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writes:Dear Agony Aunt,I will be fifty in a few months time, I'm single and spent the last 10 years raising two children on my own, whilst trying to succeed in a career. But men who look after kids have a glass ceiling as well, and relationships last as long as it takes to discover you have kids (and they actually live with you!).Recently, been feeling lonely, but feel a relationships has realistically past me by and think I should be trying to work out how to spend the next fifty years as a monk. Fifty year old women and other single parents just don't appeal, and anyone else seems to assume people of my age, and background should be thinking of higher things than what sex used to be like.I'm not having a middle aged crisis...I'm having a crisis. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): You have buried your sexual desire for the sake of your children but you should know that this fire can never buried. Look outside, try politley, there are so many who can satisfy you by way of sex or good female friendship.Don't bury your sexual desire, be friendly to your sex thoughts. Now you have to try for sex partner, on daily system, You will get good partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): Yes, you need to go out and socialise. Maybe go for dancing lesson, something different in the day to day life and when you have fun learning you'll meet new people i.e ladies friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): i think you should go out and meet more people and you'll find someone you will relate to and connect with your never too old for a relationship no one should be alone if they don't want to =]
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 March 2008):
 Think positive and be happy rather than think negative and feel lousy.
If you laugh ,the whole world laughs with you.
If you cry , you cry alone.
Single or married , you should be happy .
Contentment is happiness.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (9 March 2008):
 OK, are you saying 50 year old women don't appeal to you? That is a crying shame. What about 50 year old women who have taken care of themselves (and look like they're 40) and who are single and lonely and raising children alone. If you are saying you don't want one of them, that's kind of feeling the same way as what is happening to you, isn't it?
I would tell you that you are not at the end of your life and that the possibility of having a meaningful relationship is there. But you need to have a little confidence in yourself and be more positive because even us almost 50 year old women are looking for smart, sexy confident men in their 30's, 40's and 50's.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (9 March 2008):
 You remind me of my Dad.
My parents divorced almost 10 years ago. My siblings and I straight away lived with my Dad. He concentrated on his career and us kids totally up until about 3 years ago. But I could tell he was lonely and unhappy, though he tried to hide it. He was drinking more than he should. He put weight on. I could tell he missed female companionship, socialising with friends is not the same.
Then he seemed to snap out of it. He pushed himself and motivated himself to get happy, he joined the gym, he started playing football with his collegues at lunchtime. He lost weight, got fit, bought himself a new wardbrobe and started looking after himself again. He got happy in himself.
Then he met his now fiance. They're getting married later this year, and I have to say, I have never seen a romance like this one. If I ever doubted that soulmates existed, they are living proof that there is such a thing as soulmates, and their happiness is something that I aspire to achieve in my future marriage. They just seem like perfection, they have their bad days like everyone else, but sometimes I even feel jealous, I want to find a love like that.
You need to have the right attitude, I think. The way you project yourself, you want to appeal to people. I know it's hard when you're stuck in a rut, but what kind of person would you meet if you're negative and assume straight away that the relationship won't go anywhere simply because you have children?
Do what my Dad did. Get happy! Get yourself to the gym, go out to the pubs with guy friends, enjoy a little harmless flirting to boost your ego, buy yourself a new outfit, get a haircut, grow a goatee...
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