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writes: I am 19, and my boyfriend is 22...My parents were always kinda (still are sometimes) quite overprotective of me - that's why I don't even know how to ride a bike. So I've always been mostly home, yes, I did have/do have some very good friends at school and now college, however, I never did much things.Actually, my childhood was lame! I had no friends. I only played with my sister (she's a year and a half older than me), but I didn't go to the park and play, I never learnt how to ride a bike, all I did was play at home, sometimes alone, sometimes with my sister. Then at school I also didn't go out much... In highschool, I started going out and partying, and did some stuff with boys. But that was it! Going out sometimes to a friend's house to party... but I was never in a sleepover, I never went on a trip with my friends, I never had a job, I just had a pretty still life... I feel lame, uninteresting, boring!My boyfriend, on the other hand, had a very active childhood, he had a lot of friends and lots of anecdotes. When he was in high school he also weont out and partied but he also went on trips with friends, met lots of people, had jobs, etc... everything that I didn't do. HE always has anecdotes and stuff... he's way more interesting and outgoing than me!I'm the one with the "wild" sexual past, but that's nothing to me. Ok, I also feel a bit bad that he has so many girl friends, and I have practically no male friends. I feel he had more fun than me before and I envy that. I fear also that one day he'll leave me because I've always been lame and don't go out as much as other girls in our age group. My parents still restrict a lot of what I do. But still... I envy him and shouldn't what can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2012): Omg you just described exactly how I feel at the moment I feel so small and pathetic next to my boyfriend. My parents still control my life and I've never had a job, and I'm not in college now I was though thats only thing I have above my boyfriend but now I'm not even in college. I dont' have my license but my boyfriend does and has a good job and he's so outgoing and popular social everything I'm not and I envy him so much I get so angry because he's so much better than me and I feel bad for feeling that way cause I know I control my life and only I can change it and blah blah blah but I just hate feeling like this toward someone that loves me so much and treats me so great, he's my first boyfriend also. I feel so guilty and immature for being like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): Honey, I know exactly how you feel. I grew up in a tiny village and my boyfriend grew up in the city. We hardly share anything at all, aside from the odd occassion where we've watched the same TV programme, or listened to the same album (but in different generations due to him being 6 years older than me).Unfortuanately, we have to accept the fact that our boyfriends might have done things in their past that we have not been able to do, and just move on. I feel the same way you do, I worry that my bf will leave me due to the fact that I'm not from the same era, or a don't go out and do the same things he does. Only thing is this.....if that is the way it is meant to be, then so be it, but you can't change the way a person views you, so you just have to accept it. Talk to him and see what he feels, you never know....they say love conquers all, try that theory out and let us know what happens....
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 March 2008):
 Don't compare your life with others.
Each of us are unique.
Your time has not come yet.
You will do all those things you want when the time comes.
So fret not!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): Hey I know how you feel I don't know how to ride a bike either and my mom really restricts what I do too, probably more so than you and I've done less than you so don't feel bad.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (9 March 2008):
 So make up for lost time! Start being the person you want to be, stop just dreaming about it and envying him!
Make a list of what you want to do, work out what is actually do-able, and just do it!
Your boyfriend obviously likes you for being you, to be with you. So he must find you interesting, and I'm sure there are qualities that he admires and envies of you!
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