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writes:I've been with my boyfriend 2 years nad love him dearly. When we were together 3 months I kissed my ex. It was a very brief kiss and I immediately knew it was a mistake. I didn't tell my boyfriend as I was petrified of losing him. He is amazing and I would never cheat again. I hate myself for doing it. It was very out of character. I feel awful for lying to him but I'm afraid that if I tell him the truth he will leave me. What should I do?
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reader, 456duffle  +, writes (29 July 2009):
No!!!! Do not ever tell him this!!! As we all know there are sooo many double standards when it comes to men and women...u tell him and yeah it'll be off your chest but it'll be on his and you will be the biggest Wh*re,Sl*t and every other derogatory name u can think of for the rest of the relationship...It may be forgotten for some time but it will definitely be brought back up in almost every spat you and your bf have. U did it...u wouldn't do it again...it was only a kiss...it was at the beginning of your current relationship...get over it and you don't need to tell him...some things you can keep for yourself...especially if its that minor and that long ago
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (29 July 2009):
NO, do NOT tell him. You'll be reiving your guilt and gutting him at the same time... folks that do this to "get it off their chest" are being horrible to their partner.You learned instantly from this, remember what you learned and never tell him about it... ever... it's behind you, forgive yourself and move on!
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (29 July 2009):
 I agree....in this instance dont tell him...but please understand that the kiss was not a mistake. Did your ex force you to kiss him? No you did it of your own free will, so cut the BS about a "mistake". You did it because you could.Be honest...lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Don't tell him. That is such a minor thing. It's not like you slept with him. If that was the case then I would probably advise you to tell him and suffer the consequences.
If you still think that you should tell him then first think of how he might take it. Some guys would just laugh at you for being so worried about such a minor thing, while others would leave you on the spot and everything in between. Don't risk a good relationship over such a minor thing unless you are positive that he would just shrug it off completely.
If you are worried that he will find out and lose his trust in you then that could make a difference, but he hasn't in nearly 2 years, so it will probably not happen. Most ex boyfriends aren't going to go around bragging that they had a short kiss with their ex 2 years ago.
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reader, boo22 +, writes (28 July 2009):
 Don't tell him, it will achieve nothing. Your being tortured in your mind about this anyway so thats punishment enough in my view. Do yourself a favour and stop thinking about it. Telling him to unburden yourself will bring nothing good if you want to have a happy future. Just don't do it again.
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