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11 August 2010: It's great being in a relationship. It can be fun and the companship is really satisfying. However, in staying happy it's important to:- (1) Both have some time to yourselves to pursue hobbies, interests. Just once a week or twice a week...
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Does he actually care or are we just using each other?
Q. There is something about my ex that I keep going back to him, this time im having more of a "I dont care" attitudude and I can see that he likes it. We keep doing this on and off thing. This time when he asked me if he can come back in my life I ...
A. 4 August 2011: Hello again. Is he already in the air force, or is he joining for the first time?
Either way, yes, he might be trying to avoid any commitment because he knows he's going to go away a lot and maybe stationed in another state, or another country.... (read in full...)
This relationship is starting to confuse me!
Q. i've been talking to this girl for a couple of months now. we both got out of really crappy relationships and things moved at a very rapid pace. it wasn't intentional or planned, it just kind of naturally happened that way. she even told me she ...
A. 4 August 2011: Hello again. It seems then like she is perhaps afraid of commitment so soon.
If the breakups of your past relationships were very recent, well then neither of you are probably ready for a new relationship just yet.
Maybe you could keep it at... (read in full...)
Threesome has affected friendship boundaries
Q. A couple of years ago, my good friend and his girlfriend came over to my place one night with the intent of having a 3-some; he thought it would be exciting watching me have sex with his girlfriend, and she was all for it too. Anyway, everything ...
A. 4 August 2011: Hello again. It's probably wiser for you to be respectful towards your mate's wife if she does approach you again, but politely say "No" to any more secret meetings for sex.
Just be honest with her, and say to her that you just don't feel rig... (read in full...)
Best way of coming out( I think I'm ready)
Q. I've Been Gay since I was 6, I use to hate it and it made me very depressed and an anti-social in school. Im comingto the realization that I will never be straight no matter what, and im kind of accepting my homosexuality....I wanna grow to love it ...
A. 4 August 2011: Hello again. Well, the ice is partly broken as some of your family already knows.
So there's a bit of a load off your mind.
Just wait for a time when you are with your friends - not in a crowded bar or any place like that. Leave it for whe... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my professor reply?
Q. So I wanted to remain friends with a former professor because she was a huge impact on my life. I asked her if we could remain in contact, she said yes, but every time I email her (the only form on contact we have) she doesn't reply. why would she ...
A. 4 August 2011: Hello again. Because you have made it clear that it was not more than being appreciative of her as your professor, well the reason she hadn't answered your email is probably because she is now on leave, as you have said here.
And because she is o... (read in full...)
Threesome has affected friendship boundaries
Q. A couple of years ago, my good friend and his girlfriend came over to my place one night with the intent of having a 3-some; he thought it would be exciting watching me have sex with his girlfriend, and she was all for it too. Anyway, everything ...
A. 2 August 2011: Hi there. You can't change history, so you do have to accept it.
You have to ask the question, can you live with yourself having sex with your mate's wife behind his back?
You are having issues with it, because you wouldn't have visited Dea... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my professor reply?
Q. So I wanted to remain friends with a former professor because she was a huge impact on my life. I asked her if we could remain in contact, she said yes, but every time I email her (the only form on contact we have) she doesn't reply. why would she ...
A. 2 August 2011: Hi there. Perhaps she is reading more into it than what is meant by you.
Perhaps she thinks you want to be in a relationship with her. It's possible.
That's probably what a lot of people might think. Especially if you didn't make it clear at... (read in full...)
Does he actually care or are we just using each other?
Q. There is something about my ex that I keep going back to him, this time im having more of a "I dont care" attitudude and I can see that he likes it. We keep doing this on and off thing. This time when he asked me if he can come back in my life I ...
A. 2 August 2011: Hi there. It seems clear that he still likes you, otherwise he wouldn't keep on texting you whenever you leave his house suddenly, without coming in. Then he practically chases you down the street. He says he doesn't want anyone else.
If th... (read in full...)
Best way of coming out( I think I'm ready)
Q. I've Been Gay since I was 6, I use to hate it and it made me very depressed and an anti-social in school. Im comingto the realization that I will never be straight no matter what, and im kind of accepting my homosexuality....I wanna grow to love it ...
A. 2 August 2011: Hi there. The very first thing for you to do, is to totally accept yourself for who you truly are.
Once you accept and respect yourself unconditionally, everyone else in the world will also.
The first people to tell ideally, would of course ... (read in full...)
This relationship is starting to confuse me!
Q. i've been talking to this girl for a couple of months now. we both got out of really crappy relationships and things moved at a very rapid pace. it wasn't intentional or planned, it just kind of naturally happened that way. she even told me she ...
A. 2 August 2011: Hi there. First off, when you said you both recently got out of really crappy relationships, are you referring to same sex relationships (for both of you) - or opposite sex relationships?
I ask this because you do not clearly mention it here. A... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 2 August 2011: Hello again. The one main thing you need to do now, is to learn to accept it, because it can't be changed. It's history.
You can't change history, but you can change your attitude towards it.
Even though you still have issues with it, if you ... (read in full...)
I've always wanted to tell him I like him but don't want to make a fool of myself or get rejected!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am going to see a movie at 7.00 with my friend/co worker. I think he's really cute. My friend thinks he may have a crush on me. And I do on him. He is leaving in a vew days to go to college, I'm only 2 years younger than him. I don'...
A. 25 July 2011: Hello again. I'm glad it went well for you both.
Just take things slowly and let him call the shots, from now on.
Best wishes.... (read in full...)
Married couples - question for you: Let's talk finances
Q. Newlyweds, how do you manage your finances. In the 20th century I see a lot of couples having seperate account plus a joint account. If you are doing this, was this discussed prior to marriage? What percentage of your income is personal account and ...
A. 25 July 2011: Hello again. It's not really a case of making anyone jealous, as to who earns what. It's irrelevant.
It's not like you are being dishonest, it's more a case of both of you keeping a little bit of independence.
Independence is much better than... (read in full...)
I've always wanted to tell him I like him but don't want to make a fool of myself or get rejected!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am going to see a movie at 7.00 with my friend/co worker. I think he's really cute. My friend thinks he may have a crush on me. And I do on him. He is leaving in a vew days to go to college, I'm only 2 years younger than him. I don'...
A. 22 July 2011: Hi there. Why don't you go out and see the movie with him, and just see what he does.
Perhaps he might try to hold your hand while you're in the theatre. Let him.
If he does, that's good. If not, no big deal. He's probably shy like you.
... (read in full...)
Can sex be great all the time even after marriage and kids?
Q. He says "the sex always feel like the first time" with a smile. What does that mean? Everytime he says this I feel like I am always trying to give my best. I'm nervous because I know we have incredible sex but Ihope I will be able to keep up once we ...
A. 22 July 2011: Hi there. Sex is always great before you get married, and you aren't necessarily seeing each other all the time. So it's often a case of whenever you see each other - which might only be once a week.
Sex can over a few years of marriage... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to lose weight? 100lbs seems so overwhelming!
Q. Hi all. This is more a self-esteem/relationship with myself kinda deal. I'm currently 220 lbs and at only 5'4", I'm a big girl. It sucks and I hate it. I was actually one of those girls you called anorexic back in elementary school because I was so ...
A. 22 July 2011: Hi there. I don't think you have actually said this in your question, but do you get any exercise?
If you don't, you are not balancing the input of food with the output of energy.
One of the best forms of exercise for anyone, is walking. All... (read in full...)
Married couples - question for you: Let's talk finances
Q. Newlyweds, how do you manage your finances. In the 20th century I see a lot of couples having seperate account plus a joint account. If you are doing this, was this discussed prior to marriage? What percentage of your income is personal account and ...
A. 22 July 2011: Hi there. Regardless of how much anyone earns, you just pay half each for everything - food, bills, mortgage or rent.
If you only have one car between you, well then you can both contribute towards petrol - half each every week also. If you spen... (read in full...)
He'll be there and I'll be here, why did he wait to ask me?
Q. Well hi, I am so frustrated, I need advice or just some opinions on my situation. Please help. So, me and this guy started talking over a year ago. After a week of talking he told me he liked me, then after two weeks of hanging out and constant...
A. 22 July 2011: Hi. That sounds like a great idea how you are going to handle this.
It's going to take the pressure off both of you, by keeping it at a friendly status for now, and once you are living closer to him next year, you can start seeing each other ag... (read in full...)
I feel like my skin is awful and I can't let anyone see it without makeup
Q. Okay I've never talked to anyone about this before, here it goes. It's weird.. So, I hate letting people see me in natural lighting. Like out side and stuff, or even in a really well lite room. I hate my skin, my complexion is horrible. I have...
A. 20 July 2011: Hi there. You are at an age now where it's rather common to have pimples, acne, blackheads etc.
You are probably just past puberty, so lots of hormonal changes take place at that time.
After a few more years, it will settle down I promise y... (read in full...)
He'll be there and I'll be here, why did he wait to ask me?
Q. Well hi, I am so frustrated, I need advice or just some opinions on my situation. Please help. So, me and this guy started talking over a year ago. After a week of talking he told me he liked me, then after two weeks of hanging out and constant...
A. 20 July 2011: Hello again. Perhaps you could remain in contact after he goes, but tell him as much as you like/love him, you don't feel it's fair for either of you to get too serious right now, at least until next year when you are living a lot closer to each ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with b/f? He says he cares about others but doesn't know how to show it
Q. Dear Cupid, I really need help to decide if I should break off with my LDR BF. We've been together for 3 months and it has been long distance 2 months ago. When I'm with him, everything is fine, except that he's quite self-centered. He tal...
A. 20 July 2011: Hi there. Perhaps the accident he had which affected his brain has had a permanent change in him. It's possible.
Because you have said here that his accident was 3 years ago, it doesn't seem that his condition is going to change now. It seems... (read in full...)
Is he really cheating or are they just trying to break us up?
Q. What do i do guys? This is the second time he has been accused of cheating and IDK what to do. He says he doesn't like this game his ex is playing by her stating this rumor that he is dating her with me. If he doesn't like this game or isn't ...
A. 19 July 2011: Hi. You're very welcome.
If you have anything you ever want to ask me about this in future - or anything else, please don't hesitate and I'll help you in whatever way I can.
To make sure I see it, perhaps you could send it to my private mailb... (read in full...)
My ex distanced himself from me, is this because he took interest in another girl?
Q. Hey. I'm almost 18 and I was with this guy for a year almost. He was the nicest, sweetest guy at first and we had such a laugh. He made me so happy. Anyway we argued a lot, he didn't like me speaking to other guys and would always question w...
A. 18 July 2011: Hi there. Maybe he's making up for lost time, and just enjoying his freedom.
Just give him some space, because it sounds like he needs it.
He might be trying to see if he is having an impact on you by acting this way.
Don't let him think t... (read in full...)
He'll be there and I'll be here, why did he wait to ask me?
Q. Well hi, I am so frustrated, I need advice or just some opinions on my situation. Please help. So, me and this guy started talking over a year ago. After a week of talking he told me he liked me, then after two weeks of hanging out and constant...
A. 18 July 2011: Hi there. Three hours away from him is still a long time travelling, if we are talking about driving for 3 hours.
He probably waited till the end, because he wasn't sure until now. That's how it happens sometimes.
It wouldn't have made any di... (read in full...)
Is she interested or not?
Q. Hi guys,ive been on this site for a while,im in a bit of confusion about a girl,we met about a year or two ago at a mutual friends place though i didnt take much notice of her(i found her attractive but didnt pursue coz the ex was kinda in the ...
A. 18 July 2011: Hi there. It all sounds fairly encouraging, and you feel that vibe yourself. So that's positive.
You like talking to her, and she likes talking to you also.
I agree, you don't want to just become friends, because clearly, that's NOT what ... (read in full...)
Please help...I'm in love with my best friend and he won't talk about it!
Q. Hi :) Here's the thing, I have fallen in love with me best friend (who's a guy), and i don't know if he feels the same. He told me that he likes me, and said that we should think about being together. We started spending more time together, still as ...
A. 18 July 2011: Hi there. It does seem that he's interested, otherwise he wouldn't have said about being together. So that's a hint at it, at least.
Don't bring it up about making out the other night, just leave it - unless he talks about it.
He probably d... (read in full...)
I'm worried I'll become addicted to the mindblowing sex!
Q. I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time the other day. It wasn't my first time altogether but it was my first in a few months. I'd only ever had sex with one other guy before but it wasn't all as great as I thought sex had been glammed up ...
A. 15 July 2011: Hi. I'm glad that he does treat you well and you do stuff together, so you do have a pretty good balance in your relationship generally speaking.
So it isn't just about sex, and nothing else.
So in that case, enjoy it while it lasts.
As you... (read in full...)
I'm worried I'll become addicted to the mindblowing sex!
Q. I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time the other day. It wasn't my first time altogether but it was my first in a few months. I'd only ever had sex with one other guy before but it wasn't all as great as I thought sex had been glammed up ...
A. 13 July 2011: Hi there. At your young age, it's probably fairly normal I would think.
It's the hormones kicking in, as well. It definitely plays a part, at any rate.
Why you feel you are becoming addicted, is probably because sex is the only thing you b... (read in full...)
I'm insecure and not sure about my boyfriend, also my ex is back in the picture!
Q. i love ma bf but i feel too insecure :( iM not as good looking as all the other girls. now a days the perfect girl has to be skinny and pretty im not skinny nor fat :( im in between :) well what can i do to not feel so insecure? :( my bf hates it ...
A. 13 July 2011: Hi there. You say you are planning (or wanting) to get married, but it's not just yet is it?
If you are only 16 or 17 years old, there's plenty of time to think about settling down into a marriage.
Your only tie to the first boyfriend is the... (read in full...)
LDR Got back together after break up, now she is acting weird
Q. Hey Everyone, So about 1,5 month ago my long distance girlfriend broke up with me while I was there. She told me she couldn't handle our fights anymore (didn't have many) and that this distance wasn't working out for her. I told her I understood...
A. 13 July 2011: Hi there. LDR's are very challenging relationships to keep going. There's just too much loneliness and isolation.
And there's not enough actual togetherness. You both miss out on so much because of this.
The other downside of LDR's is, the... (read in full...)
Coping long distance... can it be done?
Q. Please help! I dont know what to do. My partner and i love each other very much, we have a beautiful little girl together and when we are together life is just perfect. The problem is the past 1 out of our 4 years together has been long distance. I ...
A. 13 July 2011: Hi there. LDR's are very lonely situations to be in.
There's more time apart than there is togetherness. You both miss out on so much because of this.
It doesn't get easier, it's quite the opposite - as you are already seeing for yourself.
... (read in full...)
Why did he upset my boyfriend and lie about what kind of person I am?
Q. i dated this guy in my first year of uni and needless to say it wasn't the best choice i made being he gave me something,i got it sorted and then i broke up with him because he just wasnt that interested about us. been with my current bf a yea...
A. 13 July 2011: Hi there. He was just being nasty, perhaps he's jealous of your new boyfriend.
Maybe he's sour about your breaking up with him before.
If he gave you an STD (sexually transmitted disease), well why is he saying he didn't? Who really knows? F... (read in full...)
Do drunken words speak sober hearts?...or does alcohol just cause regret
Q. Me and a friend had a bit of a previous history of things happening and things being said resulting in confusion as to whether he had feelings for me. He said back then he didnt although everyone said it was obvious he did but maybe was shy/didnt ...
A. 13 July 2011: Hi there. He does seem to like you, because he wouldn't have held your hand and cuddled you like he did.
People often do speak the truth when they have had some alcohol, and it makes them relaxed enough to truly speak their mind.
It's probably... (read in full...)
Dating a girl with a child, what do people think about it?
Q. I need to know,what are peoples views on girls/women with children.What do guys think about it,is it something guys would go for,or stay away from,also what are the statistics, and societys perception of it.Also give reasons as to why or why you ...
A. 13 July 2011: Hi there. The men who might balk at it, might be the insecure ones who make an assumption that the girl is just looking for a father for her child or children.
If a man is secure and confident about himself, it probably wouldn't be a big deal - w... (read in full...)
Girl is into me, now is really quiet, almost absent!
Q. I met this woman that I think is fabulous. Mutual attraction right off the bat. before long we exchanged numbers, and for several days, she was all in my business, calling me every day, from early in the morning to noon, and then late at night. she ...
A. 12 July 2011: Hi there. Are you sure that she is single? Is it possible she is married - or separated, for instance?
She does seem a bit unsure, although I don't feel that she is just playing games.
Perhaps she thought she came on a bit too strong way t... (read in full...)
What is going on with my three close friends..and how can I talk to them about it?
Q. I'm wondering what's going on with my friends? 3 of my close friends have all of them been less than friendly lately, in each their own way. And I'm wondering if Im making a mountain out of a mole hill, or if I should speak to them about it? All of ...
A. 12 July 2011: Hi there. You have to stop accepting crap and start demanding more for yourself.
All of these people are simply taking advantage of you and your generous, kind nature. And it just isn't right.
You would never do that to them, so don't accept ... (read in full...)
Why do I have feelings for much older men?
Q. hello i'm 15(almost 16 thank you very much) and partly normal but overall typical well except for the fact of liking men 15 to 20 years older than me. yeah it's great to fantasize about these gorgeous men but i hate thinking of what i can't have. ...
A. 12 July 2011: Hi there. It could perhaps be a stage you are going through. More like a crush, rather than anything more serious.
Often teenage girls have crushes on some of their male teachers, but usually it's never anything more than that. It could ju... (read in full...)
Is he really cheating or are they just trying to break us up?
Q. What do i do guys? This is the second time he has been accused of cheating and IDK what to do. He says he doesn't like this game his ex is playing by her stating this rumor that he is dating her with me. If he doesn't like this game or isn't ...
A. 11 July 2011: Hi. Yes, it does sound like insecurity.
So he does have plans - if all goes well - and of course none, if it doesn't. That's okay.
He probably also has some trust issues, especially as some of these relationships fail.
He might have v... (read in full...)
Is he really cheating or are they just trying to break us up?
Q. What do i do guys? This is the second time he has been accused of cheating and IDK what to do. He says he doesn't like this game his ex is playing by her stating this rumor that he is dating her with me. If he doesn't like this game or isn't ...
A. 10 July 2011: Hello again. I just had an idea.
I am wondering if he is covering all his bases and keeping in contact with his exes, just in case it doesn't work out with the present girlfriend.
You know, like a back-up - in case anything goes wrong.
S... (read in full...)
Ever since he admitted to cheating I've developed a jealous streak!
Q. I've adapted a jealous streak. I'm pretty sure its only happened within the last few months since my boyfriend admitted to cheating when we used to go out (which lasted about 10 months). He was at one of his gigs last night as he is in a band, it...
A. 10 July 2011: Hello again. In time you will trust him again, you just have to give him a chance to prove himself.
Just stay aware anyway, to anything that seems a bit out of character for him. And should nothing like that happen, well then that's good.
... (read in full...)
Is he really cheating or are they just trying to break us up?
Q. What do i do guys? This is the second time he has been accused of cheating and IDK what to do. He says he doesn't like this game his ex is playing by her stating this rumor that he is dating her with me. If he doesn't like this game or isn't ...
A. 9 July 2011: Hello again. Isn't it rather strange that she cheated on him twice - but they have never really met, so how can it really be cheating?
If they have never met, well then nor have they actually been together face to face and of course, have nev... (read in full...)
Ever since he admitted to cheating I've developed a jealous streak!
Q. I've adapted a jealous streak. I'm pretty sure its only happened within the last few months since my boyfriend admitted to cheating when we used to go out (which lasted about 10 months). He was at one of his gigs last night as he is in a band, it...
A. 8 July 2011: Hi there. I realize it's hard to trust someone after you know they have cheated, but it is necessary if you want to continue on with your relationship.
It's probably fair to say, that because he told you about the girl in the other band and addi... (read in full...)
Is he really cheating or are they just trying to break us up?
Q. What do i do guys? This is the second time he has been accused of cheating and IDK what to do. He says he doesn't like this game his ex is playing by her stating this rumor that he is dating her with me. If he doesn't like this game or isn't ...
A. 8 July 2011: Hi there. If she is his ex, then why are they still in contact now?
Normally, when a relationship is over - it's over. It's either on or it's off.
Perhaps they are still friends, but just the same I'd be a bit wary. More of her, than him.
... (read in full...)
How do I figure this guy out? One day he flirts with me. Next day he ignores me.
Q. Dear Cupid, Is it smart to kiss this guy? Let me explain him real quick. He is cocky and flirty (in teasing manner) and tends to shoot for "out of his league" as people say. I've been friends with him for about a year (a year older) and I really...
A. 8 July 2011: Hi there. He probably does like you, otherwise he wouldn't flirt with you the way he does.
It's also possible that he's a bit shy.
If you try to push ahead with kissing him, you might scare him away altogether.
Do you think he's aware tha... (read in full...)
When will the hate go ?
Q. I *hate* my ex. I hate the year I wasted trying to work things out. I hate that I still worry every time the phone rings that it will be her. I hate that I let her pressure me back into a relationship twice. I hate that I let her steal my stu...
A. 8 July 2011: Hi there. The only way to move forward from these negative feelings is to forgive her.
You don't have to call her and tell her this, but you need to forgive her in your heart.
One way to do this is to write a letter to her (but you DON'T s... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 15 January 2011: Hello there SomewhatDamaged. So your girlfriend lost (or said she did), her virginity to you before you were officially dating.
No real problem there as I see it.
You started dating about six months after that, but about 3 months or so aft... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 11 August 2010: When you meet a new partner, once you get to know whether you like each other and get along, with things in common, it's really of no consequence, the previous sexual experience each has had.
That's ancient history and has no relevance in the gran... (read in full...)
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