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Archived questions from: 22 July, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Why would he say he's happier when he's really not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - My ex and I got together last night to watch a movie at the house.One thing lead to another and we had sex.He initiated it *he knew previously that I wouldnt be against/weird out cos of it or think we're together*.During - he seemed like he was ...

How can I let her go when I love her so much?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - After eight years, my g/f and I decided to have a open relationship with others on the internet because she said she was having problems with being faithfully..not cheating on me just liking on getting to know other people. I was having problems ...

I love him...but I think he hates me!!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - My now ex, isnt with me anymore because since he came back from the war he seems to be way distant than normal. Ive tried to be there for him but he always tells me hes all alone and no one understands him. We were always getting into arguments just ...

Why has my boyfriend started calling me names and being horrible?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - hey guys (: ive been with my boyfriend for almost 11 months now, weve generally been really happy together although he is rather prone to mood swings (a couple of times we almost ended the relationship over them). recently we spent a week together...

Why am I upset that my ex got married?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - i cant understand why this is bothering me my ex fiance got married 6 months ago and hearing it has upset me quite badly. when we were together we were together about 4 years we got engaged and the ring he got me cost 15.99- we were both on goo...

He flirts on-line -- how do I make him stop??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - hey my boyfriend is 16 and im 5 months older than him weve been together a little less than 4 months i really like him he's told me he loves me weve met each others family and friends and were really happy together i can just be myself arou...

Am I overreacting? - Is there anthing I could do to help this situation?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5606 days ago

22 July 2009 (M) - I have another question. Could I tell you about my current feelings? On Monday I started my new job and we planned to go to the cinema today. I booked tickets yesterday. At work I get a message from her saying she had received a call from (an ex) ...

His performance in bed is so disappointing I'm not sure I want to see him again! Should I tell him?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5606 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I have been seeing a guy for a very short time, He invited me to his place for a meal the other night. After a few glasses of wine, we ended up in bed. I was very dissapointed in his performance, to say the least. He was too rough, and didnt bother...

I like him only as a friend. How do I let him down easy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - Okay, I have a friend who likes me. I don't like him at all in that way. We're just friends. He has a girlfriend anyways. The other night, I was hanging out with him and two other people. He kept trying to sit closer to me. When he was as clos...

Is it their fault I have changed my life?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5542 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - i feel like im loosing my bestfriend because she keeps slying off with my "friend" *sophie* it breaks me everytime i see them together because there always talking and messing around and never let me join in on the fun - i have currently changed ...

My boyfriend leaves me for his ex-gf. How do I move on from this extremely hurtful pain?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my bf for 6 months. I know it may sound like a short amount of time, but I began to fall for him. However, towards the end, we were having a rough time and he ended up leaving me for his ex-gf. Supposedly she was asking him back and ...

I don't understand how he can be friends with someone who calls me a whore and a slut!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - Okay, I'll start at the beginning. I started dating this really nice guy, whom i've come to love a lot. We've been dating for nearly 5 months, and it's been getting a little rocky. I am 17, and he is 18. We both had this friend and we stopped bein...

When we met up she was all over me, but now she isnt replying to my texts! What should I do now?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I have known I have been gay for about a year or so, and I have had gay flings wtc but ive never been in a sexual relationship with a girl. I started talking to a girl (friend of a friend) about two months ago, and we were talking and texting loads. ...

I know we can work things out but he wants to throw in the towel, how do I put things right?

This question has 30 answers - newest was posted 5603 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - How can I even attempt to move on with my life without the man I love so much, the father of my child and the man who has been a great stepfather and friend to my other children whom they all have love and respect for? The man who my family also res...

Should I stay with him? Throughout our 3 year relationship I have been depressed and I feel like I am losing my mind!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5544 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been through alot in our relationship, he's a widower and has a little daughter. I don't know if I should stay with him. He always takes his mother in law and sister in law side (they don't like me...trust me I know they ...

My boyfriend accuses me of flirting when I was at an industry networking event! Will this type of man ever change?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I am an event management student, and our teacher organises frequent visits to exhibitions and conferences. this is a great way for us to network with industry professionals. today was the australian event business expo and was a great opportunity ...

I feel like I'm the only one putting the effort in, should I stop seeing this guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - Good morning all, well i have a lil problem i cant decide whether or not to continue seeing this guy. Weve been seeing each other for 2 months. Yesterday he worked over time so i texted him to let him know that if he felt like it then he could txt ...

Been together 5 months, and he still hasn't told me he loves me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for almost five months now, and he still hasnt told me that he loves me. when we are together our relationship seems great but when apart he seems a bit distant and as if he doesnt appreciate me. Im not sure if he really ...

Do you think my sexual history is bad?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - Just looking for opinions if you think my sexual history is bad. im 19 nearly 20. before my bf i have had sex with 4 guys, all of whom i was in a relationship with or had strong feelings for. In about 4 years i have hooked up (made out) with about ...

I've just found out that I'm pregnant but I want to leave my boyfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - Right i basically need to know what i should do. I just found out i'm pregnant last week, i knew i was for a couple of weeks anyway so it didn't come as a HUGE surprise. I'm almost 8 weeks in. I'm happy at my little surprise bambino and excited. The ...

I enjoy sex with my boyfriend but I'm never in the mood!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5092 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 years. We have the best relationship... except I don't want to have sex anymore. I feel terrible about this, I really do love him. I like having sex with him, but I'm never in the mood. I'm only 23 so I shouldn't ...

This is only my second serious relationship, and now she drops the bombshell that she has a boyfriend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

22 July 2009 (M) - Hi there, I fell in love with a woman over a period of time. Nothing physical happened. I've known her for a while. Anyway, It was her birthday few weeks ago, and I had a special night planned for us. She calls me and says her "b/f" is coming ...

My boyfriend told me he gets bored of kissing me for too long!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - i've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, but recently he told me that he 'gets bored' of kissing me for too long? We rarely snog anymore and when we kiss its maybe only for a couple of seconds, maybe less. also he's been reluctant to hav...

Am I wrong for wanting to move on and find happiness?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5606 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I have decided to end things with my partner, sheerly because he gambles five days a week, we have one child together and i have three from a previous relationship, and he pays no interest in them only complains about their behaviour, they are ...

My girlfriend has feelings for her boss, but I wont accept three people in this relationship!

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 3266 days ago

22 July 2009 (M) - I have been in a ten year relationship, a month ago my girlfriend told me she had developed strong feelings for her boss, he makes her have butterflies and all that stuff, she hasnt dared to tell him, but found out it was mutual, I told her to make ...

He wanted to discuss our future together, but all of a sudden he has gone quiet!

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22 July 2009 (F) - ive been dating this amazing guy, and lately (in a jokey way) he's been asking to marry me, suddenly he told me he wants to discuss our future together, i said im open to possibilities and now he's gone quiet - what is he thinking?...

Why wont they accpet that I don't drink and stop pressuring me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - My bf, his whole family, and his friends all keep trying to force me to drink through pressuring me. I keep telling them I dont drink, but they wont accept it, they continue to harrass me non stop. They buy me alcoholic drinks and say "you have to ...

Why the sudden U-turn in his feelings?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I have been seeing a man for 8 weeks and he just finished the relationship. He fell in love with me in two weeks and i said it was too fast. He said he had found the one, he spoke about moving in one day in the future when we were ready and that one ...

Why am I a secret when I'm carrying his child?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and i zak have been off an on for almost 8 months. Well, ous relationship has been full of alot of good things and there has been many heart breaking moments. We just found out that we're having a baby and i told my parents and they're ...

I'm engaged, but my ex is pregnant

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

22 July 2009 (M) - I was on service overseas..At a time it was OK wd my gf..As time prolong from each other we decided to go seperate way..Now Im engaged wd the girl i meet overseas..Going back home after end of service. I meet at EX-GF at the common friend ...

He gets loving texts from his ex's

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - Me and my bf have been going out for a year and a half, last year his phone went off while I was using the camera and it was a txt from his ex saying she loves him sexy etc...I found on his phone that he had been txting them back and saying I love ...

What is going on? My gut says there's someone else.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

22 July 2009 (M) - Im confused. my girlfriend out of nowhere started trying to avoid me like the plague. she says its cuz shes worried she is pregnant and is hormonal towards me. its shady to me. she hasnt started period but every pregnancy test is negative. i ...

I'm starting to feel like a caged animal in this relationship!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5602 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - My partner and I have been together for almost a year now, when we first started dating we use to go out heaps. Now we both work during the week the only time we get to see each other is on weekends. We hardly go out anywhere and he never spends m...

Is all as it really seems between us?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - A brief outline: I met a guy online last year and we got talking pretty seriously straight away about pretty much our whole lives (we just seemed to click). We moved over to talking on the phone a few months later and talk every night. We're due...

Where is the love and why can't I get any?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - This is mainly about the relationship I have with myself; I hope that's okay...? Also, I sincerely apologize for how long this actually is and if you read through this whole thing, I applaud you... Anyhow, I was about seven when I started showing ...

I get jealous easily and my boyfriend doesn't like it...Please help

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5608 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfirned have been going out for a year and five months now, I love him and I trust him with all my heart but someone please help me get rid of my jealousy. He has many more and makes more friends with girls, and without meaning to, I get ...

Do I make the next move or move on?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I ended my relationship because he started to distant himself from me then turned around and said that we was never together in the first place which is a lie as we did stuff that most normal couples would do, we spent most our time together then he ...

He had sex with his ex behind my back!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I've been together with this man for a year and a half. He is divorced and has a son. His ex wife called me to say that he was seeing her. I didn't believe her, later he admitted being with her twice. I called her to confirm that. She told me they ...

Are there guys out there who are happy to accept their girlfriend without trying to change her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - Are there guys out there who are happy to accept their girlfriend without trying to change her? A year ago my long term boyfriend wanted to change so much about me - my taste in music wasn't girly enough, my clothes not classy enough, my glasses ...

With him, it's constant kisses and hugs and "I love yous" and it's really starting to annoy me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 months now and hes become totally obsessed with me. I constantly get txts asking "wuu2" or "ily so much babe x" and its like really freaking me out....at first it was like aww now i find myself i...

I need my ex to go away before this annoys my new boyfriend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - i was in an emotionlly abusive relationship for 11months and finally got out of it about a month ago. i am now dating someone new im really crazy about but my ex keeps trying to come back to me and he wont listen when i tell him to go away. i told...

I don't think she should be shouting at me when I'm pregnant with all these hormones!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5608 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - I have always got on really well with my boyfriends mother. Only recently she has really started to piss me off!! I help her out when me and my boyfriend stay at her house for the ocational weekend with the decorating and stuff. We have always g...

What is he doing in his baby mamma's house until 12:30am?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5608 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - Can someone please explain to me what my boyfriend is doing. 3months into the relationship he told me he had a child by some girl he went to college with. No problem since he was with me everyday but not at nights. As our relationship went on more ...

We never go out anywhere! I don't know what to do anymore.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5514 days ago

22 July 2009 (F) - i love my boyfriend to bits, but im having trouble believing he has "real" feeling for me, we spend everyday in his house, watching t.v or having sex, what kind of a relationship is that? i even had to ask him to take me out for our years anaversa...

She wants to end the relationship!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5082 days ago

22 July 2009 (M) - hi im wondering if i may ask of your help with regards to my girlfriend and our current situation,we have been arguing just of late and she says she wants to end it although we have twin girls just 14 months old. is it a gene thing or a family trait ...