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Archived questions from: 2 July, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Friend is saying stuff behind my back, is this a good friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - Okay I'm not gonna mention real names so the friend I'm disliking will be "A" and the friend I like will be friend "B" and I'm "M" Okay so I sent my boyfriend a "naughty" picture and I know it was wrong, and illegal, but I don't want to hear tha...

I don't think he realises that these lies to his mother are starting to erode my trust in him...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I have been with my partner for 2 years. He is in his mid thirties. He is currently working extremely hard to save enough money so that we can move in together. However, there is one problem that I don't know how to approach. When my partne...

I cant stop thinking about my ex-girl. Should I act on it?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - I broke up with my girlfriend after 3 years of ups and downs. I really loved her, but I felt it was the best thing to do given how she was treating me at the time. Funny thing is, I can't stop thinking about her. I tried to date other girls in the ...

Found out he's going on holiday without me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I found out that my boyfriend may be going on holiday. He did not ak me or anything. Our relationship has been struggling. I called him pretending not to know and told him I was planning on going to the same place. He did not say anything. ...

I'm loney and need to move on from my ex...Advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5626 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - Im lonely, I still talk to my ex even though I shouldn't and he told me hes going to America for 2 weeks on holiday with his girlfriend and even though its been a year and half since he dumped me it felt like a kick in the guts. I want to meet ...

He says he "can't" love or care about me because of his past. How do I stop caring about this man?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5618 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I've been seeing this guy for 9 months we have never been out on a date we just have sex, he tells all about his past relationships, I love him and don't want to love him because I don't believe he loves me because he has never said it neither does ...

How do I get over him when this is happening?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5615 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I need some help. I have no idea what to do, or what to think, or what to feel. I met this guy a couple of months ago in a parking lot at a car shop that I was at with my best friend. The moment we saw each other across the way, there was this ine...

He's now dating BOTH of us! What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5626 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I started dating my boyfriend 2 years ago and he told me he has a girlfriend but based on the girl's attitude he wants to breakup the relationship but all those times they had a quarell and i thought it will soon be over but the girl kept calling ...

He gives me false hope along with broken promises....

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I hate the way i feel. Basically i have been in a relationship on/off 4 3yr years. I was madly in love with this man so much. But all i ever wanted was more time and attention from him! Im confused bout how he felt 4 me. We were so intense. So ...

Do you really think they like me or are they just being jerks?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5626 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - i've been through a lot this summer and its hard to be happy with all the dramma. pertty much i was dumped by my bf and almost everyong(literally) on facebook hate me. i dont kno y, but lots of ppl tend to call me a transexual? these guys from my ...

Boyfriend that drinks too much!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4039 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I am crazy about my boyfriend but he drinks too much. have told him I dont want to be around him when he drinks because he is really unpleasant and he always argues with me. we had a row a few days ago because he was drunk now he ignoring me and ...

This is really creepy - my boyfriend and his friends are following me.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - Hi-I just want some opinions on a creepy situation-I have this boyfreind I've known for about 4 years,I don't see him very often and I've heard him talking on the phone to other women-baisically,he is definately seeing other people,I've known for ...

I'm pregnant and alone - he became a monster!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I'm 21 years old and met my ex-boyfriend working. A few months after dating he became a monster i was living with him because i was going through some financial problems. He became very physical with me and i ended up leaving him going to Georgia ...

How can I find a good relationship counselor?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5624 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - I am in Western Australia and wondering how do you go about finding a relationship councillor for myself and my boyfriend? I contacted Relationships Australia but we can't see someone from there for many weeks and I really don't want to wait tha...

Stuck all day in the house doing housework and tending the baby! He gets stoned and plays video games

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - hi! i need someones advice on this,, me and my partner have been together for 4 years we have an 11 month old, my boyfriend doesnt work because he has stomach problems and he smokes cannabis daily, hes 26 and im 20 , thing is i like to keep my ...

I lied and now I don't know what to do!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - Complicated situation and I need help. I had been seeing this girl for almost a year. We were in love. However, we had some rough moments lately and a month ago we hit rock bottom. She went out with her friends on a random thursday night a...

Am I rushing the relationship too quick?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - been with my feller for 5 mths hes been going home cuming bk to see me, we are living apart at the momment wants me to live up north.I have got 2 tennagers im looking after its not fair to leave school has the only got couple more years before they ...

Someone please help! I don't know what to do about my ex-boyfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - Hi I broke up with my boyfriend that I have been seeing on and off for the past 4 years he treated me terrible not just terrible but how noone should ever be treated! he sprayed me in the face with pepper spray, he slit all my tires, he called me ...

Am I just a jealous mess, or do I have a good reason?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - Ok, so basically i don't know if i'm just a jealous mess, or whether i have reasons or not? i love my boyfriend to bits, but he always seems to have one better than me, he goes on about how unlucky he is when he goes on a holiday every single yea...

I hurt her by fooling around on SMS, help me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - i love my lecturer and she loves me too... we are more than sisiter and brother both are non separable but i hurt her by fooling through sms she is upset but she is not expressing it how shall i convince her??? please for god sake help me. i lo...

For him: oral sex while he watches porn. For me: 3 minutes, no kissing, no passion. Help!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5626 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I live with a guy for almost a year we have had are share of troubles. At first he said he didnt love me but he has grow to love me but we never have sex maybe once a month but he always wants me to give him oral sex everyday while he watchs porn. ...

What is my cousin's wife trying to do??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5617 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I had a situation some years ago, I really loved this guy before and he kept lying to me that he was forced into a marriage but he really loved me, and I was stupid to believe him... So at the time my cousin and his wife were not married then..th...

Why won't she let us move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - My question is complex, but here goes, me and my girlfriend of 12 years always argue and break up, our relationship is not a happy one, she doesnt admit it but I know shes not happy. Why does she keep working her way back into my life even though ...

He seems to be selfish and spoiled but still I like him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - Hello, I am writing because i need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend nearly 14 months now and love him but his mum and dad (mum in particular) are quite old fashioned and 1950s in the way that his mum is a housewife and dotes on him. She ...

Just a bump? Or is it over?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - I have been dating a girl for about 2 months now. Just last week I did something that brought up a flag. She misunderstood care for trying to be controlling. When I last spoke to her about 5 days ago she said we are over, twice, but she agreed to ...

We're trying to plan a wedding around 2 relatives and its not working!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5621 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - Hello everyone! Firstly, sorry this is so long, but please read on. I would be really grateful for some advice here. My fiance and I have been planning to get married next summer, however I recently found out that my grandfather is seriously ill, ...

Brother's friend..wants phone sex but is that all he wants from me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I need someone else's perspective on my situation. I met my brother's friend 4 years ago at a bar. Nothing happened but I was attracted. As they both are in the army, our paths crossed briefly over the years but nothing went further than jus...

I want him back and to send eveyone else away and yet I'm afraid to do so!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - Hi, I am torn in my relationship with three men. I have my ex of seven years who I have a beautiful daughter with. A relationship with a much younger man who I have been seeing after i broke up with my ex a year ago. A relationship tha...

She flirted outrageously made me ill, next day says she doesn't remember! It hurts!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - Hi, I'm a male 21, she is a female 19. Please note we are not together but she treats me emotionally like a boyfriend, we just haven't had any physical intimacy. I want things to develop naturally to ensure a strong emotional bond. After an...

Just found out he's married and unsure of what to do. I don't want to be his bit on the side!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5626 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I've been having an affair with a married man, although not for the usual reasons. Before people criticise me, I didn't know he was married at all - not one bit. In fact I didn't even know until now, as on Sunday night we were at the pub ...

Our parents are going out, now people are saying I'm dating my 'sister', what do I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - Right here goes, I've been with my girlfriend for 6 months now and we introduced our parents about 2 months ago and they are both single... About a week ago they both told us that they are together!! I don;t know how to explain it but i...

How can I get my wife to want ME? I feel so undesired

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5620 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - I have been married for 19 years and my wife has to fantasize about other people in sexual situations in order to recieive pleasure. This means she usually shuts me off by closing her eyes and not wanting any talk during love making. It takes her ...

My wife is having an affair, she refuses to attend counselling...help?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - About a week ago I found out my wife was having an affair. We had been married for 24 years and had lived together prior to this for a further 3 years since we were 19. I found out from txts on her phone, she admitted it straight away but said she ...

I think my uncle was getting sexy with me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5628 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - Okay this has been on my mind for the last few years and I thought I would see what you guys think. My Aunty who lives over 8 hours drive away from us (so you can guess that we don't see her very often!!!) Got married when I was about 10 (I am n...

I really love him even though he's been really mean to me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - First of all I'd like to say that I'm gay, so my boyfriend and I we had a fight a few weeks ago when we hung out to a club, he behaved really rude and he admitted that he hooked up with another guy, we argued a lot that night and he said we were ...

B/f becoming very possessive and controlling..its scaring me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - Alright, where do I start? I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years. He's ten years older than me (I'm 18). I really don't know how that applies, but maybe that will help you in helping me? I'm getting ready to start college, plus I'm moving out o...

He ignores me and I'm so unhappy, what should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5628 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I'm 22 years old and I'm with a man who is 42 and we're about to have a baby. And the past couple months have been horrid! He doesent talk to me or even realize that I'm talking completely ignores me all the time. We don't even make love anymore and ...

I'm worried that I'm the only one in love in this relationship!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5628 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - Ealier today my girlfriend and I took our daughters swimming. One of the girls is mine, one hers. Things have been confusing to me because a couple of months ago we broke up (we were engaged) and she moved out. We got back together, but do not live ...

I want my boyfriend back, but how?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5625 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I want him back! We haven't spoken in a week, and I've been strong and not called/emailed/or texted since he broke up with me. i wrote a previous question about this, in which i thought the best thing to do would be to ignore him hoping he will come ...

Break up with him? Even though I love him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5628 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - ok so I have been with my boyfriend for about a yr now. Things were going great he had a job so did I, we were renting a trailer together and expecting a baby...then he lost his job, and my part time job was just not enough to keep us afloat, so we ...

Is this a crush or an obsession? And is it my fault? Or is it all her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - ok now this may sound really selfish on my behalf but its driving me crazy. first off i think you should know some things about me, i not exactly what you would call social, if i can i will never leave the house i really hate the outside world, f...

On and off...?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5628 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - A girl I really liked went out with me and all her closest and my closest friends were like messengers. Everyone told me that she really liked me and I really liked her. I asked her if she did and she was like you first. So I said I think I can grow ...

I'm wondering if my boyfriend is having an emotional affair.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I've been in a relationship for 12 years. I'm wondering if my boyfriend is having an emotional affair. he has a friend of the opposite sex. he tells me about her. i've met her but, she won't speak to me. she said she gets along better with guys. he ...

He has stopped talking to me and I don't know why... What should I do? I still like him.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5628 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - This is a really long question... Especially from a kentucky girl like me.. But please answer becuase I am soo heart broken over this :-( Ok, so here it goes - I met this one girl named Dawn and she introduced me to her guy friend, Beckson....

Do you think she's still stalking me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (M) - 10 years ago, my first girlfriend and I broke up after going out for a very short while. We lost our virginity to each other. She is the one who broke up with me because she was a little older than me and graduating high school that year, and more ...

I wish this guy I was dating was black.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - Hi, well im 14 and ive always dated black boys. im white and recently im dating a white boy, we're "in love" but i dont love him a lot because he is white but when i date a black boy i always love them so much but they play me. I don't know wha...

Do these comments seem like another woman is flirting with me???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5628 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - I am female, 40 years old, and on a neighborhood tennis team. I am madly attracted to the female coach who is about my age. Sometimes I think she is attracted to me. But sometimes I don't think so and that it's all in my head. Take this conv...

Is severing myself from his family the only way I can get over this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5627 days ago

2 July 2009 (F) - So a while ago i posted a question about my best friend (of 7 years) *parker* (it has all the back ground info so maybe it would help to read it) basically its been over 2 months since parker and i last spoke and its really eating away at me. The ...