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reader, RIKI93dw  +, writes (1 September 2010):
What ever happens you are a very brave women for standing up to them and you have my respect and I'm very sorry to hear about the charges being dropped
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reader, Miamine +, writes (30 August 2010):
 So sorry babes, but please feel proud of yourself for ignoring their threats and trying to stand up for yourself.
So very, very sorry, and sorry for the next woman they will hurt. Please protect yourself very carefully from now on.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (26 August 2010):
 Shoot, that is bad news. Thank you for the follow up. I hope you will seek help to cope with what you've been through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthey drop the charges not enough evidence.
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 That is rape... It doesnt matter what anyone else says or what has happened previously. The second you said 'no' or 'stop' is the second it becomes rape. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise! Push charges!! And please seek some professional help to deal with your own feelings of guilt and self doubt... You are not at fault here at all and please dont think you are. I wish you all the best
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 August 2010):
Regardless of the outcome, it doesn't change the truth of what happened. Hopefully you'll be able to get into some counceling to help you cope with this. I'm hoping for the best possible outcome to this bad situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell they claim i have a reason to lie. Cause i have a boyfriend that i love very much. And the main guy is his bf. It could go the other way. Since his friend was in the car. My witness is three. But im a push over and im nice but i never said yes and my no was im wit ur friend im not cheating on him wit u.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (23 August 2010):
Coercion is rape, if you were frightened for your daughter and didn't want to scare her, then the police will consider this as force.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 August 2010):
What they did was rape. You had reason not to fight back, they were holding your daughter almost as a hostage. Hopefully the police can put him behind bars. Please stay strong. This was in no way your fault. Sending some pictures doesn't mean they have the right to have sex with you. Especially when you told him to stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim only a 115 pounds people say i shouldve fought back. If he put my child out of my reach we been through a altercation way before my boyfriend and i got together. So i know he is stronger than me alot of say i wanted it but i dont see it. Wit bodylanguage when he touch me i froze. The other guy is going to say i wanted it too. So his friend wont get in trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe picture sending was true but i still said no and he still kept going i feel disgusted after the event took place. I tried to hurt myself but didnt because im my daughters only parent. Why wait to cheat on my man while he in jail and upset him by a lie if i wanted it. Im known as the girl that sleeps around but that doesnt warrant being took when im saying no and other reasons why i am not wanting sex from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): suppose the arguement is that you could have gotten out of the car - screamed, shouted and drew attention to the fact you were being assaulted and they had your daughter. I do however believe that saying no and them continuing is rape but sadly i think this particular situation sounds like it is gonna be a case of "he said, she said" etc. Its a tricky one really - your daughter was there and there were two guys - if you felt in danger or felt your child in danger then one can understand not fighting however you did eventually snatch your daughter and get out of the car, so arguement is that you could have done that all along regardless of whether guy was blackmailing you with nude pictures. Kind of like its only what your boyfriend will think as opposed to having to let yourself be assaulted ... personally i'd prefer my guy to think i'd cheated than let someone use that as blackmail. Your guy seems understanding of what has happened, surely he would have believed that you would never send nude pictures of yourself to his friend intentially. I'm sorry this happened to you but it is going to be difficult to prove it was rape i think. Your word against his etc. Try not to beat yourself up - we all think we'll be rational and logical when confronted with a situation like this but its a stressful time and we panic and don't always act as perhaps we would if wasn't under duress.
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (20 August 2010):
I'm very sorry yes this was rape as you told them to stop i'm sorry your daughter had to see this. I'm glad you went to the police as they can put these disgusting creatures behind bars. I'm very sorry xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): You said "STOP" - so yes, you were raped because they didnt stop.
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