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*endylsmom
writes:I was dating this wonderful man. For some reason when i was with him i felt like i really didnt want to be with him. But now that we broke up I am miserable. The reason we broke up was b/c i was texting an ex of mine. And he ended up calling me a nigger lover. I have a biracial daughter and we are both white. That was so mean and disrespectful what if my daughter would have heard that? Anyway, for some reason i cannot stop thinking about him now. I feel like i want him back, but when i was with him i didnt really want to be with him. I felt like something was missing, and if it was so perfect why would i keep in contact with my ex? He bought me a ring, wined and dined me and treated me like a princess. His problem when we fight, we fought hard, and called eachother names, etc. Then later we always regret it. i dont know if i am in love with him or in love with with the kind of man he is b/c i have never been treated so well! But if that is the truth then why am i soooooo miserable???
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 You need to communicate with him. Then you will better understand him as he is a man and he does not know how you feel or think.
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reader, kendylsmom +, writes (2 March 2008):
kendylsmom is verified as being by the original poster of the question hmmm. maybe you guys are right. He keeps calling me so its making it difficult. maybe i will speak with him.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (2 March 2008):
Familiarity breeds contempt and absence makes the heart grows fonder.
When he is there, you do not learn how to appreciate him and when he is gone , you realized you missed him.
Each of us have a bad and a good side.
Try to focus on his good side, and you will want him .
Nobody is perfect.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (1 March 2008):
 hey hun, i was in a somewhat similar situation a few year ago with my current boyf. i had been going out with him for about 6 months, and he treated me so well - something i wasnt reallly used to. i was 18, and this was my first 'real', adult and loving relationship. i think that this kind of got to me and i thought i didnt feel the same about him (to be honest i think that i thought single life might be better) turns out, i made a mistake! now this break only lasted about 2-3 weeks, and at the end of this i met him out one night, and apologised for putting him through this, and said that i really wanted to give it another go - we are together 4yrs now. and its better then ever. so wat im trying to say is that if you dont tell him how you feel - you may never get another chance with him. and what have you got to lose? as for whether you do really love him - only you can really know that, but the fact that you have been miserable for so long indincates that you do still really care for him!talk to him hun, im sure things will work out the way they are supposed to. if you want more help, just email me id be happy to give you some insight!!xxx
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