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writes: Hey,Everyone always says that teenagers make a really big deal of romance and that they have a really immature view of love. I think this is true of some teenagers but not of everyone. Sometimes I do feel though that teenage boys are really shallow in the sense that they can't see past appearances. Maybe it's just that I haven't met very many decent boys but I do find that where I live, this is true of a lot of them.I just wanted to ask any teenage guys who use this site if they think this comment is justified or if it's generalising. To be honest, I just want to be proved wrong!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (23 August 2010):
 Compared to what? Teen girls? No.
I am sure the movie twilight would have been a hit with females if the leads had depth rather then looks.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (23 August 2010):
 My young baby cousin is one of the most important people in my life.. He's now 17 but even before then he took time to come and visit me and provide me with the support that I badly needed... He's more mature than most of the men that I've met in my life...
No not all teens are shallow, some boys and girls makes us adults look bad.
PS: However I wouldn't suggest anyone date him, if it's romance your talking about.. lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): No teenage boys come in two extremes I find, lots are shallow. They like to swarm around and ogle the prettiest girls.
Then there is the other extreme which is the ones that are 'deep' and they're the ones that are almost too deep, writing poetry and love letters obsessing about one specific girl. Who is not necessarily the most popular girl.
The above is an extremely general view, there are lots of boys that act shallow and play up to the group, that one on one can have meaningful conversations. There are others that try to act insightful around girls as an act to try and bed them.
It's confusing and often hard to tell.
One thing to remember though is that social grouping is extremely important for teenagers, boys and girls alike. So while you might meet a group of boys that all seem like shallow wretches, a lot of that has to do with trying to conform to their group. The Milgram Effect. Individually a lot of these guys could be thoughtful, respectful guys that see personality as the ultimate form of attractiveness.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (23 August 2010):
 I've found that teenagers in general are very shallow, not just the boys. It goes beyond shallow though, they are often cruel too. From about age 11-17 the pressure to fit in can be very intense. I remember kids being ridiculed for the simplest of offenses. They were made to be outcasts because they wore the wrong shirt or jacket. Things that are really meaningless.
Yes, teenage boys do judge a lot on appearance. They haven't learned that there is more to a person than what they look like. I see this as a societal problem. Kids are bombarded with images of beauty every day. In many cases, beauty is held at a much higher regard than intelligence or contribution to society. It is ok to be vacant in the brain as long as you look good. What kind of message is that? Yet it is the message that is constantly portrayed in the media. You can probably tell it makes me sick.
The good news is that not all boys are like that. Boys do tend to care more about looks, even as they become adults. It is part of the visual nature of men. However, many men have learned that it really is what is on the inside that counts. Usually after we're burned by some of the pretty people.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 August 2010):
I was a teenage boy a few years ago, and I have to say that at first, like nearly all guys, I was very shallow. I only fancied the pretty girls, little realizing that not that many of them are nice. The answer to your question in short is that teenage boys can be very shallow.
The longer answer is that a teenage boy really has to spend a lot of time identifying with emotions. Young men do confuse lust and love very easily, and it takes a while for young men to understand that getting to know a woman is far more important than how they look. Guys do confuse their emotions all too easily. The good news is that a lot of guys grow up and really to become decent guys who'll not just measure a girl on her appearance. Some grow up more quickly than others. I did. In contrast, I know some guys who are still shallow. Just take time, understand yourself and spend time around guys just as friends so you understand them. You'll see a lot of guys grow up in a few years, and they'll go from wanting nothing but appearance to a woman who is confident and trustworthy. So be confident in yourself, focus on your own life and you'll have the pick of the better guys.
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