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writes:Hello every one I have had 3 children and I feel very self conscious about my body. my hubby says he loves my body but I ask the question how can you love a body that has strech marks? my belly used to be nice and flat now its like jelly and I have lots of strech marks ive used creams to get rid of them but they have only faded. Is there anyone out there that might have a tip on how I can get my belly tight and flat again ???I dont like to be naked in front of my hubby because I feel like I gross him out I know some people will say but if he really loves you then your body wont bother him and he has never said it does bother him he says I love you no matter what you look like.. can anyone give me anything that might help I want to feel sexy for my hubby again !!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2008): I agree. Time takes it toll on us all. I have put on 6 stone in weight since having my 3 children and hate the way I look. I have recently come to the conclusion that I want to change for me and am on a strict diet and exercise programme. Things like stretch marks you cannot change, but maybe you can do other things to boost your confidence and self esteem. Pamper yourself when you can. Haircuts, nails just learn to love yourself and accept what your husband says.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 We all wear and tear as we grow older.
He is not the same as when he married you.
Love covers a multitude of sins....
The most important thing is the beauty that comes from the inside.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you to you all for the advise and thanks "troubledtoomuch" its nice to hear that there are still men out there that love their girl just as they did the day they met my hubby says the same about me but its hard for us wemon to believe it as we do put to much presure on our selfs to look the best and with the way the world is today you have to weigh 50kgs to even come close to being sexy sad but true :(
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (3 March 2008):
Going to the gym or exercise will make you feel more sexy.
Don't be too judgmental or harsh on your body. Learn to love your body and do not compare to other women who have no kids or unmarried.
We all age and our body is subject to gravity and the daily attritions of life can take a toll on our body.
It is your soul that can never age. If you have a beautiful soul, you will be beautiful forever even if you look like a Russian T -54 tank.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008): There is no need to feel that way. I'm sure that he is telling the truth when he says that he loves your body. My wife and I are over 60 now and I still love her body and all about her. Does she look as hot as she did when we started dating in our mid 30s? No, but neither do I. Do I still love her body, even though her tummy is not as flat as it was then? You bet I do.
My wife looked great in her mid 30s, but she didn't feel that she looked so great. I did. Fortunately, we have some very erotic pics of her when she was about 35. She looks at them now and wonders why she didn't think that she looked great back then. Hey, you don't have to be the most beautiful woman in the world for a loving husband to think that you are to him.
As for how to get yourself back to where you want to be, I'm sorry that I don't have any suggestions. There is nothing wrong with you wanting to look better, but don't think that it is necessary to have your husband's love, both of your inner self and your outer beauty.
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reader, superbunny  +, writes (2 March 2008):
 I know over here you can buy oils + stuff that are very good at "healing"/partially "healing" stretch marks.. I don't know if they'd be the same with you..
As for the belly, I think it'd be best to excersise a little bit. Say a good fifty stomach crunches every night should tone it up a bit in no time! :]
Another way I think'd be good is go out + buy yourself some mouther-wateringly scrumptious underwear then dress up for your hubby when he comes home from work. If you don't like your belly try a sexy corset that will make him hot + you won't be self concious during foreplay. :]
Also, subtle lighting, such as candles, will not show your whole body, so you can relax, but enough to make him hot!!
I hope some of this was helpful... :] x
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