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writes:My question is do i or dont i contact him?I met this guy about 8 years ago whilst I was travelling and we had a very full on and passionate affair as most travelling relationships are. It all ended when my visa ran out and I had to go home. we emailed each other on and off over the years not reguarly but enough to stay in touch. I moved back to his country about 4 years ago and although he knew I was back he didnt make any contact to see me for about a year. By the time we met i was already seeing somone else.. it was obvious our feelings hadn't changed but i decided to give my current releationship a go. Now three years on my relationship has ended and I know that this guy is back in town.. Im aware that we are probably both very differemt people from the ones that met all those years ago.. but I have never stopped thinking about him or wandering what he was up to now.so do I contact him or not?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (6 April 2010):
What is there to lose?
Worst case: he's an idiot, you get hurt and you lose the happy memories.
Best case: Nothing's changed, you're both mature enough to make it work past the chemistry and you live happily ever after.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, rose007 +, writes (6 April 2010):
I think you should meet up with him, you obviously still have feelings for him. Wouldn't it be worse if you didn't try and spent the rest of your life wondering what if? But like you said things can change in 8 years so you shouldn't go with any expectations. At worst it would just be 2 old friends catching up. Hope that helps.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 April 2010):
 It is good to reconnect back with old friends. There is nothing better than to know how one is getting on .
Call him.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (6 April 2010):
 Sure, for a coffee and a catchup, no strings, no pressure, no expectations and see what happens. The worst thing that can happen is nothing. The best thing is a rekindling of the feelings you both once had for each other.
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