Our relationship is basically everything without a label?
Q. Hi everyone, I find myself stuck in a rut with a lot of history...so here goes the story: I've been with this guy for over 2 years (we're both 20), but we still don't have that "boyfriend/girlfriend" label. We weren't too sure if we wanted that k...
A. 19 April 2010: Ask him to come out because you have something important to discuss with him.
Tell him directly that you are looking for a committed relationship with him.You relationship needs to have a status.Get a commitment from him.
If he cannot give y... (read in full...)
Not realizing what you have got until it is gone.
Q. Hello all, The feedback I received last time from you all was fantastic, so here goes current question: Everyone needs a little personal space. I am an only child, treasure my alone time, and am head over heels in love with my now ex-boyfriend...
A. 10 April 2010: Best of luck to you and hope that you will make a wise decision .
God bless you !... (read in full...)
Need help not feeling guilty for wanting to move on from me ex who cheated on me..
Q. How do I stay strong and not feel guilty for wanting to move on from my ex who cheated on me and made a child as a result? Im finding it extremely difficult not to feel sorry for my ex.. I want to move on and heal my heart, so I changed my phone ...
A. 8 April 2010: One day of sadness is one less day of happiness in your life.
Don't be taken in by a wolf in sheep's clothing. Never listen to someone's sob stories. What they shed are only crocodiles tears .
It is not the externals that count but what you can... (read in full...)
Is fate trying to tell us something?
Q. okay well, i was in love with my best friend of four and a half years, and i think he loved me back, but he said he didnt believe in love, i was just 'different from anyother girl he'd ever known' etc im sure you get where im going with this so ...
A. 8 April 2010: Life and death is not in our hands.
There are some cancer patients who survived and there are some patients who die even when there are modern, sophisticated medical and scienctific methods
Not all diseases in this world are curable .
Who... (read in full...)
Need help not feeling guilty for wanting to move on from me ex who cheated on me..
Q. How do I stay strong and not feel guilty for wanting to move on from my ex who cheated on me and made a child as a result? Im finding it extremely difficult not to feel sorry for my ex.. I want to move on and heal my heart, so I changed my phone ...
A. 8 April 2010: Don't open his mails or read his notes. Throw them away or delete it and he will soon give up. Harden your heart. ... (read in full...)
Need help not feeling guilty for wanting to move on from me ex who cheated on me..
Q. How do I stay strong and not feel guilty for wanting to move on from my ex who cheated on me and made a child as a result? Im finding it extremely difficult not to feel sorry for my ex.. I want to move on and heal my heart, so I changed my phone ...
A. 8 April 2010: I think the only thing you can do now is to get far far away from him and this problem. You are too troubled and unstable to come to any major decisions.
Take a 'time out' and go and enjoy your life. In time, you will see more clearly and will... (read in full...)
Unsure if I should go meet this guy! Help!
Q. hi this 19 yr old guy (and im 13) likes me and i like him back and he is planning for me to go to america to meet him when im 18 and im unsure whether to go coz of age differences and that ive never met him before, Sounds like a really sweet, ...
A. 8 April 2010: They are very clever to masquerade as an innocent 14 or 19 years old.
You don't expect them to announce that they are paedophiles or wear a badge around their necks.... (read in full...)
Is fate trying to tell us something?
Q. okay well, i was in love with my best friend of four and a half years, and i think he loved me back, but he said he didnt believe in love, i was just 'different from anyother girl he'd ever known' etc im sure you get where im going with this so ...
A. 8 April 2010: To each his/her own . You either believe it is fate or you don't. Whatever your opinions , you are entitled to it.
Whatever you want to say,it will never convinced me . Let's agree that we don't agree on this thing called 'Fate.'
Live and let ... (read in full...)
Is fate trying to tell us something?
Q. okay well, i was in love with my best friend of four and a half years, and i think he loved me back, but he said he didnt believe in love, i was just 'different from anyother girl he'd ever known' etc im sure you get where im going with this so ...
A. 7 April 2010: Yes! Fate can be kind or can be cruel. Whether you believed it or not , it does not matter .
Everything happens according to the way it is written in the 'Book of Life .'... (read in full...)
The love of my life is married to a monster! Do I help or step back?
Q. hi i have been with the love of my life for five years this year and we have become so close over the five years. We have been through alot, including a near death experience where she was nearly kidnapped. she is married and has two amazing small ...
A. 7 April 2010: Just listen to her and do as she says. If you go there, you would complicate matters and may even cause more problems to her.
Don't worry about the kids. No sane father would want to hurt them.
She does not need your help now and you only nee... (read in full...)
Should I marry my friend to save him from deportation?
Q. Okay this is super complicated. My best friends and I were a trio, and one of them needed a way to stay in the USA because he was at risk of being deported. At first I agreed to marry him, but then my parents wouldn't allow me to go through with it ...
A. 7 April 2010: Maybe , your friends has disappeared and become illegals .They dare not contact you in case they exposed themselves to the authorities.They are in hiding.
There is nothing you can do anymore for them. You offered them a way out but they rejected... (read in full...)
I'm having weird dreams about our relationship
Q. i know this post might sound a little stupid but i keep having weird dreams every night. dreams that involve me getting accused cheating on my boyfriend and he ends up leaving me, its really long dreams, have dreams that my boyfriend is holding ...
A. 7 April 2010: Did you experience any relationship traumas? Do you feel guilty or insecure about your b/f?
This could cause you to have those weird dreams.... (read in full...)
It's been almost a week and he still hasn't called...
Q. My friend and her boyfriend have been trying to set me up with a friend of his for awhile now. For about a month we had a hard time all getting together because he works two jobs and I have crazy long work hours myself. Finally last week, she called ...
A. 7 April 2010: I don't think he will make that call. He is holding two jobs and I think he cannot commit himself into any relationship at the moment.
He does not have the time and I assume that it can be troublesome to him to have a relationship.
He is s... (read in full...)
Has our relationship run its course, or are we going into another stage?
Q. I've been with my BF for about 8 months. In the beginning we stayed up really late just talking, everything was more special when he was around, I was in another world when I was around him, and things just seemed to great. Over the last month o...
A. 7 April 2010: When you start to distance yourself from the other and you argue more often. That's the signal that your relationship is going downhill...... (read in full...)
Is being on top less like to get a girl pregnant?
Q. Hey my friend told me if a girl is on top during sex its less likely to get pregnit with out a condom is that true?...
A. 7 April 2010: Sperms can live in your body from 3to 7 days and they have plenty of time to swim at leisure or get lost on the way and can still meet with their date.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend talks to himself! Should I be disturbed about this?
Q. My boyfriend talks to himself. If I would have known this when we first met two years ago, I would have never talked to him. It disturbs me and he sees talking to himself as being more intellectually intuned than other humans. I have no clue what to ...
A. 7 April 2010: Some people think aloud and they feel better when they do that instead of only thinking in their head. It is not the same. When you talk to yourself , you hear those words clearly and effectively. There is nothing wrong with talking to onese... (read in full...)
I want to feel the way I used to about him to save our marriage, what do I need to do to get it back?
Q. Me and my husband are both in the Marines and we got married each other after knowing one another only 5 months. We were so crazy about each other at that time though. The problem is, the first year of our marriage was horrible. I felt like he ...
A. 7 April 2010: Both of you have the wrong timing. It is like doing the Cha Cha dance. Your timing is out and you need to synchronize your timing again. Look at him from the eyes of another woman and look at his positive points. Go to those places w... (read in full...)
My best friend is a male, and lately his attitude has changed
Q. I've been best friends with this hispanic guy (I'm hispanic as well. We'll call him Ruben) for a little over 2 years now. What people thought was odd was that he and I didn't enjoy thothers's company back then when I started marching band (I was a ...
A. 7 April 2010: Don't end the friendship. Let it find it's own level. Some day he may come in useful. A friend is always a friend no matter what.... (read in full...)
We broke up, she went back to her ex but 2 months later says she still cares. Do I wait?
Q. ok here is the my story... I met a girl about 2 years ago, we became friend and eventually great friends. she was in a relationship when we met. never apporached her, we were just friends well her relationship ended... we were at a bar with mutual f...
A. 7 April 2010: Do not have any expectations from her. This way you won't be in for any disappointments when she won't come back to you .
Carry on your life and move on.... (read in full...)
Weary about dating a co-worker, but did I miss my chance?
Q. I've been flirting with a co-worker for a few months now. Bam! It was intense attraction from the get go. We are both single but hes not ready for relationship at moment. We sexted and talked on phone almost every night. I told him at the beginning ...
A. 7 April 2010: You will have to get back into his world and share his interest.Find out what is his interest and where he goes after work.... (read in full...)
Completely messed up situation with my boyfriend, please help me!
Q. Ok, I need some major advice. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months and some change. He gave me a key to his house because when I stay the night I will stay at his house when he leaves for work. The only rule with the key is that I let ...
A. 7 April 2010: He should not be acting that way. That is not right. It looks like he does not want you to know about his other personal life.
Listen to what he has to say tomorrow .... (read in full...)
Do I just move on or tell my ex how I feel?
Q. Really need some advice! My girlfriend finished me a few months ago because she hated the LDR we were in. We got along amazingly well but she hated not seeing me. We had been together about 6 months and everything was perfect, the best relation...
A. 7 April 2010: I think you should let the past go and it is not to anyone's advantage to confess your feelings for her when you have broken up.
If you are meant to be together , your path will cross again in the future and if she is available you can then con... (read in full...)
Is sex more than once a month too much to ask?
Q. I am 31 years old and have been married for almost 4 years. We have sex almost every month. I don't want to sound like a pervert but i started masturbating when my husband is not home which is most of the time since he's a truck driver. I know i ...
A. 7 April 2010: You need to communicate your feelings to him. He may not be aware of how you felt. Don't be ashamed to tell him that you need affection from him too,just like your kids.
Some men are not aware of that or they take it for granted.I think you can ... (read in full...)
Not realizing what you have got until it is gone.
Q. Hello all, The feedback I received last time from you all was fantastic, so here goes current question: Everyone needs a little personal space. I am an only child, treasure my alone time, and am head over heels in love with my now ex-boyfriend...
A. 7 April 2010: That is good,Explore your limits and live life to the extremes.Everyday is a new day and a new experience.
Just live in the present and let the past go.... (read in full...)
His lack of responses to my text messages has me concerned. What should I do?
Q. Ok ill make this quick- i recently have been texting a guy, in which we both have the intention to see where things go. Be it just friendship, sex, or more. I really sense he's a genuine guy from what i previously gathered and learned from talking ...
A. 7 April 2010: Could it be his friend or room mate sending those texts without his knowledge?
Just call him up and speak about this issue.... (read in full...)
Need help not feeling guilty for wanting to move on from me ex who cheated on me..
Q. How do I stay strong and not feel guilty for wanting to move on from my ex who cheated on me and made a child as a result? Im finding it extremely difficult not to feel sorry for my ex.. I want to move on and heal my heart, so I changed my phone ...
A. 7 April 2010: Give him a final ultimatum that if he does not stay away from you nor respect your decision ,you would make the final decision there and then.
It would be take about a few months or possibly a year to decide if he has changed.
... (read in full...)
Need help not feeling guilty for wanting to move on from me ex who cheated on me..
Q. How do I stay strong and not feel guilty for wanting to move on from my ex who cheated on me and made a child as a result? Im finding it extremely difficult not to feel sorry for my ex.. I want to move on and heal my heart, so I changed my phone ...
A. 7 April 2010: That is a very sensible and rational decision.I would agree with you that he is only human and he made a mistake.
If you have love ,everything is possible.
Talk to him and tell him that you need more time to think about this issue and ask hi... (read in full...)
I am a caregiver and this 11 year old kid has a crush on me! How do I handle this in an appropraite manner?
Q. Okay, I know this is a love/sex/relationship ect. advice website, but I'm hoping some one could help me out with this one: I work at a daycare part-time and I really enjoy my job. The age range is 2-11. I am close with all the kids and they really ...
A. 7 April 2010: I think you should not give him any encouragements and treat him in a more professional way .You could also consult your other caregivers and ask them how they handle such cases.... (read in full...)
I have bad luck with relationships! Will I ever find true love?
Q. dear cupid, I am a 34 year old female with very bad luck in love. Sometimes I think its my karma, because when i was 14 years old, I betrayed someone's trust, the biggest mistake of my life. Anyway, I have only had unhappy(at best) or horribl...
A. 7 April 2010: You should think positive always. If you always think positive, it will attract those positive things.
Everything happens for a reason and God has a plan for you .... (read in full...)
Unsure if I should go meet this guy! Help!
Q. hi this 19 yr old guy (and im 13) likes me and i like him back and he is planning for me to go to america to meet him when im 18 and im unsure whether to go coz of age differences and that ive never met him before, Sounds like a really sweet, ...
A. 7 April 2010: It is just sweet talk only and don't put too much faith in those words.
5 years is still a very long time away and anything can happen.
Wait until you come to the bridge and decide if you want to cross it.
He is just building castles in the ... (read in full...)
He doesn't believe I was a virgin!
Q. Alrite so theres this guy .. we've been dating about 7 mnths now... and we had sex for the first time ... he was a virgin and so was i !... i've never been physical with any guy in my life expect him. then after the sex he tells me that he does...
A. 7 April 2010: He is under the misconception that bleeding is a must to prove virginity.
I am sorry ,there is nothing you can do to convince him until one day he finds out the truth.
Now you have two options.
1) To hold firm to your views
2) To acc... (read in full...)
Is it fair to ask my handyman boyfriend to paint for free?
Q. My boyfiend of 5 years is a handy man on the side I have asked him to paint my kitchen and he said he would give me an estimate Is it unfair to ask him to do it for free or what is a reasonable labor cost? I dont mind paying but.... ...
A. 7 April 2010: I think it is unfair to ask him to do it for free. That is taking advantage of him.
A fair wage for a fair work. If he does not work for you , he could be somewhere else making the same amount of money.
Also if you asked somebody to do t... (read in full...)
Is fate trying to tell us something?
Q. okay well, i was in love with my best friend of four and a half years, and i think he loved me back, but he said he didnt believe in love, i was just 'different from anyother girl he'd ever known' etc im sure you get where im going with this so ...
A. 7 April 2010: I believe in fate. Everything is fated.
Your destiny is preordained and you cannot escape from destiny.You either follow your destiny or it will drag you there.
All the other doors will be closed and only one door will open to you .
That i... (read in full...)
Do I ignore my boyfriends anger?
Q. I have written previously about my boyfriends anger problem...which I think is hereditary. He is Italian and hot tempered. I wonder if my only recourse is to ignore it if I want the relationship to work. He gets upset all the time. If something ...
A. 6 April 2010: If you love him and can accept his ways, you can just ignore his anger or avoid saying anything or do anything until the storm blows over.... (read in full...)
Do I contact this guy from 8 years ago?
Q. My question is do i or dont i contact him? I met this guy about 8 years ago whilst I was travelling and we had a very full on and passionate affair as most travelling relationships are. It all ended when my visa ran out and I had to go home. we...
A. 6 April 2010: It is good to reconnect back with old friends. There is nothing better than to know how one is getting on .
Call him.... (read in full...)
I thought she was joking but no, she's serious! She's going to hotel in a different city to lose her virginity with this random guy!
Q. Help! My friend met this guy on holiday last August, and kept in contact with him, even though he lives far away. Anyway, they have pretty sexual chats and she talks to him all the time and stuff. However he does this with a lot of girls. He added ...
A. 6 April 2010: If you tell her the dangers of gang rape, STD's or being sold into white slavery and she does not even care, there is nothing more you can do.
He could be a convicted felon or a paedophile or a gangster or a mentally insane guy and the sex act ... (read in full...)
Help in deprogramming the Subconscious!
Q. If you've been deeply influenced through martial arts (brainwashed) to be "under" the teacher and have been in a serious relationship with him for 10 years, what are some resources to help deprogram the subconscious if all other avenues of strength ...
A. 6 April 2010: If nothing works, leave him or go to someplace where he cannot meet you and his influence will wane.... (read in full...)
Need help not feeling guilty for wanting to move on from me ex who cheated on me..
Q. How do I stay strong and not feel guilty for wanting to move on from my ex who cheated on me and made a child as a result? Im finding it extremely difficult not to feel sorry for my ex.. I want to move on and heal my heart, so I changed my phone ...
A. 6 April 2010: Learn to say 'NO!' Be firm and stand your ground.
He is harassing you and you could take out an AVO against him. This will keep him away from you ... (read in full...)
Not realizing what you have got until it is gone.
Q. Hello all, The feedback I received last time from you all was fantastic, so here goes current question: Everyone needs a little personal space. I am an only child, treasure my alone time, and am head over heels in love with my now ex-boyfriend...
A. 6 April 2010: I am glad that you have such a positive attitude towards this issue.Always try to think positive.
He is in a rebound relationship and somewhere down the road , he may have regrets or remorse .
What then ? Would you still accept him back?... (read in full...)
She seems to like me but I am not sure
Q. I already asked a question is she a lesbian. well I'm getting the vibe that she is gay..my friend who is bi talks to her sometimes and thinks she is too. well this woman I like has short carrot top hair and wears guy clothes. I want to kno...
A. 6 April 2010: The way you describe the meeting with her, I think she has taken a liking to you .
Good luck to you .... (read in full...)
Is making out with another girl considered cheating?
Q. I have been in a serious relationship over for a year and a half. Occasionally, when I go out with my friends, I make out with other girls. My boyfriend is aware of this. However, the other night, I ended up sleeping with another girl. Should I tell ...
A. 6 April 2010: It is considered cheating because you had an emotional or physical attachment to another person other than your b/f.
As to whether to tell him , you will have to use your own discretion.
Can he accept the truth and forgive you ? ... (read in full...)
I'd rather just cuddle than have sex, what does that mean?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years, we've had our ups and downs, but we really love each other. We dont live together anymore because neither of us can afford it (we both pay for our own schooling and work full time, etc etc), ...
A. 6 April 2010: You could be tired and stressed from school and work and do not have the energy for sex.
Hence , you find sex is so mundane. It could also be a lack of sexual experience on his side and as a result , he is unable to make you sexually satisfie... (read in full...)
How do I be content and happy with what I have, and not always seek out the excitement of something new?
Q. Before my current BF, I've never had a proper BF. I've been on dates but never a long term relationship. I usually chased all the guys and I always ended up getting hurt. But the chase was so exciting and I love the feeling of something new an...
A. 6 April 2010: Count your blessings and treasure what you have. Think of those less fortunate ones, who have nothing and consider yourself very blessed.
You may find new hobbies or activities to do and you can switch those activities once you get bored. ... (read in full...)
Never mind the presents - My family don't even acknowledge my birthday!
Q. Am i being selfish and self centred or am i allowed to be sad over this? is it me or is it them? I just recently had my 20th birthday last wednesday, i live away from home to study and on my birthday neither of my called to say happy birthday. ...
A. 6 April 2010: HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY TO YOU ! Cheer Up!
I am sorry your parents and sisters did not reciprocate their feelings on your big day.
What a bummer!
Maybe, you should not send anything to them for next year.
God Bless you !... (read in full...)
Does the vagina change after giving birth?
Q. Hi, I'm 4 months pregnant. I'm thinking of going for a natural birth if my health is good at the time of delivery. But I have some serious concerns. Does the vagina change after a natural birth? Does it affect the sex life later on? Does the vagi...
A. 6 April 2010: The vagina should go back to the original size after child birth.Your vagina would go back to normal about 6 weeks after giving birth!
Different women may experience different changes in their vagina. Some may find them tighter ,some looser, ... (read in full...)
Not realizing what you have got until it is gone.
Q. Hello all, The feedback I received last time from you all was fantastic, so here goes current question: Everyone needs a little personal space. I am an only child, treasure my alone time, and am head over heels in love with my now ex-boyfriend...
A. 6 April 2010: What an irony! He is involved in a rebound relationship. It was not just the sex alone and he lied to you .
I am sorry and you cannot do much now except to let him go. You could wait for him but I think you are better off moving on from him.... (read in full...)
Our relationship is basically everything without a label?
Q. Hi everyone, I find myself stuck in a rut with a lot of history...so here goes the story: I've been with this guy for over 2 years (we're both 20), but we still don't have that "boyfriend/girlfriend" label. We weren't too sure if we wanted that k...
A. 6 April 2010: You need to know what you want in life and where you want to go. If he cannot agree with you , you will have to leave him behind.Be more assertive.
From now on , it is on your terms. Take it or leave it... (read in full...)
Will cleaning up after sex lessen your chances of getting pregnant?
Q. Hi my boyfriend and I are trying for a baby. We have been living toether for 2 years and r financialy ready. My sister had problem concieving so I am afraid this will happen to me to as I no many women who have miscarried lately. Anyway my question ...
A. 6 April 2010: Don't worry ,there are plenty of them left inside of you and they can live inside of your from 3 to 7 days.
It only take one sperm to conceive and each time he ejaculates from 300 millions to 700 millions of them.... (read in full...)
I played with fire and I got burned!
Q. I cheated I came clean and now my husband has walked out on me! I'm so sad I regret it so much I know I'm not innocent I made a big mistake but I want him back! I wish I could turn back time and never played this stupid game I'm hurting and I'm ...
A. 6 April 2010: That is great and I hope that everything will end in the positive.Accept whatever comes your way.... (read in full...)
His ex gf moved in with 'his' Mom! This has upset me! What can I do?
Q. Long Story short. Me and my guy have been together for a couple years now. His ex-girlfriend of 6 years just moved in with his mom and it's driving me crazy. My BF and I live together about 20miles away from his mom, "all of a sudden", his mom calls ...
A. 6 April 2010: You cannot do anything about his ex staying at his mom's place.
You will have to share your concerns and feelings with your b/f about it and let him know where are your limits and boundaries are.
It looks like his mom has a diabolical plan ... (read in full...)
Our relationship is basically everything without a label?
Q. Hi everyone, I find myself stuck in a rut with a lot of history...so here goes the story: I've been with this guy for over 2 years (we're both 20), but we still don't have that "boyfriend/girlfriend" label. We weren't too sure if we wanted that k...
A. 5 April 2010: You are neither here nor there. You need to either carve out your own path or remain a martyr or a doormat to him.
You should get back into the control seat, harden your heart and walk away from all those unpleasant experiences.
... (read in full...)
Not realizing what you have got until it is gone.
Q. Hello all, The feedback I received last time from you all was fantastic, so here goes current question: Everyone needs a little personal space. I am an only child, treasure my alone time, and am head over heels in love with my now ex-boyfriend...
A. 5 April 2010: Man can have sex with anyone without feeling any emotional attachments.
If you love him , you should not let that incident affect you . Even diamonds have flaws and no one is perfect. ... (read in full...)
My best friend is a male, and lately his attitude has changed
Q. I've been best friends with this hispanic guy (I'm hispanic as well. We'll call him Ruben) for a little over 2 years now. What people thought was odd was that he and I didn't enjoy thothers's company back then when I started marching band (I was a ...
A. 5 April 2010: It is the end of the road for him when you mentioned that you are in a committed relationship and turned him down.
He cannot expect much from this relationship and he would rather expand his energies elsewhere.... (read in full...)
I played with fire and I got burned!
Q. I cheated I came clean and now my husband has walked out on me! I'm so sad I regret it so much I know I'm not innocent I made a big mistake but I want him back! I wish I could turn back time and never played this stupid game I'm hurting and I'm ...
A. 1 April 2010: It isn't the problem along the way that make us or break us. It's how we learn to stand and face them that makes the difference.
Don't wallow in your self pity. Stand up , don't stop, keep walking ahead and don't look back.... (read in full...)
I played with fire and I got burned!
Q. I cheated I came clean and now my husband has walked out on me! I'm so sad I regret it so much I know I'm not innocent I made a big mistake but I want him back! I wish I could turn back time and never played this stupid game I'm hurting and I'm ...
A. 31 March 2010: Pick up what is left and build yourself a new life. Don't cry over spilt milk.
If he wants you back , he will come for you . All you can do now is to wait for him to heal , to forgive and to take you back.
Nothing you say or do now will move... (read in full...)
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