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My phobia prevents me from seeking medical help. What is wrong wth me?
Q. hi im hopeing maybe i can get some help on this health question. Im 23 yrs old and have resently started suffering with terrible head aches im constantly tierd and in the past few yrs my eye sight has gone very poor. i recently visited my opticions ...
A. 10 August 2010: Yippie...missed that... well done you, and good luck.... (read in full...)
Porn versus love
Q. Mods note: OP's own title: I have an an age old problem-my boyfriend is addicted to porn. We actually broke up but got back together over it. I have two children and you can tell by my figure that I do. But my bf always tells me I am not fat. He ...
A. 10 August 2010: Anon, I can hear your hurt and your pain... but you can't change people, you can only change yourself.. I always perfer couples to compromise on the issues of pornography. But if they can't, you can always leave the guy who hurts you so much.
... (read in full...)
Porn versus love
Q. Mods note: OP's own title: I have an an age old problem-my boyfriend is addicted to porn. We actually broke up but got back together over it. I have two children and you can tell by my figure that I do. But my bf always tells me I am not fat. He ...
A. 10 August 2010: Q... you know I like "Don't ask, don't tell, and don't search" when it comes to pornography... it's awful, but things were better before the woman's revolution and the internet... men have always looked at porn, but women didn't notice because they ... (read in full...)
Porn versus love
Q. Mods note: OP's own title: I have an an age old problem-my boyfriend is addicted to porn. We actually broke up but got back together over it. I have two children and you can tell by my figure that I do. But my bf always tells me I am not fat. He ...
A. 10 August 2010: Hey Q, we done with arguing now.. the orginal poster is looking for solutions and suggestions...
Look at kneeling 69, do you think if she asks to try that it will keep porn of his mind for a little while?...... (read in full...)
My phobia prevents me from seeking medical help. What is wrong wth me?
Q. hi im hopeing maybe i can get some help on this health question. Im 23 yrs old and have resently started suffering with terrible head aches im constantly tierd and in the past few yrs my eye sight has gone very poor. i recently visited my opticions ...
A. 9 August 2010: It's Monday, you been to the doctor and got the forms yet?
Yea, the pressure test isn't that bad.. it's my phobia though, and I did it, even though it scared me every time... it just reminded me of one of them science fiction films where them ali... (read in full...)
Porn versus love
Q. Mods note: OP's own title: I have an an age old problem-my boyfriend is addicted to porn. We actually broke up but got back together over it. I have two children and you can tell by my figure that I do. But my bf always tells me I am not fat. He ...
A. 9 August 2010: http://www.sexinfo101.com/sexualpositions.shtml
If he can do 69 kneeling, I think it's more than fair tat he has a day of pornography while you go get some sleep.. lol...(how the hell do they do such things)... (read in full...)
Porn versus love
Q. Mods note: OP's own title: I have an an age old problem-my boyfriend is addicted to porn. We actually broke up but got back together over it. I have two children and you can tell by my figure that I do. But my bf always tells me I am not fat. He ...
A. 9 August 2010: Good luck babes, there is nothing wrong with you not liking pornography or getting upset that he does.. likewise there is nothing wrong with him liking pornography and getting upset that you don't understand...
Compromise is what I'm asking f... (read in full...)
Porn versus love
Q. Mods note: OP's own title: I have an an age old problem-my boyfriend is addicted to porn. We actually broke up but got back together over it. I have two children and you can tell by my figure that I do. But my bf always tells me I am not fat. He ...
A. 8 August 2010: Actually, I can see areas where you and him can meet.
1. He's willing to give up pornography, but finds it difficult. But even if he can't give it up, I'm sure that he can cut down...
2. Your not totally anti-pornography, but you have had som... (read in full...)
Porn versus love
Q. Mods note: OP's own title: I have an an age old problem-my boyfriend is addicted to porn. We actually broke up but got back together over it. I have two children and you can tell by my figure that I do. But my bf always tells me I am not fat. He ...
A. 8 August 2010: Sorry babes for turning this into an argument that has nothing at all to do with you. It's interesting that you watch pornography too...
Think back, when you look at porn, do you spend your time lusting after the man, or do you watch the sex acti... (read in full...)
My wife wants an open relationship and I think it is just an excuse for her to be able to leave!
Q. My wife proposed that we have an open marriage because she refuses to meet my sexual needs and expectations. She wants me to find a "whore" who is willing to attach herself to my crotch and she can find someone who will meet her emotional needs. ...
A. 7 August 2010: Original post here... http://www.dearcupid.org/question/wife-wants-an-open-relationship-so-that-i.html... (read in full...)
My phobia prevents me from seeking medical help. What is wrong wth me?
Q. hi im hopeing maybe i can get some help on this health question. Im 23 yrs old and have resently started suffering with terrible head aches im constantly tierd and in the past few yrs my eye sight has gone very poor. i recently visited my opticions ...
A. 7 August 2010: Babes, you didn't really need specsavers, they can't really help you.. But you were scared, so I wanted to make it easier on you to do something and feel a little sucessfull. When you try something and feel like you have won, it makes it easier to ... (read in full...)
Sexual Past, Lies, Sexual lies
Q. Ok, here goes my question. My wife and I have been struggling over the past year or so because of a long series of lies I have discovered regarding her romantic and sexual past. To save you the drawn out details, there are at least four people she ...
A. 7 August 2010: I'm so sorry for you.. this must be very painfull.. but I will answer your questions..
Yes it is possible for a man to give oral sex and then leave you alone.. it happened to a friend of mine.. of course alcohol was involved and she would have not... (read in full...)
She's broke up with me, but says she'll date me later??!!!!??
Q. I was dating a 20 yr old for over a year and I'm 31 yrs old. We recently broke up but still talk. My question is she says she loves me as a person and says she would date me at a later time when I was ready. What does that mean? Also she says she ...
A. 7 August 2010: Opps my mistake.. please disregard my advice, the other aunts are right.... I thought this was a case of older woman and younger man..... (read in full...)
Has he used me for sex?
Q. I gave this lad from work my number and we've slept together once. He rang me a week later n asked if I wanted to come out but I was at work, I havnt heard from him since. Did he use me...
A. 7 August 2010: Yep, sounds right Bernard.. you had sex with a guy, you and him enjooyed each other.. He asked you out again but you was busy.
He can't have used you, no promises were made, it dosen't sound like you asked for a relationship or asked for him to b... (read in full...)
Help! How do I forget him?
Q. I have turned 17. I keep questioning myself many a times Why! I dated my ex for about two years. We had major break ups and patch ups. I dono if i still love him. When he cheated on me we had this break up. I met this new guy through a common...
A. 7 August 2010: Forget about your ex, and forget about the new guy.. you don't really like either one of them enough... they are not right for you.
When you meet the right guy, there won't be no cheating and you won't be attracted by anyone else. The fact tha... (read in full...)
My friends new b/f, is in an open relationship with another woman, should I tell?
Q. here is a dilemma, a friend of mine is in a brand new relationship. The guy she's dating, unbeknownst to her, but I happened to find out, has been in an "open" relationship with another woman for over 10 years. He made a decision to keep up his ...
A. 7 August 2010: As a friend you should pass on information that you think she needs to know. However, don't be surprised if she dosen't believe you. Tell her, then let it go, don't allow yourself to be dragged into arguing about it with her.... (read in full...)
Newspaper fetish
Q. I have had a newspaper fetish for a long time I love the way it feels on my skin an body it is a highly sexual thing for me the feel smell an I have several female friend s that like it also I know it sounds wierd but its very erotic an I enjoy the ...
A. 7 August 2010: This is not really a dating site, if your attempting to make contact with people who share your fetish.
I do however hope you get responses from people who feel the same or have had the same experiences as you. It's probably best if you use goog... (read in full...)
My wife wants an open relationship and I think it is just an excuse for her to be able to leave!
Q. My wife proposed that we have an open marriage because she refuses to meet my sexual needs and expectations. She wants me to find a "whore" who is willing to attach herself to my crotch and she can find someone who will meet her emotional needs. ...
A. 7 August 2010: You two need to go to get some marriage counselling.. there you can bring up any anger or resentments and can also find ways to compromise and expand your activities in the bedroom..
You need professional help from outside, because at the mome... (read in full...)
She's broke up with me, but says she'll date me later??!!!!??
Q. I was dating a 20 yr old for over a year and I'm 31 yrs old. We recently broke up but still talk. My question is she says she loves me as a person and says she would date me at a later time when I was ready. What does that mean? Also she says she ...
A. 7 August 2010: Got a similar post that has come in.. please take a look at it.. us aunts advised the older woman that young men need time and freedom to grow... maybe someone has said the same thing to her.
Sorry, I'm still trying to find that post for you to l... (read in full...)
Wife wants an open relationship so that I will stray and she can walk away
Q. My wife proposed that we have an open marriage because she refuses to meet my sexual needs and expectations. She wants me to find a "whore" who is willing to attach herself to my crotch and she can find someone who will meet her emotional needs. ...
A. 7 August 2010: Post has been updated with further details.. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-wife-wants-an-open-relationship-and-i.html... (read in full...)
Help!!! How can I show him that I care?
Q. Me and my bf have been fighting for any little thing lately. He seems to get mad because i dont show him enough affection and i think i really do. how do i show him that i love him and show him what he wants? im confused we are in love and i want to ...
A. 7 August 2010: Easy.. you both make each other a promise.. he will treat you the way he likes to be treated, and you will do the same back to him.
If you like flowers, then give them, so you can get them back. Give kisses, so he'll know you like them and hope... (read in full...)
Philosophical questions about sex and disabilities
Q. This question may seem long and convoluted but there is an underlying unity I can absolutely assure you if you just take the time to read between the lines and try to see how things might look from my perspective. I hope you can see when a disag...
A. 7 August 2010: People with disabilities can need sex more than anyone else.. their lives can be so lonely, and there can be few chances to be held, kissed or loved by anyone....
That's why I support prostitution.. what would some disabled men do, if they did... (read in full...)
My wife wants an open relationship and I think it is just an excuse for her to be able to leave!
Q. My wife proposed that we have an open marriage because she refuses to meet my sexual needs and expectations. She wants me to find a "whore" who is willing to attach herself to my crotch and she can find someone who will meet her emotional needs. ...
A. 7 August 2010: Why didn't you just update your original post.. I remember you from before.. many of the aunts who answered may not be able to find you now.. anyway.. thanks for providing the additional information that we asked for..
Sigh.. you married a virgin... (read in full...)
I want sex more often!
Q. how do i get across to my boyfriend i want more sex often and longer,he is a couple years older than me i have told him i want it 2 or 3 times a week he is only good for one round a week. I am in my prime and he want more sex, he is a great guy and ...
A. 7 August 2010: You have different sex drives.. He is older than you, and therefore it's not unusually that his sex drive is low... often happens to men at this age...
You need to compromise.. he won't be able to give you more penetrative sex, he can't force hi... (read in full...)
Help me save my marriage.
Q. I have been married for 5 1/2 years !!!! and now my hubby says that our sex life has gone way bad... and i know that its truth but the thing is I dont feel like having sex or even feel to try new things!!!! when we are having sex for me to cum.... i ...
A. 7 August 2010: Dosen't sound like you find your husband sexy anymore.. can someone look after the kids, so you and him can get away to do some private romancing.... (read in full...)
He wont sleep with me, I don't know why
Q. Mod Note, Your chosen title has already been used before, so i've had to give you a different one. So when my daughter was born not 2 long ago she was extremely sick it took a month just 2 bring her home but when she got home we realized that she...
A. 7 August 2010: I think he's been traumatised by your children's sickness.. the mind can be a funny thing.. first you was pregnant and he had to stop sex, then the kids were sick and sex stopped again. He has probably trained himself to do without sex and dosen't ... (read in full...)
Broken hearted and lonely seeks much needed advice.
Q. Mod Note....OP's own title. Dear Cupid, I am a 24 year old single girl who has been in several long term relationships in the past few years. Recently however, I've had no luck whatsoever on the dating front, and find myself wondering if I will ...
A. 7 August 2010: Feeling lonely is never stupid.. all humans feel like that at some time. I doubt that your doing something wrong, you probably are in the wrong place at the wrong time and you miss meeting mr.right...
Don't know how long you've been single, ... (read in full...)
Philosophical questions about sex and disabilities
Q. This question may seem long and convoluted but there is an underlying unity I can absolutely assure you if you just take the time to read between the lines and try to see how things might look from my perspective. I hope you can see when a disag...
A. 7 August 2010: Why should people have sexual satisfaction... wow.. very hard question.
It's a hard question because not everybody needs or like's sex at all.. There are nun's and monks who go without sex. There are people who are sworn to celibacy and they are... (read in full...)
Why are women attracted to big penises?
Q. Granted I myself am not very well equipped, being at 4 inches long and 4 inches in girth. I don't understand what's so great about big penises and why girls seem so attracted to them. Some girls have told me that smaller penises aren't attractiv...
A. 7 August 2010: I asked Serina.. the men do it themselves... sigh, another job opportunity disappears, they don't seem to need help.... (read in full...)
Women desire to fondle testicles?
Q. How do girls feel about men's balls? Do women find the sexually exciting? Disgusting? Or, do they not factor at all? My last girlfriend was alwYs playing with them, and once I started shaving them ( at her request) would often take them in her ...
A. 7 August 2010: Well I'm overgrown and immature too... I think they are funny.. squishy squashy toys that you can play with all day and night..
Sorry, but men's sexual parts look funny, they make me laugh, and therefore I like them very much... lol...
Just lo... (read in full...)
Why are women attracted to big penises?
Q. Granted I myself am not very well equipped, being at 4 inches long and 4 inches in girth. I don't understand what's so great about big penises and why girls seem so attracted to them. Some girls have told me that smaller penises aren't attractiv...
A. 7 August 2010: Dear caller, these silly girls who you talk with, have never even seen a real penis, they are just talking rubbish and trying to make you feel bad.
Most women do not like big penises, we like them average. Big penises can hurt and are often at... (read in full...)
Why are women attracted to big penises?
Q. Granted I myself am not very well equipped, being at 4 inches long and 4 inches in girth. I don't understand what's so great about big penises and why girls seem so attracted to them. Some girls have told me that smaller penises aren't attractiv...
A. 7 August 2010: No person12345... it's nothing to do with pornography... boys are always measuring their penises, and showing them off.. they do this before they can even read...
Guess they think that a big penis makes them more of a man...(silly idea)... (read in full...)
Philosophical questions about sex and disabilities
Q. This question may seem long and convoluted but there is an underlying unity I can absolutely assure you if you just take the time to read between the lines and try to see how things might look from my perspective. I hope you can see when a disag...
A. 7 August 2010: Your question is very hard, so that is why it has taken me so long to give you a proper answer...
But while I am thinking, look at this post, this guy has put forward a different opinion on sex.. I think this would be a good post for you to read ... (read in full...)
Was I unreasonable?
Q. My partner and I have been going out for a year, and we live together. Most of her friends live at a distance, so I asked if she wanted to invite some of them to my house for a visit. I was thinking in terms of a couple of nights maximum. Last week, ...
A. 7 August 2010: Not unreasonable, but you were not clear about what you meant, so she misunderstood and sent the invitations..
Please appologise and ask her to come back. She sent the invitations already, it would look rude if she took the invitations back.. i... (read in full...)
Additional advice on contraceptives???
Q. My boyfriend and I are in Love and have been together almost 10 months now. He is two years older than me. We are both virgins. Although we have experimented with each other (which makes us less of virgins) neither of us have had actual vaginal ...
A. 7 August 2010: 1. Using a condom is not so much fun because it creates a barrier.. it's not so intimate and you don't get to feel the heat from your two sex organs touching.
2. Pill taken properly and a spermicide should help prevent pregnancy. But all cont... (read in full...)
Do men ALWAYS KNOW if they have had sex?
Q. {Mod Note - OP's own title] Help! Can your man ALWAYS tell if HE'S had sex in the morning? My guy is telling me he didn't because he would KNOW, but when I came back in the room 30 minutes later, he had no boxers on and was cuddling, when I clearly ...
A. 7 August 2010: Calm down.. I doubt they had anal sex, but your boyfriend was drunk and can't remember anything... I'm guessing the gay friend was drunk as well...
I believe this was a case of alcohol, loss of memory and mistaking identies.. your boyfrien... (read in full...)
Do men ALWAYS KNOW if they have had sex?
Q. {Mod Note - OP's own title] Help! Can your man ALWAYS tell if HE'S had sex in the morning? My guy is telling me he didn't because he would KNOW, but when I came back in the room 30 minutes later, he had no boxers on and was cuddling, when I clearly ...
A. 7 August 2010: If this were a woman, you would never have left them sleeping in bed after they had been drinking so much.... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 7 August 2010: "The most intense pleasure comes from the head of the penis, therefore deep throating is nothing more than an image created for porn and it is more about control and power than actual pleasure" (female anon 3rd august)
Excuse me, but 99% of sex h... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 7 August 2010: Reader anonymous (4th august)
Your latest post is very interesting.. yes you are right.. a lot of our current pornography is bad.. yes, a lot of pornography shows women "taking it all and still smiling", but there is a hell of a lot of porn... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 7 August 2010: "Miamine, it is clear you don't know how to give a bj from your statement.."
lol.. no point arguing with a fool, that will only make me look as silly as you...
Most guys say that I'm "proffessional".. aint had no complaints... me best techniqu... (read in full...)
Fiance seems to love porn more than me. Any other guys out there who do that?
Q. Help! I honestly don't know what to do. I am engaged to a 28 yr old man that i have been with for almost 2 years now. When we first got together we had sex alot. But now i ask him to make love to me and he says he's too tired or something else. ...
A. 7 August 2010: And baby, his porn watching is never a reflection of you... it actually has nothing to do with you.. it's him that has the problem... don't blame yourself because someone has issues that they are frightened to deal with. He's avoiding sex and... (read in full...)
Fiance seems to love porn more than me. Any other guys out there who do that?
Q. Help! I honestly don't know what to do. I am engaged to a 28 yr old man that i have been with for almost 2 years now. When we first got together we had sex alot. But now i ask him to make love to me and he says he's too tired or something else. ...
A. 7 August 2010: Give him back his ring.. if he can't have sex with you, and dosen't make you feel loved, worshiped and desired, he's no use to you.
Give him back his ring, you can't get married to a man who is too lazy to be bothered to give you sex.... (read in full...)
I'm not in a very good place at the moment and need your help guys...
Q. Dear Agony Aunt Please can you help. I am 54 years of age as is my husband. Recently I have noticed that he has been visiting porn sites on the internet most mornings and evenings. Is this normal for a man of his age? Our sex life hasn't ...
A. 6 August 2010: Your mother recently died as well... wow
I think you need to go to the doctor and get some counselling treatment... at the moment your abusing alcohol, a counsellor dealing with alcohol abuse will also be able to help.
You got a lot of outstan... (read in full...)
I'm not in a very good place at the moment and need your help guys...
Q. Dear Agony Aunt Please can you help. I am 54 years of age as is my husband. Recently I have noticed that he has been visiting porn sites on the internet most mornings and evenings. Is this normal for a man of his age? Our sex life hasn't ...
A. 6 August 2010: If you follow Jilly's advice and divorce your husband, do you think your problems will be solved and you will be happy at last..
I may be wrong, and his unfaithfullness and pornography watching may be an indication that you've been in a loveless... (read in full...)
I'm not in a very good place at the moment and need your help guys...
Q. Dear Agony Aunt Please can you help. I am 54 years of age as is my husband. Recently I have noticed that he has been visiting porn sites on the internet most mornings and evenings. Is this normal for a man of his age? Our sex life hasn't ...
A. 6 August 2010: It's easier to walk out on a man at 21 and say you'll be happy and content... much far harder when your 54 and got kids the same age...
Funny, you said just found out he was using pornography.. this makes me assume that it's just somethin... (read in full...)
Conflicted feelings of love and bitterness towards my boyfriend....
Q. Recently I've been having conflicting feelings of love and bitterness towards my boyfriend of a year and a half. I love him, he's kind and caring and makes me laugh, and a lot of the time everything seems fine, like it always has been: we'll go ...
A. 6 August 2010: Oh dear, baby, baby...
Do you ever masterbate... is having sex on your own ever the same as having sex with your man?... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't watch porn. How can I know if he's lying?
Q. [OP original title] At the very start of our relationship we casually discussed porn. Something along the lines of, so what about porn? Well let's make it easy and just neither of us watches. OK sounds good. As the relationship progressed I made it a...
A. 6 August 2010: And many people pretend to like pornography, because their freinds and peers try to convince them that it's ok...
lol.. you got a nice guy, relax and enjoy, if he does porn, it'll turn up in a couple of months without you even needing to look.... (read in full...)
Porn versus love
Q. Mods note: OP's own title: I have an an age old problem-my boyfriend is addicted to porn. We actually broke up but got back together over it. I have two children and you can tell by my figure that I do. But my bf always tells me I am not fat. He ...
A. 6 August 2010: Mrs Anon.. you don't like men very much do you? Why don't you turn lesbian and sleep with women, I think this would solve the problems you have with men liking pornography...
But maybe not, you seem to forget that many, many women like pornogra... (read in full...)
Porn versus love
Q. Mods note: OP's own title: I have an an age old problem-my boyfriend is addicted to porn. We actually broke up but got back together over it. I have two children and you can tell by my figure that I do. But my bf always tells me I am not fat. He ...
A. 6 August 2010: Why isn't the fact that so many women have so many issues with it and get so hurt enough? (Anon)
Maybe because many women get hurt and upset about a whole pile of things.. maybe because many guy's think it's unfair for women to control what the... (read in full...)
Is there anyway that you can get rid of a tan?
Q. This may sound like a stupid question - everyone wants to get a tan: how can you get rid of a tan??! I am a model and naturally dark skinned so I tan in ridiculously short spaces. A week ago, I walked to the store (10mins walk) and when I returned I ...
A. 6 August 2010: Lemon should do it.. lemon will work as a light form of bleach.... (read in full...)
Is there anyway that you can get rid of a tan?
Q. This may sound like a stupid question - everyone wants to get a tan: how can you get rid of a tan??! I am a model and naturally dark skinned so I tan in ridiculously short spaces. A week ago, I walked to the store (10mins walk) and when I returned I ...
A. 6 August 2010: Don't you just hate people who live in the sun... I'm offended again, because you just reminded me that the sun has gone now.. lol... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't watch porn. How can I know if he's lying?
Q. [OP original title] At the very start of our relationship we casually discussed porn. Something along the lines of, so what about porn? Well let's make it easy and just neither of us watches. OK sounds good. As the relationship progressed I made it a...
A. 6 August 2010: ps: There are feminist who are anti-pornography, there are feminist who support in and defend sexual freedom..
But you are right, it's a wonderfull subject to research, especially as it's a hidden activity, and therefore finding out the real tru... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't watch porn. How can I know if he's lying?
Q. [OP original title] At the very start of our relationship we casually discussed porn. Something along the lines of, so what about porn? Well let's make it easy and just neither of us watches. OK sounds good. As the relationship progressed I made it a...
A. 6 August 2010: "It's a big deal to a majority of women actually"
A large percentage of women, and most men do not have a problem with pornography... currently arround 30% of women admit to watching and enjoying pornography.. last statistics I saw said 48% of w... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't watch porn. How can I know if he's lying?
Q. [OP original title] At the very start of our relationship we casually discussed porn. Something along the lines of, so what about porn? Well let's make it easy and just neither of us watches. OK sounds good. As the relationship progressed I made it a...
A. 6 August 2010: Why don't you just relax and wait until he's done something wrong. At the moment you've judged him with no evidence, are worried about him, and making your life hell..
Isn't it better to wait untill he's done something wrong. Being anti-por... (read in full...)
Porn versus love
Q. Mods note: OP's own title: I have an an age old problem-my boyfriend is addicted to porn. We actually broke up but got back together over it. I have two children and you can tell by my figure that I do. But my bf always tells me I am not fat. He ...
A. 5 August 2010: Your man is rude and insensitive, that's a completely different matter and nothing to do with pornography. No one likes to be told that they are not pretty, no one wants to feel ugly or needy..
He had no right to say things that dent your con... (read in full...)
Do men ALWAYS KNOW if they have had sex?
Q. {Mod Note - OP's own title] Help! Can your man ALWAYS tell if HE'S had sex in the morning? My guy is telling me he didn't because he would KNOW, but when I came back in the room 30 minutes later, he had no boxers on and was cuddling, when I clearly ...
A. 5 August 2010: I agree with quiet-echo.. there may have been some cuddling and some masturbation activity, but there was no penetrative sex. The anus is very different from the vagina and needs more active participation.
It could be the case that your partner ... (read in full...)
Philosophical questions about sex and disabilities
Q. This question may seem long and convoluted but there is an underlying unity I can absolutely assure you if you just take the time to read between the lines and try to see how things might look from my perspective. I hope you can see when a disag...
A. 5 August 2010: "I admit I have a very paranoid sense of how society works and it feels like people are cold, irrational, arbitrary, and insensitive, the fact that people are overtly insensitive about sexual matters simply confuses me to no end." ... (read in full...)
Wife wants an open relationship so that I will stray and she can walk away
Q. My wife proposed that we have an open marriage because she refuses to meet my sexual needs and expectations. She wants me to find a "whore" who is willing to attach herself to my crotch and she can find someone who will meet her emotional needs. ...
A. 5 August 2010: Is this advice you wanted, divorce her and walk away.. are things really that bad, or did you have an arguement that got out of hand.
With sex, most things can be solved if you two calm down, realise that love is involved and want to get your pro... (read in full...)
Is there anyway that you can get rid of a tan?
Q. This may sound like a stupid question - everyone wants to get a tan: how can you get rid of a tan??! I am a model and naturally dark skinned so I tan in ridiculously short spaces. A week ago, I walked to the store (10mins walk) and when I returned I ...
A. 5 August 2010: SirenaBlusera, I am highly offended by your post.. of course we get sun, we don't live in the north pole.. this is the UK, we got two weeks sun, a wonderfull summer, and now we is back to grey days, lots of rain and we is waiting for snow..
We ca... (read in full...)
Is there anyway that you can get rid of a tan?
Q. This may sound like a stupid question - everyone wants to get a tan: how can you get rid of a tan??! I am a model and naturally dark skinned so I tan in ridiculously short spaces. A week ago, I walked to the store (10mins walk) and when I returned I ...
A. 4 August 2010: Try exfoilation.. rough corse sea salt or similar abrasive stuff on you skin may remove the layer of tan that you find disgusting.... (read in full...)
Do men ALWAYS KNOW if they have had sex?
Q. {Mod Note - OP's own title] Help! Can your man ALWAYS tell if HE'S had sex in the morning? My guy is telling me he didn't because he would KNOW, but when I came back in the room 30 minutes later, he had no boxers on and was cuddling, when I clearly ...
A. 4 August 2010: I don't understand the problem.. men wake up with a hard on, if your in the bed they start that bloody funny stuff.. they are half asleep, and in my humble opinon will masturbate of have sex with anything that has a suitable form..
What's wrong wi... (read in full...)
Porn versus love
Q. Mods note: OP's own title: I have an an age old problem-my boyfriend is addicted to porn. We actually broke up but got back together over it. I have two children and you can tell by my figure that I do. But my bf always tells me I am not fat. He ...
A. 4 August 2010: opps, forgot to give you the link...
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/hes-watching-porn-am-i.html
Feeling adequate because of pornography is a problem of your confidence and will remain, even if he gives up porn.
Hating pornography be... (read in full...)
Porn versus love
Q. Mods note: OP's own title: I have an an age old problem-my boyfriend is addicted to porn. We actually broke up but got back together over it. I have two children and you can tell by my figure that I do. But my bf always tells me I am not fat. He ...
A. 4 August 2010: Same here babes.. check your box..
Dear caller.. please read this link... there is a very important post by one of our female aunts (Kaede) that tries to explain how people use pornography and how they think about it.
Pornography a... (read in full...)
Wife wants an open relationship so that I will stray and she can walk away
Q. My wife proposed that we have an open marriage because she refuses to meet my sexual needs and expectations. She wants me to find a "whore" who is willing to attach herself to my crotch and she can find someone who will meet her emotional needs. ...
A. 4 August 2010: You two had an argument, she said some hurtfull words.. she dosen't mean what she says, you know that, your just angry and trying to look for people to make you feel better..
What is the real problem, what goes wrong in the bedroom. Do you want... (read in full...)
Porn versus love
Q. Mods note: OP's own title: I have an an age old problem-my boyfriend is addicted to porn. We actually broke up but got back together over it. I have two children and you can tell by my figure that I do. But my bf always tells me I am not fat. He ...
A. 4 August 2010: This is a mistake that many women make.. they assume that because a man likes the look of one type of woman, they must be ugly if they look different..
I've never understood this. It dosen't sound like love, it sounds controlling, possesiv... (read in full...)
My phobia prevents me from seeking medical help. What is wrong wth me?
Q. hi im hopeing maybe i can get some help on this health question. Im 23 yrs old and have resently started suffering with terrible head aches im constantly tierd and in the past few yrs my eye sight has gone very poor. i recently visited my opticions ...
A. 31 July 2010: Get a friend to take you in the car.. as Chigirl says, you can scream, shout, drag yourself across the floor, but you MUST GO AND GET YOUR EYES SORTED...
Don't worry about the embarrasment... I've been there, and yes, sometimes I am on the floo... (read in full...)
My phobia prevents me from seeking medical help. What is wrong wth me?
Q. hi im hopeing maybe i can get some help on this health question. Im 23 yrs old and have resently started suffering with terrible head aches im constantly tierd and in the past few yrs my eye sight has gone very poor. i recently visited my opticions ...
A. 31 July 2010: I got eye problems and have had two cornea transplants... (I got some dead guys eyes, and I thank him for them everyday... poor guy was young and on a motor bike..
Glucoma is the worst eye disease there is, and blindness will definately occur wi... (read in full...)
My phobia prevents me from seeking medical help. What is wrong wth me?
Q. hi im hopeing maybe i can get some help on this health question. Im 23 yrs old and have resently started suffering with terrible head aches im constantly tierd and in the past few yrs my eye sight has gone very poor. i recently visited my opticions ...
A. 31 July 2010: Gleaucoma... without treatment you will go blind.. go into specsavers instead, they can be found on the high street. Tell them about your phobia and ask if they will help you.
Phobia's are serious, but Glaucomo will make you blind so you have no ... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 29 July 2010: Nearly missed your question...
What did I learn durring watching porn...
Well, I learnt how to deep throat and give brilliant blow jobs..
I also learnt that women can enjoy sex and it's not always a case of rape...
Is it so hard to believ... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 21 July 2010: However you are right ms anon when you say, there really needs to be more female friendly pornography... the current state of the selection out there is really pretty bad... I prefer the older pornographic material myself.. :)... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 21 July 2010: "Because until you've lived it and stopped, you don't realize what it actually did to your brain. It's not harmless. You won't realize how not harmless it is until you stop."
This is your experience... I have used and enjoyed pornography in the p... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 20 July 2010: "Find me all the posts on this forum from all the men who are disappointed with their female partners for looking at too much porn. Here's a hint - there are none!" (male anon)
Actually male anon, there was one single post (in all the years I ... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 20 July 2010: When will people realise that... WOMEN WATCH PORNOGRAPHY TOO!!! Not all of us feel crushed and humilated, please speak for yourself only anon... ... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 18 July 2010: mmm.. five or six times a day... yes I can see now why you and him believe he may have had an addiction.. that seems very excessive.... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 18 July 2010: I'm actually pro-pornography, but that's me.. You can't force a man to stop, but their is no reason why should like it. You control your life, and for you this is a deal breaker...
I am glad however that your willing to compromise and are also... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 18 July 2010: Exactly person12345 (no 6) that's what I was trying to say.. your way was much better though.... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 18 July 2010: Ok, more clarification and a very good compromise... you will allow pornography sometimes if it's something you do together..
He has agreed that he is too dependant on pornography.
Can you ask him to come to you when he feels randy and you ge... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 18 July 2010: Does your husband usually look at pornography at nights? It may be that he has trained himself to look at porn to be able to destress and relax and be able to go to sleep.
This is a habit that he will be able to break with your help.... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 18 July 2010: Ok, thanks for your clarification..
Now we are left with a woman who feels pornography shouldn't be a part of her marriage, and a husband who agrees that his pornography use is too frequent..
Dear Poster, is that something we can agree on and... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 17 July 2010: Back to you original poster..
You have been truthfull about the way you feel, for you pornography is the same as adultry.. That's the way you feel and it's as valid as any other opinion..
Here's a post where I outline some of the things that ... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 17 July 2010: The lady hates ALL PORNOGRAPHY, so any pornography use will look excessive to her.. Nowhere in her post does she mention the word addiction, and as far as I know he hasn't been seen by a doctor for pornography addiction, and it does not seem to ... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 17 July 2010: Everyone is entitled to their opinions, but surely a challenge is needed when people put words into the Original posters mouth.
The woman mentioned issues arround pornography.. She didn't say anything about disliking masturbation. Your projecti... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 16 July 2010: PS: He does not have an addiction, he is not suitable for mental therapy. He likes pornography, and even if he stops looking at it today, next week, next month, will he be able to keep it up for the next 30-50years?
If your child is a boy, you... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to porn. Wife on the verge of leaving.
Q. My husband and I have only been married a month, but porn has been an issue since the start of our relationship. Every time I leave, after I go to bed, or get in the shower, he immediately jumps on porn sites. It blows my mind. I addressed him about ...
A. 16 July 2010: He won't stop and you won't leave, there's no solution to this problem except for you to continue to cry and weep.
There is no way to FORCE a man to give up pornography. If this is so important to you, then it's impossible for you to compromi... (read in full...)
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