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writes:Hey.I'm 17, and basically I think my looks are fading, and fast. I know everyone is gonna think im crazy, but seriously I have noticed a big change.I never thought I was amazingly stunning, but I didnt think I was bad either. I got noticed by boys and I was happy with the way I looked, when I was was 15/16ish. But now I can rarely find a picture im happy with. All my old pictures I look great. Im not sure whats changed. I suppose my face shape is a little more defined. And im taller. Put on a bit more weight obviously to suit my frame but im not overweight, if anything im under. Its my face I worry about though, I just dont understand why I hate the way I look now! And lets face it, it can only get worse?! :(
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 November 2009):
 Yeah... everyone knows that for a woman of 17, the only way is down.
Are you loosing your looks or your mind?
Just finished responding to another post about a woman asking why men seem so much more secure about their looks.
Are you looking in the mirror and seeing nothing but problems? A lot of women do this and it seems really easy for you to then find nothing but problems and errors where to anyone else there aren't any.
Yes, your body is still changing but that is just what happens, and most women actually improve into their twenties, when they loose the child look and become truly young women.
Might it also be fear of growing up? In your old pictures, you are still a child with only a childs worries. Now you are growing up and soon you will be a full adult. Is that something you fear?
I can't look inside your head, but I am fairly sure that is where the problem is. About the only looks girls loose coming out of their teens is baby fat.
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reader, Dazed~Confused  +, writes (24 November 2009):
 Try not to worry about it. I know it's easy for me to say, but try to believe that.
You are still young, and your body is still changing. Like you mentioned, your features are sharpening, your body is evolving....
Now is the time though to make sure that when you hit your thirties, forties etc, that you have set a good foundation for ageing gracefully.
Make sure you eat healthy, exercise, drink lots of water. Limit alcohol and caffeine. No smoking
Also, if you are currently on any medications, this may be contributing to a dull complexion or something that may make you think you look older. If so, the effects will disappear. Either way, make sure you have a good cleansing and moisturizing regime. Multivitamins also help greatly with skin.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): hey girlie I'm 22 and you only get better looking for sure. I was a late bloomer and now I'm a model. ur just being overly critical. relax. in h.s. I didn't like my smile. I would pout in pics and never show teeth. like you I thought I would only look worse. now I always hear about my bright smile. people will love what you think are imperfections. love those things too!
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reader, ThaxTruth211  +, writes (24 November 2009):
 I perticulary dont think your "losing your looks" in a matter of years. Maybe its more mental than a physical problem. Such as going through something that made you feel used, being abused, being cheated on, or having a child. I find this often causes a female to question their looks as to find an answer of why this and that happened to them.
If none of it you can think of be mental, maybe its different lighting, worse or better resoulition camera changing the overall apearance.
Over all, it really doesnt matter how you look though. Its about your confidence and how you carry yourself as a lady. Men and woman alike respect confidence and presentibility. Some woman you see on tv are too beautiful and flawless but strill insecure which reflects, and others at first make you wander HOW their on there. But the way they present themselves and show confidence over takes the appearance.
So in my personal conclusion everybody thinks something change and look for flaws. Maybe its a low self esteem issue so many of us have. Be proud of who you are, and don't let others convince you of otherwise. If anything at your age your body is just defining more and maybe it hasn't completelyt matured yet and once it completely matures you'll have defining features that match your face more overall and have your sense of beauty back.
Best of luck,
-Tha Truth-
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