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writes:dear cupid,I am a 34 year old female with very bad luck in love. Sometimes I think its my karma, because when i was 14 years old, I betrayed someone's trust, the biggest mistake of my life. Anyway, I have only had unhappy(at best) or horrible relationships since then. The men I am attracted to never like me, and the ones that do like me, I am never really attracted to. About 2 years ago, I met the man of my dreams, truely. i was blown away by him, it was love at first sight. i could barely control myself physically or emotionally. it turned out we knew some people in common, and we began a casual and friendly (unromantic) relationship. He has always been sweet and kind to me, but I was afraid it was just in my head and even more afraid of rejection, so I kept my feelings to myself. Anyway, some of my friends insisted that he was attracted to me and said they had witnessed the chemistry between us. i started to believe them, and finally, a few months ago, I got up the nerve to tell him how I feel and ask him out. He told me he was in a relationship, in a kind and respectful way. Anyway, I am totally heartbroken and crushed, as if i was a teenager, not a grown woman. No man has ever been so beautiful in my eyes. And i keep asking myself, are all these bad relationships karma for the bad thing I did when i was 14? Is this man the final punishment? Sometimes I wish I had never met him at all, than to know he exists, a man compatible to my every desire (physical, spiritual, intellectual) but comepletely out of my reach. Can you tell me the truth? Help! thanks
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 April 2010):
You remember that time you first hurt someone? What was it that caused you to do that? Was it low esteem, low confidence? A lot of people pick partners who beneath them because they either think they're not good enough for better, or they don't have the confidence to meet someone who is better. So I think rather than worry about karma and fate, you'd be better really taking a look at how you feel about yourself and what you want. The way you speak about yourself in your post indicates that you have little esteem/ And having little esteem and confidence in yourself is what takes you to the guys who are rubbish. You are good enough for any (single) good guy you want, so work on your esteem and confidence, take your time and you will find the right guy.
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reader, Tay.Lak.Fish +, writes (7 April 2010):
 You seem like a very sweet woman.. Give it a little more time your still young and you still have a long life ahead of you.. There are pleanty of fish in the sea. Sometimes you only want that one fish.. Look for fish that are like him.. Your not a hopeless romantic.. Love takes time.. Wait for them to come to you.. I was always like that. I would attract the people i didnt like.. Sometimes it just takes time for that special someone to like you back..
I hope i helped even the tiniest bit..
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reader, Liam@sa  +, writes (7 April 2010):
i agree wit laura,evrythn happens for a reason and god knws best. maybe all your previous lovers were not the right partners for you and that its not ur destiny to be with them,ur mr right will come and he wont just be right he'll be perfect just for you. dont lose hope and dont give up on love
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 April 2010):
 You should think positive always. If you always think positive, it will attract those positive things.
Everything happens for a reason and God has a plan for you .
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