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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I hate my ex (not because we split) but the way he was with me before we split. The last two weeks he avoided me (apart from texts) I eventually invited him round one night (to have it out with him),said I wanted a chat with him, he came (but said he had to go to blah blah blah in a bit, so couldn't even be arsed to have a lengthy conversation with me/had an excuse to get away etc) and I asked him outright 'what's going on with us? Do you want to be just friends?' His reply was mumbo jumbo to be honest, but some crap about his ex wife having not had another partner since him (yeah right like she's going to tell him?! (they have sprogs together) and he didn't want to upset his kids...wtf is that about? His kids live with their mother two hours away by the way. He has said he never stopped fancying me, so I really don't understand why we ended? Was this an excuse? I was happily single for a long time until I met him, and he pursued me, even though I initially wanted to be just friends. I just feel used and wonder what the hell is going on in his mind? Is he just a eum?? He said he didn't want to lose me 'completley' wanted to stay friends etc, but has showed little effort in this department (leading to me deleting his no. and fb friendship) I hate myself for letting someone get close to me after doing fine being single for ages... Grrrr!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): OP here. Thanks for you reply. I think I am just gonna put this guy down to a 'bad mistake' on my part! lol. You're right, I'm the only one who can stop me feeling like this.
So from now it will be me time, and making me happy, he really is not worth my thinking space anymore!! I certainly will NOT EVER text him again either!!! I have deleted him from fb too so I can't see what he's upto, and he can't see what I am upto either!!! Maybe one day we will be friends again, but not right now and as that song goes 'I gotta long without ya, before I met ya, gonna get along without you now'!;-)
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (4 June 2011):
Hi there. Don't let him mistreat you and take you for granted like this, just take control.
Don't allow it to continue at all.
If texts you, don't text an answer back. Delete it. If he calls you, answer the call - out of politeness only - then keep the conversation short, and say to him that you are about to go out very soon and that you can't talk now. Then respectfully end the call.
When you are not happy about a situation, just DO NOT allow it to continue. Do only what makes you happy, and stop doing what doesn't.
No-one but you is responsible for your happiness. Be your own person, doing what makes you happy. Don't let anyone else spoil that.
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