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Archived questions from: 20 July, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

The pill is turning me into a monster!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5603 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - heres the thing i started the pill in feburary of this year... the first moonth was hectic with my emoitions always moody always crying etc etc and after a month or two i calmed down the thing is me an my boyfrined have had sum problems hes chea...

I'm no longer interested in sex and I'm scared it will ruin our relationship.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5137 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 8 months and we've been living together for almost 2 months. I love him very much, and we get along great. I really believe that he might even be the one I spend the rest of my life with... except for one ...

How can I stop my boyfriend taking things too far?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - I am 13 and have a boy friend who is 15 ..... we have been together for 5 months and i really trust him .. a couple of nights ago we were kissing on the sofa and then he put his hands down the front of my pants ... i said not yet and he stopped ... ...

Does he want something more than a booty-call arrangement?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - I've been with a guy for the past 15 months and have recently (for the past 2 months or so) been a bit confused by his behavior. I should also mention that I am moving away in approximately a month, so this might be a factor. We are not in a ...

I'm consumed by jealousy that my old boyfriend has married! Help me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - really need some help i have tried to get help for this and my friends have been great listening to me but i still am in despair. i have recently finished a relationship with a guy which lasted 5 years. the last 4 were awful-i shudder no when i...

My girlfriend has a past which I find hard to deal with, any help will be great.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5575 days ago

20 July 2009 (M) - hello im 15 in a great relationship with a girl my age , shes a lovely person and beautifully looking but it hurts me sometimes when i think of her past because she has slept around and sent dirty pictures to alot of my friends, i wan to get over ...

I broke up with her because my friends said I should. Now I want her back but she said no!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (M) - there was this girl lets say she is called j and we went out and we really liked each other and it was great until people started making fun of me because j isnt the prettiest and i ignored them but then my own friends said they will fall out with ...

I want to live as a happy family but I'm finding it very hard to keep pretending.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5007 days ago

20 July 2009 (M) - I'm a 35y man living with my younger partner and over the last year or so I've realised that I'm not in love with her anymore although I know she thinks the world of me. We were only together a couple of weeks when she fell pregnant and we now have ...

I'm quiet and hurt, I'm losing my best friend to another co-worker!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - sorry this is long, need advice Ive been a quieter person all my life and have always only had a very small group of friends, none of who I have ever thought of as a best friend, they are just friend who i see occasioanlly, not friends who i co...

How to get him to initiate sex more often?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - Hi, My bf and I have been living together for 10 months and were going out for 5 months before that. Since Jan he has had limited interest in sex and this only occurs when I initiate. He has given various reasons for this, more recently saying ...

How can I make him trust me and not feel the need to get one up on me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - Me and my ex have been talking again and it has become clear that we have trust issues. we both seem to be playing games with each other even though we dont intend to. we are both trying to make each other jealous by getting in with other people, ...

My nasty neighbour is making my life miserable!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5580 days ago

20 July 2009 (M) - ok guys heres my problem . i have had a troubled life and having some mental health disoders does not help (ADHD ect) . its just lucky i have a lovely family who i can talk to . My problem is a nasty neighbour . it all began many years ...

I need the affection he doesn't give anymore!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - i'm really confused about my relationship at the moment and would just like advice on what i should do i've been with my boyfriend for 5 years on and off. currently we've been together for two years ina row but it's changed in some ways. he do...

I want to renew my wedding vows to my husband, but he disagrees! What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married a little over three years. About 8 months ago, we hit a really bad patch and seperated for about 6 months. Now we are together and working things out and things have been going really well. There is a point of...

My bf says it's wrong for me to remain nice to people I dislike. Is he right?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - i'm normally a really nice person, and people know me for this. even if its someone i genuinely dislike for something she did to me in the past etc i am not mean to her, and i remain polite if she strikes a conversation with me. sometimes i tend to ...

Due to college, we are breaking up in late August! What are some other options so we don't have to do this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - I've known my boyfriend for a full year but have gotten serious since march. I'm 19 years old ( going to be my 2nd year on college) and he's 26 with a stable job ( has his life straight for the most part).since march, we've been doing a long ...

Do I stick it out with the current bf or give the new Welsh guy a try?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm feeling very confused at the moment. I have had a very on and off relationship with my current boyfriend for just over three years now. I have recently moved to Wales and he's still in the Midlands and we have found the long distance thing ...

He says we're friends, but he doesn't want to talk to me very much! What's up with this guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - I'm hoping some of you out there can help me because im really not sure not to do! We you see i've been friends with this guy for 2 years now, we were at college together. The thing is we've always seemed to have som sort of communication problem. ...

My life was so stressed, I wasnt ready for him then...I think I am now but not sure if he feels the same.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - I have had so much emotional trauma in my life for the past 2 years, father died, step father died , best friend died, mother fell, in coma in another state, had to leave work for six months, me being sick for 3 months, EX b/f who was not there for ...

Should I change my number, or am I overreacting?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - Okay, so I starting seeing this guy about a month ago and we used to date about 3 years ago and I left him because I found out he was talking to another girl. I just had a baby about 5 months ago and really was hurt by my child's father and haven't ...

I like another man, but I feel I should be working on what's missing in my relationship. I don't know what to do!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - I have been with my partner for 11 years. I always thought that we were happy until 3 years ago when I met a man who made my stomach flip and made me realise that things were missing in our relationship. We were just friends but I looked forward to ...

I really like him but I'm getting mixed signals. I need tips to help me be strong!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5605 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - Hi can you please help I started seeing this really hot guy who lived in the apartment block next to me. He has given a lot of attention, which really is very flattering as His type would be out of my league. Even though he lived in the next apa...

How do I know what to expect from my ex? We have started talking again and slowly getting closer.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - We once had a very strong intimate relationship with commitment and then it changed due to outside circumstances. Now time has passed - months - but we are talking again and slowly getting close. But how do I know what to expect? Men don't talk, ...

What did I do wrong this time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - we have been together for 1 and a half now, by now i know when he is upset with me. today he is in other one of those sarcastic moods, yesterday we had a little bit of a dispute, he would normally tell me if he is going to the race track or if he is ...

How do I do what's right by my friend? He's just had a baby and wants to leave his fiancee for me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - well im 17 , and my friend who is 22 has been in a relationship for around 4 years , his fiancee has just had a baby but he didnt seem to happy , he was scared of being a daddy eventhough he loves his daughter to bits , he asked me advice on being ...

He replied "maybe you do love me more" when I said "I love you more". What does this mean?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - hi there, I am a little confused and I hope you can help me clarify this situation with your responses. Here goes, my boyfirend and I have been going out for almost 9 months now, we are both in our early 30's. He has never had a proper girlf...

My boyfriend has been calling me horrible names but always claims he is joking after!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i have a very close relationship we've been on and off but recently he's been calling me a bitch a slag and a c**t wen i say thats rude he always replies with im jokin but is he really joking but i love him so much i could never ...

What does my lover mean when he says he wants to rape me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5608 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - My lover keeps telling me he wants to rape me and i'm not sure what he means by this ,why say something like that when we have good sex anyway,does it mean he want's to play act with me and if so and i went along with it what if he lost control and ...

I want her to realise that what she is doing is hurting me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I are now on our third month, and was going strong until around the last weeks of June I'm having doubts with our relationship and started fighting her about why she still goes out with her ex who gave her so much pain and so much ...

My boyfriend excludes me from EVERYTHING. He lies and he cheats but I love him.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (M) - Ok, Im 26 and im Bi and im out...my BF is 21 and he is severely in the closet. We have been together almost 9 months. Nothing in our relationship is going good. But I love him to death and I know he is my soulmate (im not just saying that) If ...

He says he'll call later but he never does!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5610 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - Here it goes. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now. Lately he has been developing this habit of stating that he'll call 'later' that day, only to not do so. His excuses range from being really stressed and busy to having h...

Girlfriend doesn't like me looking at my cell phone

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (M) - My girlfriend gets aggresive if i look in my mobile phone. If we argue she accuses me of hiding things from her. I have told her to look through it if thats what she thinks. She never does but continues to accuse again and again. I now discover that ...

Girlfriend has started treating me poorly and I'm not sure how to work things out

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5607 days ago

20 July 2009 (M) - Hi, i know alot of you will probably rub this off as nothing due to the fact that im "young" by most of your standards, but i would really appreciate some honest help here... me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year and 4 months, ...

My boyfriend told me I would fail

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5609 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - My bf just told me that I would fail at my career because I'm not loud and out going enough. I was so hurt by what he said. He thinks hes an expert cause a friend of his works in the industry. The thing is though, you dont have to be like that to be ...

I am very confused by his weird behavior, do you think I am being used? I

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5610 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - I met a guy at a party and thought he was very interested in me. He made out with me and tried to go farther, but I stopped him as I thought it was inappropriate. I went over to his place the next day to watch a movie, but while we were watching it, ...

He keeps doing these stupid things!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5610 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend for eleven years off and on.i was 14 he was 16 and we have been threw so much i guess u can say we've both hurt eachother.he is my bestfriend and i love him with all my heart.we just got back together after being apart ...

My BF wrote to the aunts about the things awful he's said to me, and now I am destroyed

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5610 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - Hi Aunts, I think my boyfriend wrote a few days ago (I saw something that was similar to what he said to me on his computer) about some things that he's said to me about our sex life (how "f*cking me is like f*cking a doll...I'm only good when I'm ...

My boyfriend keeps calling me crazy

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5610 days ago

20 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of almost two years keeps telling me I am acting crazy because when we have problems all I want is to talk to him so we can work things out. He does not pick up the phone when I call. He does not reply back when I instant message him. I ...

If he loved me completely then why did he lie?

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20 July 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, I fell deeply in love with a younger man, We were perfect for each other and I wanted to marry him. Then life got in the way and we parted. We got back together, and he promised me to make things better, IE: help me financially with wha...

I've tried to get away, but the harrassment continues ...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5601 days ago

20 July 2009 (M) - Well, if you have followed my other posts, you will know that i had a married woman chasing me at work, tried to get away, finaly got away, had to cry "hostile work enviroment" to management, they changed my schedule, but it still overlaps hers 3-4 ...