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writes:My partner did a runner upped and left while I was at work, leaving me in serious financial difficulty. He has only had a job during the last 2 months he had a job. Prior to that I supported him, for over a year, when he didn't have work. My son lent him an old van so he could drive around. I paid for the petrol and had the van insured in my name. Plus I paid for topping up his mobile, etc. In the beginning I bought a camper van, which we were going halves with, but I never received all his half of the money. He used an old bank account of mine to deal on Ebay. He sold a car for his friend on ebay. Yet then he left that old bank account of mine over £200 in debt, which he said he would put back, but never did. He also took £140 out of a tin, which he omitted to tell me, saying he wasn't being dishonest, he was hoping to put it back, before I found out! I bought a kitten for him just before he moved in. When he was here I paid for the kitten to be micro chipped which obviously he put in his name but my address. When he went he just left the cat (now over a year old) and owing me a lot of money, jobs around the house he didn't finish. He phoned me and said he would give me £600 as I was good enough to house him and talk. Needless to say he never got in contact, so I text him to ask when he was going to give me the money? He said he had not forgotten, but he had to pay out deposit and rent, for where he was staying. Over a month now and I text him again and he said he would drop off the money and collect the rest of his stuff and the cat. I emailed him saying "Things are all packed and ready for you.Since you left without a word and no consideration for Treakle's well-being it is best that he remain here with Kaz and I where he is established and happy. Hence I am returning the one present you gave me (earrings). And I will forego the additional monies over and above the £600 that you owe me (i.e. money outstanding on the camper van, money owed by your friends in my bank account. Money you took without telling me from the tin, petrol money, mobile top up etc etc. At the same time perhaps you can return my things that you took, new work bench, leather holdall and my keys. Text me to make arrangements." I got email saying that the cat was his and he would be in touch. I love that cat and this is his home, but the micro chip is in his name, his mobile number but at my address. The vet changed the ownership only in the veterinary surgery. But the micro chip is still in his name and if I ask it to be changed I presume they will phone him. Please has anyone got any suggestions or advice.Yes I know I have been a fool, I knew him for 4 years, before he moved in, there was no reason not to trust him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): Many many thanks for your answers. xx
To Dorothy .. I had changed the locks as soon as he went, I had only got in touch with him hoping he might of had a conscience because of the financial state I'm in. Not looking for another man ... lol quite happy on my own. Thank you so much for taking time to reply.
To ClearSorted .. I am writing to the Identichip place in hope that they will believe me and change the name to mine, because you have to put it in writing with your suggestions. Thank you so much.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (5 June 2011):
Hi there. You need to cut your losses, keep the cat, cut any ties to him.
The main thing is to learn from the experience, that would be the wisest thing you could possibly do now.
Some other important things to do are:-
(1) Change the locks on all your house doors.
(2) Close your bank accounts and reopen new accounts, so he can't access them anymore.
(3) DO NOT lend him any more money - ever!
The more you stay in contact with him, the more problems he is going to give you. You have too many problems already, and all of them it seems, are caused by him. You don't need that.
Cut your losses and move on - without him! The sooner the better.
Believe me, you can do much better than him.
It seems like he's the type who the more you give him, the more he wants - or takes! The more you give to a person like that, it stops them from figuring out their own problems and sorting themselves out. It's too easy.
He is not the only man on earth.
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reader, ClearSorted  +, writes (5 June 2011):
I dont the laws in your place but I am wellversed with basic premise in any country. Though the Cat is in his name, You can always argue that he would not be able to maintain it, and would eventually sell it off for money. Why else do you think a broke person all of sudden demand possession of a feline. Besides though it was a gift you can try to manipulate that you paid for the money and wanted it in your name, this man wronged on you. The address in microchip is yours meaning he doesnt have a stable adress meaning home for himself and the cat.
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