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writes:hi this 19 yr old guy (and im 13) likes me and i like him back and he is planning for me to go to america to meet him when im 18 and im unsure whether to go coz of age differences and that ive never met him before, Sounds like a really sweet, polite, respectable guy and thats what attracts me to him and he makes me feel special. He says im beautiful in my pictures, because I have a skill of putting myself down all the time, help?? Reply to this Question
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reader, jada101  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 he sounds to me like he is a bad man, no 19 year old should be talkin to a 13 year old. Most of the times people are not who they say they are on line. If he was so nice why is he lookin to talk to a young girl. In america there is a lot of people his age he can talk too. Forget bout him and find a boy your age to talk to online. Don't ever go meet people by yourself always go with 3 other people and also tell 3 more people that your going with your friends to meet this other person and always meet in public area. Don't trust people on the web
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 They are very clever to masquerade as an innocent 14 or 19 years old.
You don't expect them to announce that they are paedophiles or wear a badge around their necks.
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reader, advice angel +, writes (8 April 2010):
advice angel is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for the advice guys,it has gone thru my head hes a pheadophile,but he doesnt sound it at all :/ x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): If he seems nice and you really think theres a chance he will invite you to America in a few years. That will give him plenty of time to get to know your parents a little. Which will be nice as it will stop them worrying about you going off abroad to meet him. Have you mentioned to them that he has asked you?
As im sure you know, not everyone online is honest. People can say they come from other countries when really they dont. They can live just down the road from you and say theyre abroad. You dont really have anyway of knowing, unless of course they give you a home phone number and you have to dial a code for America ect. Or you have his home address out there and post things to him.
You are 13 and he is 19, that is quite an age gap at 19. Hes a man and you are still classed as a child. He cetainly seems to like talking to younger girls. Its quite unusual for older guys to do this, unless they find young girls interesting. And im afraid some men find young girls interesting for the wrong reasons!! They chat to girls by being very complimentary. Often they talk to girls that dont have alot of confidence and are rather shy. And naive. In other words, they talk to girls that are very trusting and will believe everything they are told.
Im not suggesting you are being told lies. But please do be careful. If he tells you hes coming to the UK and wants a secret meeting, say no. Never meet anyone from the internet or give out your private details like your home address, what school you go to ect. There are some people out there that seem lovely, polite, respectful and flattering, who will try and charm you. But not all of them are really as nice as they seem. So do take care and dont be tempted to do anything with this person if/when he starts making suggestions to you....as im sure he will.
Im a lot older than you and i think im quite sensible but even i chatted to a few people online that seemed lovely, at first, but turned out to be liars and not nice people at all!!
So take care of yourself and be very sensible. Test this man and ask if he will be happy to speak to your parents before he talks anymore about you visiting him. If hes happy to talk to them, thats a good sign. If he refuses to talk to them and makes alsorts of excuses, then you will know he is up to no good. Just try it because im sorry to say, i think he sounds rather suspicious and i dont think hes very genuine x
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (7 April 2010):
 A 19 year old guy showing that kind of interest in a 13 year old girl just spells pedofile. Im surprised neither of the previous posters mentioned that.
If you were ever going to try to meet this guy you THINK is who he says he is, make sure you take an adult. Even if you are still speaking at 18, under no circumstances go alone.
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reader, Kenj +, writes (7 April 2010):
 A lot can happen in 5 years, he probably does find you attractive now but his view may change later on, your view may change later on.
I think as Laura says, he is building castles in the air.
If you are still friends with him when your 18 then you will have a better idea of if you want to go or not.
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reader, advice angel +, writes (7 April 2010):
advice angel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks but he sounds like he really means it and that he's counting down the days? :'s
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (7 April 2010):
It is just sweet talk only and don't put too much faith in those words.
5 years is still a very long time away and anything can happen.
Wait until you come to the bridge and decide if you want to cross it.
He is just building castles in the air.
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