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writes:I met this great guy who happens to be 4 years younger than me. He is 20 and im 24. We are perfect for each other. Yet, im having a horrible time because my mom is totally hating the idea that this guy and i like each other. My boss likes me and she wants me to end up with him because he is a great guy as well but i only like him as a friend. She does not even know him and she is already telling me he most likely will cheat on me, get bored, and so on. The reason she thinks this is because he is a model. But i swear never had a met such a sweet and respectful guy. What can i do to get my mom to accept him? Ugh..
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 March 2010):
 Your mother probably has a biased and stereotype opinion of models.It is not easy to change her opinions on this issue.
You could bring him over to meet her often to see for herself and hopefully he can change her mindset.
Your mother is not entirely wrong because being models , they face many temptations in their careers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): Your mom is probably saying these things because she is disappointed you are not with the guy she would like you to be with. However, it is your life and your decision, and you should be with whoever makes you happy.
Has she met the guy you like? Maybe if she were to meet him, it might break the ice between them, and help her to see what he is like and how much you like each other. Other than that, I'm not sure if you can make her like him. I think you should just carry on and try and ignore your moms comments. After a while, she will probably get tired of saying the same thing, and when she sees how happy the other guy makes you, she might change her opinion.
But please try not to let her negative comments get to you. There will always be things our parents disapprove of, but we have to live our own lives! So do what makes YOU happy. Good luck. x
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reader, mustelidmaniac +, writes (8 March 2010):
 Honestly, I think ultimately you should do what YOU want to do, not what your mom wants you to do. It is your life, so you should make those decisions. Also, I just came out of an 8 year relationship where my dad hated my fiance for most of it. Since we were together for so long, he finally just got over it and realized we weren't breaking up and that if he wanted a future in my life, he needed to be nice to my fiance. So, time can definitely be a factor. However, there are some parents who no matter what will always hate him, even if you've been happily married for years! With those parents, you essentially need to explain to them that while they may not like your significant other, they need to at least be polite and respectful and not let those negative feelings show, otherwise can have implications for your relationship, kids, etc. If your relationship persists, just give your mom time! If she realizes he's a keeper, she may change her mind and get used to him. As long as she isn't directly mean to him, try bringing him around her more. He may grow on her. Also, make sure he is on his best behavior when around her :)Given that he is a sweetie that probably won't be an issue. Good luck!
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