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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

My boyfriend of over one year constantly calls me a whore and accuses me of sleeping with coworkers when I have work meetings.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of over one year constantly calls me a whore and accuses me of sleeping with coworkers when I have work meetings. I have never, in my short 26 years been unfaithful, I have been cheated on and I know that pain. I have been making...

I lied to him about the kind of car I drive, how can I tell him the truth?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - I lied to my bf about the type of car I used to have. I know this may sound really weird, why would I lie about something like that? Well, my car I used to have was a really expensive one and people would always judge me by it. As soon as I say what ...

My married lover is stalking me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5613 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - My married lover is stalking me - I only found out he was married recently, he gets a group of his mates to help him spy on me too-thing is, from how he's treated me and the fact that he's married he doesnt love me and from how he is with me I'm ...

She is having the best of both worlds and I am letting it happen!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (M) - Well here is the problem. I have been in a serious relationship for 10 years now. Just started going to church. My girlfriend then starts to talking to a preacher who is 28 years old. He has no job and still lives at home with his parents and has ...

If we get back together would it be ok for her to talk to this guy? she says she has feelings for him!

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1 July 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been having quite a few issues lately and have broken up a few times just within the past couple of weeks. We both made some mistakes and I'm trying to make things alright again. I've been trying to get her to give us a...

How do I stop my bad behaviour toward my girlfriend?

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1 July 2009 (M) - hi i have been in a relation ship for a yr now n i have the tendency to b self destructive n tell the occasional lie. i feel its to protect my mate but she found out n i dnt no what to do. i dnt mean to hurt her but it happens i love her mre than i ...

Left my husband for a guy, who later turned abusive so I left, but I'm still in love with both of them. I don't know what to do...

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1 July 2009 (F) - Hi, im not sure where to start in my head my problems are HUGE and i need advice so am hoping you can help. I have been married for 8 years my husband was faithful (i think but there have been some doubts and accusasions by my best friend of other...

Is this relationship ever going to go anywhere? Opinions needed!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5613 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now. We live about 2 hours away from each other, so we only get to see each other on the weekends. We were both separated when we started dating. I’m now divorced, but he is still in the ...

How could he change so suddenly? what's going on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5606 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - hello agony aunts and uncles! im sorry this is so long and drawn out but its been niggling at me for a log time now and i just need a bit of help or some insight as to whats going on. first of all i belong to a youth organisation, and im curre...

My boyfriend is going on dating websites looking for a discreet relationship.

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1 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is going on dating websites looking for a discreet relationship. I confronted him about it and he took down the page saying that he was just stressed about us and it was stupid. But then two weeks later I find another one! We live ...

She loves me but is not sexually attracted to me - what does she mean by this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

1 July 2009 (M) - I dated this girl for 2 years in college but towards the end of our relationship we started fighting a lot and kinda fell out of love. We broke up in feb 2009 and continued to remain friends. In May we started hanging out a lot and started acting ...

I KNOW he's had oral with another guy! If I ask him and he denies it I'll be gutted.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend borrowed my laptop, when I got it back I found he has been watching gay and Bi porn. He also left facebook chat open and there it was right in front of me.... a conversation with an old male friend which stated they had had oral sex in ...

How can I hint to him to buy me some flowers?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and he hasn't brought me any presents or anything. For valentines day I sent him a card as we are in a long distance relationship and he didn't know what he wanted. I thought he would have brought me a ...

Can we ever be friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5613 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - I've recently split up with a guy who did me wrong - in a big way. Despite this I genuinely believe he loved me. We've talked and talked and I finally understand why he did what he did although I can't forgive him just yet. However I real...

I feel guilty I lied to him but I'm probably never going to see him again...

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1 July 2009 (F) - I have a bit of a problem... last year me and my friend were 15 and we went on holiday to spain, in the resort the drinking age was 16. We met some lads who said they would take us out drinking. After they asked our age my friend said 16, so we just ...

Is he screwing me over behind my back or is he just having harmless fun?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - I am completely and totally in love with my boyfriend of 1 year. He says he loves me and wants to be with me forever, but I keep finding emails from ads that he responds to on personals sites, and earlier in the year he had multiple ads up of his ...

My girlfriend accused me of cheating but I've never done it. How do I convince her of that?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5243 days ago

1 July 2009 (M) - I have been seeing a woman for about 4 months. Things were casual at first but heated up quickly. My emotions took over and I started to fall for her. She didn't express very strong emotions for me, so after much consideration, I ended things for ...

Any tips to help me get with this other guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - God. Where do i start, Okay, i have a boyf, well i did, we're on a break for summer and we're being single because of arguing and we're thinking of getting back together after summer as it's only a break. But there's this other guy, who is the ...

Where do I stand with this man? I cant bring myself to tell him I still love him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5613 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of six years had broken up with me in April. I didn't see it coming. I was in total shock! Like any other relationship, we had problems. We've been in a long-distance relationship for so many years and seemed to work. At the begin...

Her parents dislike me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (M) - I've been dating a 22yr old Indian girl for the past 5 months, and things are going extremely well between us. If it were up to us, it looks like we would be going down the marriage route. however, the problem is that her parents are very ...

Dealing with his depression

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I’m new here and have been milling around trying to answer folk’s questions. Well, here goes… My partner and I have been together for seven months and we hit it off from the moment we met nearly a year ago. We have pretty much e...

I don't want her to think she can lie to me and treat me like a fool, but I don't want to lose her either

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (M) - Bit of a long one this. A few months ago i met up with an old school friend. before we met up we'd been emailing and texting each other a lot. during this time our feelings for each other grew. we both felt an emotional and sexual connection. we met ...

He guards his phone with his life! I'm suspicious and tempted to look through it. What should I do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - I've been married to my husband for 4 years now. I trust him but his behavior with his cell phone gets me thinking. He guards his phone with his life. Wherever he goes, he takes his phone with him. Should I be concerned? I feel tempted to look ...

After 5 weeks together he needs space. Should I wait for him or move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - I started dating a guy 5 weeks ago.he was going out with a girl on and off for nearly ten years, they broke up nearly 8 months ago. he lives across the road from me also. we spend the first few weeks together stayin up for hours chatting. got on so ...

I think my husband is cheating or is going to. Or am I paranoid?

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1 July 2009 (F) - First, I want to say thank you for everyone who takes the time to read this and respond. My Husband of 3 years, I believe has/or has the intention of cheating. We have a 3 month old and a 2 year old. Lately, he has been hanging around a new friend ...

Am I blindly trusting him? What do you think?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5613 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. My boyfriend's friend that is female always sends him texts saying that she loves him and she misses him all the time. He has other females that he is close with and they don't send texts like this ...

I want some more romantic time with my husband. What should I do?

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1 July 2009 (F) - Good day, I am 28 years old and I've been married almost 2 years now. I love my husband dearly and we have a beautiful baby boy. I love my family. But my question is how do I deal with the death of our romantic status. My husband and I have known...

Things weren't perfect, but this cat issue is pushing me over the edge...

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1 July 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been living together for 5 months, without getting too deep, she has some medical issues, including some stress and anxiety issues. Shame on me for not really getting to understand the extent of these issues, but I'm ...

I don't want to lose him, how can I make our relationship better?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - Okay here it goes! i am just wondering if you people can help me find ways to make our relationship stronger? i am a jealous person and i try so hard not to be! i think im getting better and i am just a open person where i talk about what bothers ...

He keeps boxes of items from his past. Am I wrong for wanting him to let go and move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - My husband (we got married last year)keeps everything he has ever touched: old typewriters, computers, manuals and boxes for things that he doesn't even own.He has 3 storage places that he has had for over 20 years. He is definitely a packrat. He ...

We don't trust each other and now I might be leaving for a job. How can we make this work?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5607 days ago

1 July 2009 (M) - Don't know what to do? I have been dating this girl for almost a year! We live in the same town! In fact she lives about couple of blocks away from me! We spend almost every weekend together! But most of that time we will be fighting! I told her ...

I get jealous when she flirts and our sex has dwindled!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (M) - I am a 35 year old recently divorced father of 3 young kids and have been in a loving relationship with a 20 year old girl for the last 6 months. I love this girl to bits, she makes me so happy and has given me endless support and love, more t...

I wonder if he's become distant but I'm trying to change!

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1 July 2009 (F) - Hi. I really hope someone can help me..I appreciate any responses I get. Ok, so me and my boyfriend were togethr for like six months and it was amazing..like I couldn't have been happier and he felt the same. People we didn't know would comment on ...

How can someone be incapable of loving?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend told me that he doesn't want to be with me because he isn't capable of truely loving anyone and doesn't want to hurt me. He also doesn't want to have sex with me because he knows I will end up getting hurt. I think that my boyfriend ...

She said everything was perfect between us but she doesn't want to be with me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (M) - I really like this girl that i met a couple months ago, and for the first month or so things were perfect! spending all our time together. To keep things short and to the point, she would spend the night, i met her parents on several occasions, and ...

I don't know what so say to him...someone please help me..please..this is my last hope..

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5615 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - Okay so im so lost to where all i can do is cry and i never wanna leave my house... so i had just turned fifteen and i used to bowl. Well there was this guy there the night leage had come back around and the minute i saw him i fell head ove...

We're set in our respective churches -- should we try to work it out or break up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - my bf and I have been together 9 months. He is catholic and I am baptist. We are concerned about what this will mean if we get married and start a family together. We are definitely in love, but we are very set in our own churches and ...

Wives who let their husbands cheat!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - Alot of blogs are about married men and their mistress hurting the wife. What about the wives who let their husbands cheat? I will share my story. I was dealing with a married man for almost 2 years. I known him for 4 years. He chased me for 2 ye...

Do I really want him back or is he getting back at me for breaking up with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I were together for 5 years. I broke up with him 3 months ago. I found out he meet someone. I on the other hand have been trying to get over him. Then bingo he calls after 3 months and wants to see me. So I thought I should ...

My girl always tells her friends our relationship problems before she tells me!

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1 July 2009 (M) - My current girlfriend always tells her friends our relationship problems before telling me and it really bugs me. its as if she expects her friends to tell me for her. For example im going to go see a movie with my friend this weekend and she a ...

How do I tell her I'm sorry and really want to trust her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5615 days ago

1 July 2009 (M) - Ok I have a problem. I am too jealous. This girl I been dating her for almost 6 months. And she has never give me any reason why not to trust her. And I haven't heard notting bad about her, in fact all I have heard its good stuff of her. On this ...

The break up is fresh, how can I deal with the pain and when can I talk to her again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (M) - I loved her, we had so much in common.. I thought relationships that work are based on a commonality and similarities.. I guess not.. To be honest she was first 'real' love, someone i thought i could be with always. I would love to have ...

Falling out of love? I'm I not expressing my emotions clearly?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5611 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - I don't feel like I'm in love with my bf anymore, we've been together for about 3 yrs now and were friends for about 5 yrs before that. Due to a mutual decision for him to move out and move in with his friend Mark as a roommate b/c of our financial ...

Is the man I love gone forever?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5615 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - The guy I have been dating for the past 8 months has not always been the most affectionate (up to my standards I guess) and so this has been an issue since day one. We have discussed this and he has always made an attempt but then things go back to ...

Can a boy just seriously stop liking you like that?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - okay so there is this boy ive been hooking up with. the whole day we were have a really good convo and he was telling me how much he wanted me and cares about me and that this relationship isnt committed...its not just physical to him and that he ...

I'm lost right now...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5614 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years since i was 19 i do love him but feel like I am missing out on life and we now have 2 kids i am pregnant now and i feel like we have to stay together for our kids he has no lue that i feel this way but ...

Just a friend...

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1 July 2009 (M) - I'm a 45 year old man who has been married for 18 years. We tried to have kids but it never happened since she waited until he late 30's (we're the same age). So I really missed out on the family that marriage is supposed to provide - you know, ...

How can he love someone else in just one month?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5615 days ago

1 July 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend very much for 2 years now i did everything i could to be with him. Sex, care, be there, go out anytime n everytime he need me. I love him n he loves me. We went throught hard time together he is my everything but just the other ...