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Archived questions from: 17 July, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Pornography & drugs, but no sex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - Ok, I have quite the dilemma, and don't even know where to start. I have been with my boyfriend for two years now. Up until six months ago, we had a great relationship, and amazing sex. About six months ago, he started losing interest in our sex ...

I can't seem to keep a man or a friend no matter what I do

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - Hi, what brought me to this site is the loneliness and despair i feel. I can't seem to keep a man or a friend no matter what i do. I run everybody off and I'm not sure why. I laugh at peoples jokes, listen to them, and always try to offer ...

I'm scared of being a single Mom, so how can I get my ex back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - my ex boyfriend of 4 years finished with me because he said i have an attitude problem, he is the father of my 9 month old daughter and i am currently 5 months pregnant with his second child. We started seeing each other again and he slept with ...

Why did she assume that my current man stole me from my ex??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - well here goes. my ex fiance got married 6 months ago. my current boyfriend was working with a girl the other day who was telling him about my ex fiance getting married. my current boyfriend knew of him but didnt know his surname. he knew of him ...

How can I get my BF to stop making mountains of molehills?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been in a reationship for 6 years. He says he was more sure about marrage when we first got together than he is now. Our relationship has had it's natural ups and downs but for the last year or so he makes mountains out of ...

Her mom died and now she wont make love

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (M) - My wife's mom died a month ago and she didn't want to anything sexual, she wouldn't even let me see her naked. Anyway one night I was really horny.and my wife was washing dishes. Well I went behind her and grabbed her breasts (she usually hates me ...

Am I overreacting or were his hurtful words as bad as it seems?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months and well it has so far been great! im 17 now, but when i was 11 i was raped twice by the same guy. this horrified me, and i havnt told anyone since! apart from my boyfriend, i didnt want to be rushed into sex, ...

How can I stop my posessive feelings?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - Hi there, Quick outline to my situation: I live with my friend, who's also a work colleague. We sleep together also, in the same bed every night (we do have separate bedrooms though.) We moved in together after breaking up with our long term pa...

Should I split from him, hes never physically cheated!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5611 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - Hello readers, I hope you can give me your perspectives on my situation as it's making me sad. I've been with my bf 10 years. We lived together pretty happily for 7 years, until last year, when he broke up with me, saying he didn't know what he ...

I can't help feeling jealous hes already had the big white wedding!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - I've been seeing a guy that I'll call Sam for a little over 3 months, about a month ago we decided to become serious. My concern is this, he was married at a very young age but divorced her after he caught her cheating. He was truthful and did not ...

I'm so frightened. I think hes suffering from post traumatic stress

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - I married my best friend of over ten years three years ago; right outside of high school. A month later, I found out I was pregnant. Two months into it, my husband enlisted in the US Army. He was deployed to Iraq four months before I gave birth. ...

Does he have erectile dysfunction or does he not desire me? How can I figure this out?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - How do I know ,if my husband has erectal dyssfunction,or he just does not desire sex with me? It is important to know, as it is too different situation,one,what I can handle, and the other, I can't. He is not medically sick,as he went for check u...

I feel trapped in this relationship - it's becoming abusive but I'm stuck!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now. We have just recently moved out of town and are living together for the first time. About a year and a half ago i was raped by someone who was a coworker and someone who i thought was a friend. ...

Are these comments he makes about me on this online forum normal "man" behavior?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - This question is for the men. I have been dating a man for almost 2 years now. He is a Christian man and I adore him. He has this website that he goes to often called ls2.com. When we first started dating every time I went to his house he had a ...

Now that I have him, I'm not so sure I want him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - k so i've got a major teen issue. i really liked this guy and flirted with him for a year and had to watch from the sides as he wasn't very interested in me i guess and watch him flirt with my bf. she knew how i felt so it never turned into ...

Getting over the past... how can I help the man I love deal with mine?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I are on the verge of breaking up. Four years ago was the darkest time in my life. I met my current boyfriend and his best friend and ended up sleeping with both of them when my current boyfriend was helping me out of a horribl...

Is she wearing the ring for me, or for the guy she is talking to? I'm so confused by her... help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

17 July 2009 (M) - holy hell some one help asap. i had this girl i was dating for 4 1/2 years. i loved her more then anything in the world. and two months ago she killed me on the inside when she broke up with me to c other people. i love this girl still. well a few ...

A week of the ex-factor. The more I learn about men, the more I hate them!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - i have had the worst week of my life it started at 10 am last thursday i got a call from a friend of mine saying that my ex had just been arrested and is in jail on 4 felonies and a misdeminor. first of all this was my bestfriend i was fucking for a ...

My roommate's gf woke me with a bj! He's promiscuous so I wasn't feeling guilty, but now I am....

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5286 days ago

17 July 2009 (M) - OK so I have a roommate who always has girls spending the night at our place. I don't mind since it is his room and his business. Since we have moved in he has had at least thirty girls. Sometimes they moan really loud which turns me on at night ...

My boyfriend is being unfair! I find it hard to orgasm with him...so he has stopped trying!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and i have been going out for a couple of months now. We have been having some problems sexually as we have been finding it hard to make me cum, i can when im masturbating but not with him. Because of this my boyfriend has given up ...

He is seeing me and his ex at the same time, now we are both pregnant part 2

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - Hey. Don't know if you remember my last problem - "He is seeing me and his ex at the same time, now we are both pregnant." I am in a relationship with a well known Scottish Football player. As you know from my problem both me and his ex are ...

I'm starting to doubt if my girlfriend is the one

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5600 days ago

17 July 2009 (M) - hey everyone, me and my girlfriend are a good couple in my opinion but i feel like im starting to doubt shes the one. were both into the same things, she also inspired me to go back to school and she likes being wild in a public way but its just the ...

He realised its no good to continue a relationship that would end eventually

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - I have written for advises on this site but I never get enough. I always come back for more as I am still as depressed as ever. Somehow, the advises seemed not enough. I will try to make it as short and as accurate as ever. I have been wit...

Do I confront my girlfriend about her trivial lies?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (M) - Hi - I have started seeing a new girl, have been going out for just over 4 months now and everything is going great. However, there are a few small issues that I have. The main problem is her lying (or what I believe to be) - we have had discuss...

I feel like he is not interested anymore and I don't know what I've done wrong. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - I just don't know what to do anymore. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now, well 6 months to this exact day actually, and everything has gone really well (we've had our slight up's and down's but what couple haven't) but just recently he ...

Is this man not over his ex-wife or is he bitter because of her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5613 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - I have been dating a man who is intelligent, secure in his career and with himself. Further, we get along well. However, he appears to have a wall up towards truly expressing his feelings. If I say terms of endearment such as "honey or sweetie," ...

I'm not really sure why we broke up...did he get cold feet or felt that he wasnt a good boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5610 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - Here's my story/summary: I apologize for the lengthy summary - it was hard to summarize.I mainly need opinions. My bf of 2 mos broke up w/ me. The reason for break up was numerous – one of the reasons: “I cant give u what u want (kids/marriag...

How do I tell my lover that he squashes me during sex because of his weight?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - I was wondering if anyone can give me some advice as to handle this, I have a lover who while is not obese but is about 25kilos heavyer than me .when we have sex he likes to lay on top of me with all his weight sometimes i feel like i'm being ...

Should I be worried that my boyfriend's best friend has feelings for him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and i have been having problems. I feel his best friend wants to take him away from me. We'll be together for a year in 2 weeks. He tells me he loves his best friend but is in love with me. I feel he is gonna pick her over me. She ...

My boyfriend has lost all interest in me after only 5 months!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months. He used to act like he just could not get enough of me. He text messaged me all day long, always told me sweet things, and was very sexually interested in me as well. Things were going ...

Lack of sex is making me want to leave my girlfriend before I cheat on her!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

17 July 2009 (M) - My girlfriend tells me im hot and sexy. Very often i have to turn down other girls that want sex from me, but my own girlfriend never comes onto me. She has an extremely low sex drive and my only option is masturbation. I am in my early 20's and i ...

My boyfriend doesn't love me anymore

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now, but I overheard him telling my best friend that he doesn't love me anymore and that he's been pretending to like me so my feelings won't get hurt...I'm more hurt that his hugs and smiles have ...

Girlfriend wants to have sex with another man

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

17 July 2009 (M) - My girlfriend wants to have sex with another man. First of all i know this question was probably asked on here thousands of times but i really have no one else to talk too. This all started over a year ago i was working it a job that i needed b...

I had an affair with a married man and now I'm worried his wife will confront me at work!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5610 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - Hello, Iv got a problem, I slept with a married man now things are kinda getting freaky, I slept with him a couple times, i work very closely with him, i called it off after he told me that he "loved me" His wife became suspicious (during ...

The girl of my dreams is walking in and out of my life

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5613 days ago

17 July 2009 (M) - Hi, (Sorry for such a long message) I have a situation that I never thought I'd be in and was just wondering what other people's perspectives are. I am in a long distance relationship with a girl form Hong Kong (we've been dating on and off for m...

We never do anything together and he mostly ignores me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5613 days ago

17 July 2009 (M) - I am gay and my partner is ignoring me most the time, I cant understand why, once we moved to live together I found him different person, not the one that I love, he always off from his work to his computer, then to take a nap, and he spend all the ...

I've just found out she had a threesome and this is eating away at me!

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

17 July 2009 (M) - I really need some help here. Me and my girlfriend broke up a couple months ago. I had sex with one girl, shortly after the relationship ended and again two weeks later. She found out about both as i admided to it. She then procieded to have sex ...

Was it right for me to go out with a guy that my friend liked, even when she had a boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5613 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - Ok so I havae a realy good friend, so close we refer to each other as sisters. Her names,well.."Jennifer". and "Jennifer" and I wouldnt want anything to come between us. Or so I thought. She is in a Really good relationship. They both claim to...

He is constantly making comments that I'm cheating and checks my cell phone!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5613 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - I have been with my fiance for 4 yrs. we moved in together 18 mos ago. he no longer makes me feel desirable, which is damperin my self esteem. he used to make me feel so beautiful. we are intimate ocassionally but nowhere close to how much we used ...

He asked me to bring lunch, but then was a no-show because of his female trainees! I'm furious!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5613 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - Should I be upset or making too much out of it? B/f calls me prior to my lunch hour, asks me to pick up burgers and come to his work. I come with food, he's not there. I call his cell, no answer. His co-workers say they haven't seen him all morning, ...

How much porn is too much? I've considered downloading pics of naked me to my PC to let him see how it feels!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - I just got married a few weeks ago and I knew my husband looked at porn but I thought he was doing it just sometimes as is 2-3 times a week. I found out that he is looking at porn almost every day when he gets home from work and on Sunday when I ...

Why is he ignoring me? Why didn't he want to come to England to be with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5613 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - i ned some advice as i am going crazy with thinking. i went to turkey for 2 weeks, went with people that really i should not have done and was unhappy after 2 days of getting there. i aked the hotel manager was their any spare rooms but hotel was ...

She showed interest but now is suddenly ignoring me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5612 days ago

17 July 2009 (M) - Well hey there. This all started about 3 weeks ago. There's this girl that literally lives across my work. For the first week we've been looking at eachother and smiling and all, and then I've decided to make the first move. Started talking t...

We miss each other but whenever we are together we argue!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5613 days ago

17 July 2009 (F) - Hey guys please help again lol..wel ive been with my boyfriend for like 3 years now and i think the world of him he lives 4hours away from me now which isnt a issue cause we always try our best to see each other . but when he doesnt come down and ...

How do I deal with my work collegagues?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5613 days ago

17 July 2009 (?) - sorry for the length I work in a hospital, where I am older then a lot of my colleagues, they are in their mid 20s - early 30s. I get along with most ppl and say say hi and how are you? I almost always say hi when i start my shift to everyon...