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anonymous
writes:A girl that i met on a online dating site, who originally approached me online first likes me a lot and I MEAN A LOT, probably the most a girl has ever liked me, and i like her as a person and her looks. Ive seen hundreds of pics of her and she has seen a lot of me as well, and she knows a couple of my friends in real life and lives about 8 miles from where i do. We have talked for hours and we are really getting to know each other and well as always with me theirs a problem that makes things complicated. She has a boyfriend who she is not happy with because he doesn't treat her very well and has cheated on her and she took him back and she believes he could still be doing it but she keeps trying to trick herself into thinking he isn't even when thier are clear signs. Just from talking to her i can tell a large part of her wants to leave him but another part is afraid that she will only get herself in a worse situation with me or anyone else.I don't want to be that guy who breaks couples up, that is something im against doing even tho i reall like her. but she is talking like she wants to get away from him and be with me, but she doesnt have the nerves to just end what they have had for years even tho its clearly not working even to her. -Is their any way other then to wait and let things take their course and see what happens and be open for something more then friends in the future. -Is their any way i could tell her that she needs to move on if she isn't happy and not to be afraid -and is their anyway for me to prove i wont do the same things as him or worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): If you wanna keep after her then go ahead. But I REALLY think you should set yourself some kind of firm deadline in the future for how much longer you will pursue it if she hasn't broken things off with him. Because your presence might help split her off from him, or it might help her tolerate him EVEN LONGER than she would be able to take it without you. There are millions of girls and grown women (and boys and men too) who sit in her position year after year without breaking things off.
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reader, MRS.SCOOTA +, writes (28 July 2009):
you could jux show her that u r better than him...instead of telling her show her
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (28 July 2009):
 1) No, you have to wait.2) Yes, tell her she needs to move on if she isn't happy and not to be afraid.3) No, you can't prove anything to her. She has to be willing to trust you.
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