it's healthy to have a release every 72 hours or so, which is how long it takes for the sperm to replenish or what have you. Sperm don't replenish faster if ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 1 September 2010: I said that you don't need any sort of "warning" traits like an addictive personality or family history or what have you to become addicted. Anyone can become addicted and no one is in any kind of a low-risk category. Some people may have a slight ... (read in full...)
Checked out a porn link in my b/f's history
Q. I have a huge problem with my boyfriend's porn watching habbit. We've talked about it, and despite saying he'd never watch again, he still watches it every time I'm not home like I knew he would. But that's not EXACTLY why I'm upset. I feel super ...
A. 1 September 2010: If you've already stated that porn has no place in your relationship and he continues to lie about it, then you have to just tell him that either he stops the porn or you'll leave. If he refuses to stop (which he probably will) then you have to find ... (read in full...)
Do women really have oral sex after having regular sex?
Q. Do women really do this? I know I watch too much porn. But, do women really go down on a man after having their penis inside them? I see it all the time on some "reality" porn sites and it makes me believe them even less....
A. 31 August 2010: Well it's somewhat similar to you performing cunninglingus after you cum inside her, except less "gross." Many women don't mind or like their own taste and their isn't that much of it there. It's kind of salty/metallic. It's not a huge deal. It just ... (read in full...)
Surely its up to me if I watch porn! Isn't it?
Q. Men are visual when it comes to sex! Its a fact..so if your girlfriend will not do sertin things in bed then is it really that rong to watch porn? Insted of tryin to make her do sertin things that she don't wanna do I think she should be fine with ...
A. 30 August 2010: "Men deal with irrational jealousy over women's previous lovers. Women deal with irrational jealousy over men watching porn."
No, they are completely different. Why? Because you can't change your past, but you can change your present. She can't go b... (read in full...)
My ex dumped me becuase he was stressed, do I wait?
Q. If a man seems really messed up and confused and dumps you cause he has had a lot of stress pile up on him at once is it best to give him his freedom and hope he still wants you when he gets his head together?...
A. 28 August 2010: I can't say if it's a good sign that he'll take you back, but you should keep giving him his space. If/when he's ready you'll know.... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 28 August 2010: Well porn IS addictive and between 15-20% of users do get addicted. Sure not everyone gets addicted, but it is addictive. It's not like we gloss over how addictive cigarettes, drugs, and alcohol are because not everyone gets addicted.
"but sure... (read in full...)
Porn is controlling my life! How do I stop?
Q. i don't know where should i start, anyway it happened about 5 months ago, before that i didn't care about porn or pornographic. by the way I'm still virgin, and right now I'm Wasting about 10 hours each day on this shit and I'm deadly need ever...
A. 26 August 2010: Porn addiction is a real condition and it can control your life. You can't break the addiction by sheer willpower anymore, you need help. You need to find a counselor who can help you. There are tons of books and websites on breaking porn addiction. ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 25 August 2010: Sorry for not responding. Today is my last day of packing.
Yes I agree with Gabrielle, in the past few years, maybe 5-10 since I was in high school, porn has changed. I remember being a teen looking at the stuff with friends a few times, and it seem... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 24 August 2010: Hey so I found a book you might be interested in. Well it's not a book, but it's a report by the Witherspoon Institute where they got 54 experts together to discuss the social implications pornography. I haven't finished reading it, but it's ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: Mia I was saying it IS controlling. Definitely is. I was just saying asking people to do anything from not cheating, to taking out the garbage is also controlling. A relationship is just about deciding what kind of control you'll agree to. I'd find ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 23 August 2010: If men should give up porn to prove their love, should women also stop wearing make up and wear a head to foot black Burka (the black tent dress that some Muslim women wear) to stop other men from noticing them.
Actually my boyfriend hated th... (read in full...)
My ex dumped me becuase he was stressed, do I wait?
Q. If a man seems really messed up and confused and dumps you cause he has had a lot of stress pile up on him at once is it best to give him his freedom and hope he still wants you when he gets his head together?...
A. 22 August 2010: Yes. He may have been stressed, he may have been totally confused, but he probably has his reasons for wanting to break it off. There's absolutely only one thing you can do, and that is to give him his space. If you want to get back together again, ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: Yes I heard GGW has actually had a profoundly negative impact on many of the women who participated as well (shocking, I know *sarcasm*). Some have apparently been so humiliated by the experience that they drop out of school. Obviously some probably ... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 22 August 2010: Aunt in hiding? Well, I guess don't much like that. I am, well me, I just didn't want to be forever associated with being super anti-porn on this site since that's not the stance I intend to take when giving advice. But if you insist...... (read in full...)
Why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?
Q. ok, so my question is simply 'why is there no middle ground when it comes to porn?' It seems there are two sides, those for porn, and those totally against it. I have read many a question about porn on here, and there are the guys and some women who ...
A. 19 August 2010: Because frequently, people who are against it view it as cheating. So to them, compromising on this is like saying OK you can have sex with other women once in awhile, so long as I don't know about it. From the other side, they are unwilling to ... (read in full...)
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