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writes:Me and my boyfirend have been together off and on for 5 years. Even when we were broken up, we were still together. Up until this summer, he met a girl and started hanging out with her. at the time i was not on any medication.. and i was not a very pleasent person to be around, he couldnt do anything with out me or without hurting my feelings. i later found out that i was very depressed. i was put on medication and have been fine ever since. we have been back together for 5 months. we are now 23. he works and i work and go to school. alot of our friends have kids and are married but we never really talked about getting married or having kids, we always said we would wait and blah blah blah... well everything has been going great, we couldnt be happier! well i dont want to get hurt again with all the bs that we have been through anf put ourselves through. His family loves me and i love them. they would be so supporative with any decision that we make and anything that we do. Well i want to have a baby, he wouldnt be mad he just dosen't think that we are trying, I want to try, it's not like I'm trapping him, i just want to have a baby and start out lives together. my doctor told me that i might have a hard time getting pregnant, but they also told my mom the same thing and she had no problem either time. do you think i should tell him that i want to instead of just waiting and waiting... just try and be like, we are going to have a baby.. please HELP!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 Just let nature takes it's course. You do not have to tell anyone .
You only have to tell God that you want a child.
He will give you one when He thinks it is the right time.
Children are a blessings from God.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 Hi,
First I think you need to ensure that all your pyschological problems have been dealt with. Just because you are on medication doesnt mean you are cured. Just from the tone of the post you sound rather desperate I would advice not starting a family in this frame of mind, it is irrelevant what your friends are up to. At 23 most women are childless in most western countries the average age for a woman to give birth is 29 so you have plenty of time to plan this.
You state your relationship is on and off, getting pregnant and having a baby will put the hardest strain on your relationship, I gather from you post that you think it will help the relationship, chances are it will make it more difficult. He will have to provide for both of you, there will be sleepness nights, your depression may come back...there are so many things to consider.
I would wait, why the rush?
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