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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. We had sex after only 2 months... but we're still together. Months and months ago we would always fight- but it's gotten better. We still have a few issues between us though. And I'm thinking that if he hadn't taken my virginity, then we would've broken up. Is that a bad thing? Or is it irrelevant? I feel like we only get closer after everytime we've had sex...But I feel like if we hadn't have had sex so early- before we started arguing(usually just being jealous brats)- then we would've broken up... I don't know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2011): Your case is much similar to my case even i lost my virginty to my bf in jus 1 month and presently in relationship with him from past 6 months. every time we had sex i find we are getting close to eachother. And whenever we have any cold war between us i think if i wud not have had sex with him i would have broke up with him. but find it hard to break up with him... Even i am not sure about what i am supposed to do. but i think in your case it was happening before having sex so u need not worry about those things.. be happy with one u love..
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reader, Sex_counsellor  +, writes (16 June 2011):
 Sounds like you have both discovered each other better now ... you will now when the time is right to start a sexual relationship with your partner and it seems to me that this was the rite time. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): Sex might have been a factor in you arguing less now.
Or maybe now that you know each other better, you understand how communication works best between the two of you. Plus, you are probably more comfortable in your relationship (no more of that "jealous brat" business).
Why worry about whether you would have broken up months ago if you're happy together now?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (15 June 2011):
Hi there. Having sex does bring you a bit closer.
Perhaps you used to argue before, because you were moving in the direction towards having sex. So there was some sexual tension there.
You are more relaxed now because you are having sex.
Try asking him more about his life - when you are not in the bedroom - just get to know him more. But don't pretend to be interested, be genuine.
Really get to know him properly - not only after sex though.
Also, if you aren't doing this already, do some fun stuff together. Actually go out. Have a picnic, walk along a beach at sunset. Just don't sit around at home all the time. Life has to be fun!
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reader, Partyboy123  +, writes (15 June 2011):
 Hey,
the thing is, sex makes the connection THAT much stronger, it forms a bond that is really hard to break...
YES, you probably would have broken up if you wouldn't have had sex, and yes, it was probably a bad time to have sex during those hard times because of how it complicates things.
i would try and work out your problems, if you can't, find someone else, and make sure you know that things are good before you "do it".
hope i helped
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