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writes:My bf and I have been dating for over a year now. We've never had sex before. But we have gone passed 3rd base. I've been wanting to have sex but he's against it. Wanting to save it until after marriage. I can see why he wants to wait but sometimes my body doesn't want to stop. I can't even help myself and have been reading erotic stories online and watching some porn. Don't get me wrong. The two of us talk about sex. He just doesn't want it yet? Am I selfish not wanting to wait?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): What if it was a male asking this question because he's frustrated at his GF wanting to wait?
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (13 March 2008):
 I wouldn't call you selfish for what you want. But it's his body and if he wants to wait, he's going to wait!
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 It could be that he's terrified of actually "going there". He obviously hasn't had sex before and he simply may be nervous about actually doing it because he doesn't know how. I can understand how frustrated you must feel going so far but not actually having sexual intercourse. Heavy petting won't help, it will only make you more frustrated. If he says he doesn't want to have sex with you then you respect that, but tell him it's better to refrain from heavy petting too... see what he says.
~Eve~
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 If you think it is a noble cause to save sex until marriage, then you should not submit to your animal urges.There are other ways to release those sexual tensions.
If you want now and he does not , it means that your self is more important than your relationship.
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