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writes:My friend and her boyfriend have been trying to set me up with a friend of his for awhile now. For about a month we had a hard time all getting together because he works two jobs and I have crazy long work hours myself. Finally last week, she called me while I was at work and asked if I could meet up with all of them at the bar after work. We all had a good time and he asked if we would like to come over his place and hang out, which we all ended up doing. My friend had told him flat out while we were still at the bar that I was interested in him. Anyway, we had a fun time. He was a total gentleman. My friend and her boyfriend left early and I stayed for another couple hours and hung out. He never tried to make a move but he kept patting the seat beside him to have me sit close and little touches on the knee. When it got late, I left, expecting he might ask for my number but he didn't. My friends boyfriend saw him Thursday night and asked him what he thought. He said he never saw him act so shy....don't really know what that means. He said "she was really nice" He asked if he wanted my number and he said yes. I've asked a few people and have gotten all sorts of different answers, I'm used to guys either calling right away or within just a couple days but it's been almost a week. I figure maybe he's just not interested, but why wouldn't he just tell my friends boyfriend when he asked him? Most of my guy friends say give him a few more days to call before I dismiss it all since were so busy and it was a holiday weekend. Any opinions??
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 April 2010):
No matter how much a man has on in his life, if he is interested, he will make effort one way or another. If he has not called by Monday, then he's not interested and you should move on.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 April 2010):
 I don't think he will make that call. He is holding two jobs and I think he cannot commit himself into any relationship at the moment.
He does not have the time and I assume that it can be troublesome to him to have a relationship.
He is simply not ready to be in a relationship.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (7 April 2010):
 I'd let him call you. He knows you're interested, he's got your number and apparently he thinks you're nice...so if he's interested he will call.
Your guy friends tell you to give him a few days. You shouldn't wait a set amount of days and then 'dismiss' him. Go on with your life without waiting for anything, if he calls take it as it comes.
But, I'd say that no matter how busy he was, if he was really keen, he would have called by now. Maybe I'm wrong and maybe something's come up, but usually if a man's interested he will not wait, just in case someone else gets there before him.
So don't wait for anything, go on living as you normally would. If he calls it's all good, if not, you won't feel like you've wasted a few days 'waiting' for that phonecall.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (7 April 2010):
 Give him a bit more time, because of the Easter holiday. If he hasn't called by next week, it's safe to say, he's probably not interested.
He sounds like a gentleman, how's he supposed to tell his friend that he dosen't like you. Not a gentlemanly thing to say.
He's had tons of opportunities to get your number and call you back, he's not running to the phone because I think that you and him don't suit. Anyway, who knows what's going on his life, he may have heartbreak, commitments or illness that we don't know about.
Give him until Monday, and then put it down to a lovely evening with a nice guy and begin your search again.
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