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female
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36-40,
*aint87
writes: I've been dating this taurus for a year now and unfortunately I've lied to him about trivial things about myself simply because I have low self confidence and I felt that I needed to zest myself up a bit to make me look interesting to him (I'm over that now but it's a bit too late). He broke up with me a few days ago but told me that we can be friends and if I change my ways we have a chance of getting back together. The only problem is we are in a long distance relationship (I'm in Massachusetts and he is in Florida). I've talked to him a few times (the first time we talked I made the mistake of doing to the whole crying over the phone and begging him to take me back) the second time we talked, the conversation was fine and it felt like how we talked when we were dating (meaning it felt really comfortable), I also apologized about the trivial lies that I've told throughout the relationship and he accepted my apology. But will he ever take me back?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 July 2009):
 Maybe it was just an excuse to break it off? Maybe he can't really handle the long distance thing.
You need to realize that lying is a dumb thing. It will get you caught sooner or later. He might not be able to trust you enough to want to date you again, you will have to live with that.
Let it be a lesson and in the future BE HONEST. though I have to say, most people tell little white lies to make themselves look better. ( like some women lie about age/weight and a lot of men lie about their actual height.) But again, though are the kind of lies that means very little in the bigger picture. Where as saying you are a dolphin trainer in Sea world, but you actually work at a food stand 2 miles from Sea World, those are more misleading..
Try not to lie. You don't want it to get to be a bad habit.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): Look Im going to be honest it sounds like you still have low confidence. All the power is with him "if you are a good little girl hell take you back"You made mistakes you apologised he accepted it, thats that and its over. He brings it up again then he is trying to use it over you.Long distance at the start is not easy so be prepared to make sacrifices.I would recommend you take a clean break and get happy on your own, keep in touch as friends but no more.
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