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anonymous
writes:Here is a run down of where I am at in life. I had this girlfriend for a little over 4 years. We broke up about 2 1/2 months ago. She stopped having sex with me 4 months ago. When she broke up with me she assured me everything would be fine, but it's not, I'm super depressed and cannot seem to get over it. After we broke up she slept with a guy that is 7 years older then her two weeks after we broke up. Why in the world would she do that and why do I still have such an attachment to her and what she has put me through? She not only took my relationship with her from out from under my feet but she took all my friends too... she wants to meet up with me in the next few weeks and I'm not sure whether I should or not, and if I do, should confronting her about this man (whom I never liked and had suspected something was going on) she slept with him only two weeks after the break up. And should I also confront her on why she feels it's ok to get mad about making new friends with people she dont like for whatever reason? Help me please, the meeting is coming up soon and I don't know what to do.
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reader, simon26  +, writes (28 July 2009):
Hi Dear!
There is no end of the world if someone cheats you. But to get yourself in the same trouble again and again is not a wise decision. You are a sensitive man and your ex- girlfrnd is a easy going girl as it seems from your post.
Try your luck else where instead of fooling yourself with this lady to minimize your miseries.
Best of Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Do you know why she wants to meet you? Just curious really about her motives in all of this...
Well, it is up to you whether you decide to meet her or not. But from what you have said here, I would advise against it. You are clearly feeling upset, hurt and confused, and I don't think this is the right time to be meeting with her while you are feeling this way. It could end up making you feel even worse.
Maybe you could suggest to her that you will meet up in a months time or something? Just to give things time to settle down a bit, and to give you a chance to calm your emotions down and figure out what you want from all of this.
If/when you do meet, then I think it would be a good idea to be upfront with her, and ask her the questions on your mind, like why she slept with another guy so soon, and then wants to meet you. Otherwise, I think it will always be in the back of your mind, and will just torment you.
I think you should do what feel s right for you, not for her. If this feels like too much for you right now, and you feel overwhelmed by it all, then put yourself first and don't see her. If she genuinely cares about you, and this situation, she should respect your feelings, and how all of this is affecting you. Right now it seems like it is all about her and what she wants, but it is important that you consider yourself too, so you don't get even more hurt and confused. Good luck. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Dude,
Being broken up with sucks and its a pain like no other, I know, Ive been there.
Your ex may be regretting breaking up with you but if she ditched you to go and have sex with this guy, do you want her back?? Do you want someone in your life who will be this selfish and hurt you at will.
My honest opinion dont meet her because anything she has to say aint worth your time.
Youll feel better for it in time, trust me on that.
Onwards and upwards dude,
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