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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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Spotting but still no period, am I pregnant ?
Q. hey i need some help urgently and i would really appreciate if someone answered this. okay so im 17 and i had sex a week ago(28th june). i was supposed to get my periods around the 4th to 7th july (my last period was on the 4th june). On the 7th of ...
A. 16 September 2011: Hi. After taking the pill, it is possible that your periods might take a couple of months to go back to what they were like before you started taking the pill. So I wouldn't be too concerned.
Why don't you go and see your doctor? Are you unde... (read in full...)
When will the hate go ?
Q. I *hate* my ex. I hate the year I wasted trying to work things out. I hate that I still worry every time the phone rings that it will be her. I hate that I let her pressure me back into a relationship twice. I hate that I let her steal my stu...
A. 8 July 2011: Hi there. The only way to move forward from these negative feelings is to forgive her.
You don't have to call her and tell her this, but you need to forgive her in your heart.
One way to do this is to write a letter to her (but you DON'T s... (read in full...)
Should I let him see his son if he's clean ?
Q. _bout a year ago me and my husband separated for about four months. I dated a guy and he dated alot of girls. Well i feel in love and got pregnent. I already had a son with my husband. We turned out after i found out i was pregnant my bf had a meth ...
A. 8 July 2011: Hi there. It's really hard to trust a drug addict.
They often lie, cheat and steal. Borrowing money and not paying it back. So many things, and most of them negative.
They are often very unreliable, saying they will do things and not d... (read in full...)
How can I change to be a better me ?
Q. I am a fairly confident person. I get on well with a lot of people. I am friendly, im sensitive, I feel I am genuine, nice etc. People have told me this on a number of occasions. However, I have lacked confidence for a fair while due to all...
A. 8 July 2011: Hi there. It's possible that you are trying too hard, instead of letting things flow naturally. The more you think about things, you can over-analyze everything you say and do, to the point where the constant analyzing becomes the problem and ... (read in full...)
Spotting but still no period, am I pregnant ?
Q. hey i need some help urgently and i would really appreciate if someone answered this. okay so im 17 and i had sex a week ago(28th june). i was supposed to get my periods around the 4th to 7th july (my last period was on the 4th june). On the 7th of ...
A. 8 July 2011: Hi there. At the moment, you are only about 10 days overdue.
Are you usually very regular with your periods?
The only real way to find out and accurately so, is to see your family doctor.
Don't worry, because of privacy laws and doctor ... (read in full...)
Mistakes in the past are getting in the way of this new relationship
Q. Dear All! Please help me. Please tell me your opinions about my following problem. And please,if You can, suggest me something. What do you think, how can I get rid of my big big big problem? I am 19. I have already had 4 boyfriend. I...
A. 8 July 2011: Hi there. If you haven't already done this, you do need to tell your new boyfriend, exactly why you have serious reservations about having sex with him.
You are going to have to be totally honest with him, or he is going to take it very personal... (read in full...)
I need help writing my final goodbye to my ex fiance so that I can get closure
Q. i broke up with my ex fiance about a year ago to date and have cut communication for about 5 months now, but i recently found out she was asking about me. She was asking if i was dating and talked to my sister about how much she missed me, and ...
A. 6 July 2011: Hi there. Just be open and honest and say everything that you feel.
All the thoughts that are going through your head and that you are moving back to Chicago soon, because you have been thinking about it for a while now, and believe that it's the... (read in full...)
I want to forget this cheat!
Q. hi, i am in a very pathetic situation. i loved a married man for 2 years. he was so nice to me. he showed a lot of love. i knew it was bad to love a married guy who' s 20 years older than me. yet, i loved as i got expected love from him. at last i ...
A. 6 July 2011: Hi. As well as looking after yourself, to boost your ego on a regular basis:-
(1) You need to feel good about yourself and love yourself.
(2) Each time you leave the house to go somewhere, keep up your appearance by wearing nice fitting, fl... (read in full...)
Date during the break? Or sit in my room alone all the time?
Q. My girlfriend and I after having been going on / off about ten times have decided to take a three month NC break to see if the issues that were facing us around both our sets of kids, her insecurities with family and friends knowing how we met ( we ...
A. 6 July 2011: Hi. Even though it's fairly agonizing waiting and not knowing what the outcome is going to be, at the moment it's what is needed.
You might be fairly sure about your feelings, but it's no good if she doesn't feel the same confidence.
As diff... (read in full...)
Am I smothering her? Need some tips please on how to handle my new love
Q. Hi there. My girlfriend and I only recently started dating and this is the first proper relationship I've even been in. Because of that, I'm worried that I'm perhaps doing too much too early in the relationship. So far, I've written her a le...
A. 4 July 2011: Hi there. If you were wanting to be with her at every waking moment and to know where she was going or who she was with, well then that would be a bit smothering.
But you don't really seem to be doing that, so I don't think you are being controll... (read in full...)
What makes her tick? She's not demonstrative in public. In private all she wants to do is cuddle
Q. I'm honestly not complaining. I love the feeling of cuddling with my girlfriend on the couch. I'd just like to know why exactly she might like it so much. However, she seems to prefer to do that more than anything else, and though I've offered to ...
A. 4 July 2011: Hi there. Some people don't like to show affection in public, they consider it something to be done only in private. That's ok, nothing to be too concerned about.
Perhaps you could give her a little kiss on her cheek the next time you see her ... (read in full...)
My girl friend is worrying me. What can I do to stop her doing all these exhibitionist risky things?
Q. My girlfriend and I weve been with each other for about 7 months now were both in year 9. we have had a few break ups but we love each other! i wanted to ask a quite important question,my girlfriend has quite a lot of boy mates which i know a few of ...
A. 4 July 2011: Hi there. Does she know that you were unfaithful?
If she does, it's possible that she's trying to make you jealous by the way she's acting. Maybe she is.
It's probably a good idea to talk to her, and tell her how it makes you feel uncomfortab... (read in full...)
If you are not beautiful? Beauty is so useless. Why do people give such a damn about it?
Q. I hate my body and can't accept it! let's just say that my body looks nothing like the 36-24-36 ideal of the media. And sure people say that it's the inside that matters but people are so hypocritical! Especially men! Because they say they want a ...
A. 4 July 2011: Hi there. There is no such thing as perfect. It's a fallacy.
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
Beautiful is different things to different people. It is only skin deep, and there is no real substance to it at all.
We are each att... (read in full...)
Date during the break? Or sit in my room alone all the time?
Q. My girlfriend and I after having been going on / off about ten times have decided to take a three month NC break to see if the issues that were facing us around both our sets of kids, her insecurities with family and friends knowing how we met ( we ...
A. 4 July 2011: Hello again. As you both have some emotional baggage from your marriages, it's a good idea to clean all that mess up first, as there might still be some unfinished business.
And if that unfinished business you both have can be sorted out amicably... (read in full...)
Could being friends with his ex be dangerous? Fourth of July planning help needed!
Q. my crush's close friend recently became friends with me. i she and i don't know each other well but she invited me to his house for the fourth of july. i told her i'd love to go but wanted him to invite me so i don't feel like i'm intruding. tonight ...
A. 4 July 2011: Hello again. That's good he did ask you. I would have been a bit surprised if he didn't.
But still be wary that she isn't up to something, and that she doesn't want to become his girlfriend.
Surely she will see that you and him have a bit o... (read in full...)
I want to forget this cheat!
Q. hi, i am in a very pathetic situation. i loved a married man for 2 years. he was so nice to me. he showed a lot of love. i knew it was bad to love a married guy who' s 20 years older than me. yet, i loved as i got expected love from him. at last i ...
A. 4 July 2011: Hello again. It is always hard to forget someone who you once loved - married or otherwise.
It's possible that the relationship meant more to you than it did for him.
Keeping in mind, that as nice a person as he was with good qualities as you... (read in full...)
Could being friends with his ex be dangerous? Fourth of July planning help needed!
Q. my crush's close friend recently became friends with me. i she and i don't know each other well but she invited me to his house for the fourth of july. i told her i'd love to go but wanted him to invite me so i don't feel like i'm intruding. tonight ...
A. 3 July 2011: Hi there. They are still in contact aren't they? The way you said she mentions him a lot.
Is it possible she still has feelings for him?
If he doesn't ask you to the 4th of July get together at his place and his ex is going, well that sounds... (read in full...)
Date during the break? Or sit in my room alone all the time?
Q. My girlfriend and I after having been going on / off about ten times have decided to take a three month NC break to see if the issues that were facing us around both our sets of kids, her insecurities with family and friends knowing how we met ( we ...
A. 3 July 2011: Hi there. I'm not altogether convinced that problems you both have are going to be sorted while you are apart.
During this time, there's assumably no contact whatsoever.
While you are having a break, you are not together are you? So you are... (read in full...)
I want to forget this cheat!
Q. hi, i am in a very pathetic situation. i loved a married man for 2 years. he was so nice to me. he showed a lot of love. i knew it was bad to love a married guy who' s 20 years older than me. yet, i loved as i got expected love from him. at last i ...
A. 3 July 2011: Hi there. It's never a good idea dating a married man. Quite often in the beginning you might not know it, because they say nothing about it. It doesn't exactly come in conversation now, does it? Unless you asked him directly, or somehow figured ... (read in full...)
I know I can get very controlling, I don't want to yet I don't know how to stop!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years now, and I know its about time that I should stop feeling so obsessed and passionate. I am so controlling in our relationship and I don't know how to fix this problem, there were things that hap...
A. 3 July 2011: Hi there. Has your relationship always been long distance, or was it once a regular relationship then one of you moved away?
In any case, you are just missing the fact that you can't just see each other regularly, because 3 hours prohibit... (read in full...)
Is she just wanting to take it slowly? Am I completely missing her signals? What's going on?
Q. Just been out on a 2nd date with a girl I'm interested in. We met online so this was literally the second time we've met. Much like the first date conversation was free and easy. We laughed and joked a lot and seemed to be enjoying each others ...
A. 2 July 2011: Hello again. Like someone else said here, she probably does find it very refreshing that a man doesn't want to jump straight into bed with her, without getting to know each other first.
It tells her very clearly, that you like and respect ... (read in full...)
Is she just wanting to take it slowly? Am I completely missing her signals? What's going on?
Q. Just been out on a 2nd date with a girl I'm interested in. We met online so this was literally the second time we've met. Much like the first date conversation was free and easy. We laughed and joked a lot and seemed to be enjoying each others ...
A. 1 July 2011: Hi there. It's highly likely that she is taking it slowly at the moment.
It's a good idea, because then neither of you gets hurt.
You don't want to rush into the physical side of things too soon, as sometimes it can all get out of hand and ... (read in full...)
Should I believe there is hope or he just lying?
Q. Okay, I have another big question. So I call him yesterday and we talked for about 14 minutes, and he tells me he still loves me. I ask him if he thought we could ever be again. He says well you'd have to straighten a lot of your crap out. Then he ...
A. 1 July 2011: Hi there. What he says is probably the truth - that he does want to have a think about it.
It also depends on what he means by - "Straighten some of your crap out". By this it seems, he has some issues with some of the things you've done bef... (read in full...)
I just need closure!
Q. how do i get closure without talking to him? i text him but he never texts back. i am still sad but not as bad as the day it happened. i was literally in so much physical pain i just couldn't do anything but sit there and cry. now i am doing better ...
A. 29 June 2011: Hi. Sorry, I somehow put my last comment in twice by accident.... (read in full...)
I just need closure!
Q. how do i get closure without talking to him? i text him but he never texts back. i am still sad but not as bad as the day it happened. i was literally in so much physical pain i just couldn't do anything but sit there and cry. now i am doing better ...
A. 29 June 2011: Hello again. It does take some time to get over the initial intense grief, and one week isn't very long.
As each week goes by though, the pain will get a little less.
It's also a feeling of loneliness as well.
Don't coop yourself up in your... (read in full...)
I just need closure!
Q. how do i get closure without talking to him? i text him but he never texts back. i am still sad but not as bad as the day it happened. i was literally in so much physical pain i just couldn't do anything but sit there and cry. now i am doing better ...
A. 29 June 2011: Hello again. It does take some time to get over the initial intense grief, and one week isn't very long.
As each week goes by though, the pain will get a little less.
It's also a feeling of loneliness as well.
Don't coop yourself up in your... (read in full...)
I cant trust men because of my past! Help!
Q. I need help I cant trust men at all...My real father would beat my mother and he cheated on my mom and left us,I always had BAD relationships with men and I was cheated on by a ex a yr ago when I was 17 and he lied to me a lot and bullied me. I ...
A. 29 June 2011: Hello again. What you appear to be feeling now, is that this is all too good to be true. And so you are living your life in this relationship, somehow expecting something to go wrong at any minute.
Remember the "Law Of Attraction". What thi... (read in full...)
What would be your interpretation of this man and the possible motivations behind this behavior?
Q. I have a good one that I found flipping through the various internet pages. In fact it is a context to a story I had read but yet poses some interesting fodder for all of you aunts if you would kindly oblige. What would be your intereptetation ...
A. 29 June 2011: Hello again. You said that they did get into bed together, but did not actually have sex.
He could be looking for just friendship and her, the same.
The two of them singularly, are most likely not using each other in any way, but more that th... (read in full...)
What would be your interpretation of this man and the possible motivations behind this behavior?
Q. I have a good one that I found flipping through the various internet pages. In fact it is a context to a story I had read but yet poses some interesting fodder for all of you aunts if you would kindly oblige. What would be your intereptetation ...
A. 27 June 2011: Hi there. Maybe it was just curiosity and nothing more.
It does sound like it.
He may have thought - "Oh well, nothing ventured, nothing gained. I'll call her up and see what happens after that. If it goes well, it goes well and if not, no b... (read in full...)
I just need closure!
Q. how do i get closure without talking to him? i text him but he never texts back. i am still sad but not as bad as the day it happened. i was literally in so much physical pain i just couldn't do anything but sit there and cry. now i am doing better ...
A. 27 June 2011: Hi there. What you are talking about is closure over a breakup with your ex - is that right?
Unless you have intentions of getting back together again, you need to move on and accept that you broke up for a reason.
Everything in Life happens ... (read in full...)
I cant trust men because of my past! Help!
Q. I need help I cant trust men at all...My real father would beat my mother and he cheated on my mom and left us,I always had BAD relationships with men and I was cheated on by a ex a yr ago when I was 17 and he lied to me a lot and bullied me. I ...
A. 27 June 2011: Hi there. You do need to trust again.
My advice is to trust your fiance completely, unless he ever gives you reason not to.
All men are not the same, you need to know that.
Don't allow yourself to be mistreated or taken for granted by any... (read in full...)
Still hurting over my ex and cant give myself fully to my new boyfriend.....what's wrong with me?
Q. Broken up with my ex earlier this year then again started dating for pleasure anyway. the problem is that whenever my current boyfriend is around i dont feel him its like he is annoying and boring me inside but i do love him so much its just how i ...
A. 27 June 2011: Hi there. It's possible that you went into a new relationship too soon, when you are weren't completely ready to start again.
After a relationship ends, it's often healthy to have a complete break from relationships for a while, and get to know ... (read in full...)
Parasite Girlfriend is running me dry. What can I do?
Q. HELP!!!!! I am in a relationship with a girl I live with and have been dating for 2 years. Ever since I met her I have been paying all her bills. You name it I pay for everything...cell phone, car payment, rent, clothing, food, child support ...
A. 26 June 2011: Hi there. Child care payments should be paid for by the children's biological fathers - not you.
It's their responsibility.
Are the children living with you or elsewhere?
If they are living with you, well that's a big responsibility for y... (read in full...)
We cant see each other for another 10 months, can you even call this a relationship anymore?
Q. i am in a ldr as well as committed relation since two years. Recently my bf came to visit me and he said that this is the last visit of this year!He just met me once in this year. He stays 1800 miles away and does not have that much finance t...
A. 22 June 2011: Hi there. 10 months is going to get very lonely for you, not seeing your boyfriend.
As it seems you can't change that, well then it's probably going to come to a point where you can't tolerate it any longer.
That will probably happen within a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's nail polish turns me on, is it normal thing?
Q. I have this beautiful girlfriend for the last four years and everything seems to be going perfect for us. But I have a this strange behavior that whenever she puts on sort of a dark-red color nail polish , it turns me on big time and I feel lik...
A. 22 June 2011: Hi there. It's unusual perhaps, but like other fetishes such as high stilettos, or stockings and suspenders, I guess it's just another fetish.
Probably nothing so abnormal, nothing to worry about really.
If you did give into your urge to hav... (read in full...)
What should I do about my ex? I cant stop wishing we were back together!
Q. I'm miserable. I have this ex boyfriend, things ended about a month ago. During our relationship I lost all contact with my friends outside of him, not because he told me to but because I had no time for anyone else outside of trying to talk to ...
A. 22 June 2011: Hi there. You are in an LDR type situation - because of the distance, so this is probably the major part of the problem you are both having.
You mention not talking to each other enough or seeing each other enough, and these are typical problems... (read in full...)
Laughing is laughing, not flirting!
Q. Have you ever accidentally led someone on? I did. It was eighth grade, and i was having a fun last year of middle school with my best friends. There was this kid, A, who was in a phrase, bottom of the food chain. People were nice to him. No one b...
A. 21 June 2011: Hi there. It's perfectly ok to laugh when someone says something to crack you up. Why not?
This boy whose funny antics made you laugh, seems to have misinterpreted your laughter as something else.
Well, in future still laugh if you think it ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before I ask someone out?
Q. I took a gap year thinking that I could gain life experience and earn money before starting university. Admittedly, after all my friends left for university I felt ever so slightly isolated. The economic situation being what it was, work was nigh...
A. 21 June 2011: Hi there. As you seem to get along well already, you might like to ask her out for a coffee at your local cafe.
That way, it's not a full blown date thing, so it's a bit laid back and rather relaxed.
Before asking her out though, over the... (read in full...)
A view of retroactive jealousy
Q. There are many posts on this site about people tormented by retroactive jealousy. I would like to offer a perspective on its real causes and how to deal with it. For those who don't know, retroactive jealousy (RJ) is the feeling of intense envy ...
A. 21 June 2011: Hi there. When and if a person asks about a new date's past sex life, it's got more to do with a low self sesteem than anything else.
People who have a healthy self esteem, don't even think about past partners, because it's history. Dead and... (read in full...)
I moved in with my boyfriend but I feel homesick
Q. Hello i am 21 years old and got a wonderful boyfriend called Rick who i love. recently i moved with him when he got a promation to Wales. i love it but the problem is that im feeling homesick. i recently told Rick he it it was normal as this the ...
A. 21 June 2011: Hi there. It is good to keep in contact with your family because otherwise you are homesick for them. In between visits you could call them.
You are naturally going to miss Rick when you are home visiting your family.
It's one of those thi... (read in full...)
I regret breaking up with my ex....what should I do?
Q. So 2 days ago i had a really vivid dream that i loved .....about my ex, every time i woke up i would keep going back to sleep hoping it would never end and i was really sad when it did. In the dream I was like 22 or something and I was really ...
A. 20 June 2011: Hi there. The reason you broke it off with the first boyfriend of 7 months, was because of your swim team commitments, so it wasn't like you had a big fight.
I think I might be a little bit confused here, because you also mention a new boyfrien... (read in full...)
My bf is getting too rough in bed. What does it mean and what do I do about it?
Q. Me and my bf have always been rough in bed. I do anal and gag and stuff and we both like it. But these past few months it has got a little weird. He hurts me. He shoves his member down my throat and it is agonising. When i climax he covers my mouth ...
A. 20 June 2011: Hi. I believe you have done the right thing. It was actually physical abuse.
Don't let that happen with anyone else ever again. At the very least, you know what to look out for if anyone acts like this or starts to act like this, with you in f... (read in full...)
My bf is getting too rough in bed. What does it mean and what do I do about it?
Q. Me and my bf have always been rough in bed. I do anal and gag and stuff and we both like it. But these past few months it has got a little weird. He hurts me. He shoves his member down my throat and it is agonising. When i climax he covers my mouth ...
A. 28 May 2011: Hi there. Maybe he has lived with some kind of violence in his family home. It's hard to say.
Perhaps he is just amusing himself.
In any case, if you don't like the way things are going with him in the bedroom, for goodness sake, say someth... (read in full...)
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