Is there anything I should do?
Q. I'm a singer in a hotel and my boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationship. It's really hard for me not to be with him, but i need to work for my sister's.. Anyway, i had a bit of a problem with my boyfriend. I just noticed that this past ...
A. 3 August 2010: If he cannot defend you from his mom , he is not worthy of your considerations. I don't see any future in this relationship.
If you think there is still hope, you will face lots of difficulties and problems .... (read in full...)
Sister staying in bad marriage for the kids--should she do this?
Q. It pains me to no end that my sister married a pathological liar. He lied about everything before they got married. He lied about his childhood, he lied about being in the army, he lied about what his family's line of work, he lied about being an ...
A. 27 April 2010: It is great to see that you care so much about your sister's well being. May God bless you .... (read in full...)
He says he is happy but is giving me mixed signals
Q. ok well this is my problem. Me and my ex boyfriend were quite happy when we were living together. we were even talking about getting married and raising a family. then we ran into money troubles and ended up renting off my mother. I lost my job and ...
A. 26 April 2010: I am afraid he is not ready to commit yet . You can only have him as a friend and no more. Don't expect too much from this relationship.... (read in full...)
My best friend is a male, and lately his attitude has changed
Q. I've been best friends with this hispanic guy (I'm hispanic as well. We'll call him Ruben) for a little over 2 years now. What people thought was odd was that he and I didn't enjoy thothers's company back then when I started marching band (I was a ...
A. 7 April 2010: Don't end the friendship. Let it find it's own level. Some day he may come in useful. A friend is always a friend no matter what.... (read in full...)
Is it the end? Or should I just try harder?
Q. I said I should move out, but now I want to stay and work things out. I've been here before i'm afraid. I have been seeing my girlfriend for 18 months and we moved in together 6 months ago. We encountered a few problems early on when we moved ...
A. 5 April 2010: Tue love will stand the test of time. It doesn't matter what you told her. It would make no difference to her if she wants to leave you .
Time can change a person perspective. She too will have her doubts and anxieties.
If your destiny is ... (read in full...)
Is it the end? Or should I just try harder?
Q. I said I should move out, but now I want to stay and work things out. I've been here before i'm afraid. I have been seeing my girlfriend for 18 months and we moved in together 6 months ago. We encountered a few problems early on when we moved ...
A. 5 April 2010: Treat the separation like R & R . Get yourself detoxified and see things from a new perspective.
Go back into your old world and keep yourself busy.
If you love her, let her go, if she comes back then she is yours.... (read in full...)
My g/f wants me to skip my brother's wedding for our anniversary
Q. Dear readers, I have quite the tricky situation on my hands and I would like to know what you guys would do if you were in my situation. Here it goes. Me and my girlfriend began dating on October 8th, 2008. We've been relatively okay, except we ...
A. 5 April 2010: She betted and lost. It is up to you to put her in her place. No one is perfect and to err is only human.
Forgive her and she have learned a lesson.... (read in full...)
How can I get her to like me as more than a friend?
Q. I'm in love with a beautiful girl who I've been friends with for 4 years. I love her so much I would die for her. Something caught my eye about her when we first met. I thought I liked her pretty well for about the first 3 1/2 years but then we ...
A. 5 April 2010: Love is like a plant. You plant your seed of love in her heart . If the soil is good earth , it will grow.
When the seed germinates, you water it ,talk to it, let the sunshine into her life, add some fertilizers and take good care of it .
Aft... (read in full...)
Stop things now before it ruins our friendship?
Q. Ok so I've been best friends with my best guy friend for over 5 years now. We never go a day without talking and we are extremely close. Its like we are practically dating already and over the last few months we have kissed a few times and both ...
A. 5 April 2010: There are no problems in life that cannot be solved.If you have love, everything is possible.... (read in full...)
Email saying he's in love with another woman. I want answers!
Q. hi i met this man on a dating agency, he works on the oil rigs, we chatted and texted for 3 weeks and got on really well, we arranged to meet up for a meal when he returned from his months leave, we went out on the thursday,and then after i went to ...
A. 5 April 2010: His game was up .It was good and lucky you got that e-mail or you would have ended up in his cesspool.... (read in full...)
My best friend is a male, and lately his attitude has changed
Q. I've been best friends with this hispanic guy (I'm hispanic as well. We'll call him Ruben) for a little over 2 years now. What people thought was odd was that he and I didn't enjoy thothers's company back then when I started marching band (I was a ...
A. 5 April 2010: It is the end of the road for him when you mentioned that you are in a committed relationship and turned him down.
He cannot expect much from this relationship and he would rather expand his energies elsewhere.... (read in full...)
He says he is happy but is giving me mixed signals
Q. ok well this is my problem. Me and my ex boyfriend were quite happy when we were living together. we were even talking about getting married and raising a family. then we ran into money troubles and ended up renting off my mother. I lost my job and ...
A. 5 April 2010: He is enjoying some personal freedoms and he feels relax about life.
Apparently , he still has feelings for you and is waiting for clearer signals from you.
Do you want to open up your heart to him again ?... (read in full...)
How can I find out if she wants me for more than a friend?
Q. Ok so I've known this girl for a few years. She is frighteningly gorgeous but I don't think she knows it because she doesn't like looking at pictures of her self. She comes across as bossy and smart, but I've known her long enough to know she ...
A. 5 April 2010: Ask her directly in a joking way if she has any b/f and whether you can be her b/f.
This way , you would know if you have any chance or not. This would also signify to her that you intent to up your friendship to a higher level.
Whatever the ... (read in full...)
Confused and lost on this co-worker?
Q. Ok this is the run down I don't know what to think or how to act on this.. Here's the facts I am female I have a female coworker, who I think really liked me, or has led me to belive she did.. She always stares and has made phrases like instead ...
A. 5 April 2010: Sounds to me like the actions of a rebuffed suitor.She is harassing you .
If she goes overboard , you will have to report her antics to your superior for further actions.... (read in full...)
I'm stuck on my ex and cannot move forward
Q. My ex and I broke up almost a year ago and I still cry over him all the time. I don't know how to get over him and I keep trying to move but it isn't working. My relationship with my ex seemed perfect and I think the reason he left was because he ...
A. 5 April 2010: If you love him , you want him to be happy .
You need to forgive him and bless him.After you have forgiven him , you will find closure and you can move on.... (read in full...)
Should I just ask him bluntly if he wants to go further?
Q. So me and my best friend and I have been messing around, like I've been giving him handjobs and he's been touching me. The first time I saw him after the first time it happened he acted awkward and we didn't do it again, so I texted him and told him ...
A. 5 April 2010: Make sure that you practice safe sex.
To asked bluntly or to just go ahead?
Some just take it without asking.If he did not resist, that means he silently agrees.
... (read in full...)
My g/f wants me to skip my brother's wedding for our anniversary
Q. Dear readers, I have quite the tricky situation on my hands and I would like to know what you guys would do if you were in my situation. Here it goes. Me and my girlfriend began dating on October 8th, 2008. We've been relatively okay, except we ...
A. 5 April 2010: If she cannot reach a compromise with you , then it is time to review your relationship.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend walked into a situation and now doesn't trust me!
Q. Need to gain his trust back, how do I do it? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a few months, we saw eachother everyday for two months straight, fell in love right away but rushed into things incredibly too fast. I'm not used to having a...
A. 5 April 2010: You wait for the storm to pass. You may have to hunker down till it is finally over and then you survey the destruction which the storm has caused to your properties.
What do you do?
You go about restoring those things back to their original p... (read in full...)
I'm too scared to snog!
Q. hi i have this boyfriend, but im to scared to snog him everyone is telling me to and i dont no what to do but the thing is i have never snogged someone before. please help, and write back to me...
A. 5 April 2010: It comes naturally when you are ready. Don't bow to peer pressure. What you and him do is your own business and none of their concerns.
Don't worry or stress over it. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's proposal was rushed and unplanned, and it doesn't feel right. How do I get over the disappointment?
Q. I know it's going to make me sound like a bitch but I am struggling with something and in need of advice. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years. A couple of weeks ago he proposed to me. And I said yes. But it didn't feel right. He we...
A. 5 April 2010: Don't be a pessimist and look at everything in a negative way.Be an optimist and see things positively.
Always try to look at things in a positive way and you will enjoy a better life.
Count your blessings !... (read in full...)
I'm Christian but I want to have sex.
Q. Hi. I'm 17 years old and im horny a lot. I masturbate once a day right before i go to bed. sometimes twice a day. I have never kissed a girl, gone out with a girl or had sex. :(...I am a Christian so i want to keep my purity until marriage but i ...
A. 5 April 2010: Aliceinunderland,
Your apology is accepted. I agree with you that everyone is entitled to their opinions. But to insult and belittle others is wrong and insensitive to other's feelings.
I respectfully do not agree with what you posted but I wou... (read in full...)
I'm Christian but I want to have sex.
Q. Hi. I'm 17 years old and im horny a lot. I masturbate once a day right before i go to bed. sometimes twice a day. I have never kissed a girl, gone out with a girl or had sex. :(...I am a Christian so i want to keep my purity until marriage but i ...
A. 5 April 2010: I have to disagree with almasdp about,'non-Christians should never advice Christians.'
Those were not my words and it was your own inference and not mine.
I would like to clarify that I did not said that or infer it that way.
... (read in full...)
I'm Christian but I want to have sex.
Q. Hi. I'm 17 years old and im horny a lot. I masturbate once a day right before i go to bed. sometimes twice a day. I have never kissed a girl, gone out with a girl or had sex. :(...I am a Christian so i want to keep my purity until marriage but i ...
A. 5 April 2010: "If you do go ahead and try it in the next few years, you wont regret it. Im serous you wont."
With due respect to Myau,that is only generalization and stereotype thinking .What works for you does not mean that it works for everyone.
The Chr... (read in full...)
She rarely responds to my flirting but seems to enjoy the attention anyway. Do you think this can go anywhere?
Q. I am a happily married middle aged man of 47 but I have developed a very enjoyable and good friendship with a 30 year old single woman who lives at home with her parents. She and her Mum and my wife and I have been out together to the cinema and had ...
A. 5 April 2010: A wise man knows which direction he must take in order to gain peace and happiness.... (read in full...)
Is it the end? Or should I just try harder?
Q. I said I should move out, but now I want to stay and work things out. I've been here before i'm afraid. I have been seeing my girlfriend for 18 months and we moved in together 6 months ago. We encountered a few problems early on when we moved ...
A. 5 April 2010: Absence make the heart grows fonder.
You need to disappear from her world for a period of time and she will miss you and those days.
You cannot appreciate a thing until it is gone.... (read in full...)
Does he really need time to think?
Q. My boyfriend dumped me about a week ago. I was overbearing, not truthful,and not a very good girlfriend.I miss him, and regret all of this..I just want another chance.. Now, I am giving him his space, but it's hard. He says its hard too, and asked ...
A. 5 April 2010: You can cut him off from your end if the drama is too much for you .
Let him chase you again if he wants.... (read in full...)
Does true love exist?
Q. how do you know when true love is true love? or does it even exist? please comment...
A. 4 April 2010: True love is when someone is willing to die for you.
When someone who is willing to marry you even if you are a whore or even if you have no hands,no legs or missing parts.
That is true love.... (read in full...)
My ex's family are treating me unfairly, yet they don't know there son abused me whilst we were together, shall I tell them?
Q. Hey all, any answers or advice on this situation will be greatly appreciated. So thankyou in advance. Im 18 years old, currently studying for my alevels, so that i can go to university and make something of my life, i am in a relationship wit...
A. 4 April 2010: If you do have the opportunity to talk to them, by all means tell your side of the story.
Whether they will believe you or not is another matter.Let your mom see the truth too about him.
Otherwise, she still thinks that he is an angel.Correct... (read in full...)
How do I let him see how I really like him back?
Q. Hello! Well,I am 19 and have known this guy since we have been in 9th grade but but became really good friends in 12th grade. We go to different colleges but live at home still which means we are not far away from each other. Eve...
A. 4 April 2010: If he calls you Goober, then you can call him , My Peas.
Goober & The Peas are a cowpunk band from Detroit, Michigan.
Or
Goobers as in Goobers grape jam,peanut butter and jelly.
Call him 'My Butter ,My Grape, My Jam, My Jello!'
May... (read in full...)
Have I lost him forever?
Q. me and my boyfriend are in a relationship since 1 and half years. things got worse.we fought over some issues. and now he says, he wants space. i begged n cried but no use.he is really upset and wanted to break-up instead but since he doesn't want ...
A. 4 April 2010: You need to use reverse psychology to win him back.
Don't cling onto him, text him or show any outward sign that you are suffering because of him
You need to put on an act and let him see that you are happy without him and having the fun of y... (read in full...)
I'm Christian but I want to have sex.
Q. Hi. I'm 17 years old and im horny a lot. I masturbate once a day right before i go to bed. sometimes twice a day. I have never kissed a girl, gone out with a girl or had sex. :(...I am a Christian so i want to keep my purity until marriage but i ...
A. 4 April 2010: I suppose it is alright in here to insult and belittle Christians , their faiths and their God and offer unChristian advice to Christians .... (read in full...)
He is cancelling dates and disrespecting my time. How can I make it clear that this is not ok!
Q. Hello all, I have a question about a guy Ive recently started dating (about a month or so). He seemed to be really interested the first few dates and still does seem to have interest in getting together but had cancelled the last 2 dates. He has ...
A. 4 April 2010: If he does not call, you are not his priority but only an option. Leave him be. Calling him would make you sound clingy.
If it is canceled again , just accept that he is forever too busy and have no time for you . Walk away and tell him "Asta la... (read in full...)
Sister staying in bad marriage for the kids--should she do this?
Q. It pains me to no end that my sister married a pathological liar. He lied about everything before they got married. He lied about his childhood, he lied about being in the army, he lied about what his family's line of work, he lied about being an ...
A. 4 April 2010: To stay in a dysfunctional marriage is wrong. It won't get any better but can only get worse and may end in violence or in some cases,death.
She should take the child and leave him and provide a better environment for the child to grow up.
... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend want just a break?
Q. She wants to go on a break. I don't know what to do. I still love her but I have a feeling shes using me and at the end of the break she won't want me anymore. The break is for one month so do I knuckle down, keep busy and see what happens in a ...
A. 4 April 2010: Don't preempt her decisions. You will find that you have more to lose than gain.
You need to respect her decisions and give her the 1 month break.Keep yourself busy.
Whatever her decisions , you need to accept and respect her choice.Accept th... (read in full...)
Do you think he is interested or is being friendly just part of his job?
Q. Hey everyone... This is going to be a bit long, but I truly have nowhere else to rant about this so please, please take some time to read it and try to give me advice if possible. I'll be thanking you forever. My situation is a bit weird/fu...
A. 4 April 2010: Not all customers are accorded the same attentions. Some get more and others get less. It depends on who is the customer.
The way you described him , he is pretty interested in you or he would not be talking non stop.
Get a friend to accomp... (read in full...)
She rarely responds to my flirting but seems to enjoy the attention anyway. Do you think this can go anywhere?
Q. I am a happily married middle aged man of 47 but I have developed a very enjoyable and good friendship with a 30 year old single woman who lives at home with her parents. She and her Mum and my wife and I have been out together to the cinema and had ...
A. 4 April 2010: You want to taste the forbidden fruit? It will be sweet but bitter in the end.... (read in full...)
I want a relationship, but he doesn't.
Q. *OP's own title* I met this guy 4 1/2 years ago and when i first met him he had told me that he had just got out of a relationship which she left with their 2 girls and that had devastated him. Anyway i felt sorry for him for a long time,then as...
A. 4 April 2010: You can be a martyr or his door mat. After 5 years , you are not anywhere near the Mrs. tittle and I don't think if you wait for a few more years, you will get nearer that tittle.
You are just like those barnacles which clings on to those support ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex but it is against my religion.
Q. Please help me. I come from a very religious country, and aside from that, I'm a Christian. I am 26, female and a virgin. Now I think my body wants to have sex so bad. I want to have sex, but my faith advises me to be celibate before marriage. Now I ...
A. 4 April 2010: If you cannot control your urges, you should get married.
You may feel strongly about this urge but having premarital sex is against your religion and you will have to bear the sins .
Think of those consequences that will befall you if yo... (read in full...)
Does he really need time to think?
Q. My boyfriend dumped me about a week ago. I was overbearing, not truthful,and not a very good girlfriend.I miss him, and regret all of this..I just want another chance.. Now, I am giving him his space, but it's hard. He says its hard too, and asked ...
A. 4 April 2010: In the affairs of the heart, sometimes ,they don't think carefully before it comes out of their mouth.
They may have regrets or remorse after wanting to breakup with you.
Their emotions become destabilized and their thoughts become flip flop... (read in full...)
Can I use water to flush myself out after having unprotected sex?
Q. can i use water to flush myself out after having unprotected sex?...
A. 4 April 2010: You could but you still cannot prevent pregnancy by this method. You still run the risk of getting pregnant.
The only way is to use condoms if you don't want to get pregnant or STD's... (read in full...)
I'm Christian but I want to have sex.
Q. Hi. I'm 17 years old and im horny a lot. I masturbate once a day right before i go to bed. sometimes twice a day. I have never kissed a girl, gone out with a girl or had sex. :(...I am a Christian so i want to keep my purity until marriage but i ...
A. 4 April 2010: All sins can be forgiven by God except those sins which blaspheme against the Holy Spirit.
God can forgive you but you reaped what you sow.Whether you believe in a God or not ,there is a universal law ,Karma. ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I should do?
Q. I'm a singer in a hotel and my boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationship. It's really hard for me not to be with him, but i need to work for my sister's.. Anyway, i had a bit of a problem with my boyfriend. I just noticed that this past ...
A. 4 April 2010: I guess it is winter there and there is no much you can do about it.
All you can do is continue to be loving and sweet to him and hope that he will respond back in kind.
Could there be any problem in your relationship?... (read in full...)
How do I get her to love me again?
Q. Ok where should i start !!! My girlfriend and i have been together for almost 5 years. She moved in with me after we dated for 1 year. In the last 5 years we have been threw it all... I have cheated on her both emotionally and physical, and even tho ...
A. 4 April 2010: All you can do now is to love her with all your heart and mind .Put her on your top priority list , pay attention to what she says and wants and be willing to walk that extra mile.
Good luck to you .... (read in full...)
She does not mind my advances, appreciates my compliments, but only want to be friends. What should I make of this?
Q. If a girl knows you love her, and doesn't mind your advances, and hearing whatever you have to say (which usually a person in love would say to his beloved--usually quite frank), but at the same time tells you that she doesn't see you as a lover, ...
A. 4 April 2010: She is not serious with you but enjoys your attentions and compliments. She has placed you in the friends category . You are not her ideal one.
Maybe, she does not see your potentials.... (read in full...)
I'm Christian but I want to have sex.
Q. Hi. I'm 17 years old and im horny a lot. I masturbate once a day right before i go to bed. sometimes twice a day. I have never kissed a girl, gone out with a girl or had sex. :(...I am a Christian so i want to keep my purity until marriage but i ...
A. 4 April 2010: You need to pray harder and often. Read the Bible more and have the fear of God in your heart.
Go out with your friends and have fun or go for games or to the gym to keep your mind busy.... (read in full...)
I supported him during his separation and he repays me with lies
Q. i need advice please. i dont know what to do regarding my work colleague. he started the job we're in 8 months ago. his wife left him last year and hes used me as a huge emotional crutch which ive been happy about. i really like him, hes funny an...
A. 4 April 2010: This is an expensive lesson in life. Cut your losses and move on .
Be smarter next time and don't commit this mistake again.
Let no one take advantage of your kindness and generosity.... (read in full...)
Do you believe my wife's girlfriend claim that her Date sleeps in her bed - but no Sex ?
Q. My wife's girlfriend is in her thirties, and recently divorced. She's found a boyfriend online who has no car and lives with his sister. Yeah, he's poor. Lousy job, no education, no future. So she drives to his sister's house, picks him up, an...
A. 4 April 2010: Give her the benefits of doubts. It is possible looking at the scenario.
He is poor,lousy job, no education and no future but what you may overlook is his character and his communication skills with the opposite sex.
You don't need great educa... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with him! How do I get over these feelings?
Q. Im still inlove with him. We broke up like 4 months ago,and im hiding my feelings. have you ever been inlove with your ex? and how do you get rid of your feelings?...
A. 4 April 2010: You need to make peace with yourself and your surroundings. Don't fight those feelings. Accept that you cannot forget your ex.The more you fight against it,the more it will resist and won't go away.
Always have positive thoughts and you will fin... (read in full...)
Is it the end? Or should I just try harder?
Q. I said I should move out, but now I want to stay and work things out. I've been here before i'm afraid. I have been seeing my girlfriend for 18 months and we moved in together 6 months ago. We encountered a few problems early on when we moved ...
A. 3 April 2010: You should always try your best to solve those problems and over come them.
In this way, if you really were to separate because fate decides, you will have no regrets because you tried your very best. Otherwise , there will always be a nagging ... (read in full...)
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