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writes:does a 5 year age gap matter between a boy and girl? i am 16 and this girls 11 years old really like each other and she said that she loves me and wants me to be her boyfriend i love her enough to be her boyfriend but is it wrong for a 16 year old to go out with an 11 year old? Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine +, writes (23 August 2010):
 Your 16, legally able to have sex... you will be an adult in 2years time... She's 11, she's still a child, she hasn't even gone to secondary school yet...
Sorry, but this sounds very perverted.. What kind of person are you that you can't see that this is wrong. Would you take her out on a date with your 16year old school friends, would you tell your parents your dating an 11year old..
You sound very strange, I'm a little worried about you, only paedophiles would consider "dating" a little child.
PS: How the hell did you get to know her.. How do you two get to be alone together to talk about love and stuff. Her parents should be reported to the police because I don't think they are taking care of her.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (23 August 2010):
 You are playing with fire here. No 11 year old girl is mature enough (no matter how grown up she may think she is) to have any kind of romantic relationship. They are still children. Their bodies are still that of a child, and so are their minds. Hormones havent kicked in yet, and they have far more in common with the 8,9,10 yr olds, than those who are 12 or 13. This is why senior schools make the break when they do. Emoional and physical development. You are essentially a fully grown man. You probably have gone thru puberty, full mature in both body and sexual instinct.
Think about this. You WILL have urges. Desires, needs. What are you going to do?
Now think about what you have in common with an 11 year old? What do you like to do?
Cinema? You can see 15 films, 18 at a push. She would need an adult to see a PG! You cant do much at all. It would be like having a kid sister trailing after you.
The legal age of sexual consent in the UK is 16.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio1/advice/factfile_az/age_of_consent
If you did ANYTHING to her, before she is 13, you could be put in jail for LIFE. This is because she is a CHILD, and you are very nearly an adult.
If she is 13-15, the boy could go to prison for two years.
http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2003/42/contents have a read.
Do you see where im getting at here? She will not be old enough to have any kind of romantic or sexual relationship for another 5 years. That would make you 21. Are you prepared to wait that long?
Right now, she sees it as a game. She thinks she is grown up, and is becoming more aware of boys. Her hormones are beginning to kick in. But that is all it is. A crush. DO NOT ACT ON THIS.
Think back to how you were when you were 11. I bet you had women, girls on the brain who you thought were hot, and who got your hormones racing? Would any of those girls have acted on your attentions? No. Why? Because it would have been innapropriate.
This is where you have to start being a grown up and learning to do the right thing. Walk away, otherwise you could be getting yourself into some very hot water, not only with her parents, but also with the law. Remember, once you get put on the sex offenders register, thats it for life and most people do not tolerate the abuse of children, even if you are innocent. It follows you everywhere. Any job you went for, they would know. Your life is just beginning. Dont wreck it.
I am sure there are plenty of girls your own age who would love to go out with you. Choose one of them instead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): If you were 25 and she was 20 I would say that it didnt matter. But she 11!!! You're 16!!! You're in high school, and shes probaly still in elementary school!!! Its ok to be friends but I dont think you two should date. She said that she loves you, but when you're young you love someone else every week. I think it os wrong and you shouldnt go out with her. What would her parents think? They would probaly that you are a perv. for going out with someone that young. You should just remain friends until she is loder. I wish you the best of luck and hope that you make the right choice.:]
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reader, Blod +, writes (22 August 2010):
 When you're young, 5 years is a lot. Personally, I would say this age gap is too much. 11 years old is incredibly young and this girl is basically a child. She's only just finished primary school! On the other hand you're 16 and old enough to have sex. If you got together with this girl it would be considered very dodgy and unacceptable in many people's eyes. I'm sorry, but I doubt very much that she loves you. I think she's too young to understand the extent of her feelings. In my opinion, a LOT of people would view this relationship as "wrong".
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): Yes dude it is totally wrong and completely unacceptable for you to date a child. And 11 is a child. Even thinking about being with a young girl that age is wrong. Buddy just move on or waite until she grows up. Like 7 years! Don't be a pedofile!!!
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