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writes:I am in a long distance relashionship.I am a registered nurse with two children, uprooting my life is complicated.The person I am in the relashionship with lives at home with his Grandmother,works but is not really successful.When I first met him he was a bouncer in a night club,now drives a towncar for limo service. I have appologized for not being there 100%. I have suggested we try to split. He has repeatedly lied to me he goes out with friends to happy hour,clubs,concerts ect.. I tell him not to lie to me.. I know he needs to have a life and can go out He thinks i will get mad anyway,. so he lies.Now I suffer with distrust.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (28 July 2009):
 Long Distance Relationships RARELY IF EVER WORK!
There are some that do, but the ones that do are between people that have honesty, communication and mutual respect. Sounds to me like you have none of these important facets to yours.
Frankly, you seem to not have any respect for him at all. You seem to be more worried about how much money he has as opposed to anything else.
Maybe he feels he has to lie to you because you nag him about his finances or his occupation. I don't condone dishonesty, but if thats all you are worried about, then pretty much every guy you have a relationship with will be like that. and eventually they will tire of it and leave.
Your post never gave us an idea what you wanted to do to make it work, only what you couldn't or wouldn't do. And then proceeded to run him down as if he were a serf.
Materialistic people get real old real fast. I think he maybe trying to tell you something along those lines.
So yes, a split is in order...this relationship has run its course.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): right what i am going to say may shock you..
i know it seems like he is the bad one in this 'relationship' with lieing and so on..
he may be lieing because he feels you will get upset when
asks to go out.
so he makes up ''lies''.
going to clubs is perfectly normal for men in a relationship, its time where they can have time with friends and time to chill out.
it dosent mean he is cheating but it may mean you guys need to take a big step and talk to eachother face to face, i can tell you need that.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (28 July 2009):
 if you have lies and no trust in a relationship itl never work out.if he cant respect you enough to tell u where he is going rather than lying than u can do better.you need to think what is best for your children aswel as yourself.it doesnt matter how many times u tell him not to lie he will keep doing it and the fact of the long distance youd never be able to find out what is the truth or not.i think you should find someone closer to home who will treat u better and that u can trust
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