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26-29,
anonymous
writes:First of all, I'm 14 years old and he's somewhere between 28-35.I know this doesn't sound right but I've really got a problem in here.It's been three years already and I cannot get over him.This feeling is growing stronger and stronger because I love everything about him... It does start to hurt and I don't know what to do anymore.I never told anyone RL because I just can't take the risk. I know if anything happened he would be in danger and besides I don't even know if he likes me... though he used to flirt a lot before.I have no idea what to do... when he's around in the class I'm totally lost.How could I let him know or try not to make it obvious? What's the best one..? I really need help.Also, all those fantasies about him and sleepless nights or drams about him.How can I get over this?I can't transfer schools or seek for professional help.Please... I could really use some advice. Thank you!
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reader, mysterious_blonde_lady  +, writes (9 March 2010):
:S:S:S You don't want him to notice you trust me. I had a crush on my teacher when i was your age also. And for me it went somewhere- he fancied me also, we fancied eachother things progressed to the point where he was touching me and getting me to see him... but it wasnt like what i thought. The only man of that age who would do things with a 14 year old girl is a paedophile. My teacher abused me for 4 years until i left; he tried to blackmail me when i refused him and when i reported him i was not believed. I went to the police and they couldn't do anything without evidence. To put yourself in such a position is dangerous and foolish. You are young and you have your whole life ahead of you, please please! dont make the mistake i did and involve yourself with a man whom will have done this a million times before. My teacher had groomed and molested 4 girls before me, and still nothing was ever done about him because of a lack of witnesses. A man who is attracted to and acts upon attractions towards 14 year olds is not normal and often deluded. Don't worry about him getting in trouble because if he did anything quite frankly, he deserves to be in a cell. It would NEVER be your fault. Please be careful.
Also; You will find that your attractions have very little to do with the man you have associated them with and more to do with something in your own life. Whats missing? What in your life are you trying to escape by developing this attraction? What possible benefits do you see from a union with a man who will not have your best interests at heart? Why are you focussing your attention on someone that will only cause you pain, why are obsessing about something that is detrimental to you and dangerous. Dont give someone you don't know the power to influence the rest of your life, he is no different from any man off the street; academics have given him the chance to teach not moral standards. You need to address the issues in your life, these are what have pushed forward these feelings- you do not know or understand this man, we cannot want for things we do not know or understand that is only foolishness.
I hope things go ok, and you find what it is you are looking for x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): Thank you for the link... and no he isn't married and he is also single.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 March 2010):
 You can go to this link and there are many girls like you who have this problem of falling in love with their teachers.
You will understand and will overcome what you are experiencing now.
http://laura1318.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/help-i-am-falling-in-love-with-my-teacher/
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): So what your saying is you idealizing him as he takes notice of you and mord like a really good teacher thats what he is a teacher More likely hes marrid as well and due to you likeing him so much is not uncommon i did the samething when i was at school a art teacher But you need to find some way of looking at the person as a older man and as a teacher Your 14 and to young to even concider even looking at him in any other way its ok being friends but only in the class room thats his job thats what hes paid to do and i very much dout he thinks of you after school he be doing what normal adults do down the pub with his mates
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