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Dating a younger man in secret..am I wasting my time?

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Question - (17 March 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 17 March 2008)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I am a 37 yo divorced single parent of two children. I have been dating a coworker for the last 5 months and it is a complete secret at work. We have a lot of fun together, but I wonder if there can really be a future with us because of the age difference and the different places we are in our lives. He is not ready to settle down right now and my concern is I know he eventually wants that and eventually wants children. By the time he is ready for that, I am afraid that I will be too old to have children. We haven't talked about this or a future, but my question is... am I wasting my time in this relationship?

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (17 March 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntYour relationship is like a ping pong ball bobbing up and down in the ocean and without any directions.

How long do you want to move from that position?

You need to have directions of where you are going.

Otherwise, time and tides wait for no man.

If you like the fun , it is a different matter.

If you are looking for a serious relationship ,

then you need to reconsider what you are doing.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008):

How old is he? I think you need to have a chat with him and see just what he does want. You are just guessing at the answers and maybe coming up with the wrong one. Maybe he really does want to have a baby in the near future. But you wont know by guessing.

take care

xx

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A female reader, thatgothgirl20 United States +, writes (17 March 2008):

thatgothgirl20 agony auntYou should talk to him about these things. I know that it may/might seem to early in the relationship to talk to him about these things, but you need to address important things first, so that you can both know that neither of you is wasting your time.

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