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writes:Hi i'm in a new relationship yeah for me! I'ts been a while! but all we have in common is great sex. I know he is only calling me because of this but I don't care cause I like having sex with him . Should I stop this I know it's bad? right? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): I think being in a just about sex relationship destroys your self esteem. On some level you have to be thinking, "why doesn't he want me for a girlfriend"? and wondering what is "wrong" with you in his eyes that he does not want to you for a regular girlfriend. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying there is something wrong with you. I am saying this type of relationship is self-destructive. Do yourself a favor, leave him. End it quickly and completely. Be happy with yourself about the decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): I don't think you are asking the right question, is it good or is it bad?
You might ask yourself how you feel about this guy after having sex with him, do you think that you have some emotions there as well, will you feel jealous if he sleeps with someone else or breaks a date, or doesn't call or hurts your feelings, or loses respect for you?
Sex without strings is a great deal for the guy, but most women are wired differently than men, we have a strong biological urge to bond with our mate or our sexual partner, it can be very hard to extricate yourself from this type of set up without a lot of anquish, so know that going in, and behave accordingly.
You know yourself best and how you are wired up....
I know I couldn't do it, I would be lying to myself telling myself I don't want more, when I do....I have to really have feelings for a man to have sex with him, I don't know about you.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 March 2008):
 You may like it now but I hope when this ends , you won't feel cheap , used or dirty.
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reader, Skeez  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 I dont see the problem with you seeing him and having sex if thats all you want right now. But then again, if you wanted more, he might not be committing to do so, but carry on if you wish darling if all you want is no string attached sex.
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reader, stivi 123 +, writes (17 March 2008):
There is nothing wrong with being in a relation ship just for sex, but it seems like he might be taking advantage of this.maybe you should talk to him and see whether you are able to be more like a proper couple.
Stivi 123
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): If you just want a sexual relationship with him and nothing more, then what is the problem.
If you want to be given more respect or receive the benefits of a proper relationship, then have more respect for yourself and place a higher value on what you give up for free.
You don't get any prizes for being just easy. But that's your call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): It's only going to end in tears honey. Please, respect yourself and get out of this 'relationship' before it's too late. Sex alone is no base for any couple.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 I beg to differ about calling it a relationship. In my humble opinion, you don't have a relationship, but sex together. Whether you will go on with it, or not, that's for you to decide.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): you say you know it's bad but then you ask "right?"well everyone has different views but generally speaking yes it's bad and if i were you i would end the relationship
-michael
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