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Archived questions from: 21 July, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

My parents want me to have a baby so they can look after it!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - im a 17 year old girl living in the UK! recently, my parents have been a little immature and stupid i think to be honest. my parents have been trying for another baby since i was 2, but were told for personal reasons she will find it very difficult ...

I left my boyfriend because he was slagging me off to my sister on facebook!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - A couple of months ago i left my boyfriend because he was slagging me off on facebook to my sister! And i was talking to him myself on facebook chat and he said "My mate likes you" and i said who? he said "peter" Then he said that it was a joke ...

Why am I so upset my ex got married to someone else?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - i probably sound really silly writing this but im really upset that my ex fiance has got married to somebody else. im upset because i dont understand why im upset after all when we were together we had a house which i left to him after our bad sp...

Should I take him back? We have this chemistry.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - Ok let me break this down for you in its simplest form, if possible. Me and Sam click. Theres always been this chemistry which we both find difficult to gain from other relationships. Theres almost an oxymoron persona between us; love is always f...

I'm waiting on a man...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - I was dating my son's father for 3 1/2 years. When i became pregnant in 2007 he said our relationship was over because I wouldn't abort. We moved apart a month prior to the baby arriving. He was excellent and there through my entire labor. He love ...

My ex baby daddy wants a quality night with me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - My son's father and i have both moved on after he ran off with a lady of 40 and married her , my son is now 7 and i am 29 and his dad is 27 thing is i'm seeing someone else and since he came by the other day we realised our feelings are real strong, ...

One day I'm the girl he's going to marry, the next day he's stand-offish!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - I am quite hurt and confused and would really appreciate any advice! Me and my boyfriend of six months broke up about a month ago but during that month we have been in contact every day, talking meeting up and even going away on a trip together! For ...

She screws with my head, but I love her. What do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

21 July 2009 (M) - i have been on before and got good advise, so here we go again. i broke up with my partner just over 4 weeks ago. she asked me to move out as i was making her unhappy but now i have my own place and am decorating it. she is being nasty and very ...

My drug addict ex boyfriend dumped me, he just puts drugs before me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5076 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - My ex bf began taking cocaine at age 10 as well as drinking and having sex. His parents sent him to a rehab in grade 9 but when he got out he became a dealer and ended up doing time in jail. When he got out he went back to his old ways and ended up ...

Did I give her the right advice? She really likes him but hes just not into her

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - hey my friend really likes this guy she had been dating but then they stopped seeing each other, it was his decision as He made it clear he wasn't that into her by not even replying to messages etc. Anyway, he asked to meet up with her recently. I ...

Will he contact me or will the male pride stop him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and i broke up over a month ago but decided to remain friends. A week later we had a row via email which resulted in me saying that I didnt think he cared enough about me and therefore I was saying goodbye. I explained that I hoped one ...

I had sex with a girl I love very much, now shes ignoring me...why?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (M) - So I been hanging out with this girl that I work with. I’m totally crazy about her, we pretty much got hired around the same time 6 months ago. A couple of weeks ago we met after work to have dinner and we later did “stuff” in my car. Fast forwar...

We broke up a year ago, but still 'hook up'!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I broke up a year ago, and since then we've been hooking up every so often. I'm not sure what to do, its like we cant get back together in a relationship because it just doesnt work out, but after a while we miss each other so much, ...

How can I leave this awful relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - I have been in a bad relationship for three of the longest years of my life. I am only 20 years old and i have a two year old daughter. this relationship as been so bad till i cry myself to sleep sometimes. Now we live together everythings in my ...

Am I heartless for even thinking about this?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (M) - I'm engaged to a lovely girl. We've been together for over 5 years, but ever since we bought a house together she's become very distant. She still chooses to live with her mother rather than at our house, and openly admits that she doesn't know if ...

Would it be very selfish if I leave, and let them figure things out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - I have very hard time live in my own dysfunctional family. I know usually teenagers would feel like that , but really ,I' m so upset. Me and my husband can't get along for many reasons. He is working all the time, and never does anything with...

I'm trying but my boyfriend seems to not care about ths relationship anymore!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. When we first started dating he was Sooooo in live with me, and it was so nice to have someone who treated me like this. He took me on dates, he was compassionate about my feelings, he ...

Help me with my relationship, please!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - Well i am 25 and have four children, three from a previous relationship, and yes i started really young, But i need someones help, my fella is a gambler and goes to the pokers five days a week, now just to be clear, he doesnt spend my money and he ...

Should I accept it's over and never contact him again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - Hi everyone I have just split up with my boyfriend of 18 months and I feel really confused, hurt and upset. He broke up with me because he felt too pressured to commit and knows he can't give me what I want. He doesn't think it will ever work a...

I trusted my long-term boyfriend enough to stop using condoms with him, but now I am itchy! Could it just be thrush or something more?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - I need help. I hope I am just worrying for nothing. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and been completely faithful. Before him I have only had sex with 3 other guys all who were my boyfriends. I was safe with all of them (using ...

Boyfriend's blue balls.....he says if I don't give him head he will leave me!

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend says every time we hang out he gets blue balls and is in pain for hours, even days. It causes him headaches and muscle cramps too. I do plenty of sexual things for him almost every time we hang out. He's tried masturbating beforehand, ...

I started to move on after our affair but now he is dragging me back into this, he has some kind of hold over me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - Hi, i need some advice. at the beginning of the year i fell in love with a guy at work, the feeling was mutual and we started seeing each other. the problem was that he has a fiance and two children. what stopped him leaving was his children so he ...

Will he start to back away from our relationship due to the additional stress in his life?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now and things are going really well between us (no signs of him backing off or anything like that). 4 days ago he called to tell me that he is getting layed off (this stress now on top of other stresses ...

I thought I didnt have romantic feelings for her anymore but now I wonder if I really do love her?

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21 July 2009 (M) - ok the story is really interesting ...long story short ..i dumped my gf cuz i didnt have romantic feelings for her but only loved her as my bestest friend which i realised really very late ...our relationship was for 9 months... we were friend...

Is his lack of jealousy just a lack of interest?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

21 July 2009 (?) - I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. He's a wonderful guy and a great boyfriend. He's very loving and kind. The only thing that's been worrying me lately is that nothing ever bothers him. I had some problems with my Ex-bf at the ...

My partner wont divorce his wife!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for over 2 years now I am 52 and he is 62, i was married when i was 19 and left my husband 5 years ago, this is my first proper relationship since then, I was wary at the beginning about going into a relationship, but ...

We have been getting on so well but now his ex is back in the picture!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - Hi. About 3 or 4 weeks ago I started seeing a guy, who we shall call michael. It was very much him pursuing me and took me out on 3 dates, with a 4th planned for this week. We aren't going out yet but it was certainly going that way. He is a really ...

How do I trust someone who doesn't trust themselves

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (M) - I've been having a rocky time with my partner lately about trust issues and that. We have been together for about 2 months now and we both feel attached to each other. There is major trust issues between us. I've made mistakes whilst I wa...

A Fickle Ex BF. How Do You Fix A Fickle Person?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - I just realized that my ex and I broke up cos he's fickle. He claims he just wasn't feeling it anymore. But he seemed happy daily, contacted me daily and even when given the opportunity to be alone or hang w/ friends - he'd wanna see me. He made up ...

I hate smoking more than I love him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - I had always known my boyfriend smoked when he went out to pubs and clubs but it didn't bother me. Now 6 years later he has changed jobs to an outdoor job and seems to be smoking here and there. I'm gutted cos i thought our relationship was ...

How do we stop fighting over every little thing?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - Hello Cupid, I've been with my online boyfriend for 14 months. A big problem is that fight constantly!!! We fight about the smallest things ever but we still love each other just as much. We are very jealous people, and we tell each other to bl...

I'm grossed out by my BFs sexual past with his ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - Hello, I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year now and I still get grossed out because he did it bare with his ex girlfriend who doesn't have good hygiene... he told me that he did it bare with her bare when they were together and I've had ...

Can it work to have a relationship with a professional escort?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5606 days ago

21 July 2009 (M) - Since February 2009, I have been dating an escort from a Western European country. She and I have seen each other 9 times for up to one week at a time and sometimes for as little as 2 days at a time. She has been very open in telling me she loves ...

Did I do the right thing? Could I have done things differently?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5604 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - This is not a relationship question. This happened months ago, and I wonder if I have done the right thing. I went on a field trip with people from my college to a medical school. The others seemed hostile towards me to begin with...example:We got ...

He's planned to get his wisdom teeth out just before our holiday

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - It seems like my boyfriend of three years just doesn't care when things are planned out. He and I are planning to take a romantic weekend trip to a nearby city. Today he went to the dentist to make an appointment to have his wisdom teeth taken out. ...

He's gone from contacting me daily to hardly ever

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5609 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - I don't get it. My ex and I had a good relationship. He called/msged me daily or would offer to come see me daily. I hardly ever initiated contact cause he always called/came over..but I dug it. We broke up cause it seems like financial/home life ...

We're going to be roommates, and I'm attracted to him! Should I say something now or when we are sharing a roof?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - So I recently started working for a new company. About 2 months after being there, I started inquiring to some of my coworkers that I was tired of living alone and was possibly looking to get a roommate or find a new place with roommates. I was ...

I'm finally content after our breakup and don't want to be heartbroken again...but I'm pregnant with his baby and don't know what to do

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5512 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - Me and my Fiance of 3 years broke up 7 months ago. However, I am pregnant with his baby. We have remained friends and our friendship has gotten much better since January. Our relationship ended because I cheated on him over a year ago and he never ...

It bothers me that she's slept with so many people. I value sex, and she has just been giving it away

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

21 July 2009 (M) - my girlfriend is 19 and so am i. She has had sex with seven different guys, including me, while i've only had sex with her. Ever since she told me about that, i haven't had the same respect for her and i feel like i cant see her the same way. a lot ...

My husband get angry, throws things and sometimes hits me, what should I do?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5602 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - hi there, ok my question is more of a long story that i need advice on my husband has this thing where i cant do anything right he will give me a list of things he wants done before he gets home and i will do my best to finish them but he never be...

Am I wrong? Is he? Is my relationship over??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - Last night I came home to my man and told him that I was considering taking a pole dancing fitness class with a workmate who asked me to join her. It has always looked like a bit of cheeky fun and I really wanted to do it. He didn't like the idea, ...

Is my 43 y.o. boyfriend obsessed??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

21 July 2009 (F) - Is my boyfriend obsessed?!?!? Ok. I think my boyfriend is obsessed with his ex wife's kids. (they aren't his kids, just hers). They dated for 2 months, got married, and he left the her after 2 weeks. (she was stealing meds from his mother and just...