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writes:Hey ! Me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time and we're both virgins. He really enjoyed it and i did aswell but it was kinda painful! is this normal? i didnt bleed and i heard thats what usually happens? , also i want to know ideas how to make the sex more romantic? as our first time wasnt that romantic and it didnt last long as he ejaculated! , x
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reader, Sincerely Kir  +, writes (2 September 2010):
 well not everyone bleeds on the first time. when i first had sex i did not bleed. its normal, u will eventually but its nothing out of the ordinary.
and to make it less painful Lubricant helps, like othes below me have said.
to make sex romantic usually Love is all it takes. the firt time probably hocked u, but now u know what to expect. try kissing, it always usually warms things up and gets things going. kiss eachothers body, and neck. stuff like that. music helps too.
theres alot of things to make it more romantic, but thats just somethin simple to start with, (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): It's me again....lubrication makes a huge difference! Experiementing and foreplay are very important...in my country there is a product called ky jelly that is good. wherever you buy your birth control will also have lubricants in the same area.
Always remeber that the mind is the biggest sex organ....fingers and tongues also bring pleasure not just the act of penetration.
dont try to do every thing you hear about....save some for later. :)
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 For you, bubble baths and lots of kisses.. For him, lots of kisses and lots of compliments... the movies lie, yes it hurts at first sometimes and it's not a lot of fun. Practice makes perfect but please make sure you use protection.
Next time.. more foreplay, lots of kisses and tons of caressing.. you need to be wet. If he comes quickly no problem, he is young, let him rest and he'll be able to do it again and go slower and have more control.
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reader, AgonyAuntJ +, writes (22 August 2010):
 As your guy was a virgin it is pretty normal that he ejaculated fairly quickly, because it is a whole new sensation to you both. But for girls, it isnt very enjoyable in physical terms. What makes it amazing is the fact that it is with someone you love and that they are enjoying it as well. It is normal for girls to bleed but that doesnt make it abnormal if you dont. As mal said, everyone is different.
In terms of making it better, it mainly goes to experience. As you guys do it more, you will gradually begin to feel less pain as your vagina will get used to the stretching and will begin to expand easier, in simple words. Your guy will learn how to control himself and not ejaculate so early and once these 2 things have been mastered, you can experiment more and more until you begin to find things you like doing. Remember to be lubricated beforehand as otherwise it can be very painful, whether that's through foreplay or lubrication that you buy. And dont be shy or embarrassed to tell your boyfriend what feels ok and what hurts. Be sure to tell him to go slower or not so deep if its hurting or is uncomfortable. Some girls take alot longer than others before they begin enjoying it. So just be patient, keep an open mind and, as im sure youve been told a thousand times,be safe! Use condoms or, alternatively, you could go onto the contraceptive pill but this doesnt protect against STI's. Of course, you say you are both virgins so this shouldnt really be a problem. But you do not want to end up pregnant. So use protection.
And other than that, just enjoy it!
- AAJ.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): First I have to ask...did you use protection. No glove no love...thats the rule.
If you had asked I would have advised you to wait, but its a little too late for that now, and besides you didnt ask...
Honestly, for most of us females, the first time isnt all that great. It is usually painful, sometimes we even bleed. Everyone is a bit different, some have no pain from the beginning and it is all normal.
Yes it does get better...for both of you. He will learn to control how long he can wait before he ejaculates, and it will get less painful, and more pleasurable for you.
Please be safe, and responsible...mal
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