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Archived questions from: 28 July, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I can't stop thinking that he stole money from me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I think my boyfriend may have stolen from me, but I can't prove it. Saturday night, I came home from my waitressing job and counted my earnings and put it all away very neatly in my wallet to take to the bank. The next day, a large bill was m...

This whole year with him has been trying! What's going on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I need help with some advice from some wise people. The relationship im in now is going sour atleast from my view it is. Its almost been a year and In the beginning my bf wasn't as bad as he is now. He cared about how I felt when he acted a way I ...

Why are boys like this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 months now. He usually comes around mine and we will watch movies and play games. My siblings always seem to get in the way though. But whenever we are alone in a room, he will get on top of me and its like ...

Good or bad idea to write him a letter explaining things?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I really need some help! My boyfriend of six months and I broke up a month ago and I ahve been devastated. His mom told me a while ago that he was too. For the last month we have been in contact every day and even got back together. I pushed him ...

What are the sings that your boyfriend is interested in his ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - What are the sings that your boyfriend is interested in his ex? WHat are the signs that hes jealous that his ex might have a new boyfriend?...

Forced to raise a brat!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I have lived with my bf for almost 6 years now. We have been thru a lot and I really love and care for him. The problem is he has a 14 year old bratty son who no one has ever diciplined and now the child's mother wants to give up custody and have us ...

2 years on and I still haven't told him I kissed my ex. Should I?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend 2 years nad love him dearly. When we were together 3 months I kissed my ex. It was a very brief kiss and I immediately knew it was a mistake. I didn't tell my boyfriend as I was petrified of losing him. He is amazing and ...

How can I change the way things are with me and my girlfriend? We argue all the time now!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - Please help ok I have been in a serious relationship for 6 years on and off the girl I am with is a very nice caring person. That being said she has failed to have a job for the last two years that we have lived together she has nowhere else to ...

I want to accept that he likes looking at other women - but I can't!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I've never felt like this before and I don't know what to do. I am living with my partner. We have 2 children (one of 3 years and one of 9 weeks). When I was pregnant I discovered some premium rate phone calls on the phone bill. They were to th...

Confused and Frustrated in San Antonio

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - I've been in an relationship for 3 years and we finally moved in together and she has a 13 year old son. We all get along for the most part. MY concern is that our finances are starting to be a problem, she hasn't been paying her part and I'm ...

How can I make amends with his mum?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I was at a party with my boyfriend a few days ago. I was really drunk and ended up saying some really harsh things to him. He says he's ok with it now and forgives me but I haven't seen his mum since. Apparently she's taken it badly and I think she ...

Husband never wants me...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I am a married woman of 5 years, been with my husband for 6. I have noticed in the last like 3 months, maybe 4 that he has not been acting what I would call "normal". I dont know if its just me, or is there anything I should worry about? Typically ...

Do I let my son go and see his dad and hope he does not turn him away or do I let him and hope everything turns out ok?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Last night me and my son were talking and out of the blue he announced that he wanted to see his dad for whom he has had no contact with for 2 years, it was his dad's decision not to see him, my son was deeply hurt by this but never showed it and i ...

Our relationship has changed but he doesn't even realise it! How can I fix things?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5600 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for over two years now and it started out as the greatest thing I could ever want. He would do anything for me, and me for him. He would always tell me how much he loved me and couldn't believe he found someone like me. ...

My partner won't have sex with me, what gives?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - hi im 18 and have been with my partner for over a year now hes 32 and at the start we loved having sex.now he wont even touch me...he says he loves me but he knows i dont love him...im too young to be caught up with love but why wont he sleep with ...

How long do you give a guy to get over his fear of commitment?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I'm going to try and make this a short story but apologize for length. Basically I'm a single mom and have been dating my boyfriend for 4.5 yrs and no committment. We don't see other people, we are monogamous. We broke up last April 20...

He left his ex and started dating me, then he left me to go back to his ex, now he wants me back - should I take him back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I am an avid reader of DearCupid, and for once, I actually have a question to pose. Ten months ago a person who was in my graduating class in High school contacted me. He had been a quiet boy that was the definition of an outsider. I have...

My wife only wants to goes out with her male gay friends and always comes home falling down drunk.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - I'm 27, my wife is 26 and she's been going out partying all the time with her friends. Most of the time it's her gay male friends, very seldom she goes out with her girlfriends. She won't ever go out with anyone other than these gay male friends. ...

He just wants to cuddle because of my age, but I want more.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I like this lad but i'm not sure if he likes me. He says he does but hes 18 and i am 14. He says if i was older he would defiantly date me. He says he doesn't want sex he just wants a loving relationship where he can just be with me cuddling me and ...

She didn't tell me she had a boyfriend until after I fell in love.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5597 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - i am in love with this former classmate of mine.we met and exchanged numbers and got talking.she never told me she had a guy and i never asked and i also got the feeling that she was interested.when at last i told her of my feeling,she said she was ...

I'm being pursued by a married man! Not interested! Is it time for me to find another job?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I work with a married man..nice guy but married so I am not interested. The problem is that he is interested in me...I think. He will talk about his wife all day long and then email me in the evening saying he is looking forward to seeing me the ...

We're fighting and his birthday is this week...How do I handle this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I are in a fight right now, but his birthday is in two days. Should I still celebrate with him? Get him a gift? Or wait until we sort things out to celebrate?...

I introduced him to my best friend now she's trying to break us up and steal him away.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5598 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - k well i have a long distance relationship with this guy thats not to to far from me. he is 2 years older then me, im 14 and he is 16, and i realy love him and he realy loves me, well atleast that whats he tells me. we talk everyday for hours on the ...

I've lied about trivial things, but he broke it off anyway. Will he ever take me back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I've been dating this taurus for a year now and unfortunately I've lied to him about trivial things about myself simply because I have low self confidence and I felt that I needed to zest myself up a bit to make me look interesting to him (I'm...

Why is he still in contact with his ex when she clearly is after him!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and i have been together for a year. His ex won't stop texting him. They had an on /off relationship for 2 years where she cheated on him a lot and eventually got pregnant by somebody else. They split up nearly 8 months before we met. ...

Am I fooling myself into believing that he loves me just as much?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend are facing a bit of a problem in our relationship and I would like some advice on how to handle the situation. Let's start from the begining. I am Swedish and he is English. After 2 years travelling between our countrie...

I think my boyfriend might have been sexually abused...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I think my boyfriend might have been sexually abused. In the past, he had a relationship with another guy but that's not my issue.. We also recently wanted to further our relationship and have sex but he was unable to keep an erection... He's an ...

My ex wants to meet with me in the next few weeks but I'm not sure if I should or not. Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - Here is a run down of where I am at in life. I had this girlfriend for a little over 4 years. We broke up about 2 1/2 months ago. She stopped having sex with me 4 months ago. When she broke up with me she assured me everything would be fine, but ...

Do I let her go even though I love her or do I try to get her to be with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - I am not sure where this should be posted, and I am unsure of why I am posting at all but I am completely confused by my feelings. I am in my mid 30's and technically single. I have not been in a "relationship" in 5 years, but I also am not the ...

Which should I believe, his action or words?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - My ex insisted to see me recently and won't stop bugging me until I said yes, I will talk to him. On the phone he sounded like he was going to cry. When I saw him, he said he prayed so hard I would agree to see him which i did. He looked shy and w...

Will he ever see me as the one?

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28 July 2009 (F) - I dated my ex-bf for a year. We're in our 30s. I pressured him to take the relationship to the next level which is when the problems started. Things started getting tense between us and we started having a lot of tiffs (not fights, just ...

Do you ever find a good relationship again after a break up?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I'm not sure if anyone can help but i'm just looking for a bit of hope. Ive recently found myself single again after a very hopeful relationship. I'm devastated, although we had our problems it was basically a v good relationship. This man was the ...

How do people move on when they still love each other?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Just a quick question. How do I move on from a relationship when the person I love cant be with me? We were together for nearly 2 years and have always been very close although we have had arguments about our situation. Its breaking his heart to...

Is he lying about watching porn?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I have been going out with my boyfriend for a while now, and think that i have caught him for the second time watching porn. The first time, i caught him in the action, however, the second time, i looked at his computer history and found some recent ...

She said she's ok with us breaking up but her behaviour says otherwise!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - Hi all, hope your well. I split from my ex 4 and a bit weeks ago and as time goes on the feelings for her are going pretty quick really. We went out last week together for a few drinks which was good although i didnt particularly like the male ...

I want to send a girl I like this poem for her birthday. What do you think?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5602 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - Theres this girl that i really like, but after we hit things off, things haven't been the same. But anyways i do still like her alot! and was wondering if it would be a good idea to send her this poem i wrote, her B-Day, is wed. It's not in hopes ...

My girlfriend is pregnant and wants to end our relationship. But I don't want to lose her and our baby

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5602 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and i have been together for 14months and we are not married. she is pregnant with our first child and says she wants out of the relationship because i have been neglecting her, and she suspects i'm having an affair with one of my ...

My boyfriend told me he needs a break. What does this mean relationship-wise?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5559 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - My Boyfriend said to me last night i need a break.. i was shocked at his behaviour..and i still am. i kept saying to him... it means you dont love me anymore, and also i said you have your eye on someone else. you see i have been with this guy ...

He loves me with all of his heart and soul, and has waited 12 years for me...but I still don't want to be with him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5602 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - should a woman decide to marry a man who loves her with all his heart and soul(and waited for the last 12 years) but she still doesn’t ? ...

We had an affair, then became just good friends. But his wife found out, so now he has stopped contacting me, and I am left heartbroken...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Ive just been told its over by my best friend/ex lover. Me and this married guy had an affair about 2 years ago. It lasted for a year and then we stopped seeing each other like that. But we remained in touch. Gradually we built up a friendship, a ...

Bad things always seem to happen to me. Where is my dawn after the darkness? Will I ever find love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - After all this time im almost 19 and ive still never had a real girlfriend, every attempt has been littered with problems and complications that have only led me to pain. All girls have done is given large amounts of grief and emotional pain, thus i ...

He constantly makes up lies! Do you think he's cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I am in a long distance relashionship.I am a registered nurse with two children, uprooting my life is complicated.The person I am in the relashionship with lives at home with his Grandmother,works but is not really successful.When I first met him he ...

I'm torn between two people...and my fiance said he'd commit suicide if I left! How can I tell him I'm having second thoughts?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5602 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and I were planning to get married this year, but for now he's far from from me( he's working in a far place). And i met a guy on my previous job and we had a mutual understanding, I found something in this guy that I never found from ...

I'm fed up with my boyfriend's childish behaviour, but I don't want to end things. What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now. In the past the problems we had were because I was obsessive and tended to get upset about a lot of things when I could have just let them go and been fine. My boyfriend has told me that ...

It seems like my boyfriend only wants sex, but I don't. How do I handle this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Okay I'm 15 and I'm still a virgin and I have a boyfriend that keeps asking for sex and Im not ready for that yet...I mean like I'm ready but I just want him to wait...because the longer he wait the better my reputation be at the end.I mean I like ...

We were practically dating, and he told me he loved me. Now have those feelings just gone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I'm so heart broken. my best friend and I have always acted like we were dating. we practically were, we've just never ask each other out. he and I have been "together" since last september. I mean at first we both knew just never said our ...

Why is she distancing herself? What did I do wrong?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5602 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - well, i am a girl..and i have this friend who is also a girl..we've been friends for a while now (close friends) she said i could tell her anything..in january i told that i thought i was bi,and she said it is just a phase. and then in march i said ...

Why not let me see the message? Why lie?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Im am 16 years old and my boyfriend is 27. Before we got together he used to cheat on a girl he was seeing but changed when we got together. We have been together for just under a year and he hs never cheated on me and we have a really good ...

How can I prove that I won't do the things he did?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5602 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - A girl that i met on a online dating site, who originally approached me online first likes me a lot and I MEAN A LOT, probably the most a girl has ever liked me, and i like her as a person and her looks. Ive seen hundreds of pics of her and she has ...

Can I really say I love him if I have these doubts and insecurities at times?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5602 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We've been on and off for different reasons. I'm the one who called it off most of the time... Anywho, he changed so much this year (2009) that he's like a different person. He says I have ...

Please help, missing pieces!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5602 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I'ved dated this guy for seven years, he is the first and last person I've ever have to asked if I need or wanted something however, he has cheated twice that I know over and we've been seperated for over six months and I've began to sleep with some ...

He swears he has no feelings for me but then he says "I luv you"

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5602 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - PLEASE TRY TO READ THE WHOLE STORY. I KNOW ITS BORING BUT PLEASE HELP MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE:( here’s a guy and we are together since 2.5 yrz. our relationship was just fine before the last few months that we started to argue and quarrel A LOT ne...

What is it she wants from me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5602 days ago

28 July 2009 (M) - Hi, I have a question. My ex-girlfriend had contacted me through facebook out of the blue. We haven't spoke in good terms for about 9 months. When she contacted me, I read on her facebook that she is arguing with a guy and told him that she just ...

Should I confront him about the pictures of him partying with other girls?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Hi I am 23 I have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 years. My sister was logged on to her facebook showing my mom pictures of my boyfriend. When we looked through them I realized there were a few incriminating photos and a video (him hanging ...